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I think it might be easier to make the kids not like you than to make yourself like them. Try looking meaner.



Maybe you don't have to learn ... if whoever you end up wanting children with is ok with it, you could propose that you just adopt a child that is already nearing an age you are comfortable with. That way he gets a kid and you get one at a tolerable age, AND help out a needy kid![]()





Hahaa this is funny. Take it from someone who HATED kids, I couldn't stand them. Everyone was shocked when I got pregnant it was a huge scandal cause I was the known baby hater.. I had my daughter and I fell in love. when people see us together it's like wow who knew
Maybe it's because I'm a mommy now I don't know.. but I love all children not just my own. I'm the go to person for babysitting in my family before it was like "Oh hell no dont' take your kid over there. She'll let them do anything.. "! LOL!





I dislike kids until they can hold a rational conversation. The only small one I don't hate is my daughter. Even then, a lot of the time I have to limit how much time I spend with her in one go. After about 90 minutes, we both need a break lol.
Sorry I don't have any advice on how to get over it-I personally could use some myself! Just want you to know that I can sympathize a bit.
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Drowning kids in the bucket... YOu shouldn't be around kids at all if you're having those kind of thoughtS.
It's like people in mascot outfits - the more you hate them, the more they loooove you.
I get asked to babysit all the time because kids fucking adore me, and I'm "so good with children!!1", but really, I have to lie down in a dark room and recover for a few hours after I babysit. I frankly just want to choke my cousins, I have never come across a pair of kids so badly behaved in my life, and they're "SO GOOD" for me. Ugh. Little brats.
Get the fuck off my harbl, yo'.
I have the same thing. I HATE children. When they sit near me in a restaurant, I lose my appetite completely, and have the urge to throw up. Blegh. When small children come near me (like when I'm in the park) I want to kick them, and seriously think about it.
And I always hear stories like "oh when you have kids you'll change your mind"...yeah, no. I would kill myself first. More importantly, I had an aunt who hated kids, had a kid anyway, and now hates her life and wants to die.
I dont think there's any real way to change it, without maybe extensive therapy.
Hmm, try just ignoring them. They probably like you because you are tiny. I always had this problem and always despised kids too. After ignoring them and saying "Get off" when they touched me a few times though, most of them got the hint and stayed away from me. Sadly, I really couldn't tolerate kids until after I had mine...and I'm embarrassed to say I still can barely tolerate being around most other kids.
I think that was a joke.
"I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."





^ Didn't sound like it .. sure hope so..
I don't like kids either. I don't have the patience for them. It doesn't help that no one seems to think it's important to control their children in public or teach them how to behave. It's my biggest pet peeve. I hate going to a nice fancy restaurant and having to deal with screaming children running around. Or people who just let their kids throw an endless fit in the grocery store without even trying to calm them down or tell them to stop, like it's completely appropriate and everyone should just have to deal with constant screaming. Learn to control your damn kids. End rant.





While I was never a kid hater, I wasn't overly child friendly either. Babies used to bore me, especially when people would talk about their habits (feeding, bathing, pooping, changing diapers, etc). Older kids as long as they had manners never bothered. Strangely in the last few years I've kind of turned into this person who loved children including babies. Why this happened I don't know, but suspect it's because I started spending time with people with kids. Then my niece was born and I fell madly in love with her (she's a good baby who rarely cries). The guy I love told me he absolutely loves kids and I very bady want to have children with him.
I hate kids like that. I don't get parents that do that and if I am blessed with kids they will have manners. There's no excuse for kids acting like that except bad parents.





Yeah I reaaally dislike children and I find it hard making friends who don't have them. Every girl I try to befriend can't ever go out or do anything fun because she has young children.
I TRY to like them. I try to smile at them and be nice. I just don't have a maternal bone in my body. I find it exhausting being around them. And the older I get the more friends I have that have kids/multiple kids. I've tried so hard to like kids but I just don't really.
I have a very sweet puppy that I love and she doesn't exhaust me! But she's also very well behaved and doesn't talk back.![]()
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I'm gonna go with a big "no" on this one.
I despise kids too - if I can't relate to you in an adult fashion, then you are of no use to me.
Sadly, this limits my interaction with many so-called "adults" as well.
I'm finding that as I get older, I'm becoming even less tolerant than I used to be.
Love dogs & donkeys, tho.
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I think the only way is to have your own.
I was never a big kid fan until I had my son. Kids are pretty freaking cool to me now.
Although my son is the only one I can handle full time, it's awesome to see him interacting with other kids now.
I've had girlfriends come over with their kid(s) and it's a blast.
It's the coolest thing in the world to me seeing my son have fun. If he loves kids, I love kids.![]()
lol i can relate to this...i dont usually like kids, but every once in awhile i can get along with the nonsticky ones. i dont even know how to hold a baby properly and my brother has 2 kids.
you dont have to like all kids, or even being with the ones you might be put in a room with. just..keep your distance and resist the urge to make faces when they approach you. maybe explain that you're not used to being around kids and dont know how to act with them.
also, i find it annoying that a lot of people get surprised when women dont want to have kids. it's like, what?? why?? you'll grow out of it! i've never wanted kids. i'm content with seeing them occasionally and holding my nephew when i visit, but when he starts crying i feel desperate.





I'm one of the ones that doesn't ever ever ever want kids. I like to live in the adult world. I can't even stand going to walmart because there are too many kids there. I literally speed walk through the store trying to get in and out as quickly as possible.
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^^ Harleigh, That's how I am and why I'm pissed I can't find a doctor to give me Essure. My IUD expires in three years. Ugh.
OP, I don't have any advice for you except to be frank with your SO about your level of discomfort. I'm intensely uncomfortable with people assuming too much familiarity with me; for example, my sister's mother in law hugging me when I've met her once ( part of that is due to her overuse of cheap perfume though.. I digress ) was really weird for me. I was worried that would be the case with my own in laws and just talked to my husband about it, and he was cool with it ( thankfully though, my in laws are bad ass and it proved not to be an issue. ). That's really the only thing you can do.





Essure is that new form of sterilization? Doctors are very funny on doing that to single women because they MIGHT change their mind. I know I checked into that a few years ago and they wouldn't do it because they thought I might change my mind. In a strange I did, but how many women do? If people really hate kids, then the doctor should accept that they likely won't change.





essure.com
I actually would like my tubes tied. Alabama has a program where you don't have to have kids, you just have to be 21. It's less costly than WIC, food stamps, etc etc etc. I got brochures on it but never went through with it. (I was 20 at the time and waiting to be 21.)
Unfortunately, NC does not offer this.
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I've been all up in their website for about a year now, and yes Kelly, it is the new sterilisation. I've called many clinics in New Orleans and because I don't have children, they are reluctant to perform the procedure because I haven't reached 30. My husband volunteered to get a vasectomy but with my track record ( gotten pregnant on every BC I used except for Depo and Paragard ) I'm not playing with fire and want to double up.





I'm not sure about Illinois but I don't think they offer free procedures like that. Personally I'd be for it because many of those with unwanted kids could have it done. I generally think 21 is young for this (because they might change their mind) but then what if they don't? However, then when is a good time? I don't know because at 35 I talked to my doctor about it, she told me to consider strongly (she really didn't like to do it for anyone not married), and now I am glad I didn't. I admit I am the exception.
Btw, I just found out that a childhood friend got pregnant though her husband had a vasectomy. She was the rare percentage it happens to, but it did in her case.





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