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    I have a question. I am fairly new to the wonderful places known as strip clubs so pardon my ignorance. The last time I went, as I was getting little dances at the stage, truly enjoying myself, the dancers kept saying "smile, act like your enjoying yourself." I was enjoying myself, I was just trying not to have a huge goofy grin on my face. Is there a certain way a guy should sit.. I mean, I could understand if it was just once, but it was A LOT!! I almost felt that I was being rude by not showing my gratitude. I am going again for my birthday this weekend and don't want all the dancers to think I have a stick up my ass.. LOL.. Should I be concerned with having too big of a grin on my face?

    Also, is there anything that dancers prefer that men wear for when they dance for them? I mean, I could see how jeans would really rub you girls the wrong way. Is there a material that won't cause discomfort?

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    I used to get that a lot during lap dances. Not so much any more.

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    Ok. So it isn't just me.. lol.. I was like "if you could only see the smile on the inside" I dunno..

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    awww I just want to say your really nice =D you care about not causing discomfort.

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    Elijah, I never thought about it before until I talked to an ex-dancer who is now a client of mine. I do, however, have to say my motives are somewhat selfish. She said that if it was too uncomfortable, it would often have an affect on her dancing...

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    I've always thought dancers enjoy appreciative customers who can say so in a non-pervy/non-sleazy way.

    Saying "I really liked your dance" tends to go down well; "you've got a nice p*ssy" less so.

    Dancers are like the rest of us - they like to be told they've done a good job....

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    Thanks Phil!

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    Quote Originally Posted by esquire2009 View Post
    I have a question. I am fairly new to the wonderful places known as strip clubs so pardon my ignorance. The last time I went, as I was getting little dances at the stage, truly enjoying myself, the dancers kept saying "smile, act like your enjoying yourself." I was enjoying myself, I was just trying not to have a huge goofy grin on my face. Is there a certain way a guy should sit.. I mean, I could understand if it was just once, but it was A LOT!! I almost felt that I was being rude by not showing my gratitude. I am going again for my birthday this weekend and don't want all the dancers to think I have a stick up my ass.. LOL.. Should I be concerned with having too big of a grin on my face?

    Also, is there anything that dancers prefer that men wear for when they dance for them? I mean, I could see how jeans would really rub you girls the wrong way. Is there a material that won't cause discomfort?
    One hard-sell technique is to make the customer fell like they are acting dumb or like a loser, and that they need to be schooled by the salesperson. The final lesson is how highly improper it would be to keep any of your own money.

    So could it be that, could just be some little idiosyncracy of the dancer. Rarely people who are not bad-tempered can give the impression they are. But you seem like you would have already realized it if you had that problem.

    If I wanted somebody to smile, I would tell them a joke rather than just tell them they were supposed to be smiling.

    Bring what you plan to spend in cash, don't use you credit or debit card at the club. Have fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by esquire2009 View Post
    I have a question. I am fairly new to the wonderful places known as strip clubs so pardon my ignorance. The last time I went, as I was getting little dances at the stage, truly enjoying myself, the dancers kept saying "smile, act like your enjoying yourself." I was enjoying myself, I was just trying not to have a huge goofy grin on my face. Is there a certain way a guy should sit.. I mean, I could understand if it was just once, but it was A LOT!! I almost felt that I was being rude by not showing my gratitude. I am going again for my birthday this weekend and don't want all the dancers to think I have a stick up my ass.. LOL.. Should I be concerned with having too big of a grin on my face?

    Also, is there anything that dancers prefer that men wear for when they dance for them? I mean, I could see how jeans would really rub you girls the wrong way. Is there a material that won't cause discomfort?
    I say just give her that billion gigawatt, ear to ear, shit-eating grin.
    Grin with all ya got.

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    ilbbaicnl: Trust me, not credit cards with me! I am still learning the art of self control, especially when I have a beautiful woman dancing naked in front of me.. lol... Not sure if it was a hard-sell technique or not, but I will do my best to smile more..

    Hockey: Thanks.. The only reason I don't give that shit eating grin is I'm afraid that with all the blood flowing down south, if I were to smile too big, I may just pass out..

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    Just set aside the funds you want to spend for the night. Choose the dancer you like, buy dances and drinks. Tip her well, leave your heart at the door and you will have a very good time. I usually leave the club with a grin on my face thinking of coming back the next week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by esquire2009 View Post
    ilbbaicnl: Trust me, not credit cards with me! I am still learning the art of self control, especially when I have a beautiful woman dancing naked in front of me.. lol... Not sure if it was a hard-sell technique or not, but I will do my best to smile more..
    Dancers do have real concerns about overly aggresive or potentially violent guys, so it's less stressful for them if you show them you're polite, friendly and not hostile. With a dancer no always really means no. The stupid-type women who play no-means-yes games don't last long as dancers. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to be a good salesperson, but you can't be bag-of-hammers dumb either. And dancers are salespeople, selling dances and company, they will say what it takes to get your money. But I do think it's one of the best ways to spend your extra money. Lots of fun of course. And one half two to two thirds of the money ends up in the hands of the dancer, who is generally a hard-working middle class person like yourself. Seems like most of the products and services we buy, a much small part of the cost goes to the person actually providing it. But I'm probably not telling you anything you haven't figured out youself.

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    ilbbaicnl: I think it's a good way to spend some extra money too. Although I have just started, I figure that there is at least two way stimulation going on!! lol.. The dancer is stimulating me and I'm stimulating the economy.. j/k I actually enjoy the conversation and sometimes I find it is no different than going to a psychiatrist. Except, I don't think psychiatrists are naked... are they?

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    i've never known of a girl to tell a guy to smile as part of a hard sales technique. some guys think that we've all been trained in sales, but most of us just learn as we go from what works. most girls don't share their secrets, and most managers don't have the sense to teach girls how to make money.

    if a guy is just sitting in the club, i'll do it to be friendly. a lot of guys look really tense, like they're freaked out that every girl in there is going to demand a dance, then stab him with her heel if he says no. so i'll try to be friendly to loosen him up. even if he doesn't end up wanting a dance from me, or even from anybody that night, i want him to not associate the strip club with a sense of overwhelming dread. i'd like him to see it as a fun place.

    now, if i'm dancing for him and i say something like that, it usually means i'm not sure he likes what i'm doing, or that he likes me. so i want some reassurance. you don't need to have a dumb grin planted on your face. just give her a smile here and there, preferably while meeting her eye, or in reaction to something you really liked that she did.
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    I have to admit I have a bit of weird ritual when it comes to clubbing. I never go right from work to the club. Suits and clubs to me don't work. I always shower, trim my finger nails (it amazes me the comments I have heard from dancers about dirty or untrimmed nails), and avoid dressing like I am part of a gang (I once got stopped because I was wearing a jacket with the type of motorcycle I ride). I do my best to present myself in a manner the dancers would expect the significant others in their lives to be ( I pity a dancer who has to dance for some dirty, sweaty person who does not respect the dancer enough). I also think that it is important to at least buy a drink (or more!) for the dancer. Admittedly, you should not be ther find love or to find the friend you never had, but at least be civil and respectful! I have typically found that being presentable and being respectful makes for an enjoyable evening for both you and the dancers.
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