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    I am soooo frustrated with my body! I do squats but my ass seems to get SMALLER. I do sit ups but I'm short waisted and have a deep belly button so no matter you flat I get my stomach it still LOOKS pudgy. High hip bones and a small ass make me look like I have a muffin top permanently. I have skinny legs. I can't gain weight any where I'd actually want to gain weight. It seems like I only lose it where I don't want to lose it. Dancing doesn't help, running doesn't seem to help... and I currently can't afford a decent diet. I don't even want to go around my boyfriend's family because all his grandma tries to do it convince me to eat more. She thinks I need to GAIN weight... what the hell is with people who aren't in the industry thinking we need to GAIN WEIGHT?!?!?!?

    I think I'm just frustrated from being out of work. I hate feeling stagnate. It's like there's always something holding me back, whether it's my body or lack of transportation or injury. I am supposed to audition for a reality show tomorrow and it looks like it's just not going to happen. I live WAY out in the country (almost an HOUR from the fucking city.) and have no car due to it being totaled. I feel like success it so close yet sooooo far away. I've got a lot of really cool projects coming up, but if I can't drive to them, then they aren't going to happen.

    Sorry, I think I threadjacked my own post. Oh, and by the way I just got on depo provera last week and I think it's making me moody and depressed. It also makes me want to eat more, which is another reason I don't want to be around people who try to make me eat more! I feel so sluggish being away from dancing. I've been dancing for 30-40 minutes each night and doing crunches etc but it's just not the same. I want to lose exactly 5 lbs. from my waist, not my ass.
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    Have you tried yoga? That worked wonders for me. Look up the Sun Salutation. It'll make you FEEL and LOOK great.

    I've got a similar problem, except when I loose weight, I loose my boobs (which are already kinda small, pisses me off!)

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    Hey you. Breathe. Just let it go. Worrying about things isn't going to make it better. Clear your mind and take a step forward.

    People will think all sorts of things about you, what matters is how you think of you.

    I would be more specific, but I shouldn't need to be.

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    Thanks guys... I know a few yoga poses. I do mostly pilates as well. I don't have weights/equipment so I'm limited to cardio and pilates/yoga.
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    I'm a fan of P90X, which still totally kicks my ass into shape. Cardio and Yoga are half of the puzzle. Weight and twitch muscle training are the other.

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    I think we're all our own worst critics.

    I wish I had some more meaningful advice, but I think you're so gorgeous. Not just from the pictures you've posted, but you just seem like a happy/positive person from all your posts.

    At least you're trying to change what you want to change, that's a lot more than some people!

    ...but again, personally, I think you're beautiful as is.

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    I think being stuck at home with no income, nothing to do, nowhere to go, no friends nearby, etc etc etc plus recently getting on BC is really making me depressed.
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    When I start to feel stir crazy and/or depressed, I get all dressed up. Like I'm going to work.
    I grab a beer, turn on music and just dance around. I'm sure I look like a complete crazy person to the people across the street, but it's fun and it makes me feel better at least.

    Not only that, but my son starts dancing and laughing, which makes me laugh and dance even harder. Laughing + dancing = burning calories.

    If I take my husband to work, I make it a point to get all dressed up even if I'm just going to Wal Mart. I dunno, but just getting dressed up with make up and hair done, it always makes me feel better.

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    Yeah, I've been dancing around the living room, but I skipped the dressed up part. I'm low on makeup and don't want to run out before going back to work.
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    Stiff Legged Deadlifts are what you want, screw squats. While Squats do help with the booty, nothing works your ass like stiff legged dead lifts. Here is a link to youtube with a butt-ton (pun intended) of videos on how to do them.

    http://www.youtube.com/results?searc...snum=0&spell=1

    You have to do them with weight if you want your butt to grow. I would check craigslist for some weights for sale in your area that you can pick up on the cheap. You want to get a straight bar with adjustable weights. Dumbells can work too but are much harder to work with while keeping the correct form. I don't know your physical strength or size but most women do well starting out with around 30-45lbs total in weight. You will go up rapidly and inside of 60 days you will be working out with 80 to 90bs if you are the average sized woman.

    Do 2 warm up sets and then 4 sets with enough weight where on the 8th rep that is all you can do. Rest 2 minutes between sets and remember to keep your back arched at all times. Do this workout once every 3 to 4 days (longer if you are still sore). If you do this I guarantee you will see results after the first week.

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    um. don't arch your back with stiff leg dead lifts. you want to keep a neutral spine. bend at your hips, not your back. back stays straight. despite the name, it's actually just fine to have a slight bend to your legs if that helps you keep your back straight.

    but i totally back stiff leg deadlifts for the butt. i'm out of shape now, but when i was in shape, those were the bestest.
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    Thanks guys. I'm actually improving body wise.
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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    um. don't arch your back with stiff leg dead lifts. you want to keep a neutral spine. bend at your hips, not your back. back stays straight. despite the name, it's actually just fine to have a slight bend to your legs if that helps you keep your back straight.

    but i totally back stiff leg deadlifts for the butt. i'm out of shape now, but when i was in shape, those were the bestest.
    You misunderstood, By arched I mean you MUST keep the natural curvature of the spine at all times. Keeping it straight is not enough and thus the "arch" You took it as if I were saying to be "hunched over" or something which would kill your back/spine.

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    I tried frog squats and they seem to work. I think I was just over emotional because I just started depo. And I also have a huge fear of gaining weight on depo!
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    Quote Originally Posted by fuzzz View Post
    I'm a fan of P90X, which still totally kicks my ass into shape. Cardio and Yoga are half of the puzzle. Weight and twitch muscle training are the other.
    P90X is the best workout ever!! You should be able to find free videos online.

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    That shit had you tripping...lol relax... remember you control
    Your. Body... as long as you work out daily you will be fine..
    Even if it's 10 mins... I love my body and I cherish it
    Working. Out to keep my figure I'm skinny I use to trip
    Bout gaining weight... but I just said whatever.. everyone gain
    Weight when they age. So I stop trying and just eat more
    Work out I gain in certain areas but I don't stress. Cuz I
    dont want to be big either. Just take care of your body. Weight
    Will come

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    Quote Originally Posted by Harleigh HellKat View Post
    I think being stuck at home with no income, nothing to do, nowhere to go, no friends nearby, etc etc etc plus recently getting on BC is really making me depressed.
    I can relate to the no car, stuck at home, not dancing, nothing to do, feeling a little outta shape thing....I recently got in a car accident while taking my little sister practicing to drive, she made a right turn too wide, panicked, hit the gas, and not only hit but TOTALED TWO parked cars, along with totaling mine . All this after I spent half my income tax refund fixing it just a month earlier....Please know I can sympathize with that. Sounds like you need to just get away somewhere for a while....just a suggestion? I hope things get better for you

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    if you are emotional because of depo, i would start taking 5-htp daily. i went crazy when i first went on birth control, and went on it and within 3 days i was back to my normal self. only draw back is i need more sleep on it than i do without.
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    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Yeah, we pretty much got screwed with the car accident. The insurance company basically said it was 'no one's' fault, even though the other woman ran a redlight. My mood swings are getting a lot better, in fact in the past week I've had very few... maybe I'm adjusting. But I still want to eat EVERYTHING. I think I'll switch to Mirena when I return to the HD, or at least ask them about it. Maybe there are less side effects with mood/appetite. I can deal with the mood swings like you said, by taking supplements, but I can't deal with wanting to eat everything in sight... especially with being out of work and bored and food being so easily accessible.
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    I cant take the mood swings of anything hormonal anymore..I have to use non-hormonal birth control now..no pills no shots none of it..my system is too sensitive and a pain in the ass..

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    I'd like to try the copper IUD mediocrity posted about. They don't offer it anywhere around here though... just hormonal stuff. Sucks. The upside is, depo controls my otherwise out-of-control periods. I literally didn't want to work on period days because they were so heavy and painful. And I think I'm breaking out less too, because I would get huge zits and body acne around my period.
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    Paraguard's IUD is non-hormonal...Yet periods r heavy

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    eeek.. that might not work then. I already have/had heavy periods. Maybe I should suck it up and switch to the pill of some sort? Does the pill cause weight gain?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Harleigh HellKat View Post
    I think being stuck at home with no income, nothing to do, nowhere to go, no friends nearby, etc etc etc plus recently getting on BC is really making me depressed.
    I was in the exact same situation. Living in a new place, no friends, marital problems, no job while on Depo. I was really emotional and moody. It almost made me wreck my car twice. I loved the easiness (no pills, just a shot and forget about it) but I had to stop taking it because I was a psycho. Maybe you want to look into switching?
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    Yeah I might. It just helps my periods so much... plus I'm leveling out a little now. I'm going to see if anywhere within a reasonable distance offers non-hormonal options.
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