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    I'm to a point where I can't even drag myself into work ... and the thought of sitting on a custys lap, going through the whole spiel of; my name, his name, where he's from, blah blah blah, puts me in a state of depression. It could very well be that I am just DONE w/ Vegas (been here 7 months) ... and it might not be dancing per say that makes me feel burnt out but maybe it's the industry here in Vegas that's gotten to me ... although from numerous threads I've read on SW the industry sucks a lot of other places as well.

    I'm actually packing up my vehicle and getting on the road in one week ... can't wait to get out of this negative city!

    I've been dancing a loooooong time. I love being a stripper BUT I hate how the industry has changed. It's always been a job for me ... not a place to socialize, hang out or party ... and I *use to* love going to work but I don't feel that way anymore. I'm filled w/ dread. Back in the days a girl did NOT HAVE to sell dances ... either custys would ask, or it was easy to ask, get dances, w/ no bs involved nor selling ... how I miss those days and I know it will never be that way again.

    One of the clubs I work at in Vegas has free housefee Sun & Mon up till a certain time and I can't even psych myself up to get my ass in the next 2 nights as this will be my last opportunity to make $ here. I know I have nothing to risk by going to work but the thought of going to this club makes me want to go to bed, pull the covers over my head and sleep for a week. This is not good!

    I've NEVER felt burnt out from dancing to the point where I can't even get myself to work ... and the thought of working a normal job is more appealing right now. Anyone else at this point now or been at this point in your dancing career?

    I'm hoping a new city will change my outlook/feelings. Where I will end up ... only God knows ... it's all in his hands now ... where it's best for me to live, be happy and have a new healthy life ... hopefully out of dancing, as that is my goal now w/ my current emotional, mental and spiritual state of life.

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    I have felt the same way this week I did not work at all. For me it's more than just the dreaded bs stupid blah blah blah of trying to sell a dance. I literally can't get out of bed. I just can't- I have been paralyzed with anger.It's so weird to not be able to do anything even though I need the $.

    I have a super fucked up family and trying to confront all of this anger from the past has just been too much for me to handle. Plus the fact that for me this whole year has been brutal. 2011 can't get here soon enough. I wish I could drink myself into oblivion but I have a kidney stone. When ever I drink the pain is usually really bad the next day and I have already had to go to the emergency room a few times in the last year. But today I got some help at trying to cope with my anger from the past. So I know I will get through this.

    I don't have the $ to move so I'm stuck.

    I have heard that most places are better than Vegas (except for LA or San Diego). I have heard good things about Oregon and the midwest. Oregon is supposed to be a good place for dancing or a regular job. From what I hear, in Oregon you make $ on stage. You don't have to sell dances at all. Wow can you imagine?!

    A couple of years ago when it was still possible to get a regular job out here I did bartending, cocktails and temp work. I can't tell you how refreshing it was. It was so easy to just show up and do my job and know that I would get paid.

    After selling dances in Vegas any job you do will seem so easy. Nothing is as stressful as trying to sell dances in Vegas. Nothing. You can always get a part time dancing job to help with the bills when you are ready.

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    YES I have felt this way before. I mean, I have "quit" twice because the thought of going in to the club made me want to have an anxiety attack, cry, and scream all at the same time. The thought of doing the whole "sale" part like you said.....sitting on the lap, etc.....wasn't what got me so much but it was the super HIGH contact that was going on, I just couldn't handle it anymore. Night after night of being grabbed on, having to dodge mouth and hands going places you don't want them, dealing with guys who refused to pay me for dances cause I wouldn't let them rub all over me, dealing with having to see disgusting extras and getting asked for extras all night......yeah done.

    A club/city switch is what you need. I got away from that HORRIBLE club and now am working somewhere that I couldn't ask for a better work environment. NO contact allowed, NO extras tolerated whatsoever, great bouncers/DJ/fellow dancers.....and customers that still appreciate the lost art form of the lap dance.

    I only worked in Vegas once, very briefly over two years ago and I hated it. I'll never do it again. It seems as if you like stripping but you just hate where you are right now and that is completely understandable. Do some research, find a city that seems to mesh with your goals/desires and go!

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    Quote Originally Posted by loren View Post
    I have felt the same way this week I did not work at all. For me it's more than just the dreaded bs stupid blah blah blah of trying to sell a dance. I literally can't get out of bed. I just can't- I have been paralyzed with anger.It's so weird to not be able to do anything even though I need the $.

    I have a super fucked up family and trying to confront all of this anger from the past has just been too much for me to handle. Plus the fact that for me this whole year has been brutal. 2011 can't get here soon enough. I wish I could drink myself into oblivion but I have a kidney stone. When ever I drink the pain is usually really bad the next day and I have already had to go to the emergency room a few times in the last year. But today I got some help at trying to cope with my anger from the past. So I know I will get through this.

    I don't have the $ to move so I'm stuck.

    I have heard that most places are better than Vegas (except for LA or San Diego). I have heard good things about Oregon and the midwest. Oregon is supposed to be a good place for dancing or a regular job. From what I hear, in Oregon you make $ on stage. You don't have to sell dances at all. Wow can you imagine?!

    A couple of years ago when it was still possible to get a regular job out here I did bartending, cocktails and temp work. I can't tell you how refreshing it was. It was so easy to just show up and do my job and know that I would get paid.

    After selling dances in Vegas any job you do will seem so easy. Nothing is as stressful as trying to sell dances in Vegas. Nothing. You can always get a part time dancing job to help with the bills when you are ready.

    Good luck where ever you go.

    I understand about the family thing ... that's part of the reason why I moved away last year but even though I am 3,000 miles away I'm still dealing w/ some of the stuff. The issues w/ my family are not going to change BUT I can change ... *I* have to let all this shit go ... easy to say, not so easy to do ... and I'm still in the process but at a much better place now than I was last year. So *try* your best to let your anger go ... it's only going to eat away at YOUR soul and YOU deserve a happy and fulfilled life!

    I only worked 2 nights this entire month ... 2 weeks was due to the hives. I got the hives 2 times in since I've been here and I've been sick twice and I very rarely get sick. ... talk about signs that I need to get out of this city! I know it's tuff to get into work, especially w/ it being super slow during summer. I'm gonna PM you about a particular club that you might be interested in trying ... if you haven't already.

    I don't have $$ either. I've used up all of my $$ to pay bills but I'm hitting the road anyway ... at this point I have nothing to lose. Of course this means I'm gonna dance in each city I visit and my hope is that I'll have a fresh new outlook and make some $$ to get by until I figure out where I'm gonna live. I also plan to dance day time and that is a completely different environment than night ... maybe, just maybe, this is the change I need to get back to being happy stripping. I still want a *normal* job, but if dancing in the day works out, at least it will give me time to find a really good day job ... out of the bar scene. I have everything charted out throughout the US (as far as to NC). I'm *never* the type of person to accept anyone's help ... but if I've learned one thing upon my journey from last year is that is it's ok to accept the help/kindness from friends (people I can truly trust ... which is a very bold statement for me to make as I only trust a handful of people). I am extremely fortunate to have friends extend their home to me and my cat upon my journey ... so I am comforted knowing I will have a roof over my head. As far as making $$ ... all I can do is know it's all only temporary and something better is going to happen for me. If you have friends in other cities that will let you stay for a week or more to check out the clubs, go for it. If you don't but have credit cards to live off for a while, decide which cities you'd like to try, find cheap motels, and get in your car and go! If you're done w/ Vegas like I am, it's better for you to hit the road too than stay in this dreadful city.

    Re: Portland ... I deleted all of the threads I had saved because I'm headed out east of NV but there's lots of good info on SW. Even though Portland is saturated w/ clubs and girls I've read and been told by some dancers in Vegas that it's good there ... well at certain clubs. The clubs that come to mind are: Shimmer's, Spyce, Dolphin. There's suppose to be a cheap motel across the street from Shimmer's but I'm sorry I don't know the name ... you can call the club and find out ... but that could be a good starting point for you.

    If you decide to get on the road too drop me a PM. I'm here to support if you decide to venture out on a new journey

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    YES I have felt this way before. I mean, I have "quit" twice because the thought of going in to the club made me want to have an anxiety attack, cry, and scream all at the same time. The thought of doing the whole "sale" part like you said.....sitting on the lap, etc.....wasn't what got me so much but it was the super HIGH contact that was going on, I just couldn't handle it anymore. Night after night of being grabbed on, having to dodge mouth and hands going places you don't want them, dealing with guys who refused to pay me for dances cause I wouldn't let them rub all over me, dealing with having to see disgusting extras and getting asked for extras all night......yeah done.

    A club/city switch is what you need. I got away from that HORRIBLE club and now am working somewhere that I couldn't ask for a better work environment. NO contact allowed, NO extras tolerated whatsoever, great bouncers/DJ/fellow dancers.....and customers that still appreciate the lost art form of the lap dance.

    I only worked in Vegas once, very briefly over two years ago and I hated it. I'll never do it again. It seems as if you like stripping but you just hate where you are right now and that is completely understandable. Do some research, find a city that seems to mesh with your goals/desires and go!
    Thank you ... so I'm not alone w/ feeling burnt out. What you went through would have gotten to me too. I'm glad to hear you're in a great club now w/ a clean work environment. This gives me hope that perhaps I too will find a club I am happy w/ ... and that there are "customers that still appreciate the lost art form of the lap dance". I didn't think that even existed anymore! Good to know and hope I find a club like that!

    The thing I need to do is NOT to drag this negative Vegas club junk w/ me into another city/club and go in w/ a fresh outlook.

    Yeah this Vegas scene isn't for every dancer, and now w/ the over saturation of clubs, dancers and the recession it's not a happy place for dancers. I know lots of pretty girls who HAVE to work double shifts ... that's insane! It wasn't like this before, but that was 2005 ... stripping has changed here a lot since then in a bad way. I'M OUT!

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    The only time that I get burnt out is when I work five days straight until my feet and arms are so sore that I can't even bring myself to get out of bed. I work every other weekend so I never experience major burn out; in fact, I can't wait to get to work after a whole weekend of not working.

    It's so strange that girls dislike Vegas on this site because it's honestly the best and most consistent city I've ever worked in (Chicago being second) aside from being physically worn out by the time the week is done. I've only worked there for several months so maybe it will get old over time, who knows.

    I've also worked in Portland, Oregon and it's not great for money unless you have a lot of regulars. Sure you get tipped on stage but it's not a significant amount (maybe $20-$40 each set). Most clubs don't have many dance options so you're stuck doing $20-$30 nude dances most of the night and since Oregon is limited contact, it's hard to get repeat dances. However, these clubs are usually laid back and fun to work at. It may be a good fit but don't expect to make super great money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdventureBaby View Post
    The thing I need to do is NOT to drag this negative Vegas club junk w/ me into another city/club and go in w/ a fresh outlook.

    This is gonna be one of the most important things. Just remind yourself wherever you wind up that you are NOT in Vegas, you are far, far from it with a new people, new club, and a new start.

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    I didn't go in for three weeks, and then when my husband asked me about it a few days ago, I almost had a complete mental breakdown. I basically freaked out and talked for over two hours, about everything I felt, experienced etc. I totally get it. Luckily we were able to put a plan in place, hence our move in January.

    If you want out, go for it. Sounds like you're almost where I was. Or even just take a break- go wait tables in a funky cafe, work in a vintage store, something like that. When I had my burn out of destruction a few days ago, I was ready to go work at Starbucks 60+ hrs a week rather than dance. Take a break or get out before you get to that point.

    Also- depending on where you're going, I could toss some leads your way. PM me if you want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    I didn't go in for three weeks, and then when my husband asked me about it a few days ago, I almost had a complete mental breakdown. I basically freaked out and talked for over two hours, about everything I felt, experienced etc. I totally get it. Luckily we were able to put a plan in place, hence our move in January.

    If you want out, go for it. Sounds like you're almost where I was. Or even just take a break- go wait tables in a funky cafe, work in a vintage store, something like that. When I had my burn out of destruction a few days ago, I was ready to go work at Starbucks 60+ hrs a week rather than dance. Take a break or get out before you get to that point.

    Also- depending on where you're going, I could toss some leads your way. PM me if you want.
    Just from the little I talked to your husband on the phone (that night you called me when you all were out and about) he seems like he's a great listener ... which men usually are not. I can imagine the move for you was a very good thing!

    Girl ... each day that goes by since I post I'm soooooo over stripping. I'm probably gonna have to dance for a little while but w/ any luck it might only be for one month ... or less if all goes as planned ... fingers crossed!

    You're always so wonderful helping me w/ leads ... thanks hun! So far all is good but if I need help I'll pm ya.

    Hope all is good now. Tell hubby I said hello ... and have him give you a hug for me

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    At my last club I got burnt out pretty bad. After a few days off I knew I had to go in, but I had been dreading it and counting down the hours, trying to pretend I had more time. When it finally came time to get in the car and leave I ran back to the bedroom and begged my husband not to make me go. He of course didn't and we had a long talk about why I didn't want to go back. I took a break for a few months and then finally settled down into a new club. I'm back to loving stripping. I also find that it helps to have a day job, something that is only a few hours a week. It breaks up the insanity of dancing for me.

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    I've been feeling alot like you do... I just can't get over how different everything is, and how dirty this industry has become... The money isnt good anymore, and the other day at work it dawned on me that I was the ONLY girl working that isnt a prostitute. After over 6 years in the biz..I'm ready to say fuck it...it's just not worth it anymore.. I got a couple bartending jobs, and only have a year left of school... Emotionally I am exhausted, and lately I cant even bring myself to walk up to someone bcuz most of the guys that come into my club (and theres not many anymore) arent looking for dances. It's just a disgusting and negative environment... Id like to think that if I switched clubs maybe I would feel better but in all reality, I think its just time to move on...things are never gonna be like they used to be..

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    Quote Originally Posted by bambiblue View Post
    I've been feeling alot like you do... I just can't get over how different everything is, and how dirty this industry has become... The money isnt good anymore, and the other day at work it dawned on me that I was the ONLY girl working that isnt a prostitute. After over 6 years in the biz..I'm ready to say fuck it...it's just not worth it anymore.. I got a couple bartending jobs, and only have a year left of school... Emotionally I am exhausted, and lately I cant even bring myself to walk up to someone bcuz most of the guys that come into my club (and theres not many anymore) arent looking for dances. It's just a disgusting and negative environment... Id like to think that if I switched clubs maybe I would feel better but in all reality, I think its just time to move on...things are never gonna be like they used to be..
    Gosh, you've said so much of what I'm thinking/feeling. Stripping has changed to a brothel ... when the hell did this happen? And I'm not talking about ghetto clubs ... extras is happening in upscale gentlemen's club ... well that I know of for sure here in Vegas. There is NO SEX in the VIP/CR you perverts! I'M OUT!! Of course I know this shit happens at clubs all over the world ... sigh ... but I'm *hoping* that the club I plan to work daytime once I hit my destination will be a different environment ... businessmen coming in for lunch and some LD's ... and the married men after work for a drink and LD's before going home to the wife and kiddies ... and it's fairly simple, no hard hustle, no young drunken idiots, w/ not too many looky loo's ... well that's my hope anyway. Fortunately my financial overhead is fairly low ... so it's not like I *need* to make a lot of $$ during the day to pay my bills, etc. *If* the day shift works out well then at least it will give me time to find a good day job. I'm looking forward to a *normal* life away from all of this negative industry junk. You're right .. it's never gonna be like it use to be.

    Good for you w/ the bartending jobs. I'd say stick w/ doing that, finish up school ... and don't look back. Onwards to a better life!

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    I been feeling the same way. Even though I worked for 4 months, I loved it, on bad or good days it was still a job and I looked on improving myself. I recently switched clubs and its been stressed to adapt to their enviorment that I went down and decided to take 3 weeks off. I am going back in July. But as you mentioned the thought of talking, sitting on their lap and smiling and acting interested.. ugh. I hate it how they ask for sex, I want to yell at them saying its a fucking stripclub im a dancer not a fucking hooker! But no.. thats not how you make money. I remember talking to a 32 /yo dancer and I thought she was great due to her exp, she told me how people used to tip on stage and she would make 200 easily on stage years ago, now its all talking, and hussling and being fake. I remember she broke down in the club crying - god I felt bad for her.

    Honestly.. I dont what to say, you;re going to a new place, have a postive attuide towards it.. any job changes in ways. Maybe you just needed a break, you'll have a new start so see how things go, a new location is maybe what you needed

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    I been feeling the same way. Even though I worked for 4 months, I loved it, on bad or good days it was still a job and I looked on improving myself. I recently switched clubs and its been stressed to adapt to their enviorment that I went down and decided to take 3 weeks off. I am going back in July. But as you mentioned the thought of talking, sitting on their lap and smiling and acting interested.. ugh. I hate it how they ask for sex, I want to yell at them saying its a fucking stripclub im a dancer not a fucking hooker! But no.. thats not how you make money. I remember talking to a 32 /yo dancer and I thought she was great due to her exp, she told me how people used to tip on stage and she would make 200 easily on stage years ago, now its all talking, and hussling and being fake. I remember she broke down in the club crying - god I felt bad for her.

    Honestly.. I dont what to say, you;re going to a new place, have a postive attuide towards it.. any job changes in ways. Maybe you just needed a break, you'll have a new start so see how things go, a new location is maybe what you needed
    I've seen many veteran strippers break into tears ... me being one of them. We all just can't believe how the industry has dramatically change. My home town club was stage ... we *use* to make big $$ doing only stage ... that time has long passed. Last time I was in Vegas was 2005 and it was soooooo easy to get LD's but now it's all about sales. Excuse me ... I'm a stripper not a fucking sales person. I know some dancers feel it's a sales job BUT it's not. We should NOT have to BS custys to convince them why the should spend their $$ ... well that's how I feel but I come from the days when we didn't have to do that.

    All I know is I can't wait to leave Vegas ... heading out tomorrow at 11am

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    I just can't get over how different everything is, and how dirty this industry has become... The money isnt good anymore, and the other day at work it dawned on me that I was the ONLY girl working that isnt a prostitute. After over 6 years in the biz..I'm ready to say fuck it...it's just not worth it anymore
    Yup same here ... and I did say 'fuck it' ... permanently ... for precisely these reasons !!!

    I'm a stripper not a fucking sales person. I know some dancers feel it's a sales job BUT it's not. We should NOT have to BS custys to convince them why the should spend their $$
    ^^^ that's because, for the most part, today's club customers aren't willing to 'buy' what clean dancers are actually willing / trying to 'sell' !!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    ^^^ that's because, for the most part, today's club customers aren't willing to 'buy' what clean dancers are actually willing / trying to 'sell' !!!
    Yes ... and it's utterly tragic!

    As I'm about to get on the road tomorrow I AM at that point now ... fuck it! I feel in my soul. I pray I can stop dancing asap. There has got to be a normal job out there that I can support myself ... there just has to be!

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    Quote Originally Posted by hello-kitty View Post
    I know a ton of dancers that get burnt out dancing in Vegas. Maybe you could try a club that has more old fashioned standards... I typically find clubs in the upper mid-west to be really pleasant. The guys there aren't handsy, they don't ask for sex, management is really good about keeping a clean club, and most importantly the girls are happy and making consistent money. I know a really great club I visited over the weekend, and if you would like to know PM me....
    So I'm another burnt out Vegas dancer statistic ... LOL. I gotta laugh because it doesn't do me any good to be upset/negative about my 7 month experience here. All I know is I'm out of here ... soooooo excited!

    BTW ... sent you a PM

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    I agree it could very well be Vegas that is making you hate the industry. I mean yeah, it's different now that is for SURE. I also agree with the sales thing. It never had to be that way in the past, apparently. Now we have things being invented like Dancerwealth because it has become such a challenge to get a customer to buy a lap dance. Don't get me wrong, I am all about that program I LOVE it but it does kind of suck that we have to have a home study program now to be able to go to work and make money. I count my blessings though, thank god it exists or I'd be screwed. I have upped my money alot from just the podcasts and the articles.

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    I was not a dancer when it was "different", but I have learned not only from posts by veterans on here but I also have a very, very good friend who was a dancer during those "golden years" and I have heard lots of stories. I wish I could transport back in time and experience that.

    When I first started dancing, I was still under the impression that strip clubs were like they used to be. I went in ready to dress up in cool costumes/outfits, play amazing music and make all my money off of my stages. I had NO idea that the money was in sellings LD's. It was a huge wake up call. All that time I spent on my stage shows and NO ONE CARED. It's not about fun and entertainment anymore. It's become way too serious. 9 out of 10 customers want to play mind games or are looking for a girl who will do extras. It's tough!

    Thank god the club I work in still has that element to it a little bit. We all make really good money off of our stages, especially if we are creative with our music/outfit/pole work/etc. It's also relatively easy to sell a LD. I hardly ever get asked for my number, get psychoanalyzed, or solicited for prostitution.

    THE CLUBS have alot to do with it and the kind of customer they attract. Clubs nowadays are more concerned with bodies in the door to sell alcohol and food rather than focusing on the strip club aspect of things meaning the GIRLS. Just look at ads for clubs......"T-Bone steak for $5.99 Friday from 4-7!!!" , "Free burger buffet", "2-for-1 drinks all the time!", "UFC fight on here!" Umm.....so what about the, umm......wait is this a strip club or a sports bar? Most clubs have turned into sports bars with poles and prostitutes.

    I don't know what the place I am at now is doing different but they are doing it well. I guess the advertising they do and the fact they put music videos up on the screen to match our music instead of sports. We have food but they promote it from inside the club instead of making it the main attraction on the flyers. We hardly ever get hood rats/sweatpants guy/creepy extras seeking guy/"I'm here to watch the game"/"Im here to eat" guy, you name it.

    What sucks is that there are a few girls who have started to work at my club that are escorts. It's only two now and I hope that number doesn't increase. We have our little jewel in the desert where things are still relatively old school and I hope it stays that way.

    RANT end!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CherryBomb954 View Post
    THE CLUBS have alot to do with it and the kind of customer they attract. Clubs nowadays are more concerned with bodies in the door to sell alcohol and food rather than focusing on the strip club aspect of things meaning the GIRLS. Just look at ads for clubs......"T-Bone steak for $5.99 Friday from 4-7!!!" , "Free burger buffet", "2-for-1 drinks all the time!", "UFC fight on here!" Umm.....so what about the, umm......wait is this a strip club or a sports bar? Most clubs have turned into sports bars with poles and prostitutes.
    Well said ... it's fucked up but it's true ... sigh.


    Quote Originally Posted by CherryBomb954 View Post
    What sucks is that there are a few girls who have started to work at my club that are escorts. It's only two now and I hope that number doesn't increase. We have our little jewel in the desert where things are still relatively old school and I hope it stays that way.
    And now the nightmare is starting to happen at your club. It all starts w/ one or two, the next thing you know it's more fucking whores than strippers. I hope your management is good ... meaning they don't put up w/ that crap and will fire those girls as soon as they're caught doing extras. If management doesn't get those girls out it won't be your little jewel in the desert

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    Quote Originally Posted by AdventureBaby View Post
    And now the nightmare is starting to happen at your club. It all starts w/ one or two, the next thing you know it's more fucking whores than strippers. I hope your management is good ... meaning they don't put up w/ that crap and will fire those girls as soon as they're caught doing extras. If management doesn't get those girls out it won't be your little jewel in the desert
    Well what's fucked up is they don't offer ITC extras. Even if they did, it would never happen there. They are WAY strict on contact and we don't have a closed off VIP or CR, it's just one big room with an upper level. It's impossible for anyone to get away with extras there. I have seen girls get in trouble for grinding too much.....

    Now what sucks is they basically come and try to recruit customers for their escort service OTC. They are pretty discreet about it, I see them with their phones out all the time exchanging numbers with guys.

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    Yes, I have been massively burnt out before. It's the worst feeling ever. I used to start talking about not wanting to work 3-4 days before I even had to go in! I started calling in all of the time. I would lay around the house semi-depressed trying to come up with any excuse to not have to go in.

    Good luck sweetie. Take care of yourself. Sometimes it just isn't worth it anymore.

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    I've been burnout also. I don't understand how when I first started (7 months ago) I was doing pretty good. But now I can't pay my bills, -I work five days a week- and it's all I can do not to burn every booby bar in Dallas down to the ground. My boyfriend doesn't understand why I hate it "you get to hang out and drink all day"- yea honey that's all I do. Ugh

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    yeah I feel ya. the thought of going through the same conversation 200 times a night makes me nauseous.

    I become enraged whenever I get certain questions. when a guy's like "what does your tattoo mean" I just want to scream "I DON'T FUCKING WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT" or when he's like "where do you live?" or "what's your last name?" or "what high school did you go to?" I want to be like "do you realize asking that makes you sound like a stalker?"

    sometimes I wish I was dumber so that I wouldn't get so aggravated with the morons that I have to talk to.

    I guess my problem is I just run out of patience quickly. I don't show it, and I can hustle the most irritating guy in the world, it's just that sometimes I physically CANNOT sit with the dude anymore without wanting to SCREAM.

    I used to NEVER miss a friday or saturday night because I always bank those nights. now it's a saturday night and I'm sitting on my ass because I can't be bothered.

    last night I was sitting with this fucking asshole for like 20 minutes listening to him spew out all this stupid bullshit that I really did not care for. I smiled in his face, laughed at his stupid fucking jokes, stroked his ego like crazy and he said he would buy a dance from me when he finished his beer. I figured I had to pee anyway so I went and when I came back he was leaving to the LD room with ANOTHER girl. I was SO pissed, not because the girl had cut throat me, but because I had spend 20 fucking minutes with that asshole for NOTHING.

    I might not even go in tomorrow OR the day after. I need a break!!!!!!!!!!

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    been there, done that. it fucking sucks.

    just posted a thread about the shit situation im in now, mentioing how badly burnt out i was.

    it happens. the only remedy, as far as i know, is taking time off.

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    yes it really sucks when it happens. i started dancing 2 years ago. and 14 months i took off (about 3-4 month breaks at a time). every time i go back though i love it again. i would give yourself a week or two to take time off if you can.

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