And I forgot to mention the club has been defunct over 10 years so we can even say the name of the club (a bikini bar near Chicago on a street called Mannheim Road).





And I forgot to mention the club has been defunct over 10 years so we can even say the name of the club (a bikini bar near Chicago on a street called Mannheim Road).

















I understand that but maybe you should leave that up to your spouse to be whether you tell people or not.
And yes Kelly he sure was. And I swear this man is an angel sent from heaven to save me. I can't explain the horror I went through before he came around. And I am so thankful for him everyday. I can see where girls are very touchy about it, I remember I was too. I am a very private person. It was hard but ...diamond in the rough for sure.![]()





We don't tell because both of us come from religious families. His mother and my mother are both devout Catholics and wouldn't approve. They probably won't approve if we live together before marriage (though likely after engagement).














I don't know if it would worry me if others found out. I was thinking that because eventually I want to move back to the area where I met him and where I danced. What if by chance someone knew me from the club? I don't think that would bother me because the club was a very "clean" club (though I have since heard a few were hookers OTC). Since it's been 15 years since I worked there I doubt anyone would remember me. His family could never know because he even told me that if his mom found out I was a dancer she would think I was a slut.



I fancy a few of my regulars who are genuinely respectful and kind without propositioning me, but not in the sense of me wanting to go out with them ... if anything if just makes me really appreciate them given the circumstances and types of guys I usually encounter at work. It makes the nice ones stand out.




I doubt anybody I know would call any stripper I went out with bad names. I am just thinking of the embarrasment that is associated with both being a stripper and being a customer. It wouldn't be the end of the world but it would just be easier not to tell everyone. And really, why tell the whole truth? It would be enough for us that we knew how we met.
Anyway, not likely to happen to me.




I guess I'm not understanding you much. I let it be known I was a dancer and I am not ashamed or embarrassed about it. And I was worried what my husband's parents would think about it...but they didn't even blink an eye. And they are pretty conservative and church going people. It's a blessing in disguise sometimes when you tell the whole truth...even if its scary.




Interesting that most strippers here are saying they have never dated customers, even ones they were attracted to, or regretted it the few times they did, even though customers ask them all the time but a number of other strippers here are married or engaged to customers or intend to be. Apparently strippers don't date any customers as a rule occasionally can somehow fall for one, maybe with some persistence on the part of the customer, whose intentions have to appear more than just casual and physical.
I don't see the big deal about picking up strippers anyway. They are not the only attractive girls on the planet. Most of the strippers I see I don't find attractive. Many of them appear to be there for older men. I've only ever seen three strippers I found very attractive and would have loved to date. I don't go to SCs often enough for attraction to be a routine problem anyway. There are more girls outside of SCs than in them and they are less complicated to pick up. Men who get hung up on strippers must be spending too much of their time in SCs.





Like anything, love can happen anywhere. I've heard of escorts (strippers aren't escorts, just using an example) falling for regulars, I've known people who met someone through friends, online, etc. I'm sure in the cases of strippers falling for customers it's because the customer didn't treat the dancer as just that. In my case he never thought of me as anything but a normal girl who happens to dance. He never tried touching me or doing anything offensive. He did ask me out but not in a sexual sort of way. I would suspect that it's much different in contact bars, but who knows. Why him? I can't explain it. He's not the cutest or the richest customer I ever had. However our views, interests, etc are pretty identical (except he loves science fiction and I don't).




I've only been interested in one customer, and it's been the best relationship of my life so far. Granted, he got his foot in the door by tipping well, and came in long enough that we got to know each other very well.
So,
1: it's very rare
2: if you pick up any signals and are willing to take the risk anyway, you'd better tip her well and come in often enough for her to know you very well.





I have liked and been attracted to customers, but I am married. If I was single Id say in the 2 years I've danced I would have dated only one. He also spent a lot of money and was a fairly regular customer. I could not see myself being attracted to anyone I just met. I like to get to know people.





Same here. The guy I love who was a customer is someone where the attraction got stronger and stronger. When I first met him, I wasn't attracted to him. Quite the contrary, I thought he was homely and me, being a pretty girl, didn't want him. As time went on the attraction grew because I got to know him and now he's very attractive to me. This is why online dating never really worked well for me because I often need to know someone to find them attractive. Strangely, I had a few hot customers I was attracted to but never considered them boyfriend material but had I met them somewhere else they might have been fuckbuddies. Odd how that often turns out like that.




I have always treated strippers as "normal girls". I don't get into the acting/fantasy part of it either. I prefer to interact with them in a straight manner instead of in "fantasy" mode. I touch them, but that isn't offensive because all the clubs are contact. How "contact" strippers think of their customers, I don't know.








So if I meet a stripper I really like, I just have to keep going back untiil she knows me a lot better and maybe she will like me. Previously I would have thought that is the way to make sure they lose any possibility of respect for me, or at least any romantic interest. Like they'd see me with contempt or as being around their little finger. I'd expect them to be thinking "if this guy was worthwhile, he'd have had the balls to ask me out in the first LD", but instead he's just getting LDs with me every week."
But another way to view SCs and LDs is as entertainment or fun and the guy isn't necessarily spending a lot of money just because he is lonely. Or he is doing it just because he likes the stripper and paying her is the only way to get to know her, since strippers are inherently cautious about giving out tlelephone numbers and sick of being asked all the time.
I guess if a stripper likes a customer, none of the above psychology is going to get in the way of that.





No I like being treated like a princess. I treat my husband like gold and buy him expensive gifts.. I expect the same in return. I never want to be treated like a "normal girl". Maybe Im a brat because my parents told me I was special and wonderful my whole life... I guess I expect it to continue from my partner. As I said didnt meet my hubby at the club... but if I did and he was cheap I wouldnt be interested. Im not a cheap person. I shout my friends and family and like to share my $$... I can't stand tight arses. (not saying u are hopper, just explaining further)




I think Kellydancer meant by normal was "not just as a stripper". I don't know if it is possible for a customer to treat a stripper like a princess in the club.
No, I'm not cheap with strippers - I show my appreciation with my money wherever it is deserved. But I don't want a lot in SCs, so I don't spend a lot. Since I have very rarely met strippers who I am deeply attracted to, I normally don't even have that reason to spend a lot on them.





Yeah by normal, I mean not being treated like a stripper. Sounds weird, but there are guys who treat strippers like strippers, which is fine in the club, but not outside. The only time outside of the club where I expect to be treated as a stripper is when I do bachelor parties. Otherwise, I want to be treated as any other girl.
Like I said it is rare that strippers fall for customers and no amount of money will help if she's not interested. This happened one time, and he certainly wasn't my biggest tipper. I can't explain why it happened to me, because there is no explanation. Maybe because he from the beginning was a gentleman. He treated me good early on and didn't expect anything. He didn't ask me out right away (a big turnoff to me) nor has he ever asked for us to have sex until recently (we are waiting). I do know that had he not tipped me I wouldn't have wasted my time and never would have known him outside the club. My personal experience is when guys don't spend money (whether in the club or in my normal non dancing life) they are cheap and not into me.
I can't answer about contact clubs since most of the clubs I danced at were no touch. I did work at a few where contact was allowed, but I didn't allow it, and didn't work there long.









I have fancied a few customers before... going out with them though is a no-go. Besides, at this point I think I'm finding that relationships just don't work well with my career.
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