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    So a few weeks ago, like 4 (a month into my dancing career), I accidentally upset a girl who was sitting with a guy that normally comes in to see EVERYONE and just kind of hangs at the bar. He never buys dances or VIP with ANYONE. He is know as "Just B*" among many of the girls. Anyway, thinking it was no big deal, it was slow I was bored I walked over to say hi while she was sitting there kind of with him but not really talking to him...Anyway, my bad, but now EVEN after apologizing, she and her lil groupies HATE me and have stooped to throwing food and screaming rude shit at me across the club when the manager isn't there. I NEED this job. My daughter has dental bills and my sons need new beds (theirs were recalled) I can't walk away, it is the safest club around, but they make me miserable and management has made it clear that since she makes mor emoney than I do they won't address the issue. Should I confront her or just ignore everyone? Thanks for any advice.

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    Default Re: Should I try to resolve or just ignore?

    If I were you, I would simply ask her. "Do you have a problem with me?" And, respond to whatever she says, but explain that you're Sorry. Then, I would squash it. If she wants to hate you over that. Then whatever. Maybe you could switch shifts? Or clubs if it gets too outta cpntrol.
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    Throwing food? What is she, ten?

    If confronting her does not work then I'd suggest going along with your own business, make your money, and go home. That or make more money then her so management is gained on your side.

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    Default Re: Should I try to resolve or just ignore?

    Talk to a manager, or get good at dodging food.

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    Try apologizing again. If the manager refuses to take care of it you could move clubs or threaten to file a restraining order if the manager won't take care of it. Do you have the option to work opposite shifts?
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    Default Re: Should I try to resolve or just ignore?

    If the manager won't help you resolve the issue, then why stay when you have to put up with all that? If I were you, I would look at switching places to work. Otherwise, try to talk to her reasonably and apologize and explain you are "new at this" and it won't happen again, blah blah blah. She is over-reacting and being childish.
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    Yeah what the hell wrong with this girls head? Throwing food? And I dont get it, he is not her customer, he does not buy VIPS. I dont see the big deal.

    I dont know what to tell you, she seems crazy. I personally would not talk to her. I would keep my head high, look at them like their nothing to me, that I am there to make money and they can fuck off. This usually works for me and people back off and forget.

    If the management is not helping you, I would try switching shifts, talk to the management again. If it gets back for your mental health, I would switch clubs.

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    How long have you worked at this club? Start documenting EVERY incident. Since you've already talked to the manager and he refuses to do something about it, you may be able to file a worker's comp suit against the club. Hopefully you can find a better place to work in the process but by all means, looking into suing for harassment.

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    Thank you everyone for the advice. I am going to do my best to document it and just hang in there.

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    I would ask her if she has a problem,simply that in a polite/passive aggressive way. Or you can probably scare the bitch off,girls who throw food DON'T mean business,if I were id bump her ass really hard on the way into the dressing room,then say the "oh I was wondering,is there a problem?" Sometimes these girls just want you to acknowledge their asses then they'll beat it.
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    I say kill her with kindness. This girl is crazy, but that is actually a good thing. Crazy girls are the easiest to win over. When you apologize say something like, "I have always liked your style," or "you makeup looks awesome tonight btw."
    Tell her is was a mistake and you really want to get past it.

    Smile at her when you see her in the club. If she is not an extras girl, then pull her in when you need another girl to go to vip.

    I have had girls wanting to fight me, and then hugging me in the same day. Girls that absolutely hated me, now pull me into vip. Complements go a long way.

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    ^^ I agree with everyone here, diplomacy is the best way and you keep your dignity as well.

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