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    I've been camming for awhile and was with the same guy since before I started and the he left me for another girl (bummer)

    Well after not dating for a while i met this really awesome guy and unfortunately I lied and said I sold Avon from home and after dating for about 2 months we start to talk about being exclusive and i tell him about my camming and mygirlfund and myfreeimplants and then it was over

    I was wondering if any other cam girls have problems meeting guys with their kind of job. If I tell a guy right away he just wants to have sex with me and if I hold it back I am a liar and it sucks to have to tell the truth and be scared of the reaction

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    Are you American? I swear American women are so relationship obsessed! It's more smarter to be concerned about your finances, education, retirement and health. I'm not firing shots at ''you'' personally, Im just speaking in general since lately there has been a few threads started addressing this same exact issue. If you want a ''normal'' life with a normal relationship with a semi ''somewhat'' normal dude then you need a normal job. Life isn't perfect! Good luck to any woman that has it ''all'' but I highly doubt she would be in these forums. Moving right along, if any woman feels that the man she is currently with cannot ''adequatley'' and ''sufficientley'' provide for you financially, which is the most important, then why are you with him? How can you hustle men on the internet and hotel rooms, yet you can't hustle up a real man to provide for you? It doesn't make any sense! I, myself, am single and divorced. I'm a ''professional online girlfriend'' that charges for my companionship but if I was interested in any man that wanted me as a person of signifigance, he would have to be someone relaxed, reserved, and non judgemental which alot of ''those'' men seem to be foreign. So I've met! All I'm suggesting is that you set your priorities straight and focus on what's important which is getting money! That same boy you are tripping off today, is the same dude that will leave you dead on your ass, struggling, in debt, on child support and the whole nine. Men come and go but the time you have to be young, sexy, and hot will never come back around again! So take the golden oppurtunity to make and ''save'' the fast money that is being offered to you while you can.

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    Devon , you ain't neva lied girl!!!!!! AMEN TO THAT!

    Fuck what a guy thinks! It's either you want me or you don't. My money comes first ALWAYS!

    I'm a ''professional online girlfriend'' that charges for my companionship but if I was interested in any man that wanted me as a person of signifigance, he would have to be someone relaxed, reserved, and non judgemental which alot of ''those'' men seem to be foreign.
    Oh no you didn't! LOVE IT! I wish I could post this all over sw. Why do women put their men before themselves? Ugh it's frikking ridiculous!

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    The only reason I started dating again was because I had a good source of income and my financies are doing awesome now. I'm not dependent on a man and I wouldnt want to start up anything special with someone if I didnt have my stuff together.
    I am american and I understand what you mean but just because I ask a little question doesnt mean im obsessed with being in a relationship. I've been single and happy but it is nice to have someone you know

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    Deleted.

    Will keep this to myself from now on. I didn't think it was "ridiculous"
    Last edited by malayataylor; 07-23-2010 at 04:40 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hello-kitty View Post
    I have never in my life heard of such a thing. Not calling you a liar.. but this is just ridiculous....

    Thats probably the only person that would do that, super odd....
    Then I'm sure that you're shocked easily because this is very common.

    Ha no offense taken .. Guess where I found him? ONLINE!

    Oh and lots of my offline sw friends knows this about me and know I'm not lying. I don't think it's ridiculous. There are lots of escorts in open relationships. What about swinger couples? C'mon this is 2010. Anything goes!

    P.s I have a friend in vegas that's married and her and her husband are swingers. She is an escort and cams also. She has a boyfriend in California that she travels to see every 3 months. Meanwhile her husband does NOTHING. He dosen't have a girlfriend and lets HER have all the fun. She also has her own website where she fucks other guys and girls and her hubby shoots all the content. Trust me .. it happens. This friend is on camwhores and private camz and has her own site. no bullshit! AND they are very happy together!

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    Well not to YOU, not everyone is close minded to this.

    This is nothing new.

    You haven't heard of swingers? I'd love to marry a man that was open to swinging. Call me a freak but yes I'd be open to it.

    Sorry but I don't see it as "weird" or "uncommon".

    You'd be suprised at how many men would love this.

    I had a client try to marry me once and was willing to put up with my escort work.
    I made a post about it some months ago. Oh and yeah he was very handsome.

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    If someone can't accept your decisions, let them go. If he isn't willing to change for you, why should you change for him? Fk all that drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carabella View Post
    but it is nice to have someone you know
    To have someone? Don't you always have ''someone'' when you are working? I'm a camgirl so I have 100's of boyfriends that adore me. I've been catered to by more men online than offline. I've had high end escort friends of mine laced with expensive gifts such as houses and cars from men they've never even sexed! At least not yet,LOL!
    So yes, the fact still remains that men will do more for you when ''charged'' than a beggar who expects something for free aka
    ''boyfriends''! No woman in this forum needs a
    boyfriend but only a man who knows and respects
    the divine power associated with being woman. Men know damn well if they could make a killing doing what we do and having what we have, that their power hungry asses would be doing it too! Do NOT settle! Show interest to someone that appreciates you on an intellectual level first, then physical. If the relationship is ''sexually'' driven from the start, you have already lost the game before your first swing. Do NOT allow any man to make you feel bad for doing what you do! Believe it or not, but their are actually alot of men that are ''turned on'' and ''impressed'' by women in the adult industry. They are ''intrigued'' and ''stimulated'' by a woman that defy's societys standards and they respect it! No man should ask a woman ''why does your feet hurt''? The man for you is the man that won't ask anything, he will just start rubbing!

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    ^ and there is nothing wrong with that. why the tone.. ?

    Edit: I never called YOU close minded I said not everyone is close minded? Why do you think I'm trying to corner you? What's wrong with you? I never insulted you? I can't speak my mind?

    I am very sorry If I offended you. I don't understand what your deal is.

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    I guess you did the right thing and deleted your last post. I was not attacking you in anyway. Swinging or being in an open relationship is not for everyone. You are on the defense I'm not, I was just responding to the OP and YOU for calling the idea of such thing "ridiculous" Last I checked this was a public thread. I don't see anything wrong with what I said at all.

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    ^AND that is fine Kitty. I totally understand that but I have plenty of escort friends that are married and their husbands actually drive them to their appointments. For me it's nothing new.

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    @ the OP: If you really want a relationship, Just lie. It all depends on how bad you want a relationship. I've lied before and it's not fun.

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    I never had an issue finding a man or woman who was okay with it. I've been a dancer, sugar baby, and other various things, and I just never thought it was an issue and was always frank and upfront from the get go. I think its the respectful thing to do, plus I'm a very honest person and don't feel right deceiving someone, as in.. if you think its something that might be a deal-breaker and you withhold the information you are taking away their right of consent. This can only end poorly as they will rightfully so feel deceived and betrayed and wont trust you.

    Save yourself the heartache and discuss it upfront. Its kinder to both of you in the long run.

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    um ya. It's 2010. This stuff is very common.

    Quote Originally Posted by hello-kitty View Post
    yeah its so common... ?

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    well it is common. welcome to stripperweb.

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    hahaha Ive been a member here for a long time, read almost everything posted in this forum, and help people. and I have been reading this thread the whole time. Why are you being a bitch to me?

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    lol and most threads keep getting replies for days, weeks. Just because I didn't post my comment 30 seconds after yours doesn't mean I "missed it".

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    a good book to read is 50 cents the 50th law. whY? this dude lays out the way and how to be a real hustler.. and its so smooth because its not catered to drug dealing or a certain occupation its about life and different experiences. great book changed my way of thinking and how i live im still not done reading...

    in other stuff.. in order to be successful you are going to make sacrafices...esp from one job to another u will see certain folks that was ur ace boon when u were lets say stripping, all of a sudden some of them no longer keep contact once u move on to lets say camming, or school, or get out the profession period. its the way of life.

    as far as dudes go, as clishe(can't spell) as it sounds they just like buses, one every 15 mins you only holding yourself back by not becoming financially secure and as to what u want and dream of by dumming yourself and your success down for a dude that ain't worth it in the end. that guy will come to you and u can be up front from jump about what u do for a living and he will b like cool thats whats up and support you unconditionally. i get it out the way on the first date what i do.. if they dnt stick around its on to the next 1 that can really handle it.

    i think im done putting my 2cents in... lol it was long
    still here.... just in another chapter..

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    I like that bus analogy..one comes around every 15 minutes..OR even more than that..HA. I'm like, yeah sorry I don't need a bus, I have a car..I will drive my own ass around.

    Oh yeah you girls are funny sometimes..I actually feel like I'm back in the dressing room reading these comments

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    my hubby used to drive me to work too He isn't a 'pussy' - he's the dominant partner in the relationship - he just likes to support me too! I love him for it.
    Telling guys about any work in the sex industry can be hard. I've done it and had lots of different reactions. I always prefer guys who are open minded and accepting anyway, so maybe that makes it easier. I'm normally pretty straight up - like a third date rule or something

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    Quote Originally Posted by BritishBecky View Post
    my hubby used to drive me to work too He isn't a 'pussy' - he's the dominant partner in the relationship - he just likes to support me too! I love him for it.
    Telling guys about any work in the sex industry can be hard. I've done it and had lots of different reactions. I always prefer guys who are open minded and accepting anyway, so maybe that makes it easier. I'm normally pretty straight up - like a third date rule or something
    Thank you! Your husband sounds like a wonderful Man.

    On my recent tour for business, My guy drove 2 hours from Charlotte and waited for me DURING an appointment. My past relationships I had to constantly LIE about escort work and now that I have this guy I'm not letting him go. It takes a REAL man to put up with this. He dosen't call me names, puts me down at all and actually gives me advice about my business. I found him online so telling him what I did was very easy for me. My ex would have probably killed me if he knew I was an escort. I'm done with possessive men.

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    ^ hell yeah!

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    Yea I agree on not lying to a potential mate about what you do. I had a man lie to me for two years about who he was now I'm stuck tryin to mend a broken heart. I think it's just healthier to tell someone straight up..it takes too much energy to keep up lies!

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    It's best to be upfront . My fiance's mother used to strip and she was a street pharmacist if you know what I mean . So for him , what I do is nothing new but he met me working a regular 9-5 . I got tired of it and told him I was gonna start camming and I did just that . He doesn't like it all the time but he excepts it because he loves me and knows this is what I wanna do . And if I were an escort he would be right there taking me to my appointments to ensure my safety. You can't allow a man to tell you what you can and cannot do . Like Devon said ,men come and go .

    We also thought about the whole swinger thing. I think our relationship works, because we're both open minded but if I were single, I would be focusing on stacking my money b4 thinking about looking for a man. Lets face it, a lot of men can't handle what we do ,but it's cool for them to have sex with every girl walking ....and for FREE...SMDH. Focus on making money , the rest will come.

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