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Dont give up on the brothers altogether but also dont feel that you cant date other races! Instead try learning how to identify different caliber of men! It doesnt matter what race you chose every race has a different caliber of a man and you cant just go off his image either! for instance you could have a fine ass black businessman who is 100% sure of the woman he is after (she may be you ;-)) and he could be a one woman man because he grew up seeing his mother get dogged out and cheated on by his father, saw how much it hurt her and vowed to never treat a woman that way! But then you could meet a Fine ass Arrogant ass Foriegn orWhite man who is really nice the first few months you fall for him and 3-6 months down the line hit you or you find out he has so much money, charm and class that he is living a whole other life with other women! who knows
My point is you are free to date whomever you wish just make sure he is of a certain standard or caliber you desire! its hard b/c we are in the instant gratification era but possible and if they cant accept your child Fuck them! better to find out now than later once you have wasted your time and energy on them!
hope this helps





^Exactly, men are just men. Take them on an idividual basis not the colour of their skin.





I dated a wonderful black woman for almost a year and she took a lot of shit from her family and friends because I'm white. I felt bad for her because of that and I think she is one of the strongest, most-respectable people I know for putting up with that crap and standing up for herself and her opinions/preferences.
Sadly, it didn't work out for us because she moved due to a job transfer and neither of us wanted a long-distance relationship. I'm glad we have remained close friends.
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade... then find someone whose life gave them vodka, and have a party.






I am a white man married to a Latina. I wouldn't get too caught up in needing to speak Spanish (at least right away) as long as he is fluent in English. The family events can be stumbled through, even though I am the only gringo at the table.
Your bigger challenge in dating a Latino might actually be religion. Most of them are Catholic and, even if he is not practicing, his mother and sisters will likely take it much more seriously.
I have always been attracted to Latinas and 2nd or 3rd generation full blooded Italian girls, both for their physical and cultural traits. Not to generalize, but I have always found them to be vibrant, tough minded and family oriented, all traits that I value highly.
Good luck!
ya, white for me here too........... but ill fuck the shit outta some thick black cock anyday! i find black guys are always pretty intense in bed. im also not really turned on by the thug look. it like they are trying to look bad ass.


I see and hear alot of black women saying this and they don't realize that whether they date a black, white, asian, orange, pink, man that they may attract the same type of man. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you but like carmenssecret said try learning how to identify different caliber of men.
On a side note more black women should try dating different race's as well. Its so annoying to hear a black women say he's white or spanish ewww I'm not dating him, lol its 2010. Its not impossible to find a good man... you just gotta stop looking. They usually come to you when you least expect it. He's gonna come outa no where and knock you on your ass lol and then he's gonna scoop you right up.




I am an Asian woman, which according to Marieclaire magazine is the new trophy wife.
That said I can't stand men who have "yellow fever" as I often feel like I have to explain things that are not my fault. Firstly I only speak English and grew up "white" and mainly identify as being a white woman. That is not my fault, my "white" mother raised me (I am part white and part Korean, mother is the white one) and thus only taught me English. My father (the korean) was a proud immigrant and wanted his children to learn English only.
I am also tall and curvy. Most men who have "yellow fever" like their women dainty and petite. Somehow an Asian women with curves is a threat.





Thank you. I know I couldn't be the only person who doesn't buy that bull about most professional black men marrying white women. Some people see black couples together every single day and don't give it much thought. Then they see a few black/white couples together and it sticks out in their mind. Or, they see celebrities doing this and now the freaking sky is falling. Just stop!
They have a right to marry whomever they want for whatever reason as do all of us.
I have no love for thugs either. Every guy I've dated can carry on a conversation without too much slang and wear their clothes properly. That includes black men also. I'm not in the dating scene at the moment, but when the time comes all eligible bachelors are welcome to woo me, regardless of skin color.
I don't mean to boast, but with a gameplan like that- happiness odds are in my favor. You can get more opportunities when you let people cross themselves off the list instead of giving in to steretypes.
It's not just black men with that attitude. When you get around to dating more white men, you'll see that underneath the epidermis many men are very much alike.They all either want a piece of ass right away or they get scared away when I say I have a kid.
Women of color:
Shake your ass and preserve your heritage.
Bang those fucking drums.
Do it for the present and future generations.
Have fun and stick it to the man at the same time. (bad-dominicana)





I'm Irish/Hispanic, but I have always dated white guys for some reason. I never fit in with the cholos.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest



I am 100% Turkish( not Arab Turk is a race comes from Atilla the HUN) i M married with white blonde guys with blue eyes. I am too happy sometimes i watch his pretty face long time...i love his gorgeous blue eyes. I think people attracted mostly what they dont have...opposite features i mean. My husband so different for me and i am for him it means we both have prefect attraction.I look like totally latino dark eyes tan skin dark hair...Till i speak ,anyone could think i am latino.
Anyways i am muslim he is christian if both sides dont practise too much about religions there is no problem for marriage or relationships. IF one side strict about morals yes might be huge problem.
Couple times i dated with black guys only 2 i really thought they were gangsta wannabes.. They were basketball player in my country and i really did not like it. Their attutide is so pushing.Latinos are really hot and seems fun i would like to be one of them. Arab,Indians or Asians not really. I never attracted. Italians of course they rock! I love Italian MAN! GO GO Italians![]()



Funny that I read this thread just now, but I was talking to a good friend of mine (who is a professional black man) who was complaining to me about his love life. He tries to put on his "professional" mentality when he goes out, but most of his childhood friends, and the girls that he meets up with dog on him for it. It really is kind of sad, because he is extremely intelligent and financially successful, yet his guy friends that he goes out with tell him that he has to act otherwise. I unfortunately think it's the way our society influences people to think, and act. You aren't racist at all for thinking the way you do.
Common sense would tell you that he needs to stop hanging out with his old "friends," but I don't think he's reached that level of maturity quite yet.
Back on topic though: try to date men of all races, and just see what you think. I think white men would also try for generally the same thing as any other race would do especially looking the way you do in your avatar (big compliment!). Start going out to places other than bars to look for men as well. I've had my best relationships either come from something I do for fun (I love to sail, and a lot of men are involved in it), or just on a normal errand. You're a pretty woman, just like all the women on this site, and we have a tendency to attract the more aggressive males which happen to also be douchebags. Just need to look in the right places to avoid them.![]()
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I'm curious about this. Any particular reason why American men turn you off? I ask because there is a segment of white American men that really disgusts me. The ones I talk about are the typical beer guzzling, sports obsessed hairy fat slobs that will take off their shirt to pain their favorite sports team on the their fat belly. The same ones that think because they are men they are the leaders of the house. I hate these types with a passion. Ioften wonder if part of my repulsion to them is because these were the majority of club customers I've known.
This is a kind of dead thread but I found it really interesting
To the OP, there's nothing wrong with looking for a different type of guy. If all the black guys in your area or scumbags, unless you want to relocate, it's ok to look elsewhere. Sometimes areas get certain subcultures or cliques in a race. All the white guys in my area went scene for a while and spent more time on their hair than I did, and I was tired of guys that talked like they were gay. I love gay men, but I don't want to FUCK one. I ended up finding myself a laid back hippie mexican guy.I'm actually thankful for it because I've learned a lot of culture I wouldn't have learned on my own.
Which brings me to my second point. To the man who brought home a girl that was uncomfortable with Spanish speaking family, that can be a gig problem. However, I don't speak a word of Spanish but just by being friendly, using gestures, asking my boyfriend to translate occasionally, and just being humorous about the situation, has given me a deeper relationship with his family than I've EVER had with any other guy's family. So I'm just saying, the right girl, if she really likes you, will try her best because it matters to you.![]()




Im not so sure its just black men..I think its ALL men. I get the same thing with having kids... and now that Im getting divorced..I have to start all over with dating again. I think Im gonna stock up on vibrators cuz It just sounds like a lot of work to try and meet someone again...but I guess it wouldnt hurt to try something new... I personally think I am crossing over t the other side for awhile...![]()





Finding a decent man is hard to find no matter the age. Add in age, and issues like kids and it gets even harder. I've mentioned my experiences with online dating but I met so many losers from online dating that I'm pretty much convinced all the good ones are taken. If the guy I want doesn't come back I'm going to look again but it's extremely hard and add in requirements (mine are no kids and never married in most cases) and it becomes impossible. I know there are decent guys out there but they are hard to find.
I have noticed a ridiculous trend though and it has to do with guys not dating mothers. I know many guys who refuse to date mothers, though they themselves are dads. I don't get why dads think they can be pickier than moms. I can see a childless man refusing to date a mom (I refuse to date dads) but why a dad? The funniest is when a guy says it's because of drama, yet he's got the biggest drama!I knew this guy with a psycho exwife yet he only dated childless women because of drama. Yeah I'm sure a childless woman wants to deal with that. Or these guys who think they are special because they have kids and "all women date dads". I've never seen this attitude with single moms, just dads.
I'm sure you'll find someone special though, it might take awhile to find him.
I so get where your comin from I've always had a thing for white guys! I've dating some blk guys but it just didn't work out. I've had blk guys refer to me as a traitor before- yeah that's really gunna make me want you. Ne who... I spotted this one super cute white guy and he wasn't really into the interracial thing so I had to turn him out... now I have the ring and he said he doesn't even look at white grls the same... I think the interracial relationship thing is super doable but it just takes a lil more wrk on our parts...




^ lol. i've had black guys call me racist for not fucking them. like this one dude was a fucking giant and a jock, and i like short, skinny nerdy types. i've got a skinny, nerdy jamaican friend i'm super attracted to. it's clearly not racism.
one thing i've noticed is that black guys are way quicker to throw out insults at women who reject them. oh you're a race-traitor. i'm a racist. any woman who doesn't have her nails did and a cute outfit is ugly as hell and should be grateful he was willing to stick his dick in it. etc. lol. i guess it makes them feel better, but it's not like it's changing anyone's mind. maybe in middle school or something. but when a dude's balls drop, he should find some different techniques. jeez.
-love everyone but keep them far from your soul-


I'm going to save you ladies the long agonizing post on how it is "The Man's" fault that so many brothas (and sistas) are not suitable for marriage.
But I too have found it difficult to find a brotha that was interested in a relationship/marriage. I'm also fearful about the state of our brothas as a whole.
I've never limited myself to dating within my race. From my observation, men of other cultures won't step to a sista if they are not in order (education, career, housing, etc.). So the chance that you will encouter a bum of another race is pretty slim. Every brotha that has shown interest in me didn't qualify. Had to many children, too many baby mamas, can't afford to take care of his kids, lived at home with mama, grandma, cousin, homeboy...basically homeless, don't have a car, have a felonies,
[Let me pause and be clear on something, yes I will reject a man for having felonies. You spouse's criminal record will prevent you from obtaining clearance in certain federal related job fields (my chosen career path leads me to these jobs). I applied for a research assistant postion and needed to sign papers for DEA clearance. I was super curious about this and the lady in HR gave me all the details on how people (specifically women) would be denied because their husbands had drug felonies, or have ever posted bond for someone charged/convicted of a drug felony.]
rediculously undereducated (difficulty reading, can't type or utilize the internet to apply for a job, because i don't know any job that still uses paper applications....again, this may not be his fault, it is the failure of the american education system, but you have to adapt or die and I ain't carrying any dead weight),
can't dress: urban gear is unacceptable for a grown azz man. You are not in a rap video. I roll in circles where my man has to know how to look classy. WTF I look like attending a function at the art museum and the only things in your closet are COOGI and Air Force 1's?!
Many of our brothas are bitch made. Being raised in a single mother household has caused these males to act like females: long hair, costume jewelry, dancing, clothes coordinated with hats and shoes.....come on son! That's not how a man acts! They don't know how to be men because they have never seen how a man acts. Example: Expecting a woman to front 50% of the household bills, but provide 100% of the maintenance of the children, cooking, and cleaning. Where dey do dat at?!?!?!
No bank account: Shit, how you pay bills? How do you invest in your 401k? Oh, you don't have bills or investments...that's why. What grown azz man doesn't have a bank account? Maybe men who never have $4 in their pocket. Or men who have never had credit. Basically someone YOU are going to have to provide for and support.
THEN, if you do find a brotha that has it together, because we as a people are soooooo caught up on materialistic shit, he has no money because he spent it all on appearance. Condo, Benz, iPhone, gold, direct TV, 56inch flat screens in every room, ps3 in every room, buying bottles every weekend at the club, clothes for days, that fool don't have any money left over to take me to Captain D's.
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Even if you choose to date outside your race, these issues should concern you.
Men faced with these circumstances are more than likely going to succumb to selling drugs or other criminal activity. The prison population is increasing. We can't have millions and millions of black men with criminal records. They can't get jobs, so they just cycle through poverty on the streets and jail, over and over again. Don't think that moving away will help you not see it. Those wonderful Section 8 vouchers will let a woman move one of these fools right next door in your classy neighborhood. These men will have children that will also be failures. More and more black youth cycling through poverty and prison. When men are unable to support their families, that pushes more women to become dependant on government assistance (ie. your tax money).
FYI: since the prison population and crime is increasing, y'all might wanna invest in Corrections Corp. of America and VICEX





I've talked to a ton of black guys out here and they tell me within 5 seconds "You're what I want, I like white women?"I am genuinely curious, but nobody ever gives me a concise answer. It's usually "I just like dating white women" but they won't elaborate.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest





I dated briefly two Black women in when I was in the Army. Both wanted Men that treated them nice, talked to them nice, and appreciated them for all the little things they do as Women.
what I found from my limited experience ....... Black women are very conservative.
Speak politely, open doors, hold their hands, brings flowers......... the rewards are.....................well mind blowing.
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