Results 1 to 25 of 25

Thread: Courtesy Stage Tip

  1. #1
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    449
    Thanks
    165
    Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Courtesy Stage Tip

    I normally tip the dancer on main stage at least a couple of bucks, especially if things are slow and they are not getting many tips. But if the dancer comes around and ask for a dance, and I say no thanks, she gets a look like "why did you jerk me around by giving me a stage tip?" So is it really more polite to only tip on stage if you want an individual dance later? I would do courtesy individual dances if I could. But I don't have enough money to do that and get all the dancers I want from my favorites.

  2. #2
    Veteran Member bigmarv's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    379
    Thanks
    44
    Thanked 35 Times in 25 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Don't worry about it just tip who you enjoy seeing on stage and buy dances and drinks if you have the funds. I sometimes get this attitude from new dancers who don't know me. I'm normally a weekly regular at my club and usually tip all the dancers who go on stage while I'm eating dinner at my table. Most of the dancers who know me just say thanks, because they know I'm just waiting for my favorite dancer.

  3. #3
    Senior Member #8_Fan's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2003
    Location
    Raleigh
    Posts
    124
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 5 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I've had the same thing happen when I have tipped on stage. I usually let them know very quickly I'm here to see a certain girl and that usually works. Sometimes they right away thank me for the tip then leave sometimes they stay and chat a little. Every so often I get a little attitude and then a make a mental note to never tip her again.

  4. #4
    Featured Member lopaw's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    1,535
    Thanks
    222
    Thanked 967 Times in 481 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I also tip most every dancer that goes on stage, regardless of whether or not I want to get dances from her. The trick I use is that when I'm tipping a dancer that I don't want any dances from later, I try not to make eye contact while tipping them, and will try to tip them when they are on the opposite side of the stage while they are busy with someone else at the tiprail. The dancer's that I want to come see me I will wait for til they come to my side of the stage, and then they get my full attention (and also some dialogue) while I'm tipping them.

    So far this technique has worked pretty well.

  5. #5
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    817
    Thanks
    61
    Thanked 101 Times in 73 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I always appreciate tips from stage (i work dayshift, its always slow, and i always do a damn good show haha) and if he tells me he's waiting for someone - totally cool- but I also appreciate being tipped well for my show, or time if he asks me to have a drink, but not get a dance. I'm grateful for tips, always

  6. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to sunshine16 For This Useful Post:


  7. #6
    Moderator yoda57us's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    at the Y
    Posts
    10,035
    Thanks
    2,878
    Thanked 5,834 Times in 2,332 Posts
    My Mood
    Goofy

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Tipping is always a good thing. Unfortunately there is no accounting for the attitude that some dancers throw at you when you politely refuse an offer for a private dance. I've had the same sort of things said to me a few times but I still tip if I am watching the girls on stage even if I have no plans on buying a dance from a particular lady.
    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine View Post
    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Sophia_Starina is a sensible stripper...Naked all the way.....
    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Double team! 2 latinas with big tits!!

  8. #7
    Member
    Joined
    Jan 2010
    Posts
    41
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I note this happens a lot. You want to be nice and walk up for a stage tip, but if they come by after the set, why get mad when we decline a LD? wtf?

    As others noted, don't think you can do much about it. Keep up the good fight.
    If there are no strip clubs in heaven, I'm not going.

  9. #8
    God/dess carmen_b's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2007
    Location
    the mountains ....
    Posts
    14,202
    Thanks
    15,165
    Thanked 21,346 Times in 9,308 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Continue to tip at the stage. You are on the right track ( we don't automatically assume that you must want a dancer ... I think the dancer you interacted with recently was just having a bad day or not doing very well hustling that day ) . Tips are always appreciated .

  10. #9
    Senior Member MsChaos's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Location
    West Texas
    Posts
    163
    Thanks
    32
    Thanked 26 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I've actually never heard of a dancer assuming this.

    Unless I'm asked about it while he's tipping me on stage, I just gracefully say thank you and maybe stop by for some chit chat later and see whats up.

  11. #10
    Moderator Djoser's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    Key West
    Posts
    16,343
    Thanks
    1,395
    Thanked 5,487 Times in 2,768 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    The way to do it is to make it very obvious it is a courtesy tip by not sitting at the rail to give it to her, not getting too close* or trying to look at her body, etc. Just a quick tuck of the bill in the garter, a smile, and away you go. Don't stand there waiting for extra attention or a show. Not that you would, just saying. They pick up on this method, usually.

    I wouldn't hold it against a girl for thinking I was maybe a dance prospect after tipping her, it's a smart business move on her part to at least go thank guys who tip her after stage, unless she has them lined up already..

    *You have to watch out for the ones that try to rub their breasts in your face like some guys want for the dollar, put you in a headlock with their thighs, etc. They can get aggressive sometimes. Funny thing is, I always talk this up on the mike, but avoid it myself. Some of them are better at doing this well than others, too.
    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
    Friedrich Nietzsche

    Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
    George Clinton

    ______________________________________

  12. #11
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Feb 2005
    Location
    florida
    Posts
    1,864
    Thanks
    83
    Thanked 457 Times in 287 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    some guys will go up to the stage and tip girls a few bucks and expect the girl to get the hint to come over to him when she is done onstage because he wants a dance. then if the girl doesn't come up, the guy will get all offended.

    other guys tip girls on stage to be polite. if the girl thinks that this means he wants a dance, he may be offended and decide not to tip onstage anymore.

    basically...there is no universal manual of stripclub etiquette. so keep tipping if that's what you're comfortable with, and if a girl acts crazy, that's her fault not yours.
    -love everyone but keep them far from your soul-

  13. The Following User Says Thank You to she sells sanctuary For This Useful Post:


  14. #12
    Moderator Djoser's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    Key West
    Posts
    16,343
    Thanks
    1,395
    Thanked 5,487 Times in 2,768 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    An even better way to do the courtesy tip works very well once you get comfortable in a club. That's when you start sending girls to tip girls. You can either tip the ones tipping as well, or tell them you will send a girl up for her too. I would advise asking them if they like tipping girls first, though, as some dancers either don't like tipping girls, or they don't want to fuck with it--and you can't blame them. It tends to work better if you give them at least a few singles rather than just one.

    It's actually a very good move for her, if the girl likes doing it. The guys would way rather see a good looking girl up there tipping than another fucking dude. When I am working and trying to get tipping going I would way rather send a girl to do it and talk them up than go do it myself.
    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
    Friedrich Nietzsche

    Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
    George Clinton

    ______________________________________

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to Djoser For This Useful Post:


  16. #13
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    449
    Thanks
    165
    Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    An even better way to do the courtesy tip works very well once you get comfortable in a club. That's when you start sending girls to tip girls. You can either tip the ones tipping as well, or tell them you will send a girl up for her too. I would advise asking them if they like tipping girls first, though, as some dancers either don't like tipping girls, or they don't want to fuck with it--and you can't blame them. It tends to work better if you give them at least a few singles rather than just one.

    It's actually a very good move for her, if the girl likes doing it. The guys would way rather see a good looking girl up there tipping than another fucking dude. When I am working and trying to get tipping going I would way rather send a girl to do it and talk them up than go do it myself.
    Yeah that's usually really sexy when dancers tip their friends on stage, since the dancer can be wild and not have to worry about getting an overreaction. But like any workplace there are people who prefer to avoid each other, and serious dancers don't want to discuss negative stuff with customers. So that gets complicated, I worry about creating situations where dancers are pressured to talk to somebody they don't get along with. Do you have a way of knowing who is really friends with who?

    There are a lot of dancers who stage dance so well I wish they had a tip jar so you could tip them without having to interrupt. I heard there is one club where the stage has a high and low level, the dancer dances uninterrupted on the high level, then rotates and dances on the low level to collect tips. But maybe that cuts into the dancer's $$$ to spend time dancing for free.

  17. #14
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    449
    Thanks
    165
    Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    The way to do it is to make it very obvious it is a courtesy tip by not sitting at the rail to give it to her, not getting too close* or trying to look at her body, etc. Just a quick tuck of the bill in the garter, a smile, and away you go. Don't stand there waiting for extra attention or a show. Not that you would, just saying. They pick up on this method, usually.

    I wouldn't hold it against a girl for thinking I was maybe a dance prospect after tipping her, it's a smart business move on her part to at least go thank guys who tip her after stage, unless she has them lined up already..

    *You have to watch out for the ones that try to rub their breasts in your face like some guys want for the dollar, put you in a headlock with their thighs, etc. They can get aggressive sometimes. Funny thing is, I always talk this up on the mike, but avoid it myself. Some of them are better at doing this well than others, too.
    I can think of worse ways to go than headlocked between a stripper's thighs . A dancer with very big implants once put my head in between and then began shaking from side to side. I thought I had a concussion for sure.

    I never mind being asked for a dance, it's more that look of bewildered disappointment that's upsetting. But I guess they'd feel worse getting nothing at all.

  18. #15
    Moderator Djoser's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    Key West
    Posts
    16,343
    Thanks
    1,395
    Thanked 5,487 Times in 2,768 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    So that gets complicated, I worry about creating situations where dancers are pressured to talk to somebody they don't get along with. Do you have a way of knowing who is really friends with who?
    I just say 'Hey do like tipping girls? Do you like her, you wanna go tip her?' They either say yeah and go do it, usually liking the idea--or they will be honest and say 'I'd rather not.' or maybe 'Fuck no I can't stand that fucking skank ass ho, Imma beat her ass!', in which case go to Plan B for tipping the one up there.

    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
    Friedrich Nietzsche

    Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
    George Clinton

    ______________________________________

  19. #16
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    476
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 202 Times in 127 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    If I want the dancer's attaction that I want a dance, I seat away from the stage for the clothed dances and then move forward to the front stage during her nude dance so I can get a better look at her tits. It sends an obvious message. I don't tip at that time. I do tip girls of course at other times. Actually while on the topic of odd tip behavior have you ever seen a girl that does not accept tips at all, from anyone, I know one chick, she does lap dances but is too shy to do tips on stage.

  20. #17
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    449
    Thanks
    165
    Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    ^ I've never been able to get a dancer's attention without money. Money and politeness work better than money and no politeness, but money always seems to be an indispensible ingredient. So far I haven't seen a dancer who won't take stage tips. Many dancers will avoid stage dancing if they can because they don't feel like they look good on stage, or that it's not the best way to make money. Seen a few dancers who will put their clothes back on if nobody tips them.

  21. #18
    Featured Member lopaw's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    1,535
    Thanks
    222
    Thanked 967 Times in 481 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    ^ I've never been able to get a dancer's attention without money. Money and politeness work better than money and no politeness, but money always seems to be an indispensible ingredient.

    Hmmmm....unable to get a dancer's attention without MONEY?
    How odd.
    And here all along I thought it was our good looks & sparkling personalities that drew them in like flies to honey .

  22. The Following User Says Thank You to lopaw For This Useful Post:


  23. #19
    Veteran Member bigmarv's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    379
    Thanks
    44
    Thanked 35 Times in 25 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by sunshine16 View Post
    I always appreciate tips from stage (i work dayshift, its always slow, and i always do a damn good show haha) and if he tells me he's waiting for someone - totally cool- but I also appreciate being tipped well for my show, or time if he asks me to have a drink, but not get a dance. I'm grateful for tips, always
    I always enjoy tipping the dancers with a grateful attitude. Who knows next week we may be off to VIP.

  24. #20
    God/dess Casual Observer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2004
    Location
    Boston MA
    Posts
    5,670
    Thanks
    35
    Thanked 144 Times in 74 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I don't see where the difficulty is here. If a girl on the stage interests you for dances or what have you, just tip her with a $10 or $20 and say, "Come to my table when you're finished with your stage set." Unless she's retarded or completely contaminated with drugs, she'll come by. If you don't want a dance, just give her a few bucks and be a mensch at the rail--not a leech.

    As an aside, there's nothing wrong with tipping girls at the stage, obviously, but we shouldn't encourage mercy tipping for those dancers that have no business being on the stage.

    I will get up out of my chair and walk to the bar before I mercy tip. It's just bad for everyone involved.
    Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.

    William F. Buckley, Jr.

  25. #21
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    476
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 202 Times in 127 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I get dances so money ends up invovled, it just after the stage. I only go up to indicate my interest. Once they see my interest they want to know if I want dances. Like I said, i know one dancer who refuses stage tips, because she's shy. Btw it's one of those bars where you go up on stage with a fiver in you mouth to tip, not just put a dollar in her g string, loonies kind of make that hard, she's not a slot machine after all, insert coin here.

  26. #22
    Moderator Djoser's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    Key West
    Posts
    16,343
    Thanks
    1,395
    Thanked 5,487 Times in 2,768 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer View Post
    I don't see where the difficulty is here. If a girl on the stage interests you for dances or what have you, just tip her with a $10 or $20 and say, "Come to my table when you're finished with your stage set." Unless she's retarded or completely contaminated with drugs, she'll come by. If you don't want a dance, just give her a few bucks and be a mensch at the rail--not a leech.

    As an aside, there's nothing wrong with tipping girls at the stage, obviously, but we shouldn't encourage mercy tipping for those dancers that have no business being on the stage.

    I will get up out of my chair and walk to the bar before I mercy tip. It's just bad for everyone involved.
    That's true for the most part. I rarely mercy tip unless it is a slower night and it would be obvious I am snubbing them, while tipping the better looking ones lavishly. You might say 'So what?' and you'd definitely have a point, but odds are I will have to work with them at some time in the future (if I haven't already), in which case I want them to like me.

    I never, ever sit at the tiprail in any club (especially not my own if I am there!). That is as much to avoid having to mercy tip all the dancers or else be seen as being rude. Before I worked in the clubs I didn't like sitting there and would avoid it, now it is a strict rule


    I have actually seen some dancers, especially if they are newer and/or a bit shy, who are not good at going and working the customers trying to tip them. I don't always blame them, though. It stops any kind of performance at least temporarily, and also they might have to go talk to some geek with a dollar stuck to his forehead with saliva. That's some real class there...

    But for making money, yeah it's a good idea for the dancer onstage to watch who is tipping her and go get them afterward.


    I agree it is better to give the dancer you like a 10$ or 20$ bill and tell her to come see you, but you have to make sure she sees it is a big bill (without making a big deal out of it lol). It happens all the time they don't look at the bills, especially if it is busy in the club! They ask me if I saw who gave it, I never know.
    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
    Friedrich Nietzsche

    Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
    George Clinton

    ______________________________________

  27. #23
    Senior Member
    Joined
    Jan 2010
    Posts
    114
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 11 Times in 11 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    as a customer its rare for me to tip a dancer on stage but I will usually find a dancer before her stage set and pay her to play some music for me

    naked ladies get old after awhile but the WTF looks from customers when something like the YMCA or macho man comes on is always worth 20 bucks, and there is always the rare occurrence of the naked macarena, hard as hell to do in heels but I have seen a couple girls pull it off

  28. #24
    Member
    Joined
    May 2010
    Location
    Massachusetts
    Posts
    18
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    Just like paying for a LD and buying drinks if you want to talk, sitting at the stage means dropping bills on the rail. Sometimes that means I want a dance later sometimes it doesn't. Just don't let SS bother you.

  29. #25
    Member Miniman's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2004
    Posts
    62
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 15 Times in 7 Posts

    Default Re: Courtesy Stage Tip

    I usually do not sit at the rail when I am in the club, so I don't generally tip at the stage. I have walked to the stage and given a tip - and I always get a private dance from any dancer who stops and talks to me. So I don't feel that I have been cheap by not tipping the on-stage dancer.

    Having said that, I can think of two "tipping the dancer on-stage" situations that are etched in my memory. The first was in Saint John in 2003 or so. Maybe 2002. A number of my co-workers and I ended up at this club and we sat at the rail. I kept sliding $5 bills onto the stage and finally one of my co-workers said "you are not doing this right." He grabs a $5 bill from me, jumps on the stage and lies down with the $5 bill in his teeth. The dancer jumps into the DJ pit. And the bouncer pulls him off the stage, puts him in his seat, and says "we don't do that here!". The waitress then asks if he wants another beer! And I thought we would get our asses kicked out.

    The other time, I was at the French Maid in Calgary. This was 2003-2204. The western Canadian clubs were way different than in the east. In western Canada, the girls never came and sat with the customer. In those days, the stage had a "moat" around it to protect the dancer. At the end of her dance, the dancer would have a big funnel and walk around the stage soliciting tips. Well, Canada at this time had coins for $1 and $2 and some of the patrons hurled them at the girl. I saw - and interrupted one guy - who was heating a loonie with a lighter before throwing it. To me it was very degrading for the dancer. I took a $20 bill and crumpled it up and walked up to the moat and threw it in the funnel. The dancer looked at me and smiled - she certainly didn't expect folding money - and she came out after he set and sat with me and told me how unusual it was to be given folding money as a tip. We had a drink together and she left for her next set.

    Bottom line, you tip a dancer for the effort she expends and the fun you have. And selfishly, you tip to differentiate yourself from the other guys in the club.
    I am not a number. I am a free man

Similar Threads

  1. Replies: 50
    Last Post: 04-24-2007, 05:34 PM
  2. 20 dollar tip on stage?
    By greentea in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 54
    Last Post: 09-11-2006, 05:17 PM
  3. My 1st stage tip!
    By siliconedoll in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 09-08-2005, 05:21 PM
  4. Stage tip bitching
    By Ladybug in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 25
    Last Post: 12-16-2004, 09:21 PM
  5. Being the first to tip on stage...
    By MisterBlue in forum Shop Talk
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 02-14-2003, 11:10 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •