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    Today, I hit a customer for the very first time. He deserved it, I hit him hard enough for him to whine like a little bitch, and it felt really good.

    An hour later, I bitched at a girl in the dressing room for spanking me in front of a customer. I don't like people touching me and she's not an exception.

    Last week I screamed at a man to get away from my stage because I didn't want to look at him (I has unpleasant encounters with him on previous visits.)

    These are probably things that a lot of you do or deal with on a frequent basis, but it's not for me. I usually kind of float through work, am friendly with everyone-- maybe a little over-friendly-- don't cause drama, just make my money and leave. But now I feel so aggravated all the time. I don't want to start shit but I'm so sick of bottling shit up and I feel ready to explode. I feel like I have exploded a little bit a few times this week.

    Do you think it's time I've hung up my heels? I'm getting started camming but it's not steady income yet. Or do you think it might just be a phase? (I'm not PMS'ing!!) Has anyone else gone through this? Did it pass or did you have to take action like find a new job?

    Also, does anyone know any relaxation techniques I can do at work? I don't like to drink because it fucks up my polework. . . .

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    Default Re: At a breaking point with dancing

    maybe you need a vacation? otherwise a new club doesn't sound like a bad idea; it'd be a nice change of scenery...

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    Default Re: At a breaking point with dancing

    Not sure if you have one, but sometimes working a "regular" job works for me. The $ sucks so bad i feel much better when I decide to go back to stripping.

    If not a vacation or change of clubs for awhile may be good.

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    don't start drinking at work; it will only make things worse. tyou will bottle things up longer, and your blow ups will be worse. ialcohol only masks the problem. Trust me, I speak from experience. I now no longer drink at work, & haven't in almost 6 months.

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    Sounds like a classic case of burnout. Anyway you can par down your shifts or take a break for a lil bit? I am a no drinkin dancer myself and can totally relate to the intolerance for bullshit that can come with it.

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    I wish I could take another break. Too bad I just came back from a two-month break two months ago. I felt great when I first started, was happier than ever. Then it just started to suck all over again. I guess I didn't really want to go back, I just needed to pay my bills.

    I think I'm really ready to quit dancing altogether. School starts up again in a month. . . . I guess that will be it. If camming doesn't work out I'll go work at walmart.

    Thanks for your responses. Wish me luck saving up some dough for the road!

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    you are burning out. it happen to me last year with camming. i had a mental break down.
    I just needed a vacation....and a list of expensive shit i wanted that i couldn't get from working at walmart. That shit fixed me up pretty quick.

    Give your brain a rest...and give yourself a treat. you are worth it and deserve it !!!

    If all else fails..get that vanilla job... your peace of mind comes first love!

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    Deja Vu's corporate office solved my dilemma. As of 2am tonight, my club is closed.

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    yeah i think you need a weekend away and do nothing but sit in the sun and drink cocktails.... it worked for me in the short run. a few months later i changed clubs and that fixed everything for goood

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    eh, i think i'm done dancing for good. the only thing keeping me going what the pole dancing is such an awesome strength workout.

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    Default Re: At a breaking point with dancing

    Take pole classes, teach, or start booking to perform for night clubs like a go-go dancer or for special parties.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SpeakngEZ View Post
    Deja Vu's corporate office solved my dilemma. As of 2am tonight, my club is closed.
    Sometimes that's how the universe works. I wish you well in your future endeavors, be it dancing or whatever else you may choose.

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    Default Re: At a breaking point with dancing

    This happened to me as well... it turned out club dancing wasn't for me and now I realize that. Maybe your club closing is a sign? There are many other things in the adult industry that pay as well and perhaps aren't as stressful.

    I second not drinking... I had a friend who drank patron at work to ease her stress and she blew up on several people, and got into two fist fights, broke a mirror and has been kicked out of multiple clubs.

    Also, go-go dancing is a good, low stress way to work out, maybe earn some money, and fill that need to dance. You can also branch out of that into fire twirling and contact juggling!

    You could try dancing at parties... that way you'd be paid up front. That may have been where your stress came from... it was a huge part of my stress from dancing! Never knowing if I'd be tipped or sell dances, and working 8 hours to make little to nothing is very tiring. Some areas are a little more high contact than others with PP's so I'd check into it before jumping in headfirst.

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