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    Default Maybe see ya later ;)

    I have the oppertunity to go back to dancing, a thousand questions are running through my mind, such as:

    You have been chatting to a custie for a short while, you bring up dances, he declines. Do you say something like `Ok, maybe Ill see you later then?` with a wink and saunter off?

    Or do you leave making him think that was his one and only chance and he blew it? Hopefully inducing a feeling of regret?

    I used to do the `Ok maybe Ill see you later` thing all the time, but Im not sure thats the best approach. But then what if you have to go backl to him and ask again anyway, just to do the rounds?

    Thats another thing. I dont see much on this forum about `doing the rounds`. Does this not happen much in the US? Its what we do in the UK, the manegment usualy encourages the dancers to go round and round the club, repeatedly asking the same custies over and over whether they want a dance. We get told off for doing anything else if we are not sitting with a custie or dancing.
    (Hence why I used to be a bit of a camper, asking someone more than 3 times does ones self esteem no good, neither does camping, but not as much. I was a nice dancer though and used to invite others to join me).
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    Default Re: Maybe see ya later ;)

    The managers at a club I worked at would encourage dancers to smile, be flirty, and look busy, but it wasn't required.

    After getting declined once, I will still sit with a custy for a bit more, engage in some fun conversation, and then lead it once again to dances. If he declines again, I will sit for maybe a minute more and chit-chat, then tell him that I hope when I visit him again, he will be ready for me. This doesn't always work, but it works more than the "Ill see you later" line. I only use that with custy's I know won't buy dances from me, ie, the club's or other dancer's regulars, not my regulars.
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    Default Re: Maybe see ya later ;)

    Well, I dont think Iv ever done that before! It does make sense though

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    Default Re: Maybe see ya later ;)

    You have been chatting to a custie for a short while, you bring up dances, he declines. Do you say something like `Ok, maybe Ill see you later then?` with a wink and saunter off?

    If I see him as a time waster and he is acting not interested I do that or just say Ill be back and never do. But if their guys I see with money, I flirt with them even after they said no and tell them Im going to walk around for a bit and Ill be back to keep them busy

    Or do you leave making him think that was his one and only chance and he blew it? Hopefully inducing a feeling of regret?

    If they feel regret or such then they'll get dances, but I always got cheapos on this section when I left them, they would get 1-2 and then say they wanted "more"

    I used to do the `Ok maybe Ill see you later` thing all the time, but Im not sure thats the best approach. But then what if you have to go backl to him and ask again anyway, just to do the rounds?

    If hes a nice guy, and you see he will get dances, and isnt a free loader or a time waster, its always best to be nice, flirty and go to check on them for a dance, When they say no to the dance the first time I usually chat up a bit and then act nice and leave them alone for a while

    Thats another thing. I dont see much on this forum about `doing the rounds`. Does this not happen much in the US? Its what we do in the UK, the manegment usualy encourages the dancers to go round and round the club, repeatedly asking the same custies over and over whether they want a dance. We get told off for doing anything else if we are not sitting with a custie or dancing.

    Depends on the club and the girl, but i think its always best to check on them, they drink, they ponder, and all the things that go in their heads so why not try again
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    Default Re: Maybe see ya later ;)

    It really depends on what is going on in the club. If there is nothing going on, and he is one of the only guys in the club, I will sit with him and chat even though he is not buying; beats doing nothing. If there are plenty of other guys in the club, I move on. I generally adjust my hustle, attitude, speech, etc. to the customers attitude and try to get 'the feel for them' before I bring up anything about dances. Doesn't take much, just a couple of direct, open ended questions, so when I actually go for the close, I can sell them properly, then I hardly ever get a no.

    I try not to induce the feeling of regret. It's a waste of time, unless the guy is a complete asshole.

    I will do the rounds after I get off stage and the club is busy. I will ask for dances when I am on stage out of every single guy who is sitting there, and I will go around and hustle everybody who is not with a girl already, who seemed the check me out the most. This is tricky to notice at my club since there in absolutely no mirrors, anywhere.

    I think the best approach to all of this is - Know what you are worth, and know that whatever it is, they are going to spend it. It is your attitude that sells you. Have that knowledge and confidence before you even walk into the club, and you will see a tremendous difference in how much you make. Tell them what to do, rather than asking, as in most instances, that is what men need. They are not at a strip club to make decisions, they have prepared yourself to part with their money before they even walked in the door, it is up to you to be there to take it, and it is the attitude which makes the sale.

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    Default Re: Maybe see ya later ;)

    Quote Originally Posted by nata View Post

    They are not at a strip club to make decisions, they have prepared yourself to part with their money before they even walked in the door, it is up to you to be there to take it, and it is the attitude which makes the sale.
    I may write this bit down!
    A civilian spends money to look good
    A stripper looks good to make money
    A civilian may be after your wage
    A stripper laughs at your wage

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