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Last edited by hello-kitty; 09-16-2010 at 12:35 AM.





Omg, I'm sorry!
Honestly if I would have been assaulted (being slammed against a door AND threatened) I would have called the cops. There is no reason for that.
Your security doesn't walk you to your car after work?
She should have been fired when she put her hands on you and threatened you. Why wasn't she?





The girl sounds psycho.
I understand feeling intimidated, but you said it's been a month since you've been in?
Maybe, just maybe she's not even there anymore. Maybe she calmed down? I'd go in and see. If she pulls any shit like that again and managment doesn't back you up, call the cops.





Being somewhere 7 years doesn't give anyone a right to put their hands on another person.



I had a simailar experience, the best thing to do. If you want to continue to work there is to try to modify your schedule. Ex) If she works nights, maybe you can try mid-shift. It absolutely sucks going to work and not feeling completely safe. I would also avoid all interaction with the the other dancers, because they could be trying to create more drama. Also, if you really feel like your life is in danger, I would contact the police. I wish you the best, Hugs. The girl I had problems with ended up getting fired, so I returned once she left. This is a tough situation.





Katrina gave some good advice. Modifying your schedule. See if she calmed down at all.
If not, as much as it'll suck, it probably would be best to start at a new club. I hope everything works out.
You never know, it could be a blessing in disguise. You could start at a new club and make so much money you could hire a hit man! Lol, jk about the hit man thing, but you know what I mean.![]()




yup, i had an encounter with one. i simply reported her to the manager and got her fired.
had another one do it (alcoholic bitch) because she decided i was stealing her customers (i had no clue what she was talking about mind you). put her hands on my throat and threw a shoe at me hitting me in the head. everyone stood there looking at her like she was bonkers. i stayed calm, said a few choice words, and waited till she calmed down. i then got my stuff together and left for the night. i reported her, she got in trouble, that was the end of it.
the irony of the second girl was that until then, i had been the only one who put up her with drunk ass and helped cover stage for her, etc. live and learn.
i have never struck a dancer or physically gone after one. i have gotten two girls fired however and several others in trouble when they fucked with me (like trying to use me as a cover for their purchase of drugs at the club).
then again, i was always a "teachers pet" so to speak at clubs, so if i said someone was doing something, they knew it was true. and no, i was not teachers pet for fucking or sucking anyone.
sorry if i sound bitch btw...crappy week.





I had one of these back in January... totally off her rocker on drugs & drunk. She spread lies & caused me a ton of drama. Luckily another SWer was at the club with me so I wasn't totally alone.
DON'T work another shift with her - period. She's already shown that she can be dangerous. For now I'd suggest you keep your cell phone in your hands walking out to your car & put the number of the local police station into your speed dial list.
You can also get yourself a stun gun that is disguised to look like a cell phone... very handy.
http://www.beststungun.com/cell-phone-stun-gun.html
I'm doing some research now on a device that would be really helpful to many dancers who are worried about encountering problems & can't trust the club to handle it. You can e-mail me if you wish & I'll give you information now... otherwise I'll post when I know more about it. I hate saying that sometimes we can't trust the club management... but I learned it the hard way.
Also, it's good to note that in a situation like this if you call the police and press charges she will probably press charges back & try to say you hit/touched her first. It will be her word against your word. I'm not typically an advocate of this, but I'd suggest that you physically protect yourself & fight back. If she's got a group of girls though it's almost impossible because it's gang mentality and you probably can't fight a slew of them... which is why in this case it's better for you to either switch clubs (best option) or switch shifts. If the club wants to keep dancers that start trouble then let them... they can end up with a whole club of them like that and be known as the club that attracts the filth.
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oh, and although this sounds nuts, it works.
if you are outnumbered or just plain want to make sure she is the one who gets into shit....
let her beat you up (within reason of course). if you are the only one with marks, you win. believe me (even if you verbally harassed her. very few things count as fighting words. im in law school, so yes i know what im talking about).
dont put yourself in danger though. make sure the management is aware of your concerns. in fact, if you really want to cover your ass...put it in writing to the management and keep a copy (preferably that they have acknowledged in some way in writing).
I know that all sounds silly, but trust me, if it ever came down to the police and court, if you take steps like this, you come out the winner.





That's what I used to think. The police station told me when I called though that they will typically end up booking both parties & charges will be pressed against both. If that girl does any major damage to the OP it could be life threatening or forever. The girl could cause major internal bleeding, take out an eye, or leave major scars - things that might keep the OP from dancing & being able to support herself. Also, if that happens the court won't be the one to pay the damages & if the other dancer isn't actually making that much or hiding her money from the government the OP may never see the money she would be owed for hospital cost, physical or emotional damage.
The best thing is always to try to prevent escalation... but sometimes not fighting back could lead to a one way road where things get worse for the victim.
Seriously - the stun gun is a great option.
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[quote=Kylea2;1952692] The police station told me when I called though that they will typically end up booking both parties & charges will be pressed against both.</quote>
only if both girls did something. if one didnt do anything (as was the case in both of the attacks on me) they wont. cops arent actually total asshols 99% of the time.
The best bet is ALWAYS to prevent escalation. However, stun guns are not legal in all places (neither is pepper spray). Plus, sometimes no matter what you do, you cannot keep them from going nuts, believe me.
Situations dont always go well, and people wind up seriously screwed, but if you keep your head about you, you can prevent anything major from happening.
Also, to be blunt, as long as the attacker makes the first blow, and you do not exceed force (i.e. do not use more force than needed to stop the attack), you will not be held responsible. Plsu, if you have made the club aware of the threat (and can document it) you can technically hold them liable if they ignore the threat and allow it to happen.
Obviously the best bet is to avoid any situation like this, but, if it happens, there are options.
If you think she is a true threat, make it clear to everyone you knw, especially at the club. Dont carry a "weapon" but hold things like keys, etc. in an easy to use position if needed. Always have someone walk you to your car, and lock it as soon as you are in it.
Basic precautions can prevent 99% of these things. If you have proof that she is threatening you, you might even be able to go after a restraining order. if you can document the threats, or have witnesses to them.
Good luck and be careful![]()





They are where I live - thank goodness! If they are legal where she lives I've recommend it. A stun gun isn't seen as a weapon by most people, but as a line of self defense that could keep her from really having to fight back. One zap, jump in the car & go report the problem to the police.
That's exactly what I was referring to when I said if she's really in danger - fight back. You don't need to beat her to a bloody pulse... just defend yourself to the point that she gets tired and quits.
That is a fantastic idea actually. It would allow the OP to stay on the night shift too and force the other girl to work day shift if she wanted to remain at the club. Plus, restraining orders aren't very hard to get.
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if she put her hands on me i would have clobbered the bitch. im not violent but nothing warrants having someones nasty mits on u. i would have ripped a shoe outta my bag and cold cocked her with that thing. then called the cops.
the only thing would b to have some non crazy witnesses who saw u defending urself.
i dont care how long a bitch has been there, who she has sucked off, who she has ass kissed she is not gonna touch me in a violent manner. ever.





Bring the bitch to my basement and I'll have some fun with the new thumbscrews my boyfriend made >:-D
Seriously, get the fuck outta there.... Its not worth it, esp if its a pack mentality. But if you don't want to switch clubs, carry pepper spray, taser, whatever. Be careful hon....
I still have a few medieval torture devices that need a guiea pig >:-D
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*guinea* fucking blackberries I can't edit my posts!
Anyways I hope things improve for you. Just remember karmas a bitch and that fucking skank is gonna have karma ass rape her with a wooden broomstick and no fucking lube.
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God she slammed YOU into your car? Thats allows you to call the cops on her!!!
Personally, as some suggested, if you want to go back to that place work a different shift than her. Maybe she cooled off? Maybe she forget? Maybe shes onto another girl for "stealing her customers" pfft!
If she is the "managers"pet" and has a high profile within the staff and you pretty much know they wont fire her even if she fought you or put her hands on you - I would lay out the rules to them(management) saying cops would be in the scene if nothing will be done, Or ... I wouldn't stay there, or go back. Unless you want to get the cops involded, the would likely to cause more drama and likely you wont be coming back there due to all the shit happening.
I would also carry a form of protection, check what is legal in your state, cause I always believe in carrying pepperspray. Im still shocked she pushed you! That would piss me off so much. This sounds crazy but I would deff do this if someone ever did that to me and I didnt/couldnt/wantd to confront them for their behaviour, follow the fucking bitch to her house and within a month, mess with her brakes, or slash her tires whatever lets your anger out. Just dont get caught!
If you go decide to go back and work the ame shift as her, ignore her, act like a new person and act like no one can walk over you! ignore the other girls, even though they prob dont give a shit (to what happened to a month ago or remember). The girl has no right over you, if you feel unsafe, stay away from her, dont use the bathroom while shes in it or change room, just in case she goes on a psycho mood. Be in public and wih people. If you want to go on a safer side, work a different shift. And the saviest and one the could help most with your stress is change clubs, theres many and you're bound to find one you like! Good luck
If management didnt want to do anything to resolve the issue, I'd report it and switch clubs. I'd definitely let police know.
I refuse to work somewhere where I dont feel safe because of a coworker. That is just ridiculous.




honestly the most reasonable thing to do is go work somewhere else. I know it sucks but at least your hustle is gonna be better. With something like that distracting you, your money is gonna suffer and that's what it's all about in the end, isnt it?



I had one of these - it was a girl i knew from when we were kids who rocked up to my regular club - she got all paranoid that i was telling people all about her (honey, Great Minds Discuss Ideas; Average Minds Discuss Events; Small Minds Discuss People) and tried to start drama, she shoved me in the face so i calmly called the manager who threw her out on the spot. It probably helped that I had been at the club for years and the manager knew i wasn't the kind to start drama.
But getting tangled in drama like that isn't worth it and don't worry - karma has GPS.
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