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    Default Does your family know you dance ? If so how do they treat you ?

    As soon as i told them I was dancing their started treating me differently ( like I was mentally illed or something) but since I was making great money they would still be nice to me, by nice i don't mean giving me any moral support and show concern about my emotional well being and safety...Oh no ! I mean nice by sucking up to me because they were fascinated by the amount of money I was making and the great gifts I was giving them. And then I fell in love with a stupid mofo #$%^&* who broke my heart, I fell into a really nasty depression for 2 years, gained weight lost my self confidence and completely stopped dancing.

    They helped me out financially by letting me stay at their place without paying rent, they even gave some money until I could find a job. But during the whole time, they looked down at me, criticized me, always had an attitude and demeaning comments towards me. I would have preferred their love and emotional support then getting their money because their emotional support would have given me the strentgh to get out of my depression and move on. it was really hard for me to see that side of them, to realize that these people were actually my parents.

    I tried to talk about it with them but hey always deny everything I point out about their behaviour, they laugh and change the subject... because how could i be right, I am just a useless dumb stripper in their opinion. This summer I've discovered that my family ( except for my brother who is not so bad) has no real love for me. I cried a lot, I felt completely alone, it got me a lot more depressed than i already was but now I am over it. I am getting back in shape, I am going back dancing, I am cutting my family out of my life and I am not looking back...

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    Default Re: Does your family know you dance ? If so how do they treat you ?

    Good for you.

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    Default Re: Does your family know you dance ? If so how do they treat you ?

    Maira i am not American maybe my advises can sound very different for u anyway...I wanna tell u couple things... Firstly i used to fight with my mother whole time when i was in my country i didnt wanna stay with her longer. Than i went college for another city... i felt like i am very free and ok. By the way it wasnt... i missed her a lot no matter what.Everbody needs a mother and father. My father didnt want us and support really after they divorced with my mother. My mom was single parent. I was soo dumb and teenage when i lost my virginity she did same thing exactly what your parents did to u... I wish she never could figure out but she did. For parents we are innocent angels ... little babies they love for no matter what. Right now they have attidute because they try to accept this sitrutation. it suppose to be hard... Mostly parents wants best for their kids. They want them to be doctor, engineer, lawyer, teacher..... u know what i mean... they have dreams.. When we cant make their dream come true this ishuge dissapointed. Especially if job involves with adult industry.... like porn, stripping, camming....

    I wish u coudnt tell them what r u doin.... i know they are sensitive and they love u trust me... thats why they are in pain and they have attidute.. I m sure even your mother cries and doesnt show up u... Mothers are really sensitive and they have a mother heart. IT DOESNT similar to anything mother heart..

    I wonder why didnt u tell them u are a go-go dancer... I know this is your decision but if it hurts family better dont tell.... i told my mother i am a club dancer and she said cool she likes it. If i could tell her stripper she could be so sad...My relationship getting better in years... Now i am very far away... i can see my parents maybe once a year with limited time... I miss them a lot.. dont push your family pls. This is your bloodline... u cant put anything instead of your family... u will be alone no matter what u need their love...

    Also rejecting and cutting of your connection with your family is a big sin. Dont do it pls even god wont be willing... talk with them be patient they will be ok.Your parents getting older... u have left limited time they will be passed away in future and u will be missin ang crying with full of pain in your heart.... Pls dont do this.... talk to them....

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    ^ I COMPLETELY reject this advice. If we are going to talk about "sinning" do you know what is a worse "sin" than removing a toxic presence in your llife no matter what form they come in, holding onto it and destroying yourself.

    I say good on you for cutting them out. No matter what goals your parents have for you they should not treat you badly. Blood means NOTHING. Saying that it is your "bloodlin" is an antiquated excuse to make it acceptable for people in families to do whatever they want to one another. Besides, what if you're adopted? I am. What if you also have step-families? I have that too. My family does not have a single drop of blood connected to me, but my mother is amazing and said that if I were a stripper she would come watch me dance because she grew up paying for my dance lessons and has seen me blow people out of the water with ballet, modern jazz AND African movement, so she would be there to watch me make bank stripping too.
    My step father is the father that I grew up praying to god that I wished I had because I was stuck with an abusive, destructive asshole of a father instead. I'm almost 24 years old and I still have nightmares about that man. Literally wake up in the middle of the night screaming, crying, desperatley clinging to my boyfriend nightmares. Are you telling me that because he is my "parent" I should take him back and love him unconditionally even though is mental and emotional, sometimes physical ( but NEVER sexual) abuse almost destroyed me? HELL NO. Cutting him out of my life three years ago was the BEST thing I have ever done in my entire life.
    If she was talking about a BOYFRIEND doing these things to here and treating her in this way EVERYONE would be on this thread telling her to dump his ass and move on, yet because they are parents people tend to give them a free pass. Fuck that, to me parents have even ESS excuse because they are SUPPOSED to be the first people in this world to love you unconditionally.
    When people tear you down, and continually hurt you, you cut them out. So Maira, go nuture your own heart and spirit, and surround yourself with a family (LIKE US) that you know will be here to pick you up and dust you off. Kisses baby girl.

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    Default Re: Does your family know you dance ? If so how do they treat you ?

    (second to last post) ^^ ...

    (previous post) ^Agreed.

    My parents treat me the same, but they are very open-minded-. basically on occasion they will ask questions about my job, how it's going, and whenever they are watching TV /movie and there is a strip club scene, the get all excited and ask me if that's how it really is.

    Sorry they are treating you so horribly.

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    Arialendre i come from different culture and where i come from family is too important. I see too many cases here people can give up easily from their families.I didnt see too many adoptions or people have step parents in my country a lot.. your case can be different. Very rare thing...I cant compare with step ones and real ones cause mostly people doesnt have step fathers/mothers...Some step parents can be better than real ones i agree u...

    After i started to lose people i loved i remember life is too short and cutting of connections doesnt worth it. Because only we have one father-mother.. if they are ok even though some attitude why would i give up?? I m wiser rite now and i know no matter what family is soo important . it depends your culture/religion life style or what does family mean to u....

    BY the way boyfriend and family cant be compared. i can find another guy but i cant change my family. I have only one mother/father brother. I remembered i did cut it off talkin wth my father but for some reason we tied again it happend couple times. My mom is great however my father is not a good man. Even though i have memories with him and breaks my heart i forgave him ...

    Plus +++ forgivenness makes people better.. God WATChes EVERYTHING even though they are WRONG it will be ok. God has perfect judgement.

    If they are not really pyshco ... u should forgive them and call for speacial days. Dont cut it totally...u may be regret about it after they die

    I wouldnt suggest to stay in contact while they rape, assult,stelin stufss,beat regardless or some other extreme things. I just try to say attitude goes away in time ..u can tolerate these things if u can.But if u thing it ll be best cutting of connections and if u feel u wont be regret do it.
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    Default Re: Does your family know you dance ? If so how do they treat you ?

    My mom knows I dance because my sister got mad at me and told her. She definitely doesn't like it. Otherwise, no one else in my family besides my husband and my sister know.

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    Default Re: Does your family know you dance ? If so how do they treat you ?

    Thanks so much for your replies girls, thank you for your compassion, it touches me deeply.

    Cutting my family off has not been easy but I am feeling better everyday and dancing has definitely helped a LOT getting my mind off my pain. I had forgotten how working at a strip club
    could be entertaining because of all the drama and the hilarious stuff happening there.
    This might sound crazy but I am so glad I am back dancing ! It's my life saver right now.

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