This just happened at my club yesterday and it's been driving me insane; I keep thinking about it. At our club dancers are always complaining about other dancers not "respecting" them and stealing dances from their regulars when they are clearly sitting with them. Even if a customer is not a regular, if the dancer's drink is at the same table as a customer and the dancer is clearly sitting with that guy, another dancer knows to not ask for a VIP dance until the dancer takes her stuff away.
The way around this rule is if the customer asks a dancer who isn't sitting with him for a VIP dance, even if the first girl's stuff is still there. That way, the first dancer can't complain about the second dancer disrepecting her, because it was the customer's idea to get a VIP from another girl.
Well, yesterday I decided to extend the respect just a little bit further, so as to not step on toes. The first dancer was on stage, doing her two songs. She was already in the VIP area with this guy for a few songs, but she left her drink on the table with him; an indication that she was coming back for more after her stage set. I was doing my final rounds of the room, because my shift ended in 10 minutes. I approached the customer for a dollar dance and he took two of them, and then asked for a VIP dance. He asked if the first girl's drink would be okay if he left it on the table. Since her stage set was almost over, I told him to ask her if it was ok for him to go back for a quick dance with me before I had to leave, thereby letting her know that he would return to her and her drink after one dance with me. Our dances take 5 minutes. I told him I would wait for him at the bar.
So she gets done with her stage set and makes a beeline for him, which was unusual because usually she at least works the room first. But she's also super jealous and competitive so she was probably worried that I would steal him from her, as she's stolen maaaaannnnyy customers in the past from other dancers. I see them start to talk so I turn away and drink some water at the bar. I see him start to approach me so I turn and smile and prepare to walk back with him and she whisks him away to the VIP area, not looking at me, he doesn't look at me, its as if she scolded him.
What the hell??? I was trying to be EXTRA respectful. I didn't have to extend that courtesy to her. He asked ME for a dance, I could have just gone, done the one dance, and had her complain to me the next day. This was on a day when no one was making any money, so that $10 dance from him would have really helped. I only had time for 1 dance. She knew what time I needed to leave. The worst thing is that this girl pretends to be a really good friend of mine.
Was I wrong in trying to be extra respectful? What would you other dancers have done in my situation? I think from now on whenever any custie asks me for a dance, regardless if the first dancer's drink is still on the table, I'll take it. What do you think?



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