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    Default First time sugar daddy advice, anyone?

    Hey

    I've been lurking around this amazing community for a few days, and I feel like I know you all already! I'm hoping to get a little advice from some wiser people than me, if anyone has a minute.

    I'm thinking pretty seriously about getting into a SD/SB relationship with a guy I know only from the internet -- to be honest, I answered an ad of his on Craigslist. Which is creepy, I know. But he's well spoken and sounds like a great guy so far. He's divorced with a couple daughters in college.

    We've been emailing back and forth for a few days, and so far I genuinely like him. He's quite a bit older than me, but that doesn't bother me, and he's not bad looking. He's offering $1-2,000/month plus various presents (cash and otherwise) for two evenings a week dinner and "intimacy", depending on our schedules. From what I'm reading on the threads I could find here, this is a little low -- but it's a lot of money for me. So I'm thinking I'm willing to go for it and see how this thing goes.

    What's bothering me is that he wants to pick me up in his car and take me to his house right away. He's not overly insistent on it so far, but he's not picking up on my hints that I'd rather meet him somewhere public, either. There's no way in hell I'm getting into a car with some stranger from the web without meeting him first, but is there a good way to be insistent without being rude? And should this be setting off alarm bells, or is it pretty typical behavior?

    And do you think I should hold out for a bigger allowance? I'm listed on a website specializing in these relationships as well, and have a couple promising responses there, too. When I mentioned that my cel phone was broken, he immediately offered to buy me a new one without having even met me, so that sounds good...but I need to know if this sounds like a good idea to the more experienced women here.

    Any other thoughts or advice are much, much appreciated as well! Thank you for making up such a fabulous, and needed, site.

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    There's a thread here on SW about the SB/SD relationships. From what you are describing I would be leary.

    Even if you don't plan to have sex with him don't think you can't end up in legal trouble. Vice place ads on places like CL & BP to catch girls as well as setting up fake profiles on other sites meant for SB/SD.

    I'd suggest you research him HEAVILY. Don't discuss money or gifts. If it is vice discussing money or gifts in exchange for time can lead you into trouble for escorting without a license (aka social escorting).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mollytov View Post
    Hey

    I've been lurking around this amazing community for a few days, and I feel like I know you all already! I'm hoping to get a little advice from some wiser people than me, if anyone has a minute.

    I'm thinking pretty seriously about getting into a SD/SB relationship with a guy I know only from the internet -- to be honest, I answered an ad of his on Craigslist. Which is creepy, I know. But he's well spoken and sounds like a great guy so far. He's divorced with a couple daughters in college.

    We've been emailing back and forth for a few days, and so far I genuinely like him. He's quite a bit older than me, but that doesn't bother me, and he's not bad looking. He's offering $1-2,000/month plus various presents (cash and otherwise) for two evenings a week dinner and "intimacy", depending on our schedules. From what I'm reading on the threads I could find here, this is a little low -- but it's a lot of money for me. So I'm thinking I'm willing to go for it and see how this thing goes.

    What's bothering me is that he wants to pick me up in his car and take me to his house right away. He's not overly insistent on it so far, but he's not picking up on my hints that I'd rather meet him somewhere public, either. There's no way in hell I'm getting into a car with some stranger from the web without meeting him first, but is there a good way to be insistent without being rude? And should this be setting off alarm bells, or is it pretty typical behavior?

    And do you think I should hold out for a bigger allowance? I'm listed on a website specializing in these relationships as well, and have a couple promising responses there, too. When I mentioned that my cel phone was broken, he immediately offered to buy me a new one without having even met me, so that sounds good...but I need to know if this sounds like a good idea to the more experienced women here.

    Any other thoughts or advice are much, much appreciated as well! Thank you for making up such a fabulous, and needed, site.

    Sounds like a red flag to me. If he was really classy and wealthy he'd be offering to take you out to dinner, not straight to his house. Also, once you give up sex, he has no reason to keep paying you and you could make a hell of a lot more than 1-2k a month if you're gonna sleep with someone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kyleigh1984 View Post
    Sounds like a red flag to me. If he was really classy and wealthy he'd be offering to take you out to dinner, not straight to his house. Also, once you give up sex, he has no reason to keep paying you and you could make a hell of a lot more than 1-2k a month if you're gonna sleep with someone.
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    Default Re: First time sugar daddy advice, anyone?

    Even though I have zero credibility from posts, I am going to go ahead and give my thoughts on the proposed arrangement. Take my opinion for what you feel it is worth.

    First, do not go be picked up in his car and be taken to his place for dinner. It may actually be safe but do not put yourself in the position of having your path to safety dependent upon the individual that would be causing you to be uncomfortable and flee. You need to meet in public and proceed from there once you feel comfortable. But with your OWN transportation.

    Second, the proposed compensation is not only too low, but too vague. 1-2,000 per month for possibly TWO meetings per week? Even if it was the 2,000 that would work out to only 250 per visit if meeting twice per week. Maybe once per week for that amount; which would work out to 500 per visit but even then some of the ladies here would still consider that too low. But at least it is more reasonable. But, as stated he is being too vague. He needs to be more precise on how he is willing to compensate you. "Various presents, cash and otherwise" needs to be in addition to what he pays you for your arranged meetings. He needs to realize that for you, time is money.

    Do not let him dictate meeting terms to the point that you feel uncomfortable or you risk your safety. While he has the money, you have the power here and no amount of money is worth your safety. Once in his car, how would you really know where he is taking you? If you want to leave after a few hours and he wants you to stay and "go another round" after his recovery time is over, then what??? If the meeting didn't go well, would you really want to depend on him for a ride back? You said you had other offers, follow up on THEM.

    I normally don't comment on posts but felt compelled to do so as this seemed so unreasonable and unsafe. Just been lurking (too long!) but learning also ! No, not a slow learner, just hesitant to post as sometimes men's opinions on here are not too welcomed. I have exchanged PMs with multiple members that seemed well received so figured it wouldn't do any harm in posting my opinion, at least on this situation.

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    Default Re: First time sugar daddy advice, anyone?

    Thank you all for the replies!

    I appreciate the concern for my safety. Definitely no way I would get into a car with a stranger for any amount of money; I'm not *that* crazy.

    The warning about vice posting ads has me a bit worried, I didn't know they did that. So thanks for that tip, yikes. I'll keep my mouth shut.

    Gonna let this ride for a day or so and put some more thought into it, and talk to the other guys.

    Thanks again. <3

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    Hey Mollytov - I have no real advice, but did want to say that you have an awesome user name!

    I had a phone convo with a potential sugar daddy yesterday. We set up a meeting, but I'm going to cancel. Why? He wants me to meet him in a hotel bar in San Francisco wearing a suit with stockings, garter, no panties and no bra. So he can "check me out".

    I was distracted on the phone, but as soon as I hung up I had this "wait, what did I just agree to? Um, no!" reaction.

    There are awesome sugar daddies out there, this guy isn't one of them.

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    Taylorgrrl --

    Yuck! That guy sounds awful. I'm glad you ditched him.

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    Yeah, me too. I had visions of me decking him in the hotel lobby.

    I'm all for the discreet sex play with in public. But not on the first date!

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