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    *steals some of Sxcbbw's mom-mah*



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    Default Re: Mom won't stop calling me fat!!

    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    Ok, let's look at this a little differently. This is a Byron Katie method:

    You can feel good or bad about it, but it's going to happen either way. Find a way to feel at least neutral about it. And definitely don't play along with that game and beat yourself up about your body. You may not have any control over your Mom and your circumstances at the moment, but you do have influence over your own thoughts and how you react to them.
    (snip)The term mind control (also known as brainwashing, coercive persuasion, thought control, or thought reform) refers to a process in which a group or individual "systematically uses unethically manipulative methods to persuade others to conform to the wishes of the manipulator(s), often to the detriment of the person being manipulated".[1] The term has been applied to any tactic, psychological or otherwise, which can be seen as subverting an individual's sense of control over their own thinking, behavior, emotions or decision making.(snip)

    Her mom is using some next level techniques! I think her best shot is spending as much time away from her mother as possible.
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    I think I'm getting over it! I just pic whored it up all over SW and I'm bloated and on my period...which means I'd normally NEVER take a pic! Haha, I just don't think I care anymore!! I'm 34 damn years old and have had two kids, if anyone expects the body of an 18 yr old they can kiss my ass! I dunno why my thinking changed so much....I think reading about everyone elses, mean, crazy moms really helped. I can easily see why someone else should ignore such a person....it's just when it's happening to ME that I listen, which is hella stupid! lol
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Default Re: Mom won't stop calling me fat!!

    Thanks for the heads up, damn woman you look incredible.

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    Last night she actually started in on me and I realized just how damn crazy she is. I skipped dinner so I had grabbed a handful of popcorn (non-buttered) and a dill pickle spear with my diet soda while I was on IM with my guy. She came over bitching about my constant snacking and tried to snatch the napkin I had the snack sitting on. She just kept going "What have you eaten today? I wanna know everything you've put in your fat mouth!" and when I tell her she's all like "I know that's not everything, I ate more than that! There is no way you got this chubby eating a normal amount! You're lying to me! Do you want to be fat for the rest of your life?!?!" and on and on it went. She sees me typing on the puter, but still thinks this is ok?!?!

    There are so many levels of crazy to this I dunno even where to start! Reality just seems to be warped to her and the longer I'm here the more it escalates too. This kinda thing happens at least 4 or 5 nights a week. Ughh! I just need to get outta here ASAP!! I'm looking at an apartment on Saturday. I was the first person to call about it, so I get it if it's decent...and it'd have to be beyond fucked up for me to turn it down at this point! lol
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    Wow! So sorry you have to go through that. AND you have to live with her right now. Ick.
    So to make the best of the situation, you already know you are dealing with a disfunctional personality. For whatever reason she needs to feel better than you. SO feed that to her. Just like a sc customer. Tell them what they want to hear.
    They say this sometimes will work in really bad situations like when someone is beating your ass ect.
    Tell her you are so fat and you have no self control and why can't you look like her ect ect ad nauseum. This will take away her fire. I bet she will not know what to say. And if she does- just keep going. It will get old to her. Since it does make you feel bad throw in some tears.
    You can't really keep coming at someone when they're already downing themselves. the negativity might make her stay away from you. Or she might turn and console you. If she does it's fake just watch out and stick to the plan. Keep doing it and get out as fast as you can.
    Just know in your head while you're doing all this that it's her and not you and you look great!! Guys are paying you and if she doesn't know then don't tell her this. She obviously cannot handle the competition.( even though it's all in her head)
    When that apt does open up just keep contact to a minimum. Do like they do to stalkers. Get a landline and an answering machine and delete everything she says without listening to it. Make sure she is the only one with the phone #. Then get a cell just for you and your friends work ect. If she has that # now just tell her you couldn't afford it and here's the landline # and then change the cell #.

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    That's just bunny boiling level of crazy bitch right there, glad you are getting away asap hon.

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    I had to cut all chatter with my parents cause they were always on me about my weight.. I gave in cause I couldn't lose it for the life of me.. Til I found out they were adding cal ups and gain pills to my food.. I left the state after that to my gma.. shes after my weight also and buys my clothes that are too big for me.. and always told me to hide myself cause I was fat.. I had to move in with my mate..
    I'm moving back cause I don't have the money and I don't think I will let it last between us unless he grows up.

    I know it will be back to calling me fat but I be making my own food.. when no one is around (i'm still scared of people spiking my food)

    So far I havn't gotten control of my weight yet.. I hope since it summer I can do night walks every night and more of my favorite food instead of high cals foods.
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    Why the hell do people go out of their way to do these things?!?!? I am so sorry to hear about all your stories.
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    I get that from my mom too. Not as bad, but she used to insist I was fat, and that no decent guy would ever want me. She also never acknowledged some of the things that happened to me when I was young and I have huge issues with that. Aren't moms supposed to protect their kids? My mom and I have a better relationship after I left for college but she's still weird and oddly distant and competitive with me at the same time.

    I got a lot of the "your too fat to be a dancer" comments from my old dance teacher too. My boobs are too big, and no matter how much I diet and dance and workout they're never going to be small. I got myself so thin my ribs and hip bones were poking out and my period wasn't coming regularly and I was still "fat." I got down to a 22 inch waist and it still wasn't enough. It bothered me so much that I quit my dream of being a professional dancer.

    I know I'm pretty, and I know boys DO like me, but I think I still feel fat a lot of times because of it.

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    Default Re: Mom won't stop calling me fat!!

    Oh, you meant professional dancing, i was going to say huge boobs never hurt in the stripping business.

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    ^^ Haha! Yep, my boobs were always a hit!

    Update on the crazy bitch! Right now Dad said he was going down the road, which was awesome since he generally only leaves about once every week or two. Well, he talked to her on the phone and she demanded he stay here until the kiddos are up from their nap. Cause yanno, I am not allowed to have even a second of privacy ever. They think that once I graduate that things will be all happy, happy and they will still get to keep my kids and stuff, but no fuckin way! Make me miserable, just because you can and you are a miserable bitch yourself...fine, I'll deal while I'm in school and have no other choice...but just wait till I graduate. They will NEVER see me or my children again! NEVER!! I'm done with the psycho-cunt! She can pull her pyschotic jack in the box routine on some other person. Hopefully they'll shoot her mean ass!
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    ^ Ha. My mother used to get onto me because I had small boobs. I remember there was a Cosmo one month when I was in HS which said what shape you were- pear, apple, whatever. I asked what shape I was, my mother looked at me, rolled her eyes, laughed and said "ruler".

    Nowadays I'm glad to be a "ruler" but when you're 16 or 17 any sort of criticism hurts your feelings. I never had bad acne or anything, but she would forcibly hold me down and pick my face, and used to use tickling and face licking as punishments.

    ...Until I got taller.

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    ^^Oh, jeez! Mean Moms just suck!! I was a C-cup by 3rd grade and pretty much built like an hourglass, so Mom called me a slut and made me dress in super baggy clothes. When I started running in my early 20's, I stayed the same size and weight but lost body fat and my boobs went to a nice B-cup....so Mom started telling me I was built like a 10 yr old boy. Horrifying for me, since I'd learned to love my curvy but lean shape. I guess it doesn't matter what I look like, she'll never approve of me. Never approve of anything. I make straight A's, she bitches that I study to much (I don't even start until after the kids are in bed, and normally have to wait till she is in bed as well.) I am a clean neat person, she bitches that I'm obsessed. I want to shower every fucking day like nearly everybody else on the damn planet, she bitches that I'm using to much water. I pay for ever damn thing in this house!! I'll use all the goddamn water I want! I hate to say it, but my mother is just a mean cunt! Yep, used that word! The meanest thing you can call another woman and a word I RARELY use, but she deserves it.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    ^^ Dude I am so not hating. My husband's nickname for my mother is Thundercunt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    ^^ Dude I am so not hating. My husband's nickname for my mother is Thundercunt.
    OMG that is priceless!!
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    HAHAHA I love it. I have to ask mine what he calls my mom again. Hilarity ensues.
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    ^^ That's actually one of his milder nicknames for her too. It's a good thing she lives over 800 miles away.

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    I am afraid for your children. How old are they? I'm sure she is doing this to them too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post
    I am afraid for your children. How old are they? I'm sure she is doing this to them too.
    No, they are boys. Mom and Dad only have issues with girls. For some reason all of my cousins are in sets, one boy one girl and they hated every single one of the girls, and thought the boys were fantastic, even the two that were little demons. Oh, and mom is very subtle about it in front of my boys, she likes for her grandkids to think she is a nice person.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    This reminds me of my friend whose mom tried to make nice with her grandkid but was a total bitch to her. She actually eventually used her grandkid as a control device.... threatened to call social services and take her away etc. Not saying that it's that bad but it sorta reminded me of it.
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    ^^ Ha. Having grown up in a family where both sides despised each other ( my grandmother told my mother the only good thing she ever did for my father was have my sister and I- hell who would've known the crazy old bird would be right?) it's a rough spot to be in. Plus kids are intuitive whether they are being directly affected or not. I'm glad you're going to GTFO princessjas- I'm sure your boys will be happier for it when they get older.

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    ^^Yeah, I'm hopefully (fingers crossed) getting an apt within the next two weeks. Three have become available within the last week. Yayy!!! It's a tough market when they're literally like 20+ peeps in line for each, but my credit is stellar and I can easily pass the criminal background and drug testing that most require in this area and lots of others can't. Another positive, one is $600 a month plus all utilities while usually nothing is over about $450 here and that is including water, sewer, and garbage. It's probably worth it, it's a decent sized house, but doesn't matter, most peeps in this area just cannot afford it and I can. I don't wanna pay that much, but I will if I have to! I want the kids and I away from crazy bitch. Even if they don't see and hear much of it, I'm sure they are affected. If nothing else having a mom who is so upset has to be something they pick up on. Funny tho, since these apts became available, she's been so much nicer, almost like she was when I didn't live here. Makes me think that she isn't just mentally ill or something, instead she is completely aware of what she is doing. Pisses me off even more.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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