Our recent problem has been about transportation. His car was breaking down a while ago. He didn't save anything for it ( he has no savings, lives paycheck to paycheck ) so now it's my car that's left. So 3 months down the road he has been sharing my car with me, my miles are way up, and once in a while I have no gas in my car before having to leave somewhere.
So my 20 year old ass says hey! Why don't you get your mom to help you out and I can let you borrow money to match it? So time passes one morning in bed I say, what are you gonna do about your car, I can't keep letting you use it. He says his mom let him borrow 900 and mentions my offer to him. I think, he'll no. I can't be stuck to him with this borrowed money. I say no, I can't let you borrow money, I don't think you'll pay me back. He gets super angry and leaves to take the bus for the first time. Dosent talk to me for a day or 2 and sleeps somewhere else (basically he didn't come home). I say why are you angry he says he is unreasonably angry right now so give him time. So we don't talk, eventually 3 days after this he comes home and says he was angry that i thought he wouldn't pay him back.
While hewas gone for that amt of time I moved all of my stuff to the spare bedroom and bought an inflatable matress.
So I travel out of town every month to work for a week at a diffrent club. A few days after this incident it was time for me to go. He offers to take me to the airport, I say no hanks got it covered. I decided to keep my car in airport parking while I'm away for a week.
Now this really gets him resentful towards me. We have a disscussion over the phone, he says you aren't teaching me anything, your making it harder for me to get a car, I would help you out if you were in this situation, you don't live in the real world you dont know what it's like to have a paycheck, most people live like this etc.
I say, you aren't covered in my insurance and if u get In a wreck then it's my fault because I let you use my car.
So I come home after my trip and sign a 30 day notice in my apt.
We argue again, it's about my job, how I'm so money centered 'just look at your wall' (I have my goals on a ticker and $ madE on a calendar) I tell him what arehis goal? Where are you gonna be in the next 10 years? what can I expect?(he is 36) He asks me the same question and I tell him I'll be dancing for the next 10 years (I'm 20) I'll retire early and start a business. He says it's so easy for you, I cold do what you do if I were I your situation. He says that he can't give me an answer right away, that he wants to do somehing in music. I say we've been dating for 2 years, and we haven't progressed at all (actually I've saved up a good amount, have invested in sales knowlage, diet, and personal growth) in terms of him saving up some money. Although, he is able to spend 100 at least on pot a month. He says 2 years isn't a long time and that I'm too young to know that, when he was my age 2 year took a long time. For him 2 years is quick because he waits for His paycheck. Then somehign about me oy having to work 3 days a week ( although I work 3-4-5 however much I damn well feel I am up to)
I guess what makes me feel the worst is that I haven't been the best girlfriend in the past either, I cheated on him once (tried the escorting route, no way was it emotional)
what hurts me more is that he dosent understand that I need more security. When I came home from my jersey trip my kittys box was filthyIRS like he dosent care about what's important to me anymore.
I'm stupid, I ask for his forgiveness ( saying I know you would help me out if I were in your situation)
My boyfriend works 40-50 hours a week. He is on salary pay, makes 2000 a month. We live together our rent is 400, he has his phone bill etc.



IRS like he dosent care about what's important to me anymore.
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