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    SW has been a wonderful resource for me. I joined up a few months before I started stripping and got the gonads to audition partly from the posts in this forum. I've been in the industry a short year and a half and I just don't think I can do it anymore.

    I had a hard time the last 5 months juggling stripping and school, and that's partly due to me having poor time management skills and a low stress threshold. But mainly I've had some sort of charge in me that's been attracting some SHITTY customers.

    I've always been pretty good at not going to the dance area with men I thought were shady, and I've always been pretty good at pegging the shady ones correctly. I've lost my mojo lately though! My energy has been attracting the shady ones, the kind of customers that just won't take no for an answer and have 0 respect for your boundaries. Most recently a customer spit on me (lots of spit) and called me a "dirty stripper whore" (or something along those lines) after forcefully grabbing and twisting my tit when I told him he couldn't touch, and I think that was the straw. I'm aware the industry has it's ups and downs, it's bad seeds every once and a while, and if I were in the right mind set things could look up. But I've discovered that I don't have the gonads to tolerate the downs anymore! I respect all of the women I work with, and all of the women on this forum for their endurance and perseverance.

    I'm not trying to come off as "victimized" or anything... I'm so looking forward to quitting! But I do have the entire summer free of school and external stresses, and summers tend to be good in the city where I work, so I'm going to stick it out for another three months and try to re-energize myself. I'm switching clubs and have a set quit date, so on and so forth.

    As for money after stripping, I've been doing a bit of affiliate web marketing and eventually want to sell SOMETHING through a drop-shipper (haven't found the right niche yet). I plan to build that up in my free time so by the time I quit I have an income, however small in comparison. The web marketing inspired me to make a blog detailing my last days as a dancer, in hopes that it would motivate me and sort of "mediate" my mindset and keep me on track & goal-oriented. I'm actually looking forward to working at a different club (the club I started at), and I'm grateful for the free time that I have to do so. The blog will also have affiliate advertisements, but it's more of a personal outlet than a monetized website.

    If anyone is interested, its:


    I'm hoping if I generate enough traffic, when my time stripping is up I can turn it into an affiliate site. Until then though it will be my own anecdotes, so please, check it out! I'd appreciate the support
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    Done. I'm following you. I have my own blog, and am going through something similar, but it's been over 8 years for me.

    Good luck sweetie. You can do it.

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    Wishing you luck! It's a tough industry... especially right now!
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    I really wish you the best of luck. A word of sisterly advice though sweetie, be very careful with 'drop-shipping'.

    It's not as easy or simple as it sounds. As the the Vendor, you're still liable for losses or damages, and remember, your suppliers are shipping for hundreds of other Vendors like you, so mistakes are commonplace. Your profit margins will be smaller as you won't get the discounts that Vendors who buy bulk stocks get, and the Legal situation is tricky as well. So do your homework. I've done it, and had lots of 'teething problems' to begin with, but it can be very lucrative in the end.

    However, the World's your oyster, so whatever you do......enjoy life!!
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    Take a few days off here and there over the summer? Please please please don't burn yourself out. It will only make you miserable. Good luck... these are tough times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pussyinboots View Post
    I really wish you the best of luck. A word of sisterly advice though sweetie, be very careful with 'drop-shipping'.

    It's not as easy or simple as it sounds. As the the Vendor, you're still liable for losses or damages, and remember, your suppliers are shipping for hundreds of other Vendors like you, so mistakes are commonplace. Your profit margins will be smaller as you won't get the discounts that Vendors who buy bulk stocks get, and the Legal situation is tricky as well. So do your homework. I've done it, and had lots of 'teething problems' to begin with, but it can be very lucrative in the end.

    However, the World's your oyster, so whatever you do......enjoy life!!

    Thank you for the advice. I digress, I haven't done all of the research and haven't had any experience selling online. The advantage I saw with drop-shipping was the opportunity to "get my feet wet" without making a commitment to a wholesaler for a product I may or may not be able to sell -- Drop-shipping would let me experiment with resale items before committing to them. I don't expect immediate success! And I also don't want to stick with drop-shipping in the long-run. However, since you've done it, if you do have any tips on how to get started, what to look for, warning signs, etc... I'd love to hear them! You can send me a message on here if you're so inclined I'll take any tips I can get.

    And thank you ladies for the supportive comments, no worries, I will be taking breaks.

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    I do get how you feel. i notice there are some nights that everything about the job and men seems so f'kd up. Its usually when its so hard to make money that it all stands out. I am so tired of being asked outside the club for sex. Those men constantly asking for blow jobs, handjobs, and sex. oh your so pretty, and how much for your pussy? This business in the last 5 years has really brought out the assholes and men that assume we all has sex for money. The only thing that lifts my mood about all the crap is better money and good girlfriends in the business. It is really hard to find normal dancers to relate too and to find ones that are not trying to use you for something.

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    Default Re: Sick and Tired of Stripping! Quitting...?

    I suggest if you don't feel you can do it anymore then don't.

    It doesn't mean you can pick up and do it again later.

    That is what I did. It got to the point where I didn't like dancing anymore. I took a long hiatus and got back in the game at the right time.

    It may not be the right time for you mind wise or economy wise.

    Do what you feel is best.

    Good luck to you.




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    Gah...

    So, as anyone in this industry knows if they've stripped in Denver, or with the company in other cities, VCGH owns this entire area, with the exception of Shotgun Willie's and some shady names-i-forgot strip bars in the vicinity.

    About a year and a half ago, when I was a baby to the industry and had just started dancing, I was fired from one of their clubs for drinking underage. I didn't handle it gracefully, and all of this time later I've learned how to treat this industry as a business, not a party. You would think it's a common rookie mistake that would be forgiven in due time, right?

    In the past week I've been contracted and subsequently fired from 2 of their (best) clubs, and here's why.

    About 3 months ago, an area director of the company that's fairly high on the totem pole allowed me to hang out in the VIP of the club I was fired from. It was a one-night, one-time thing, and the deal was made only because my mother was in town and she was there with one of the member's who has been a close family friend since I was a kid, along with the mentioned director. I had 2 drinks, at his CONSENT, had a dance from one of the girls with my boyfriend, was never ONCE belligerent or drunk, and left the club with no harm done.

    2 weeks after that, I went into the same club again and was allowed to work their "after hours" club upstairs, this time by consent of the manager who FIRED me a year and a half ago.

    Thinking that there was no issue at all, and my past grievance of drinking underage had been forgiven, I went and auditioned there last week as I had planned. I worked 2 nights, and then the same manager who fired me and let me work their after-hours club discovered I was contracted there again full-time. I'm not sure if he felt as though I was going behind his back, or if he was just in a bad mood that day, but he breached my contract the moment he saw me and told me to never set foot in "his club" again.

    SO I went to the only other decent club downtown, also owned by VCGH, got contracted, worked, and BREACHED thanks to this manager with this horrible vendetta against me. I tried to explain the situation to the GM at this second club, but he's a notorious prick and would not only not hear me out, but kept putting words in my mouth that were just flat out inaccurate. I was nothing but respectful to every aforementioned authority figure, I was 100% honest with the manager of the 2nd club before he even heard my so-called "track record" from anybody else, and he refused to give me a chance.

    I understand why they feel it would be negligent to hire me -- But I've been with the company for a YEAR AND A HALF without drinking ONE TIME at work. I was literally given a green light to break the law one time, by a director of the company, who has now changed his story, and everything was peachy keen up until Manager#1 had a bad day?

    I'm frustrated because I know I am not a liability, I've shown nothing but integrity and respect to everyone who has expressed concerns against hiring me, and I've been met with nothing but disrespect, inconsistency and flat-out meanness.

    As it stands now, I'm literally exiled from stripping in Denver unless I go to clubs that are reputable for "extras girls" and rowdy clientèle that I'm just not used to. I had been wanting to quit, and I'm trying so hard to accept this as a sign from the universe and a push in the right direction, but now I am petrified. I'm not sure who to turn to, as I don't have very many friends in this industry, but people in this industry are the only ones who can really understand how trapped it can make you feel sometimes. I know most of the girls on SW are still stripping, but if there are any that aren't, could you share how you got yourself out of it? I'm feeling so insecure right now, I'm not sure what I am going to do for money... I have bills past due and I have no confidence in myself when it comes to securing and keeping a job that pays crap hourly. I'm used to the instant gratification of stripping! What the fuck do I do?!

    I hate how helpless and woe-is-me I sound, but I'm literally petrified, and it just comes down to having no confidence in my drive or work ethic. BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH. It's so easy to say "I'm quitting," but now I'm given no option? And my car will be repo-ed Friday if I don't pay, I have no back-up plan, and I just want to curl up in a ball and disappear.

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    Maybe bartending would be a natural segue for you. Pretty girl at a hot local club. Can't hurt! There are lots of hotels so you could try getting in there as a server, front desk, etc. The chains have a good hourly plus tips and benefits. You could try driving a cab. Even a mass transit operator if you're willing to go through the training. How about an airport job at the counter, in securtiy or stewardess? Are you interested in hairdressing? You could be a shampoo girl until you get some coursework under your belt.
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    have you tried one of the clubs in boulder if you need a car payment by friday? i would do that to get you out of a hole if you are blacklisted from denver, and then after you pay your bills figure it out from there.

    im a bit confused about your situation with the denver clubs. it was a little hard to follow.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by CaseyLace View Post
    Take a few days off here and there over the summer? Please please please don't burn yourself out. It will only make you miserable. Good luck... these are tough times.
    yeah well great advice thanks...
    very interesting and exciting.,.cheers

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