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    I have a friend that's engaged to be married. She's been coming over ALOT. When we're out together she tells me how "HOt" I am and goes on and on about how beautiful I am to other guys. I thought this was just girls being girls. Today she came over after church. I went up to my room and she followed me up. I was getting undressed she just gawked at me like "wow". She came over to me and started playing with my tits I laughed this off. I just thought OOOOOook?

    I am in a very open relationship with my guy and I have been seeing another guy lately and she gets really worked up when I talk about HIM like telling me I can do better but this is A GREAT GUY. Last week she asked me if I was into girls and I told her I was bi curious and she went "oH really" but we left it at that. Well today I'm on facebook and she posts " I want you to be my wifey" then some other guys comments and she posts " @ (myrealname) I really like your style"

    I'm really freaked out and confused. I DON'T know how to take this. What do you say in this situation. I'm like wtf. I have chicks coming on to me all the time BUT never one of my friends. I'm just kinda feeling all kind of emotions right now. Don't get me wrong She's a GORGEOUS girl but I don't think I want to act out my BI fantasies with her ? what do I say to her?

    She posted this on my wall just now : Get ur ass on my bed and in my sheets RIGHT NOW.

    I just deleted it

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    Default Re: Ok I think she wants to DO me!

    you just have to tell her to cut the shit...its pretty clear that you are uncomfortable.

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    Yes I am. I'm almost scared of her now. I will have to tell her straight up. Its creepy.

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    straight up is the only way in situations like these....

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    Uuuugh...awkward...

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    Hahahahaha, just say "_____, maybe I'm just nuts but you're constant sexual comments aremaking me a bit uncomfortable and would prefer if you stoped" then she will either laugh it off and say she's joking (even if she wasnt just to save face) ... or she will tell you whats on her mind and you can discuss it like adults. "Thanks but no thanks I'm just not ready for a move like that"

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    Do you think there's any way you've been subtley encouraging her sexual comments? I have this problem, and I think it's because of my job--I've learned to encourage it whenever people hit on me. Even if you don't do this, you can use the possibility to bring it up to her.

    So maybe approach the topic with a comment, like "Hey, ___, I know I've been kind of flirty with you lately, but you know I'm just playin' right?" or something similar.

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    Default Re: Ok I think she wants to DO me!

    Pretend she's a man, tell her to back off the same way you would any guy making those kinds of comments at you.

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    Do you think there's any way you've been subtley encouraging her sexual comments? I have this problem, and I think it's because of my job--I've learned to encourage it whenever people hit on me. Even if you don't do this, you can use the possibility to bring it up to her.
    I don't think I'm encouraging her at all. Subtley? maybe. I shouldn't have undressed in front of her already knowing she was like that. Although I don't mind getting undressed infront of my girlfriends. I should have been watching out for her.
    So maybe approach the topic with a comment, like "Hey, ___, I know I've been kind of flirty with you lately, but you know I'm just playin' right?" or something similar.
    In all honesty, I'm totally freaked out about even bringing it up to her. Scared, is the word I should be using because I don't know how she will respond and I don't thnk I want to lose her as a friend. Besides all of this bi stuff, She is a good friend. I should be like "Girl you've been so flirty with me lately what's up with that! You know I would never go there with your right?" How does that sound? I know it sounds stupid but It's easier to say kinda.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Pretend she's a man, tell her to back off the same way you would any guy making those kinds of comments at you.
    It's not THAT easy. The men that approach me are not my friends, don't come over my house and haven't seen my nakedness. So it's really not as easy as you make it sound. She is a friend of mine Trem.

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    Default Re: Ok I think she wants to DO me!

    I'm not saying be rude to her or anything but i'm sure you are very well versed in the arts of turning down unwanted attention, gently or otherwise.

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    You gotta be honest with her. I had a female friend like this that was in love with me,and I like women,so I kind of dragged her along,and lost a good friend because of it. I still miss her to this day,and I love her,but I dunno
    If she's a friend,then she's a friend. Maybe distance you're self for a while. Women are generally good at picking up hints. Or you could just tell her straight up that you're not interested.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spankie55 View Post
    You gotta be honest with her. I had a female friend like this that was in love with me,and I like women,so I kind of dragged her along,and lost a good friend because of it. I still miss her to this day,and I love her,but I dunno
    If she's a friend,then she's a friend. Maybe distance you're self for a while. Women are generally good at picking up hints. Or you could just tell her straight up that you're not interested.
    Exactly my point! I also like women BUT the fact that she's a friend fucks with me. I'm going to talk to her when she comes over tomorrow (she finds an excuse to come over almost every 2-3 days) I will talk to her and if she doesn't get it I will distance myself for sure. I'm just going to be straight up but I will try not to hurt her feelings. I don't want to do that because I DO care about her just not like that. Like I said, I've had women hit on me and it's never made me feel uncomfy but THIS did. I didn't like that feeling at all.

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    Ok here's what you do. When she comes over just open the door point to your body and say "She this? No touchy! No touchy for you! Bad girl!" then smack her on the nose with a rolled up newspaper and close the door in her face. Case. Closed.

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    Friend crushes are pretty normal I don't get the big deal since if there is any1 you should be able to talk to honestly and openly should be a friend. If you lose a friendship cuz you don't want to do some1 well that was never a real friendship to begin with in my book. You don't have to go out of your way to reject or hurt her feelings, but I think just telling her you don't see her that way and have no desire to ever go there with her should work.

    I get hit on by my friends all the time & most times a friend is just a friend to me unless I find her hott and then it's something she would have known from the go cuz I don't do that casually hinting thing. When my guy friend hit on me knowing I'm gay I kinda go ill keep your nasty hetero cuddies and man hands off of me, but they generally still try till I make it really clear that if they ever think of disrespecting me that I'll have no problem castrating them & then ass raping them w/ my strapon. I don't care if it hurts their egos or feelings I make sure to be real clear with my friends where my comfort level is and not to cross it.

    Girls however tend to be ez even if they might not get being told no & might even cry about it usually you reject them once and they will go away or be cool about it and just never give you another chance even if you decide to change your mind.
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    Friend crushes are normal for YOU. I've never had a crush on any of my girlfriends and I will never date of one them. It is a big deal to me because I felt uncomfortable about the whole thing.

    Um.. I will not be changing my mind about her for sure and I will be clear with her tomorrow.

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    They are normal, period. It happens, this whole tripping out thing cuz your friend has a crush on you reeks of your insecurities about your own sexual curiosities you have yet to venture on. Don't take it out on me or her please. If you are not interested then saying no should be no biggie. I never implied you would change your mind. I was simply speaking about how women tend to handle rejection in general which is nothing for you to fear.

    BTW I personally don't crush on my friends cuz to me most of them have no parts & I have 2 many girls to play with as is, but it's completely normal str8, gay, bi -- it's human. I'm sure you have crushed on a friend at some point in your life and if you haven't well that makes you more abnormal then most people on the planet.
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    Tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend, but you're not interested in a physical relationship in any way, shape, or form. Make it as clear as possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eagle2 View Post
    Tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend, but you're not interested in a physical relationship in any way, shape, or form. Make it as clear as possible.
    totally agree with this. I wouldn't recommend being rude. Shes probably thinking you are interested but possibly shy about it because you are not sure of your sexual preference and is trying to let you know you don't have to worry about rejection from her. This is a delicate situation. She is your friend, and friend or not no one likes to be turned down so try to do it as kindly as possible. Why should she be punished for thinking you are beautiful and liking you, you know? The most compassionate thing you can do is remain true to yourself and be honest but do so kindly. Honestly think of how you would like someone to treat you if the situation was reversed and that is a good indication of how you should handle it with her. best of luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by UV69 View Post
    this whole tripping out thing cuz your friend has a crush on you reeks of your insecurities about your own sexual curiosities you have yet to venture on.

    The most idiotic comment I've read on sw to date. I am insecure about my own sexual curiousities? You really know me huh . PLEASE I have already EXPLORED women. It is nothing new to me. Yes my girlfriend touching my breasts, calling my wifey and hitting on me DOES bother me. I'm anything but insecure. Take a closer look at yourself. The notion that I am insecure because I can't handle a good friend of mine liking me is very absurd.

    BTW I personally don't crush on my friends cuz to me most of them have no parts & I have 2 many girls to play with as is, but it's completely normal str8, gay, bi -- it's human. I'm sure you have crushed on a friend at some point in your life and if you haven't well that makes you more abnormal then most people on the planet.
    I have crushed on guy friends of course but never one of my girlfriends. I am abnormal because I've never had a crush on one of my girlfriend? Another idiotic comment. I will stop responding to you because nonsense keeps flying out of your mouth.

    Look who's telling me to be normal. Keep living in your own world because you will be surprised to find out that YOUR idea of what normal is IS pretty screwed and not "normal" at all. Good luck.

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    Idiotic is being scared of a friend who is crushing on you.

    Idiotic is calling yourself bi curious if you have already explored all your curiosities concerning women. Which btw if you have you would not be this upset.

    I didn't call you abnormal for never having crushed on a female friend, but if you have a male friend basically it the same shyt and something you should be able to relate to .

    I'm not telling you to be normal either, but I will tell you that your female friend who has a crush on you is not the scariest thing on the planet and that you are over reacting to something that happens to be very common among friends where 1 is attracted to the other.

    You have no place to talk to me in the manner you are btw and if you want to tell me I'm screwed up cuz I'm gay it's not a shock cuz obviously it's that judgmental homophonic insecurity that is in you that is the reason you are flipping out over a simple crush and a convo online w/ a woman who is a proud lesbian who is simply trying to point out that a girl that is your friend that has a crush isn't the end of the world. Just set boundaries and I'm sure she will understand if not she isn't a friend you need to keep.

    If it isn't insecurity then really what is your issue here where you can't handle having this convo with your friend about how you feel cuz I don't get it. No not interested is much easier then you are making it out to be. PS if you are so uncomfortable why are you letting her get carried away calling you wifie and touching your breast. I don't do that w/ friends, but for a bi curious girl who is uncomfortable w/ your friend crushing on you I doubt that is what has been going on unless you are that passive. I'm betting it's just another exaggeration of the situation driven by your insecurities with your sexuality. Heck I'm thinking secretly you are really attracted to your friend and that is why you are the one talking about her touching your breast and calling you wiffie only you are so repressed you don't even realize that is why her crush is bugging you so.
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    Idiotic is being scared of a friend who is crushing on you.
    I am not scared of her smart one. I am scared of what this could do to our friendship.

    Idiotic is calling yourself bi curious if you have already explored all your curiosities concerning women. Which btw if you have you would not be this upset.
    One lesbian experience in miami when I was 18 is what I was talking about since then no women .. I do not consider myself bisexual at all. I have already been with a woman that is whats what I was saying. So now who's the idiot? Go and look in the mirror.

    I didn't call you abnormal for never having crushed on a female friend, but if you have a male friend basically it the same shyt and something you should be able to relate to .
    Males and Females are not the same. It's not the same. I'm used to dick not pussy. They are not the same. It's not "the same shyt" I am also not calling you abnormal for thinking that it is.
    I'm not telling you to be normal either, but I will tell you that your female friend who has a crush on you is not the scariest thing on the planet and that you are over reacting to something that happens to be very common among friends where 1 is attracted to the other.
    I dont think I am overreacting at all. If you have a problem with my post than you can unsubscribe to this thread. Now you're telling me what to put on sw huh? You are free to GTFO.

    You have no place to talk to me in the manner you are btw and if you want to tell me I'm screwed up cuz I'm gay it's not a shock cuz obviously it's that judgmental homophonic insecurity that is in you that is the reason you are flipping out over a simple crush and a convo online w/ a woman who is a proud lesbian who is simply trying to point out that a girl that is your friend that has a crush isn't the end of the world. Just set boundaries and I'm sure she will understand if not she isn't a friend you need to keep.
    WOW. I DO NOT CARE IF YOU ARE GAY. I HAVE GAY FRIENDS. I AM NOT HOMOPHOBIC SO FOR YOU TO IMPLY THAT IS JUST STUPID. WHAT IS YOUR DEAL? Stop making an ass of yourself.

    If it isn't insecurity then really what is your issue here where you can't handle having this convo with your friend about how you feel cuz I don't get it. No not interested is much easier then you are making it out to be. PS if you are so uncomfortable why are you letting her get carried away calling you wifie and touching your breast. I don't do that w/ friends, but for a bi curious girl who is uncomfortable w/ your friend crushing on you I doubt that is what has been going on unless you are that passive. I'm betting it's just another exaggeration of the situation driven by your insecurities with your sexuality. Heck I'm thinking secretly you are really attracted to your friend and that is why you are the one talking about her touching your breast and calling you wiffie only you are so repressed you don't even realize that is why her crush is bugging you so.
    I guess women that feel uncomfortable in these situations are insecure. Because you are gay you think I should openly accept what is NOT normal to me just because you being gay think it's OK well sorry ma'am. The world does not revolve around you.

    I did say she was gorgeous. I stated that in my first post but I am not attracted to her so for you to assume that again is idiotic. If I were attracted to her trust me I will go forward with it.

    Oh and there are people out there that believe being gay is abnormal but no one is judging you for you to tell me I'm abnormal because of this is pretty shitty. You're clueless.

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    Too bad I'm not you. _j_k_

    I vote you tell her gently but firmly.
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    <--- Has a girl crush on Malaya. But I LOVE the things my man does. So, sorry Malaya, can't have me.


    Yeah, just tell her gently. Im sure she'd appreciate the honesty, rather than being lead on and then getting her feelings hurt in the end...

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    ^ LMFAO! I love you but I don't think It would work out Audrina. LOL

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