If it's the ladies I'm thinking about, they are very strict. They denied me for being a smoker.
The ladies im talking about are based in Wilmington
Your best bet is to learn from a lifestyle Domme. This may involve you being a submissive for a bit to learn the um, ropes. No pun intended. Also, it would give you time to see if that's what you really want.
I don't think a lifestyle domme would take to kindly to me only entering for wanting to be a pro. Like I said ive been looking into this for 3-4 years and there is clearly this "rift" between the lifestyle vs. pro world
Also, a lot of BDSM acts are illegal in North Carolina... or rather they are illegal if there is an exchange of money ie pro-Domming. This is where screening comes in. You also have to be extremely careful if you decide to have your own site, as this can also be risky. I am waiting to build my site for these reasons, along with financial reasons.
Yes I know screening is essential! Dungeons are typically members only and are very strict which was my first line of defense... too bad things dont work they way I plan
I'll put it this way: North Carolina doesn't like the adult industry. I work for a female/mixed wrestling site and it's pretty tame in my book. They have been raided before and they don't even actually produce porn. That being said, there was no evidence they were doing anything 'obscene', so everything was dropped. You have to be really careful.
That sucks, glad everything worked out in the end.
Also, Domming is a very mentally challenging job. It's hard to go into and out of Domme mode, and there are also lots of safety things you should know, like safe words and never Domming when you are upset or angry. Really, in all actually, Domming is about the slave and their needs, even though it seems the other way around.
I VERY aware of this!
Are you mentally prepared to deal with people who may have some, ahem, interesting fetishes? You have a wide range of people that will want your services, and they range from cuckolds to adult babies to foot lovers. You have to know what you're dealing with and set your limits.
Aware of this too! foot lovers, been there done that... the others, Ive read about. I have a pretty deep understand of the foundations of BDSM and how things work, just can't seem to get my foot in the door anywhere
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