I'm sure there is a thread on here somewhere about this topic, but I can't seem to find it, and basically I need some help/advice, the title of the thread pretty much sums it up lol. Okay, so me and one of my friends are looking into dancing, and I've already expressed to her my concerns regarding how my boyfriend would feel.. I knew he wouldn't approve, but I have never talked to him about it.. until this past Saturday. This is how it went down, we were out buying groceries with his sister, and he went outside for a cigarette, and I tagged along, we sat on a bench, and I was telling him my need to figure out a way to make money, I've been looking for jobs and handing out resumes with no luck at all, and he says "hustle babe" and yea.. I know many people do this, but that's not me, well not in that way at least, I'm sure I would not do well in the drug business lol. So quite seriously, I ask "what do you think if I became a stripper?" and he kinda just gave me this face as if to say "seriously? you're kidding." and me wanting to make sure I was responded "well, what do you think?!" and all he said was "You already know, I'm not even gonna gonna answer that question" following with this face so I'm gonna take it as a negative thing in his opinion.
Well, I know if I get into the stripping business, I would enjoy it, I've always wanted to do pole tricks, heck, as a child I attempted to go down those poles at the park, upside down, and climb back up lol, and I've always had a huge curiosity when my parents drove past a strip club, of course I know its not all glamorous but I need a way to support myself and I'm damned not willing to wait around til somebody calls me back for a job interview with the risk that I may not even end up working for them. I need money for school (taking nursing, aspiring to be a pediatrician), basic life necessities, eventually buying and owning a car, etc etc, right now, I'm basically living off my savings, and the amount of savings I have are not going to last me much longer.
So my question is, how can I hide the fact that I dance/intend on dancing from my boyfriend? and losing him is not an option because I've been with him for 4 years strong and we intend on getting married, I would be absolutely devastated if I lost him, what excuses should I use? Also I live with him at the moment, I'm planning on moving out due to conflict with his sister, whom lives with him. Also, he has a huge friend network, he knows at least 50 people from each city in the GTA (I'm from Toronto area), and if these people were just normal low key people, I wouldn't worry too much, but these people are like club promoters, bartenders, basically, people that have a high likely chance of running into me if I danced, so any advice on how to try and avoid being seen by his friends would be much appreciated also.
Thank you so much in advance!
P.S. sorry its so damn long lol