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    I work in Australia, have been living there for 10 years with citizenship and have a slight Hungarian accent.

    The question that ruins my mood instantly is where am i from. I firstly believe it is just about as rude and forward as asking someone how old they are.

    Secondly these were the only answers to that:

    -Oh you from Hungary? are you hungry? HAHAHAHA
    -Is that still part of Austria? In what part of your identity do you feel austrian?
    -Thats near Russia right? -for the rest of the conversation he proceeds to associate me with everything russian and attempt to speak russian to me etc-

    The last one is what bothers me the most. when i hear the question i almost want to run the other way.
    it seems to people here russian and hungarian are the same thing when its a big insult really. its like talking in chinese to a japanese person.

    There hasnt been a day when i havent gotten asked this and a stupid response delivered straight away.

    Why do people need to know where im from???

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    I had a dancer say to me once, "where are you from I love your accent", I said Oklahoma.

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    Quote Originally Posted by bigmarv View Post
    I had a dancer say to me once, "where are you from I love your accent", I said Oklahoma.
    That was too cute!

    lol, I've had guys tell me I have an accent too before, and I'm from Phoenix!

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    That was too cute!

    lol, I've had guys tell me I have an accent too before, and I'm from Phoenix!
    I once met a dancer at a club in Tucson who was from Thailand who had a great accent and communication was a little difficult because she couldn't speak very good English, but really enjoyed spending time with her buying dances and drinks.

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    its good i guess once to get the conversation going and talk about travel etc but i guess when thats the first thing soneone asks u once u open your mouth its annoying. and my accent isnt even strong

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    Ppl are so fucking stupid. But as far as "where you from", I find that question to be innocous enough. As long as they aren't idiots about a response. I'm actually from Ukraine, and at least 50% of the men who I've told, after being asked, had no idea what that even was. These were all Southern USA guys.

    Dumbasses, set them straight next time anouk!

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    Jerks are jerks. It doesn't matter how, they will just find something to annoy you with. That's why they are jerks.

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    Aren't these generic, ice-breaking types of questions standard fare at stripclubs? I mean, when you're meeting someone for the first (and possibly last) time, what other kinds of topics should we bring up....the weather?

    This seems like an inncoent enough question. But then again....in my job I'm not asked it 50 times a day .

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    ^ it comes off as that sometimes but i dont understand why people need to know if they are not from eastern europe. at my club theres a lot of suits who like to flaunt their intelligence [or lack of]. i had one ask me last night about it and kept trying to get me to say australia is better than hungary. of course it is thats why i am here and have citizenship. i dont like how they try to bully out a culturally demeaning reference from someone. maybe im too sensitive but i find it ignorant and borderline racist. unless they are well travelled gentlemen who dont confuse their french alps with the himalayas.

    from tomorrow onwards, im gonna be swedish!

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    lots of timebreaking questions like do you come here often where else you worked, commenting on their or our attire, their work, my study....... i dont sit down and ask them if theyre married.. its an innocent question also but its too personal and rude, unless they choose to talk about it themselves first. not open my mouth and the first question is where im from. its like wondering up to someone in the bar asking if theyre old enough to be there.

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    It is annoying but i recognize it as just small talk especially since i work in a tourist city. To me, even worse than that is "whats your story?" when i get annoying questions I just turn them around on the customer

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    questions like that are either to feel important/smart (they want to impress you with their intelligence and worldliness) or to figure out how dirty you are.

    i ask customers where they're from for the same reasons. to show off (which is bad, because they don't want dances from smart girls, duh) or to figure out if they're from a place where there's low contact and money being spent or 5$ handjobs (which i find to be an accurate predictor of what i can hope to get). even works with foreign guys. if he's from a place with legal prostitution, the idea of a lapdance will give him a good chuckle, especially if he's only here on a trip, rather than a resident.

    swedish is good. they don't know the difference anyways. and if they do, they associate sweden with everything sexy.

    i think hungarians tend to be quite hawt, btw.
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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    What would you like people to talk about? If being asked where you are from, or what your name is upsets you, what is a safe topic? These kinds of questions are pretty standard icebreakers. I think the vast majority of people ask them innocently enough. And if you do have an accent of some kind, asking where you are from is an obvious question. As long as the guy isn't being aggressive or rude about it, I don't see the problem.

    Yeah, most people are fairly ignorant about geography, but I don't think their ignorance is in any way malicious. If they are a racist asshole, yeah, that's a problem, but otherwise I think I'd use that to continue the conversation rather than getting offended. People find accents sexy, play it to your advantage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    What would you like people to talk about? If being asked where you are from, or what your name is upsets you, what is a safe topic? These kinds of questions are pretty standard icebreakers. I think the vast majority of people ask them innocently enough. And if you do have an accent of some kind, asking where you are from is an obvious question. As long as the guy isn't being aggressive or rude about it, I don't see the problem.

    Yeah, most people are fairly ignorant about geography, but I don't think their ignorance is in any way malicious. If they are a racist asshole, yeah, that's a problem, but otherwise I think I'd use that to continue the conversation rather than getting offended. People find accents sexy, play it to your advantage.
    I personally find accents to be very sexy, guess that's why I sometimes spend a little more than my allotted funds for the night. But it's usually $$$ well spent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bigmarv View Post
    I had a dancer say to me once, "where are you from I love your accent", I said Oklahoma.



    ya , u cud just lie
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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    In a nice way please educate them.

    You'll make more money telling them something they didn't know.

    And yes I've seen a drunk dancer show offer her domo arigato to some Chinese and Korean businessmen.

    Very sad.




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    I hear you. I am myself from Estonia. But when they ask me where i am from i say Russia because Americans dont know where Estonia is and since i speak Russian i just say i am from Moscow. Even i am from Europe not Russia, its such a big cultural difference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monicabi View Post
    I hear you. I am myself from Estonia. But when they ask me where i am from i say Russia because Americans dont know where Estonia is and since i speak Russian i just say i am from Moscow. Even i am from Europe not Russia, its such a big cultural difference.

    that's not fair. i'm american and i do know where estonia is.

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    Ya...but you're a girl. ^^^


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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhonda View Post
    ya , u cud just lie
    Why lie?

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    Quote Originally Posted by monicabi View Post
    I hear you. I am myself from Estonia. But when they ask me where i am from i say Russia because Americans dont know where Estonia is and since i speak Russian i just say i am from Moscow. Even i am from Europe not Russia, its such a big cultural difference.
    I routinely club in Queens, where the clubs are full of girls that speak Russian. I have met girls from many of the former Soviet states and I appreciate it when they spend a couple of minutes talking about where they are from and their cultures.

    If you get worked up about something as simple as where you are from, then IMO it will be tough to find something that I can talk about with you (not that I would want to if you have a bad reaction or if I think you are lying).

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    I work in Oklahoma and when guys learn i am from Russia they reacting like i told them that I am from Mars. Some start screaming out load "hey she is from Russia!!!!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    Ya...but you're a girl. ^^^


    and? sorry, just not sure how being a girl would determine whether i know my geography or not.

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    Default Re: Why ask "Where are you from?"

    I don't get threads like this, "why ask this and that". We ask because we gotta talk about SOMETHING.

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    I am black/white. A lot of custys ask "Where I am from?". A lot of custys guess puerto rican or filipino. I just say guess? And, they'll say,"Puerto Rican," I love latinas. I use my exotic looks to my advantage. I play up whatever "fantasy" they have. I don't think it's always offensive. To ask if you are curious.
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