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    Default Escort/Client Visiting Club - To Tell or Not to Tell?

    Hi! My name is Becky, I'm 22, and I'm a (pro-sex pro-female) escort working in Toronto.

    Many of my clients like to do dinner dates ending at back at the hotel, with a stop at the strip club in between. I always have a difficult time finding a girl who is willing to dance for a couple, and have to ask the waitress to send someone over for us. I always encourage clients to get at least 30 minutes with a dancer, and we never leave the club without spending at least $300 (hey, sex industry should support sex industry), usually much more.

    I do 2-3 strip club dates a month, and I'm starting if there's a better way to go about doing this. Tipping the waitress to send someone over doesn't let the client choose the dancer he'd prefer, so we're spending less time there than we could be. Also, most clients prefer a little bit of hustling chitchat before going back for dances. I have a favourite dancer that I will text if I know I'm going to be at her club, but she can't always be available and many clients prefer different strip clubs, etc.

    When we do find someone, she is usually dancing for me, rather than for the client. I'm certainly not uncomfortable with having someone dance for me (um, yes please!) but in this circumstance it's meant to be about the guy.

    So my question is two-fold... ought I to tell the dancer I am an escort? Would that change the nature of the dances? How can I do this subtly without making anyone feel uncomfortable? Stripping is tough work and I just want everyone to make as much as they possibly can, without weirding anyone out.

    Secondly, why don't more dancers approach couples? We're looking for an extended length of time (last time I went with a client we spent 4 hours and $2000+) and very low mileage. Is there something I can do without resorting to the waitress? Is there something I might be doing that discourages girls from approaching us? I don't think I look like an escort, aside from being significantly younger than my clients, and I'm usually relaxing, having a drink, and enjoying the stage show. There's never anything negative about my posture and I'm the first one to applaud something onstage.

    The problem is 230934753487x worse if it's me, a handful of clients, and another working girl or two.

    In advance, I really appreciate your taking the time to respond and help an exasperated hooker out!

    Becky


    PS. Mods: I'm not sure if this is meant to be here or in the Customer Section, if so please move my thread accordingly
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    Default Re: Escort/Client Visiting Club - To Tell or Not to Tell?

    I would tell the dancer.. but I would tell her quietly so it would not look akward on him.

    Make your client find a dancer he likes or has interest in, then go up to the girl or get the waitress to get her. Tell her you're both interested in getting dances from her but to focus on him because you two are not dating/he is a client of yours/thats your an escort of his. I would not care if you mentioned any of those to me. As I danced to actual couples and felt really weird where I also focused on the girl more than the guy, and could tell most of the females were shaky and uncomfortable even though I talked to her mostly and asked both of them questions it was still weird when I couldnt get the female comfy. If the female told me she was his escort or he was her client quietly to me, I wouldn't ask more and would not see it as a problem and focus more on the guy. Plus I live in toronto and was wondering which club do you go to particular? I know Zani and Fils seem to be good w/ couples entering, as for BrassR doesnt do well w/ couples

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    Um most dancers don't care what you do as long as you have money. They're there to make money.. not judge you on your job. I honestly don't know why this would even be a big deal. Y even mention you're an escort and I don't get the whole looking like an escort thing. I'm an escort thing and no one's ever came up to me and said "Hey, You look like an escort!" or "Hey are you an escort" Fact of the matter is alot of escorts don't "look" like escorts. I was a dancer before I became an escort and if a couple came in I wouldn't say "Hey I'm not going to take your money because you're an escort".. Lol I'm sure you get it now. Are you serious though? This is a bit puzzling to me. Only because a lot of my dates take place at a really nice restaurant THEN the hotel or client's home. I've had a few strip clubs dates but very few and have never ran into the problem you're having. ... Good luck!

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    Hi. First, I love your attitude about the sex industry helping the sex industry and whatnot. You sound so fun and positive! Haha.

    Anyway, I would not tell the dancer that you are an escort. Although you want to make it clear that the gentleman is not your boyfriend and MOST dancers will think nothing of you being an escort some may take it the wrong way or take that as a sign your gentleman is looking for extras from her. In my opinion there is no need to bring up the escort/client relationship when you may simply say, "oh no he's not my man it's his birthday/we're old friends/whatever give him your best stuff, woo hoo!". End of story, everyone wins.

    As far as girls approaching couples - generally couples are just at the club looking for a thrill or a naughty but cheap night out as opposed to being there to spend. To let the girls know that you mean business simply spend freely tip every girl well and be extra enthusiastic!

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    Default Re: Escort/Client Visiting Club - To Tell or Not to Tell?

    I used to work in one club where an escort use to come in with this guy like once a month, I used to love it , It was easy $$$$ me and the girl use to have fun getting the guy drunk and making him spend alot, she aid she use to dance tho.
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    I agree that saying you are an escort is too much info. The dancer does not need to know. Just stage tip well until you both agree on a dancer. Call her over and say something like "We both think you are gorgeous, will you please dance mostly for "clients name." I like to watch you dance for him."
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    I would go up to the dancer first. Ask the client if he likes a particular girl, then approach her. Say "Hey, my guy really likes your look and we'd love to spend money on you. Would you mind coming and talking to us first though?" or something to that effect. I don't think you being an escort is really relevant, is it? Just make it clear to her that she has an opportunity to make a lot of money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chanzep View Post
    I used to work in one club where an escort use to come in with this guy like once a month, I used to love it , It was easy $$$$ me and the girl use to have fun getting the guy drunk and making him spend alot, she aid she use to dance tho.
    Yes!

    I also used to dance for an escort and her men awhile ago (I believe she retired). I loved knowing she was an escort! I totally support the industry. I figured it was part of her routine to take the guys to the SC first to get them all riled up. She was very sweet, very respectful, and I enjoyed seeing her every time. She wouldn't try to take attention away from the dancers or anything.

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    Kisca: That makes a lot of sense, but I'm not sure how to do it quietly without him noticing? I'm a little shy and the clubs are loud! I know some girls that work at Zanzibar so I try to avoid it, but I find myself at Club Paradise and BR a lot, sometimes Spearmint Rhino if I'm at the airport.

    Malaya: By look like an escort, I mean look like the stereotype of an escort - in the most positive way possible. I was wondering if some girls might look down on our line of work (there's definitely sex work on sex worker animosity in Toronto) and therefore be avoiding the table? The sort of issues that Kat W addressed: that the girl might assume he would also want extras from her, etc.

    I get a lot of strip club dates because I actively encourage regular clients to take me to strip clubs. It makes my job easier, is a lot of fun, and earns other girls some money as well. Plus it makes for cute advertising and promotes duos with other SP partners.

    Kat W: I can't tip if no one approaches us! Perhaps we're not giving girls enough time to work their way around to us. Thanks for the tip on what to say though, that might be the perfect solution

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    Maybe women aren't approaching because of how you look? Beautiful women can be very intimidating. Or maybe the dancers don't want to intefere with what they perceive as a working girl's efforts. Like, they think you're trying to keep the guy's attention, and they don't want to take away from that? Maybe that's too far out in left field, but it's a possibility.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Yes!

    I also used to dance for an escort and her men awhile ago (I believe she retired). I loved knowing she was an escort! I totally support the industry. I figured it was part of her routine to take the guys to the SC first to get them all riled up. She was very sweet, very respectful, and I enjoyed seeing her every time. She wouldn't try to take attention away from the dancers or anything.
    You would not believe how easy stopping by the strip club makes my job. I freakin' love you girls! So far, it's been smoother when I've been able to convey I'm working than when I don't get the opportunity to do so.

    The girls here are beautiful, there's no way they're intimidated, and I'm paying way more attention to everyone except the client by that point. There's definitely no competition for attention; it's simply adding another sexy dimension to an interesting experience for someone ...so we can do it again and again.

    It's killing me that there are great repeaters in a club, willing to spend, with no one to spend it on. So far I've been way too shy to approach a gorgeous dancer and ask her to come talk to us, but I think you might be completely right. I guess I've gotta come out of my shell sometime...

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    Quote Originally Posted by beckatron View Post

    Malaya: By look like an escort, I mean look like the stereotype of an escort - in the most positive way possible. I was wondering if some girls might look down on our line of work (there's definitely sex work on sex worker animosity in Toronto) and therefore be avoiding the table? The sort of issues that Kat W addressed: that the girl might assume he would also want extras from her, etc.

    Ahhh gotcha! I was started to wonder how escorts in Toronto looked lol! A friend of mine is also an escort in Toronto and she has never mentioned anything like this to me so It's kinda surprising you'd have a hard time with this. Every time I go to the SC with my clients , Strippers flock to us and we usually just pick 5 to splurge on and I don't mention anything about being an escort ya know?

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    Default Re: Escort/Client Visiting Club - To Tell or Not to Tell?

    I'd say you don't need to tell the dancer your an escort, maybe if you become a regular customer of hers and know she's comfortable but saying it straight off might make her feel awkward or as you said start feeling animosity towards you. Also it might make your client feel self conscious if he overhears.

    It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, I know a lot of girls, especially newer ones feel uncomfortable or really shy approaching females or couples in a club. I'd say just try making eye contact and smiling at dancers you like, as Jenna suggested tip girls on stage, maybe get a bottle of Champagne on your table so the girls know you're spending money in the club.

    If all else fails I'll be in Toronto next year and dance for ya

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