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    Just a question for the ladies...to those of you in a relationship, do you tell the whole truth or nothing but the truth with what goes on in the VIP, or do you color it a little bit to keep the peace? Just wanted to know given that a married dancer told me she keeps some stuff on the down low or is that just SS for my enjoyment.

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    I don't do anything that illegal or against club rules... so most guys should be able to handle hearing what I do. If a guy couldn't handle it he can keep walking.
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    I tell my husband the truth, good bad and ugly

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    I've always told the truth and the truth is, I'm a 100 percent clean dancer who can't be swayed by any amount of money. I don't do drugs. I don't do extras. I don't do OTC. Period. That shit is not in my job description.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Harleigh HellKat View Post
    I've always told the truth and the truth is, I'm a 100 percent clean dancer who can't be swayed by any amount of money. I don't do drugs. I don't do extras. I don't do OTC. Period. That shit is not in my job description.
    Same, exactly. I have nothing to hide.

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    I also am 100 percent honest about what I do in photos, video, etc. If anyone has any problem, they can fuck off. I don't do B/G porn or anything of that nature, but I dated a guy a few years ago that had issues with me lingerie modeling. Dumped him and got back into modeling and can't be happier.
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    ^ Go girl. If I'm not doing anything illegal or harmful (to myself or others), anyone who has a problem with my job can fuck off. I have zero tolerance in that respect.

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    Keep the peace!

    One boyfriend would ask "Well do you let guys touch you?" and my reply was no.

    Do guys touch? Even when I tell them not to they do.

    Last BF didn't care because he already knew what strip clubs were like.




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    I don't do anything illegal, but I do tone it down, because I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to hear about the 27 full grind dances I did on shift. I ommit alot. Example:
    him: hey baby how was work?
    me: great! I made 800 bux!
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    it's pretty much don't ask don't tell.
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    First time my bf told me he was going to the SC without me, I gave him a FS lapper before his buddies picked him up. He came home complaining that all he got was air dances. Now, he mostly stays at home takin' care of business.

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    I dislike stripper S/O's. I mean, I don't dislike them personally but they are usually an impediment. I gravitate towards strippers who don't have those complications.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I dislike stripper S/O's. I mean, I don't dislike them personally but they are usually an impediment. I gravitate towards strippers who don't have those complications.

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    I find that the more attractive the dancer is, the more likely she is to have a husband or long-term boyfriend. And usually they have a guy that a lot of other women would envy them for having. Most will try to avoid letting customers know they have somebody at home.

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    What about problem customers, can dancers talk to their SOs about them?

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    I tell my husband everything. #1) I don't do anything illegal or gross #2) He's been a SC manager or SC employee of other sorts since he was 19 and #3) We work at the same club. So if anyone gets out of line, they have him to answer to... and whereas he may be stupidly handsome, he isn't petite, is ridiculously smart and sharp tongued, and doesn't take to asshole customers kindly. His stories from "the trenches" make mine look like sandbox stories.

    I'm not a hysteric either. I can usually field customers by myself but if I am hollering- that means there's a SIGNIFICANT problem and someone needs to come flying in there asap.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    I find that the more attractive the dancer is, the more likely she is to have a husband or long-term boyfriend. And usually they have a guy that a lot of other women would envy them for having. Most will try to avoid letting customers know they have somebody at home.
    This is true. He would disagree, but I'm a solid 8 and I married a 10, in look and smarts department. I never tell customers I am married, even if they ask. Most of the married dancers I know do the same.

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    My husband is passive agressive about my job, so I don't really tell him anything, unless it's about a particularly good day and then I tell him what the custie did in my favor etc etc.

    He is hugely against jealousy so I doubt he'd ever come up to me asking 'so what exactly goes on during a dance ...' in which case I'd be like well let me show you and give him an example. Our dance area is one big open upstairs, so no room for privacy, so nothing really intimate goes on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I dislike stripper S/O's. I mean, I don't dislike them personally but they are usually an impediment. I gravitate towards strippers who don't have those complications.

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    I didn't do anything illegal when I was single. If a girl dances clean, and won't do extras or otc, having a boyfriend or s/o has nothing to do with it; it's a matter of principle.

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    When I was single, I still didn't do anything illegal. Even legal sex scenes/porn would have to be well worth my time, and most of the time it's not so I stick to my comfort zone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by daniella_maria View Post
    I didn't do anything illegal when I was single. If a girl dances clean, and won't do extras or otc, having a boyfriend or s/o has nothing to do with it; it's a matter of principle.
    Obviously I wasn't clear. In was talking about OTC potential. In those situations an SO is definitely an encumbrance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    I dislike stripper S/O's. I mean, I don't dislike them personally but they are usually an impediment. I gravitate towards strippers who don't have those complications.

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    I'm in total agreement with you FBR. I definitely gravitate towards slightly older dancers many of whom have already dumped and or divorced an ex, are unattached and put work first.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    Obviously I wasn't clear. In was talking about OTC potential. In those situations an SO is definitely an encumbrance.

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    I guess I wasn't clear either. A dancer that does extras or otc does extras or otc regardless of whether or not she has a boyfriend/so or not. Just as those who don't won't whether they are attached or not. I've seen plenty of girls with boyffriends or husbands do extras or otc. We just fired one from my club. She was married. For $50 she'd suck your dick in vip. I know she left with customers too. She's just one of several I've observed over the years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by daniella_maria View Post
    I guess I wasn't clear either. A dancer that does extras or otc does extras or otc regardless of whether or not she has a boyfriend/so or not. Just as those who don't won't whether they are attached or not. I've seen plenty of girls with boyffriends or husbands do extras or otc. We just fired one from my club. She was married. For $50 she'd suck your dick in vip. I know she left with customers too. She's just one of several I've observed over the years.
    And I will quietly agree with this...

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    Quote Originally Posted by daniella_maria View Post
    I guess I wasn't clear either. A dancer that does extras or otc does extras or otc regardless of whether or not she has a boyfriend/so or not. Just as those who don't won't whether they are attached or not. I've seen plenty of girls with boyffriends or husbands do extras or otc. We just fired one from my club. She was married. For $50 she'd suck your dick in vip. I know she left with customers too. She's just one of several I've observed over the years.

    I don't really disagree with any of this but it has nothing to do with what FBR or I are talking about when we state our preference or the reasons for it. It has more to do with long-term availability and flexibility in OTC options than anything.

    I'm not going to speak for FBR but my first hand experience with a dancer with whom I once carried on an OTC P4P relationship was that, over a prolonged period of time, she was much more difficult to schedule with when she had a BF than when she didn't. It's not a value judgment of married or involved dancers vs. single dancers. It's a simple matter of scheduling flexibility and, quite often, emotional state of mind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by daniella_maria View Post
    I didn't do anything illegal when I was single. If a girl dances clean, and won't do extras or otc, having a boyfriend or s/o has nothing to do with it; it's a matter of principle.
    I've met several (non-dirty) dancers who seem to have good relationships with their SOs. But escorts not so much. I'd wonder how it is with dirty girls who are somewhere in-between.

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    If your guy cant handle the whole truth and nothing but the truth than he's the wrong guy.

    And if you (as a dancer) are doing things you can't go home and tell your man about you're just as much the wrong girl.
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