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    Crossfingers how to make him sweat? help?

    Ok. So I'm 19 and a I'm still a virgin. I always told myself i would wait for someone I can actually see myself with for the rest of my life. I have found that person. I'm falling in love with him and he totally showed up in my life unexpectedly. We can talk about ANYTHING comfortably without being embarrassed about whatever the topic is. Whenever I talk to him I get this rush of feelings that I have never felt before with other guys. He's simply amazing. I must sound like a freshman saying thin but I get major butterflies when I talk to him.

    It's going to be my first time but not his. I know everyone says your first time WILL suck and it will get better and all but I want it to be amazing. We joke around a lot and turn each other on and I have no problem doing that but when he was joking he said "I have high expectations from you"
    "make me sweat". I played a long with it but the problem is I have zero experience in that category. I mean, I have had other boyfriends but I just wasn't feeling it to much with them. I know he was just joking but I still want to make him sweat.
    So can you ladies give me any pointers,tricks,helpful advice etc?

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    Be enthusiastic and keep your hips in rhythm. Don't worry about weird specific stuff out of Cosmo ads, like putting the condom on with your mouth or anything involving props/toys. That'll just be awkward for both of you if you try to put on a slut show during your first time. After you get into the swing of things you can experiment but for your first time keep it simple and focus on enjoying yourself. If you are really into it, then he will be really turned on just from being with you. If you seem bored, scared, awkward, etc, then he will be turned off. How to make him sweat? Sweat yourself.

    Good luck!

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    ^^^Agree with AnnaBanana

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    I agree with Anna also. Wait if you can. I lost mine at 18 also with my first love. I wish I had waited. By the way, Anna I would love to requote the quote you wrote. It's perfect!

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    He shouldn't be looking for you to impress him ... instead he should be patient and gentle and understanding and work with you.

    But I'd wait anyways. Good luck!

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    I agree with Anna but for another reason. If he loves you he would understand that its your first time and therefore it might not be all hot for you. That is going to be a little scary and kinda a big deal. He wouldn't say "make me sweat" and "i Have high expectations". I know you love this guy and he was joking but he sounds like something a horny sleaze. I would expect him to be a little more sensitive on the subject if was me.

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    I agree with Jessie, but I don't know the situation. If you REALLY think he was just joking, then just go with it. Sometimes being naive can be sexy too. He will get to guide you and that will feel all macho and sexy to him.

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    The first time can be really awkward, but so can all the other times after that. I think one thing people fail to mention is that you will not have great sexual chemistry with every partner you ever have (assuming you will eventually have sex with more than just one person). Dick size, thickness, body structure, facial appearance, smell, taste, etc. all play into it but they don't "make" the experience. It all boils down to how well you 'click' sexually with that one person, and having varied tastes in what is sexy typically shouldn't be the end all be all of sex.

    You should expect some mild to moderate discomfort and light bleeding (assuming your hymen is still intact) and the pain can be lessened with lubricant. Use a water based lubricant with condoms so you don't dissolve the latex. I suggest Sex Grease brand. It's $10.00 US and is worth the money, doesn't stain, lasts long, isn't scented. You may or may not have used scented lubricants before for masturbation with a dildo or vibrator, but if you haven't you should know they can sting nicks and cuts down there if you shave. An unscented, non staining, water based lubricant like sex grease is good for your first time IMO and based on personal experience.

    The best way to have good sex is to get in tune with your needs and wants sexually. What do you fantasize about? Touch yourself down there... what feels good? Do you like rough touching, soft touching? Basic missionary or doggy style positions is all you should be doing your first time. Keep it simple.

    If you are nervous about performing oral sex take a breath. Ask him to be freshly showered and neat down there for you. Try to avoid hitting his penis with your teeth and just suck and lick slowly at first. You don't need to deep throat and do a cum shot your first time. Ask him what feels good, and laugh if you do something silly--because I sure do even to this day!

    I think the most important thing is to have a sense of humor. Your vagina may make funny noises, you may feel some discomfort, funny faces and noises may be made, but that's OK! It's all part of sex. I've headbutted people, clashed teeth, scraped them with my teeth, went down the wrong way on their dick, had my cervix bashed in, had my ass get shit on a guys dick, bitten them too hard, had my hair pulled uncomfortably, farted, snorted, drooled, cried, laughed, been silent, said stupid shit. It's all part of the game.

    If you worry about making perfect you'll never relax! Sex is NOT like the movies. The candles aren't lit, the sheets aren't perfectly pulled back, you don't roll around in perfect rhythm and collapse in a heat of sweaty orgasm bliss every time. Shit, you might never have an orgasm from vaginal sex alone. You just don't know until you're there.

    Oh, and I would recommend waiting. I wish I had, truthfully.

    I hope this helps!
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    Oh, and in regards to specifically "making him sweat". I've never made a man drip sweat based solely on my performance alone. Sweating takes place from physical activity. If you really want to make him sweat then make him do some work. Be lazy and lay on your back and start moaning about how you want him to go hard and fast. If you tug down gently on his balls if you feel he's about to climax (which can be difficult depending on position and you must also be able to sense when he is about to climax--which can take time) it will keep him from orgasming as quickly.

    Your first time probably won't be some forty-five minute fuck fest. I think I can count on one hand the amount of times I've ever had sex longer than twenty minutes straight. I've had sex, he came, and started again a few minutes later--but on average sex lasts anywhere from 5-10 minutes for me. I'm fine with it that way. Everyone is different, and Cosmo is a bad place to start if you are looking for sex advice. They over exaggerate things and their explanations of "new tricks" never make sense, even to me... and I've been around the block.
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    Hmmm...I guess I'm the odd one out here. I think if you feel ready, 19 is fine. I lost mine at 17(almost 1 and am totally fine with it. Also, my first time was awesome!

    I think his comment/joke is stupid, but that's about it. Just talk to him beforehand and be honest with him about your thoughts. If you're comfy enough with him to fuck him as your first, then you should be comfy enough to talk to him about your thoughts surrounding the whole thing.

    Relax, enjoy, and don't worry too much about what is "supposed" to happen (good or bad). The more you get in your head with concerns, the more likely it is that the first time will suck.

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