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    Guys - I am freaking out please tell me this is a bullshit conversation. My first fucking night camming and this happens to me. All my facebook privacy is ridiculous you cant find me if you are not my friend and this guy is ridiculous and I know you guys were right when yopu told me not to show anything for free. I dont know what to do right now though!! Please someone give me advice. There is no way I am going back on cam for him though so do not worry about that. But how could he do that? He said he was home from Iraq, my old boyfriend is in Iraq. I felt bad.... GOD I am stupid. Please Help, and stay away frmo this guy!

    Okay i cannot post the conversation. But if a guy named bilspr9 on Skype tries to get a show from you DO NOT do it.

    He convinced me to show him my boobs, and then proceeded to try and blackmail me for a good hour about how if I did not go on cam and do a show for him he would post them all over the internet, saying he found me on facebook and woulds end it to all my friends. I asked him where he planned on posting it he said youporn and shitm like that. I am so rattled right now. I dont even know what to do. FUCK. sorry he was just so mean and said he would send it to my parents and friends (my parents died in a car accident 9 years ago and i even said that and he i dont know I am jsut rattled.

    Just wanted to warn anyone who may do independent. NOT TO CAM FOR HIM!!!!!!!!!!

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    [11:15:25 PM] Evelyn Grace Hart: okay where are u going to post the pics if i dont go on cam
    [11:15:47 PM] Justin Joshua Spear: all over....everysite possible...google.youtube, a site called you porn....it will be terible for u

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    Tell him to give you the URL to your Facebook... or to tell you what your real name is... if he can't do that, he's bullshitting you. Guys will do anything to get a free show. I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it.

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    if something does happen it isn't your fault the douche bag is wasting his life posting your pics, trying to scare you. i'm sorry if it does happen.

    hopefully someone can give you advice.

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    Yeah I just want to make sure no one else makes the same mistake i did. My facebook is so private you cannot even find me if you search my real name so I doubt there is any way he found it. I am jsut so mad! And now I am scared to cam like ever again!

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    My bullshit radar is whirling. I had some guy try to tell we all this shit about how he was going to go to the police about me being a hooker (I'm not and wasn't) because I started working as an escort and wouldn't see him because he was being creepy and I knew he was full of it.

    His threats (read: lies) got more and more outrageous. First he claimed that he had friends with the feds and they were going to come arrest me (even though I hadn't even gone on a date yet), then he said that he was a computer hacker and he already figured out who I was and was going to show up at my address.

    Then I had my (new at the time) boyfriend message him asking how he was going to do that. Because DBF ACTUALLY IS a computer hacker, he knew the creep was full of shit when he couldn't answer any questions.

    Guys will try to scare you. They like to play with you and try to get stuff for free. Chances are, this guy either has no way or no intention of "blackmailing" you (have you even done anything wrong?) and he has probably done it to other girls plenty of times before.

    Has he given you any PROOF that he found you on facebook or did he just say he did?
    Did he have any way to record your show? Many cam sights don't let them unless you authorize it.
    Do you know your rights here? You can order a DMA if you find your titty video anywhere and then sue the shit out of either him or the server if they don't take it down. You signed no model release!!

    And by the way, don't do free shows. If they want ANYTHING for free, there's a better chance that you'll get nothing from them than there is of you getting a single dollar. If they have money to spend, they're not wasting time with their dick in their hand trying to convince you to do stuff for free.

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    i've had a customer tell me he knew me in real life (he couldnt answer any questions i asked) and I had another tell me he was a cop looking for a serial killer in my room and if i didnt help in the investigation i was going to be arrested for obstruction, again BS.

    dont freak out. Take a long deep breath everything will be ok. Some dudes have nothing better to do than get their rocks off by trying to rattle us and mind fuck us. Trust me when I tell you that he is full of it and nothing is going to happen. He's especially full of it when he said he's gonna send it to your parents who have already passed, uh yea BS meter is flashing like crazy with that one..

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    thank you girls. i should have known immediately when he convinced me to flash him that he was not going to pay. i am just upset, he stirred up some emotions in me for sure. but i really appreciate the advice. all i did was flash him on camera, and i told him if i found my video anywhere i would sue him - his response was my life would already be ruined. I really wish i could show you the conversation because i honestly do think he was bullshitting but it is still scary!
    i am soooo discouraged from camming now! i am like looking up pso jobs as i type this stupid guy.

    but thankyou all for the advice and i have 100% learned my lesson now. he basically had to convince me for about 40 minutes to show him my boobs and when i finally did i did it out of frustration. urghhhh so dumb and so mad at myself!

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    Just remember hon, karma is a bitch and he'll get whats coming, dont worry. Its definitely BS especially if he can't even answer any questions. Take it as a lesson learned, move on, and make that $

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    wow 40 mins of begging to show him your boobs???? Never turn on your cam without payment first. You will have guys want free shit alllll the time.."show me your pussy/tits/spread your ass/color of nips and I promise I'll buy a 30 min show" uh yea buddy if you can't spend $3.99 to see what i look like there is no way you're paying me $3.99 for 30 mins...

    maybe independent isn't where you should start out. You have to have your hustle game down or guys will walk all over you. There is much more $$$ to be made camming than by just talking dirty over the phone, I think you started out in the deep end when you should still have your floaties on lol. Try a more "learning curve ie newbie friendly" site and see if you still wanna do it. Don't let a guppy scare you outta the water girlie!

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    lol thankyou girls you are making me feel a lot better i am just still so mad at myself! it is rare to have someone recognize you or find you online right?
    grrrrrrr. im on mfc as well. what would you reccomend as a better starting place then that? i am SO discouraged!!!!

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    i started out on naked.com cuz they were the only site to not lose my paperwork when I first started camming lol.

    Everyone makes $1/min, the site is very basic and not complicated like MFC and yea there are douchbags but not as many as I've encountered on MFC myself. Plus you aren't allowed to give out any outside info to custies, so if they want a show they need to buy one from teh site. I liked it and I felt it gave me a good foundation when I wanted to go somewhere else to make more $$. I dont work for naked anymore, but i never had a problem getting paid or getting through to customer service if I had a concern.

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    thankyou x 239754389573945739475. I am going to check them out.

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    your welcome 2x that ridiculously long number lol

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    ya i used to like naked.com and you can block your state or country from seeing you. That guy was a loser with no life and nothing better to do. Seriously don't waste one more second thinking about him. Never show anything for free. Always get pmt. for a show first. Anddd what the other ladies said. <3

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    What he did is a very common thing! (one of the reasons I stopped doing independent shows. I found it was too much of my time wasted with beggars and idiots like that).

    He is totally bullshitting you so forget him, block him and move on.

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    Can I just add, And I don't mean to shit on your head or hold you back , it's more a reality check , If having your shit posted on the net would completely destroy you , then I would seriously suggest you re consider camming as a method to make money . Like it or not, there is a very VERY high chance your shit will end up on the net , in places where you did not request or allow it to be .... The likes of the 'tube and hub' sites ... and more commonly , there are sites devoted purely for men to upload recorded webcam shows and share them between themselves. Similar to peer to peer download sites, except devoted to content stolen from camgirls . There is basically nothing we can do about this , sure some of us copyright our pics and watermark our cam streams, but all this really does is prevent the 'thief' making money from the content, ( and even then not always) ... the fact is as soon as you stream your nudity onto another persons computer, webcam site or not , there is software out there capable of capturing it all ---- then where it goes is up to him .

    I am NOT trying to scare you , but the above 'I'm going to post you all over the internet ' is something that happens to me at least bi weekly , and I show NOTHING for free. Anyway this guy is messing with your head, the fact he first targeted showing your parents , when your parents are no longer here outed his lie. But that's not really my point , my point is, do not think you will only end up in the places you agree to , it's the world wide web , and as soon as our content is out there, be it pictures, video streams , written content , then we are liable to have it seen by not just anyone but everyone .

    I am not trying to put you off, I want you to be informed . Before ebay got stricter with it's adult content policy ,I would often find recorded camshows of myself on there . 'My horny wife doing xyz ' .... 'dvds of my gf ' .... I wasn't best pleased to say the least , and my shows were all watermarked , but to be honest the internet is such a HUGE structure, that there's little you can do to completely avoid this .

    Next time a guy threatens you with such a thing , explain to him you would not be in this business with your pictures and videos out there if you were not aware of the risks , block , delete and move on.

    At the end of the day ,nothing you say is going to influence his decision , and sitting talking to him about it will a.) give him jerk off material ( yes some guys really are that pathetic ) ... and b.) make him think he's onto something, thus pestering you and harassing you further into giving him something more for free.

    Fact is , this could have happened to you had you shown nudity for free or not , but generally the guys pestering for freebies, are the guys more likely to have this attitude . So sure you can minimize this risk by not showing for free, but you can't eradicate it .

    Didn't mean this post to sound such a downer, but after 8 years in this profession , I have encountered this situation 10000's of times .... It will happen , and it wasn't your fault.

    Luck and Love

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    This happens ALLLLL the time. How long have you been camming? I had one psycho hack my cam when i first started. be careful

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    ^^^when you were indy or with a company Malaya?
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    Should I get tested?? What if it got on my labia? k. Sorry for going off subject.

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    I echo everything said above - this guy is a jerk and was just getting a kick out of messing with you. Guys try this on with everyone - my response is always (a) never ever ever to show anything for free, not even a flash - not because I'm worried bout the pics showing up but just cos I do this for $$$ not for the joy of knowing I'm helping out broke guys and (b) to just say - ok whatever, do what you like - which is pretty much end of conversation. 99 times out of 100 these guys will just be trying it on - either because they want free stuff or cos they get a kick out of making girls uncomfortable. BUT - sometimes bad stuff will happen. A few years ago I did get traced after a site I worked on got hacked and a guy's wife ended up phoning me saying her hubby had gotten all my details and was planning a 'visit'! (At that time NOONE knew I was camming apart from the people who saw me on sites so I knew it wasn't a friend fooling around). Lesson - always work for a reputable site with good security. Also, as UKMISSY says, camming does involve a (fairly high) risk of your content finding its way onto sites that you never expected it to and which you have no control over. That's not the same as your family and friends being actively told that you cam but there is a chance that one day they might find out. Hopefully, that won't happen, but you should maybe have a think about what you'd do if it did, and if it is a really scary thought then you may always be a bit scared when camming - which is not gonna lead to $$$. PS - imlive is good for beginners I think though I wouldn't recommend it long term because they don't pay out a very good %.

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    Malaya - It was literally my first night on cam ever. Ha, Yeah GREAT job by me right.

    Missy&BritishBecky - Thank-you for the advice I really do need it and I am seriously thinking about my choices and whether or not I should do this. Once again I really appreciate it and do not worry about 'shitting on my head' I know when I need someone to give me the facts and it means alot that you girls do!

    Thanks everyone I am trying to figure out what to do next.

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    If you still want to cam but are concerned about your identity disguise yourself. Wear a wig, do your make differently than you normally do, or anything else that would make you less recognizable to anyone who may stumble upon your cam. Haha, of course if it's a guy, they're probably not looking at your face anyways.
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    ^ good plan

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    After 40 minutes his ass should have been blocked

    *you should have your payment going by the minute or in hand before showing anything!!!

    ** you are the boss, not them. Never be desperate for any amount of money

    ** dont beg and plead with anyone...they dont like how things run on your end? Thats to damn bad

    ** man up... Naiive girls will get eaten alive

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    Quote Originally Posted by pussyplayground View Post
    After 40 minutes his ass should have been blocked

    *you should have your payment going by the minute or in hand before showing anything!!!

    ** you are the boss, not them. Never be desperate for any amount of money

    ** dont beg and plead with anyone...they dont like how things run on your end? Thats to damn bad

    ** man up... Naiive girls will get eaten alive

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    Couldn't have said it better.

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