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    Duh Drinking problem.

    I've always been a bit of a drinker. Shit Im hispanic what do you expect! haha, Ive always been more tolerable to any substance. But, now all I do is drink. When I first began dancing I was to young to drink so I would just sneak it at work, which means Id on average working 4 days a week Id drink 2 out of those days at work.. BUT, I live in new orleans, our club doesnt close the doors until 6am or later. Which means I can get alcohol anytime and i dont even have to walk a block.

    I know I've always had a little problem with drinking, some genetic (my mother) and my tolorence. But, the past 9 or so months Ive been scaring myself a bit. If Im in new orleans Im drinking. At work I drink 9-14 shots a night. Im never falling over or being messy. But, it varies. But, I do drink every night.. and i hussle drinks just as much as dances. Im having health issues because of it, but.. honestly I just dont like being sober. At all. I don't drink and drive because i walk home.. but, Im just curious did any one go through a similar stage? Granted Im 21 and I work in an alcohol fuel party city. I just want to know if what im doing is normal?
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    I drank a lot for a while. Especially when I lived alone. I would drink while I was out, and drink to go to sleep, etc. It really wasn't healthy, in my opinion. Eventually I got into a relationship and started dancing more (I teach classes) and started volunteering and doing other things to help me stop drinking. The problem for me is being idle. I find that sometimes when I drink I want to just lay in bed and watch TV and then once I've been in bed for long enough I feel like such a slug I just drink more, then I want to lay around more... it's just a cycle for me. Now I don't drink much at all and feel the best I have ever felt, but it's hard to resist the temptation.

    Try cutting back a little bit. Either find a friend at work to help you limit yourself, or find a limit (maybe a few shots) and just stick to it your self. See how it makes you feel? It could just be a phase, but that's still a lot of alcohol to be drinking in terms of your health... good luck...

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    i go through phases where i drink A LOT. and my tolerance will skyrocket and then i will have a night where i consume over 20 shots without blacking out and will kind of be like wtf.

    however, i notice i tend to drink a lot when i am bored. when i spent time in austin i was drinking heavily... but this is because i wasnt working in austin. i was just partying with friends and having a good time... so it makes sense that i was perpetually drunk. in cleveland, similarly to new orleans, drinking is part of the culture and my friends were always fucked up on god knows what and it was a dead town so i entertained myself by drinking a lot (and sometimes partaking in more destructive activities). however, drinking has never been a problem for me... i like to have a good time but i have always been able to sober up when needed. after drinking heavily in austin while living a party lifestyle, which was fun and all, i am now in dallas and have had maybe 5 drinks since i have moved out of austin, all drinks offered to me by customers.

    since you drink a lot at work, why dont you make a rule for yourself and the customers that the only beverage you drink is champagne? i was drunk at work in NOLA fairly often BUT it was only on nights when i sold lots of rooms. so my reward for selling lots of rooms was a. a lot of money and b. fun drunkenness. i didnt sit around with customers drinking otherwise and i certainly wasnt going to spend my own money on booze. try doing that... it will also be additional motivation to focus on selling rooms and for the customers bent on getting drunk with you, it will be an additional encouragement to get them to be buying bottles in the CR.

    also.. if customers bother you about drinking only in the CRs, what you do is lie and say work cut you off from alcohol. i know there is a thread on here about stories to tell customers, and surprise had a pretty amusing story about why she is cut off from drinking at work that you could probably tailor... but tell customers you arent allowed to drink because _____ (insert funny story that builds rapport here), but in the privacy of the champagne room you are of course allowed to ge away with it and you want to be drunk sooo badly because you like to have fun and you just love love love champagne etc. and then in the rooms of course pressure him to drink as much or more than you, because we all know that customers who are drunk off of champagne end up with looser wallets and will be more likely to buy additional rooms.... and of course if you spend the duration of your room talking about how much more you love the OTHER champagne (in the room that gives you more money of course) then you have a chance to make more money the next hou. that is one way to help your hustle and cut down on drinking at the same time. also this is how i sold a good portion of my rooms/upsold additional rooms when i worked in NOLA. Good luck and stay (more) sober girl!
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    When I first turned 21 I was the same way. I'd go to work just to get drunk.
    I remember one time I passed out in the back, behind the club in my dance clothes waiting for my husband to get me.
    That was probably the scariest thing.

    I never drove drunk. My husband always picked me up. Thank goodness.
    And this was in party city as well, VEGAS...where the drinking NEVER stops.

    The thing that got me to stop was getting pregnant. Of course no way in hell did I drink while I was pregnant and then after my son, I knew not to drink as much at work because I had to go home and take care of him.

    I still drink every time I'm at work. I drive now too, so I stop drinking at around 11:00pm or Midnight since we close at 1:30am out here. Gives me time to sober up.

    I admire the girls who can work without drinking, but I still have to in order to be social. :/

    I think it's normal though. It's exciting to be 21 and legal.
    Just be really careful walking home when drunk. If you can, get a friend to walk with you.

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    Go to an AA meeting and just listen.

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    Oh, I hear ya.

    One thing that really helped me was starting activities - for example, I always wanted to learn French. One day I decided, what am I waiting for? Besides, it sure beats sitting around and watching TV (amongst other activities :p )

    Once I found an interest, it lessened my drinking. It was like ... there was no longer a "hole" to fill.

    Don't know if this helps but that's my story. (well, a condensed version)

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    I am not sure if it's "normal" or not......many, many of us go through this phase and many, many girls I know have never drank a drop of alcohol at work, ever. Bad for you though....yeah.

    I used to get "blackout" drunk at work, only I was never actually "blacked out".....I would be way past the point where most people would have, like 20 shots as Athena said. I'd drink 1/3 of a bottle of Smirnoff before work, then proceed to drink 7-10 more drinks at work. I somehow always remembered everything too and never fucked up like falling down, losing money, getting in a fight, or any of those other embarrasing situations you may find yourself in while getting that wasted. I was told alot by people that I was the most functional drunk they'd ever met. I'd drink 3 times what the girl next to me was slobbering all over herself and falling down stairs over.

    What did it for me was the hangovers and feeling like shit about myself the next day. I would look at myself in the mirror and I was a fucking mess.....goddamned TRAINWRECK is more like it. It started to effect my self esteem big time, which brought my earnings wayyyyy down. Not to mention losing out on many days of work being hungover.

    I am about a month into working sober and it was a fucking BITCH at first. My advice: do it. Tough it out and just do it. I used to post stuff like this ALOT when I was still drinking at work and I was really struggling with mot liking who I was and what I was doing to my body. I had convinced myself that I had to have all of that alcohol to strip and that was BAD. People would dish out advice like I am saying here and I would read it but it just didn't sink in.

    I started working at a club where drinking on shift is strictly forbidden. We are allowed to have 2 drinks before shift if we want, and I sometimes do but sometimes don't. I had two Coronas before work tonight because I had a splitting headache. Now that I am "trained" to work sober, I can go to other clubs that allow dancers to drink all they want and I don't drink. I actually choose not to. It's very liberating to feel that you have control over it. I was spinning down a bad spiral with a bottle of Smirnoff in hand and it had to stop.

    You'd be suprised, you might even make more money working sober. I know I have.

    Get a handle on it now when you are young.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BarbieDancer88 View Post
    I've always been a bit of a drinker. Shit Im hispanic what do you expect! haha, Ive always been more tolerable to any substance. But, now all I do is drink. When I first began dancing I was to young to drink so I would just sneak it at work, which means Id on average working 4 days a week Id drink 2 out of those days at work.. BUT, I live in new orleans, our club doesnt close the doors until 6am or later. Which means I can get alcohol anytime and i dont even have to walk a block.

    I know I've always had a little problem with drinking, some genetic (my mother) and my tolorence. But, the past 9 or so months Ive been scaring myself a bit. If Im in new orleans Im drinking. At work I drink 9-14 shots a night. Im never falling over or being messy. But, it varies. But, I do drink every night..
    and i hussle drinks just as much as dances. Im having health issues because of it, but.. honestly I just dont like being sober. At all.
    I don't drink and drive because i walk home.. but, Im just curious did any one go through a similar stage? Granted Im 21 and I work in an alcohol fuel party city. I just want to know if what im doing is normal?
    No. This is not 'normal' at all. I've PM'd you Sweetie.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ViolaStrings View Post
    Go to an AA meeting and just listen.
    I agree. I went to AA for a few years. Dancing is a really tough job and a lot of people drink just to be able to handle it. You don't have to commit when you go to AA right off the bat. The only requirement is "a desire to stop drinking". Lots of people can't handle being sober when they first start AA because AA is for alcoholics and alcoholics like to drink. The most important thing is to just go and listen. You don't have to talk either. You can say that you are new and you just want to listen. If you drink too much you could wind up looking old and full of cellulite and fat and wrinkled before your time. Remember that alcohol is a drug too. Being an alcoholic is no better than being a drug addict.
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    I've never had a problem with drinking at work however, I do have a problem with drinking off the clock. When I first started dancing, I worked at a juice bar and I was underage so I had to learn to work sober. I think this helped me (and is still helping me) stay away from drinking while at work. Money is the biggest motivator for me going to work and I know that being drunk would hinder my ability to bank. The only time I drink at work is when I'm in an hour long skybox or champagne room and since majority of the customers I'm worth buy at least two hours, I can afford to be drunk.

    Perhaps you should go to work with a goal in mind while working. If you really enjoy drinking, how about making it your goal to sell a room in order to drink? This may cut down on your drinking gradually and increase your profits. I do this when I'm stressed at work and need a drink; I tell myself that I'm not going to get a drink until I sell a VIP (where customers have to buy drinks).

    Overall you need to be strong in your goals of quitting or reducing your alcohol consumption. If it's hard to quit/reduce even when following a regiment then perhaps seek some group help/counseling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NREXM View Post
    Overall you need to be strong in your goals of quitting or reducing your alcohol consumption..

    Very, very good advice.

    From your picture, you look like a very beautiful girl. Start taking care of yourself NOW to preserve not only your outer beauty but your inner....meaning your health. Without health, looks won't matter anyway. You are WAY too young to be having "health problems". You must be consuming some serious amounts of alcohol and that makes me very worried about the path you are going down. This kind of stuff really hits my heart because I come from a family of alcoholics and have struggled with it myself.

    Trust me when I say I have seen the effects that alcohol has on women in this industry. It's really sad.

    I have worked with many, many women who I assumed were anywhere from 10-15 years OLDER than me only to find out they were 5 years YOUNGER than me. A good way to look 40 when you are 25 is to keep boozing as much as you say you are. If you are smoking cigarettes or doing any other drugs on top of this, expect your youth to go down the toilet real fast.

    The real issue here is health though. Like I said you are way too young to be already having health issues. Please start taking care if yourself.

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    I've been having similar, but much less severe problems. I"m 22, never a partier, dont smoke, rarely drank, and worked sober when I started dancing, but finding more and more that i have to drink, at least a little- just to get a little buzzed and feel happy to deal with customers and be able to let things slide more, and generally handle assholes better. I find it makes me more money because i'm less bitchy when i come across a jackass, and just let it go, have fun on stage, and super smiley and bubbly to everyone. I never fall over, never go overboard, and stop drinking a few hours before I have to drive home. I know a LOT of girls say they do this also, but, is it normal? I barely drink outside of work, only if I go out with my girlfriends (which is only once in a blue moon) otherwise maybe a glass or 2 of wine at dinner once in a while, other than that, that's it for the alcohol.

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    I almost feel like we could turn this into a support thread since so many of us are going through the same thing right now. Anyone else want to? It would be nice to have other strippers to support and check in with since the alcohol issue is so unusual and complicated for us.

    I checked out AA and they are great. They helped me to really understand that drinking like I have been really IS NOT NORMAL and while I don't feel that I am an alcoholic I have been surrounded by people at work that consider alcohol abuse to be normal and that made lying to myself about what has become a real problem much, much easier than it would be in any other job.

    I don't desire to quit drinking completely, though, only at work. Outside of work, with friends and my boyfriend, I've reigned in the crazy drinking I was guilty of up until my late twenties. I'm quite capable of stopping after one or two drinks. So I've stopped attending AA meetings out of respect for those with the desire to quit completely.

    I'm not judging but I would say that anyone who has more than two drinks a day (and even that feels excessive when it is done more than a few days a week) or who cannot make money without drinking seriously consider trying things for a month without the alcohol. It is really difficult at first but well worth it. I'm allowing myself a few drinks on the job here and there but have cut down significantly with the goal of quitting totally. I've screwed up and gotten wasted twice since than but the anger I felt with myself just reinforced my decision so I'm not regretting that.

    I just turned 30 and before, when I drank, people often thought I was 25-26. Now they tend to think I'm 21-22 and I've had several custies ask me if I am old enough to drink. I feel better, have more energy, have lost some weight, and my skin is looking much healthier. Plus my problems with depression have improved in a major way, though that is probably not a problem for many of you. I was feeling stuck and by changing just this one thing I have managed to get myself back on track. It's quite nice.

    However many girls can drink a lot every night and never have an issue. So I don't judge. I just know that for many of us it's a slippery slope and it doesn't have to be that way.

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    That's an awesome idea! I second the support thread. I work between 3 and 5 days a week at the club, and during a 7 hr shift I definitely have more than 2 drinks, and have only been drunk a few times though. But I do feel that it's really hard to work and deal with custies being completely sober.

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    I used to get shitfaced drunk to the point I would be embarrassed to go into work the next night. I have been doing a bit better, I haven't blacked out or any nonsense like that. I used to have people who would look out for me or come pick me up if I was too drunk. I no longer have that, so I watch my alcohol intake very closely. I space them out, and make sure not to overdo it.

    My mistake is I am tipsy yet keep drinking because I haven't gotten a certain feeling that I like to have. The problem with that is I overdo it, then end up in head-spinning land. Seriously one minute I'll be feeling that 'nice' giggly feeling, then a little while later I'm standing up and beginning to sway.

    I didn't help that I was sucking down gulps of Tequila. I didn't do shots because I'd take my own bottle in, and just run to the DR and take some swigs. Add to that the times no custy's are available which means I'll head to the bar just to kill some time and have a drink in hand.

    I could never work totally sober. No way, no how. I have before and I was miserable. I am glad I got better with controlling myself, so I want others to know it is very much possible.

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    I also have realized that it is not possible for me to work sober. I can't make money because I'm much stricter about what I'll let guys say and do to me. The solution for me was quitting dancing in order to pursue an overall healthier lifestyle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post

    I just turned 30 and before, when I drank, people often thought I was 25-26. Now they tend to think I'm 21-22 and I've had several custies ask me if I am old enough to drink. I feel better, have more energy, have lost some weight, and my skin is looking much healthier. Plus my problems with depression have improved in a major way, though that is probably not a problem for many of you. I was feeling stuck and by changing just this one thing I have managed to get myself back on track. It's quite nice.

    However many girls can drink a lot every night and never have an issue. So I don't judge. I just know that for many of us it's a slippery slope and it doesn't have to be that way.
    That's so funny.....I am about to turn 30 and when I was getting shitfaced all the time, people guessed my age way higher. My skin has that "youthful" glow back and I have lost a total of about 20 lbs (not all at once but gradually)

    Guys used to say they thought I was 27-28 and now I keep getting 22-23 or every once in a while a customer willl actually ask if I am old enough.

    And yes, some people can juice it up hard core all their life and be fine, but I think this is few and far between. Alcohol IS a drug and it IS bad for your health and well-being if abused.

    Kind of like people who smoke a pack a day their whole lives and never get cancer while people are out there getting it from casual/social smoking. Genetics play a HUGE part in all of this.....I think we are all pre-determined to how we are gonna react to alchohol/drug/cigarette abuse based on our family's medical history.

    On my dad's side, my grandmother was an alcoholic and also a diabetic, and died from complications of mixing the two. My grandpa died of liver failure so I don't need to exaplain that. My mother is about to be 63 and is still an alcoholic and her life is a mess. My grandmother on my mom's side... Emphysema so smoking is out of the question for me.

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    As of today I swear I am totally off the juice. I had two regs who buy unlimited drinks, both like me to be drunk too because they have that thing where they need the girl to be as drunk as them to feel better about being wasted. Not gonna happen again.

    Also wanted to share a great link, online AA meetings for those who aren't cool with going to a live one. Plus there are always people in the chat when there isn't a meeting going on. Highly recommend this, it's nice just to see what other people have to say and they're all very nice and supportive and open-minded.

    http://vshsvr2.chatblazer.net/vsh21/guests.php

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