My longest relationship was with an ex ( we dated for 5 years).
He was a very in control guy, had his act together business wise. Made alot of money, hard worker, very protective, always at the gym. Loved sports, sex, and food. Anyways part of the reason we broke up was(and there were many) the lack of communication. We just didnt seem to know how to communicate. Sex was great. But conversation-wise, looking back on it, WOW we had nothing to say. But for some reason I loved him.
We had alot of drama. I think I liked that. On/off. Push/Pull.
Rollercoaster of emotion. Intense. When he wanted to be, he was the sweetest guy ever. But he also could be a complete selfish asshole!
His job was always his first priority(which was why he had so much money)


The point of all this, is that after him I dated a guy for 2 yrs who was very much the opposite. He was lazy, not that ambitious. But he was sweet, and we were like best friends. We could lay in bed for hours and talk and we had tons of inside jokes. Sex was ho-hum however, and we broke up because, although i cared for him, i didnt really respect him.
I missed my ex's ambition, drive, the hott sex, the muscles(ugh i sound so superficial).

My new boyfriend is starting to seem more and more like my first ex.
Ex marine, smart, driven, hard working. But the one thing he has over my first ex which is HUGE is..hes honest. Almost to a fault. I know we have nto been together long but I trust him. I dont think hes a game player and after a year of dating alot of game players its a welcome relief.
However, and I dont wanna compare him to my ex but I can see some of the old problems arising already. Communication could be better (i.e, we get in a little fight, it doesnt get resolved, we have sex, the next day we dont discuss it and all is fine).
I dont get why I fall for this type of guy though. Its like strong big men who lack sensitivity are what turns me on. And the only type i like to be in relationships with. I dont make ANY sense.

I communicate quite effectively in many areas of my life but relationships, not so much. Im trying to read books, ask for advice. I know i think too much and too emotionally. I guess Im venting mainly and also asking anyone if they have the same sort of problems and if so, how do you handle them? I thought about reading the men are from mars women from venus book but i heard alot of people say that it sucked.


Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!