I've danced 10 years and never dated a customer. There have only been a handful of guys I've genuinely liked as people. The rest of them, I just fake it with



I've danced 10 years and never dated a customer. There have only been a handful of guys I've genuinely liked as people. The rest of them, I just fake it with





And tits, too... don't forget the tits,... I love tits...
But seriously, let's analyze this further... If all they wanted was sex, that can be purchased for less money than what a PUA seminar costs or what a wanna-be-PUA spends on his colletion of PUA materials (videos, CDs, books, etc.). I think its more of the bragging rights of "seducing a stripper". In other words, its not even sexual, just egotistical.
Last edited by jack0177057; 06-08-2010 at 11:09 AM.
With a lot of guys I think this is dead on. Men seem strangely impressed by the stripper thing. I've seen guys that would usually never want to date me find out I used to dance and suddenly they'll pursue me relentlessly. Guys like 10 + yrs younger than me!! It's really weird.
I just recently reconnected with an ex on facebook and he was all asking about my facebook profile (it's under Jas not my real name). He jokingly ask wth did you become a stripper? When I confirmed that I danced things got weird...like he was 100X's more impressed with my pics than he was at first. Suddenly was flirting like there was no tomorrow. After he realized he wasn't getting laid tho, he deleted me.I'm probably going to be moving back to the area where he lives soon, so I thought it'd be nice to know at least one old friend, but I guess he just saw me as a piece of ass. Some men are so stupid!
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"I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."





^^ Women chase after rock stars for meaningless sex to brag about to their friends... Men chase after strippers and porn stars for meaningless sex to brag about to their friends...
Maybe if dancers made it very easy for guys to get laid for free, we'd lose interest in the pursuit. It wouldn't be worth bragging about... That's the solution!![]()




^^^That "solution" wouldn't work lol. Nice optimism though.![]()





^ Just trying to be helpful.![]()
we use the flirting we feel to make more money off that guy but it stops there..
We don't want to date are customers..

Yeah well I experienced that one before .,.thanks any way .,.,really fun,.
same here! just a job




The solution to this is for the customer to put the stripper on the spot after the first or second dance. No date, no more LDs - unless he is happy with just LDs. If a stripper is flirting then I think she is fair game. If she is leading customers on she should expect to be called on it. Personally though I just go for the LDs.The nature of the situation is such that I can't interact with strippers the way I can with girls IRL and I've never needed to anyway - plenty of hot girls elsewhere.




I guess many guts would tend to see strippers as a piece of ass. But then many guys see non-strippers as a piece of ass. I see strippers no differently to non-stripper girls in regard to what kind of relations I might have with them. I know from experience that in general strippers are just regular girls making money, not sex kittens or sluts. I have met strippers who I really liked. Although there is a certain mystique or excitement about dating a stripper, I don't have a stripper fetish in regard to wanting to date strippers. There is no special sense of prestige or victory in it for me.





It is a very weird situation because you have to tread the line very carefully. I hated leading them on (and didn't most guys) but some guys spend hundreds if they think you'll be their girlfriend. I didn't do this to guys who were somewhat slow and guys who made it known they only wanted sex found out this wasn't a possibility.





The dancer is supposed to act like she's in love with the customer - this is part of the fantasy. If I go to a SC, I want the dancer (after we chat) performing for me like I'm the hottest guy in the planet and she's in heat for me. I want her to flirt, act coquettish, make deep eye-contact, smile, seduce, etc. This makes the experience more sensual and erotic than just watching a stranger dance naked for money. If I detect anything incongrous with the fantasy - like she's looking at her watch, she's looking into space thinking about her grocery shopping, she's scanning the room for her next target, etc., the fantasy balloon pops and its over for us.
There are two potential problems with this: (1) the naive customer who confuses fantasy and reality, and (2) the dancers that take this too far - she does more than create a fantasy, she creates an expectation that is deceptive, in order to maximize her profits in the short term. But, in the long-term, her deception will cause disappointment and resentment, and potentially, even violence.
Maybe if the dancer spots a guy that is naive, she should insert the word "fantasy" into the conversation to describe her role in the SC. When I was beginning my SC visits, I had one of the most sensual dances I've ever received. She made the GF fantasy feel 100% real the way she looked into my eyes, kissed me on the face, caressed my back and shoulders, and moved on my lap. I was young and naive and probably would have developed a puppy crush for her, but in our pre-LDs chat she discussed her role as a dancer to live out her customer's fantasies. She also mentioned that in the real world, she was a happily married woman and her husband was awesome. This discussion inoculated me from having crush butterflies in my stomach and naive expectations in my head. But, it did not in anyway lessen the pleasure of it.

My brother just got engaged (THIS WEEKEND) to his gf of 6 years. He met her while she was dancing.![]()





^ Not that its anything to be ashamed of, but when people ask the "how did you meet" question, are they honest about it?

Yup! There is even a funny song about how this guy falls for a topless dancer and they move to the country etc...pretty much their story, that they like to listen to and giggle about.




Yes. But they don't tend to be customers after one time. Conversely, men who come into the club and refuse to be a customer and spend any money on the strippers have even less of a chance. Its a delicate balance....most likely, if the stripper fancies you, 99.9999% of the time she will let you know after the first to third night of regular dances.
just my own feelings can't see falling in love with a man who pays me at a club..
Have I ever found them good looking sure but to mix that business with love not for me, i would never respect those guys long term.
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I think maybe you think all the customers think you're a nympho, or something like that. And maybe that's why you can't respect them. But a lot of customers get it that the typical stripper is there for the money. Even guys know it's no fun to have some weird stanger see you naked and feel you up. That's why we never want to go the doctor. But not having any sexual release is like quitting smoking except the withdrawl lasts forever. So we just hope that strippers earn enough to make their hard job worth it to them. It's a moral compromise, but is it really so bad that you can't have any respect for us?
Or do you not respect guys you can't get all the sex they want for free? Be warned, those guys are the least likely to be faithful.
I can see why you'd rather date a guy who strikes up a conversation with you at the laudrymat when you're wearing sweats. But because the first thing a guy likes about you is your bod, that doesn't mean he can't eventually fall in love with you.



For better or worse, it's the way of world. I've never dealt with a salesperson who wan't trying to get money for nothing out of me in some way. Those of us with salaried jobs can feel pure, but only because there's someone over in the sales department pulling every trick in the book to sucker money out of the customer.


















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