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    This just happened at my club yesterday and it's been driving me insane; I keep thinking about it. At our club dancers are always complaining about other dancers not "respecting" them and stealing dances from their regulars when they are clearly sitting with them. Even if a customer is not a regular, if the dancer's drink is at the same table as a customer and the dancer is clearly sitting with that guy, another dancer knows to not ask for a VIP dance until the dancer takes her stuff away.

    The way around this rule is if the customer asks a dancer who isn't sitting with him for a VIP dance, even if the first girl's stuff is still there. That way, the first dancer can't complain about the second dancer disrepecting her, because it was the customer's idea to get a VIP from another girl.

    Well, yesterday I decided to extend the respect just a little bit further, so as to not step on toes. The first dancer was on stage, doing her two songs. She was already in the VIP area with this guy for a few songs, but she left her drink on the table with him; an indication that she was coming back for more after her stage set. I was doing my final rounds of the room, because my shift ended in 10 minutes. I approached the customer for a dollar dance and he took two of them, and then asked for a VIP dance. He asked if the first girl's drink would be okay if he left it on the table. Since her stage set was almost over, I told him to ask her if it was ok for him to go back for a quick dance with me before I had to leave, thereby letting her know that he would return to her and her drink after one dance with me. Our dances take 5 minutes. I told him I would wait for him at the bar.

    So she gets done with her stage set and makes a beeline for him, which was unusual because usually she at least works the room first. But she's also super jealous and competitive so she was probably worried that I would steal him from her, as she's stolen maaaaannnnyy customers in the past from other dancers. I see them start to talk so I turn away and drink some water at the bar. I see him start to approach me so I turn and smile and prepare to walk back with him and she whisks him away to the VIP area, not looking at me, he doesn't look at me, its as if she scolded him.

    What the hell??? I was trying to be EXTRA respectful. I didn't have to extend that courtesy to her. He asked ME for a dance, I could have just gone, done the one dance, and had her complain to me the next day. This was on a day when no one was making any money, so that $10 dance from him would have really helped. I only had time for 1 dance. She knew what time I needed to leave. The worst thing is that this girl pretends to be a really good friend of mine.

    Was I wrong in trying to be extra respectful? What would you other dancers have done in my situation? I think from now on whenever any custie asks me for a dance, regardless if the first dancer's drink is still on the table, I'll take it. What do you think?

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    Its the customers money and its his right to spend it how he wants. If he is a serious regular, like she drops other customers to hang out with him, I wouldnt have talked to him at all. But if she works the room while he is there that means that she is not making money off of him so I dont see a problem to go up to him.

    I also want to point out that its very dangerous to leave drinks with customers.

    If I have a regular who comes in and I leave for some reason and another girl is talking to him when I return, I give a little wave to him and work the room until she leaves. If he wants dances from her fine, otherwise he will tell her he is waiting on me. If Im dancing onstage I usually tell the customers Im sitting with to "show me some love" when I go onstage.

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    I see it that way: nobody is forced to spend their money on a particular dancer. Our manager used to say : nobody is "somebody's customer", they have their own will and can decide who to spend their money on. I still think dancers should respect each other but you did nothing wrong. There are always gonna be those kinda girls unfortunately..

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    Personally, if I knew that she was sitting with him & had to leave to go on stage then I wouldn't have approached him... especially with a drink sitting there.
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    yeah but I think she was just doing a tip dance, right? in a lot of clubs, it'S common for girls t walk around quickly and do a little dance to get a tip

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    Um I just loooove the name Chaquita Laquisha.... I might have to use that when a custy asks me my real name

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    Quote Originally Posted by crystalize View Post
    yeah but I think she was just doing a tip dance, right? in a lot of clubs, it'S common for girls t walk around quickly and do a little dance to get a tip
    Depends on the club. I wouldn't have approached him though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Personally, if I knew that she was sitting with him & had to leave to go on stage then I wouldn't have approached him... especially with a drink sitting there.
    Kylea, at our club the management encourages us to go up to EVERY customer to ask them for a dollar dance when we are working the floor. We aren't allowed to skip people. And dancers have gotten in trouble if they are sitting with customers and they tell the customers they can't take a dollar dance from the approaching dancer. If management finds out that we are skipping customers because they are already sitting with someone, we get in trouble.

    Dollar dances are one thing. If a dancer is clearly sitting with a customer, it's considered rude for another dancer to ask that customer for a VIP dance. However, if the customer asks the question of the approaching dancer, it's okay to say yes.

    This particular dancer who was on stage when I asked the custie for a dollar dance has routinely stolen customers from me while I was on stage, taking them back for VIP dances after giving them a dollar dance. I confronted her about it several times and her answer is always the same :"he asked me, so it's okay". Well what she REALLY did was tell the customer to tell me it was his idea. Lies. At least 2 of my customers confessed that she told them to say it was their idea, when really it was hers.

    I agree that customers shouldn't be owned and should have the right to choose whomever they wish. There are quite a few guys that come in that get VIP dances from many different girls, and I think that's the way it should be. But unfortunately even though some guys would LIKE VIP dances from several girls, there are many greedy dancers that want to "own" them and make sure they are sitting with customers every spare second so no other dancer gets a chance. And when the chance does arise, when that dancer is on stage, and the customer takes another girl back, that's when the confrontation and girl fights begin. It's ridiculous.

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    Default Re: Respecting other dancers

    he asked you, so in that situation i would have done it right then, and its not your responsibility to worry about her drink ( i never leave drinks unattended)



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