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    My hustle was seriously cramped yesterday. I had a lot of guys who would start off a conversation with "My name's X" "Hi, I'm Shiloh!!" "That's not your real name though is it??" and then proceed to try and get me to tell them my real name.

    One guy even said "...I know you from somewhere, I'm sure. What's your name?" "Shiloh" "No, I mean outside the club."

    Another guy kept saying "All I want is your first name! I think it's so impersonal calling a dancer by her dancer name. I'm more comfortable calling you by your real name. I'm a really nice guy and I live an hour and a half away. I won't stalk you or be creepy, I promise. So your first name is all I want." He bought me quite a few drinks and every five minutes or so he'd go "So what did you say your name was??" and he'd get all pouty when I'd immediately blurt out "It's still Shiloh."

    Even ANOTHER said "All the dancers I talk to tell me their names! I promise I won't tell anyone else. I wouldn't do that to any of the other girls." Then when another dancer he was fond of was on stage he said "I'll be right back, I'm gonna go tip Tracy-- oh, I mean Gypsy." Then when he asked me my real name I said "No, and I'll tell you why. You just told me Gypsy's real name when you said you wouldn't tell anyone else." His response was "Oh but I wouldn't do that to YOU."

    AAAAAAGH.

    How the FUCK am I supposed to hustle with shit like this?! I don't even want to give them a fake real name because they're so insistent I don't feel like giving them what they want!

    And on top of that, WHY are they so insistent on knowing my real name? What's the damn point?!

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    Default Re: Won't stop asking my Real Name

    Get a fake real name. It's what they want and it'll be less hassle. Or get an elaborate story as to why your dance name is your real name. Like when I was Violet, if I said "oh it's my real name" and they were all OH YEAH RITE I would say "no, really. It's short for Violetta. My grandmother was from St Petersburg, and her middle name was Violetta, my mama named me after her. But when you're a kid, Violetta it a mouthful, so I've always been Violet."

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Get a fake real name.
    I've tried that before (Debbie) and the rest of the time the customer was there he'd always call me "Debbie" and whenever I was on stage he'd SHOUT "Looking great, Debbie!!" Doing a tip walk? "Here you go, Debbie" When he was leaving? "Well I gotta go, Debbie, but it was great talking to you!!"

    Whenever I tell guys a name other than Shiloh they make it a point to call me by that name and that name only, and try to make sure other people in the club hear him call me that.

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    ^^ Sorry, added more above for you.

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    Fake real!

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    Default Re: Won't stop asking my Real Name

    It makes them feel like they're in on some little secret, like they're included in your life, and they're not just another one of those lame guys who can get a girl so has to buy time with a stripper. If you tell them your 'real' name they think they're super important. Fuck faces. It IS annoying. I give them a riddle to try and figure out my 'real' name (I have the same name as a female comic book character, it has a nick name which is also a common name for males, the nickname has a double consonant - Veronica, nickname: Ronnie), and let them guess away. They hardly ever get it right, it's cute, and it's a time killer.



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    Default Re: Won't stop asking my Real Name

    Quote Originally Posted by Autumn Lily View Post
    My hustle was seriously cramped yesterday. I had a lot of guys who would start off a conversation with "My name's X" "Hi, I'm Shiloh!!" "That's not your real name though is it??" and then proceed to try and get me to tell them my real name.

    One guy even said "...I know you from somewhere, I'm sure. What's your name?" "Shiloh" "No, I mean outside the club."

    Another guy kept saying "All I want is your first name! I think it's so impersonal calling a dancer by her dancer name. I'm more comfortable calling you by your real name. I'm a really nice guy and I live an hour and a half away. I won't stalk you or be creepy, I promise. So your first name is all I want." He bought me quite a few drinks and every five minutes or so he'd go "So what did you say your name was??" and he'd get all pouty when I'd immediately blurt out "It's still Shiloh."

    Even ANOTHER said "All the dancers I talk to tell me their names! I promise I won't tell anyone else. I wouldn't do that to any of the other girls." Then when another dancer he was fond of was on stage he said "I'll be right back, I'm gonna go tip Tracy-- oh, I mean Gypsy." Then when he asked me my real name I said "No, and I'll tell you why. You just told me Gypsy's real name when you said you wouldn't tell anyone else." His response was "Oh but I wouldn't do that to YOU."

    AAAAAAGH.

    How the FUCK am I supposed to hustle with shit like this?! I don't even want to give them a fake real name because they're so insistent I don't feel like giving them what they want!

    And on top of that, WHY are they so insistent on knowing my real name? What's the damn point?!

    a few ways to deal with this question. it depends on the customer.

    -if the customer has a sense of humor and you get the vibe that your real name is not actually important to them... usually these are the young guys in a group and they are proud just to know that dancers use stage names-- the best answer to this is to shamelessly say "I forgot" and smile and wink. they will appreciate the honesty in the dishonesty if that makes sense.

    - if the customer is giving you more serious/creepy/stalker vibe... as in knowing your real name is important to them and they have no sense of humor, give them a fake real name... how about jennifer? or katie? something boring. or just walk away because i find usually these guys are downers.

    -the customer is somewhere in between: not a young guy in a group, and has a sense of humor, but doesnt give off creepy stalker i want into your head vibe: make them work to get your real name... i say this "the awesome thing about strip clubs is that in real life, you have to learn the girls name first, and then maybe you will get her naked. here it is the other way around, you have to get the girl naked and then maybe you learn her real name. So why dont we go back there, get me undressed and if you are a real good boy, maybe ill tell you my real name" (wink)... then maybe somewhere towards the end of the dance whisper your common 'real' name and then try to sell or upsell the next dance.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    -the customer is somewhere in between: not a young guy in a group, and has a sense of humor, but doesnt give off creepy stalker i want into your head vibe: make them work to get your real name... i say this "the awesome thing about strip clubs is that in real life, you have to learn the girls name before you get her naked. here it is the other way around, you have to get the girl naked and then maybe you learn her real name. So why dont we go back there, get me undressed and if you are a real good boy, maybe ill tell you my real name" (wink)... then maybe somewhere towards the end of the dance whisper your common 'real' name.
    That's a great idea!!

    ...If my club allowed topless/nude lapdances


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    i say naked even if its in a pasties club. i used to say topless or whatever but it doesnt have the same ring to it. although if you work in a club with extras beware... a lot of the customers wil expect you to get naked even if it is not allowed (i.e. 30% of the dallas customers).

    some reason i thought you worked in a nude club. what are you allowed to do for the lapdances? if you are required to stay in your bikini... maybe "in real life you have to memorize a girls name and then if you are lucky, maybe she will sex you up? but here its the opposite... blah blah blah"

    although i am trying to think of a phrase better than 'sex you up'. since that could also be taken the wrong way. none come to mind at the moment... i am sure some girls on here who have worked in bikini clubs will have suggestions... if i think of one i will post it.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Yeah in my club we can get nude on stage but off stage and in lapdances we have to remain completely clothed.

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    I encounter this alot too. I usually try to mock them in a way to make them feel a little foolish for asking. For example:

    You: "Hi there, Prince Charming!"
    Him: "Hey... I'm Jud, what's your name?"
    You: "I'm Shiloh... Very pleased to make your acquaintance."
    Him: "Oh I'm sure Shiloh is your real name, oh sure. What's your real name?"
    You: "You're right. I wanted to dance by my real name, but there's already a Foxxy/Sexxy/Lexxus/Ferrari dancing here, so I had to get a stage name. Now tell me what on earth that is that you're drinking, because I don't remember the last time I saw a man drink something that was pink and orange!"

    I've found that guys with a sense of humor will generally take the hint... and plus their reaction to the command at the end of the dialogue A) Shows that the subject isn't open to further inquiry, and B) usually tells me if theyre the type who like to be controlled or the guys who like to pretend they have control ^^

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    I use a combination of all the above, but a lot of the time I just smile and say, "The name I picked out says more about me than the one I just got stuck with, right?" I can't think of a single time this hasn't shut the guy down. Other times I charge a fee and tell them a fake real name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lol1337a View Post
    I use a combination of all the above, but a lot of the time I just smile and say, "The name I picked out says more about me than the one I just got stuck with, right?" I can't think of a single time this hasn't shut the guy down. Other times I charge a fee and tell them a fake real name.
    you have the most awesome screen name in the history of screennames. *bows* i am not worthy....

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    Am I the only one who really doesn't care if a guy knows my real name?

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    I either charge them to hear my "real" name or smile and say something like, "now where's the fun without a little mystery" persistent guys are almost always douche bags so if they keep bugging me I just leave.

    On a similar note, when I get one who is really persistent about my number I charge him like $20 and hand him the rejection number as he leaves. :-)

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    That's exactly why when I switched clubs I changed my dancer name to a 'normal name' and if they ask I just say 'no really..its my real name. i have no idea how other girls respond to a name that isnt theirs, i know i couldnt!' usually gets them to shut up. If not, play the whole 'youre right..ill let you in on the secret..but i only tell after a dance' or something like that. And then make up a fake real name lol. But, remember what name you say in case they come back!

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    You think that's bad?!! We actually do use our real names as stage names (club rule and it's stupid.) and my real name is unique anyways so they especially don't believe me.. So I give them an ordinary name like Margaret or Kathleen and then they believe me. I read somewhere once that a dancer would reply in a low manly voice, "You're right my name isn't (insert name) it's Dave." LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by Autumn Lily View Post
    Yeah in my club we can get nude on stage but off stage and in lapdances we have to remain completely clothed.
    have you ever considered layering your clothing? Like wearing a sexy and suggestive one piece over some sexy lingerie or a very revealing 2 piece? you have big titties, so that could work well...

    i would suggest trying that. not just for this hustle obviously, but it seems to me like it would be easier to sell dances if they involved stripping you down more than you are already. for this particular quote you could say "well in normal life you learn a girls name and maybe get her out of her dress... etc etc". but it has applications to plenty of other things.. you have the stripping factor as an added incentive for dances, as opposed to just dancing.

    just wondering if you ever tried it. depending on your club or personality it could help your sales.

    ooo also, since you have red hair, a jessica rabbit style dress could be hot. and put it over some very sexy lingerie... i could see a lot of men liking that a lot.

    sorry that this got off topic .
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    I use a fake real name as well. Kate, because Kate from Lost is hot, lol.

    If they're insisting that your fake real name is fake as well then they are probably just screwing with you and wasting your time. I never let the name conversation carry on for very long.

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    OR say something like, "I'll tell you my real name in the lapdance booth..." I tried that once and it actually worked..

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    Stage name should be short for a realistic long name. If I was Kat, that's short for Katherine/Katarina, whatever. 90% of the time they'll buy it and its fine. If they continue giving you shit, they are there to fuck with you regardless. Put on your domme/bitch hat and rip into them like you want. Very good chance they'll love the back and forth and buy dances.

    That's one of the tricks to this trade. Being too sweet, personable, and human doesn't sell. Be a bitchy sex goddess, give them some escapism. Move past the name issue quickly, don't let them take control or even get you into a conversation about it.

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    I'm Natasha. I tell them it's my real name even though it's not. I'm Polish, and the name fits me really well. Most of the time they buy it. I seem to make more money when my name is closer to a realistic name.

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    When customers give me that line I answer back with "well its short for (another fake name)" and they never inquire further.

    Either that or try fake real names. Customers are assholes sometimes; I've introduced myself by my real name a few times and I still get customers that are like "oh that's not your name" hahahaha

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    Customers asked my real name a lot more when I was new than they do now. I don't think this had much to do with which name I was using. As you get more practice maintaining control of the situation and the conversation, the ones who are inclined to try to "mess with the stripper's head" will be less likely to bother trying it with you. I'm just trying to reassure you that this should happen less with time.

    I don't bother with the fake real name. I don't want the customer to think he's the one who is setting the boundaries.

    When a customer says, "that's not your real name, is it?" I'll usually smile big, maybe giggle a little, like the question is so absurd it has to be a joke, and say "of course not!" Then immediately change the subject. "So what brings you in here tonight?" "Let me guess- xyz convention?" etc.

    Also, try skipping the introduction when closing quick lapdance sales.

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    Some guys just won't believe what you are saying no matter what. Think of a REALLY generic name, and use it as your secondary stage name for when people ask your 'real' name. I use Rachel (its not my real name but it doesnt sound like a stage name) it works every time.

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