Results 1 to 16 of 16

Thread: Dancer asked for my number

  1. #1
    Curious Guest
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Dancer asked for my number

    I've been seeing this dancer about 2 to 3 times a month for 6 months.
    I spend between 60 to 100 on her and she gets 40 to 60 after she pays what she owes the club.We're attracted to each other on a physical level and we have great conversation.She's told me that she feels safe with me and that she can talk to me about anything.

    She asked me for my number 2 weeks ago.
    I gave her my number and email but i have'nt heard from her.

    Is this girl playing me?

    Should i ask her why she has'nt called the next time i see her or should i just play it cool and let her come to me.

  2. #2
    SpeakngEZ
    Guest

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    With a really good, consistent customer like you, I ask for his email (phone number, in your case) so I can keep in contact with him. Getting a message from a me when I haven't seen him in a while is sometimes necessary to remind a customer that I exist. They usually show up again within the week.

    Sometimes, I girl gets a customer's contact information to arrange and OTC event. DO NOT assume that she intends to go out with you for free. Discuss what she expects for compensation with her before you go out.

  3. #3
    God/dess Kylea2's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Denver & San Fran
    Posts
    6,907
    Thanks
    181
    Thanked 2,002 Times in 1,285 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Personally the only reason I ask for contact information is when I'm going to e-mail the customer something work related. I'd ask her about it next time you are in & see what her response is.
    Don't you ever sleep?
    Not at night...that's when the stars have rather better things to do. They're coming out, shining, that sort of thing.
    - Blog -
    My PM box fills up quick. If you have a question please with your username.
    Congrats to Pryce on doing some much needed tending in his garden!
    - -


  4. #4
    SpeakngEZ
    Guest

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    BTW, there are many threads on this already. You can do a search for keywords "dancer", "phone number", and maybe "OTC".

  5. #5
    Veteran Member You Know Me's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    315
    Thanks
    85
    Thanked 74 Times in 51 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    If she has never offered her number....and dont ask for it....then forget about it.
    If she does offer you her number well that is a whole other thread and most of the time it is just so you can contact her to spend more money.
    A woman, if she so chooses, can give you everything but her heart. Without her heart she is giving you nothing.
    Yoda57us

  6. #6
    God/dess
    Joined
    Mar 2009
    Posts
    3,142
    Thanks
    1,158
    Thanked 1,112 Times in 673 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike71 View Post
    Is this girl playing me?

    Should i ask her why she has'nt called the next time i see her or should i just play it cool and let her come to me.
    No, you'll appear pathetic. Just play it cool.

    She isn't likely to call you, unless she switches clubs or changes hours, etc. and needs to alert you and all her other regulars.

    If you absolutely must ask her,... take this approach - make up a fictional dancer from another SC. Then ask your dancer (the real one) - "Hey, how come you don't ever call me like so-and-so (the fake one). If she (the fake one) doesn't see me for a week, she always calls to say she misses me and invite me back to the club." Dancers are very competitive and this will make your dancer (the real one) feel that she's going to lose you, unless she starts calling, like the other dancer (the fake one). Then, don't go back to see her until she calls you.

    I'm not saying this will get you laid (chances are 99% that you're just a customer to her and not a romantic interest)... just saying you have a better chance of her calling if you take this approach.
    Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
    - Oscar Wilde

  7. #7
    God/dess rickdugan's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2010
    Location
    NYC
    Posts
    4,570
    Thanks
    4,406
    Thanked 7,481 Times in 2,715 Posts
    My Mood
    Amused

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    LOL. This brings me back some I sense some emotional, and potentially financial, tuition about to be payed.

    If she hasn't called or texted then her purpose in taking your number is probably to keep it for potential future use. If you disappear from the club for a few weeks, don't be surprised if you get a text from her letting you know that she misses you, needs to see your face, etc.

    And is she playing you? Probably, at least from the limited fact pattern you've presented. But hooking you in and keeping you spending is her job, so don't take it personally. She has to pay her bills like anyone else. And remember that you have enjoyed her company, so it is not as if you have taken nothing from it.

    You may actually be a great guy who the girl would normally be attracted to if she met you someplace else, but once you walked into the club you became a "customer" and it is rare that it translates into anything IRL.

    Good luck, play it cool and don't do anything too stupid - lol.

  8. #8
    Featured Member lopaw's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Location
    Los Angeles
    Posts
    1,535
    Thanks
    222
    Thanked 967 Times in 481 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Seriously....why isn't this topic a sticky?

    Oh never mind....it wouldn't matter, since it will still be asked ad nauseum regardless.

  9. #9
    God/dess hockeybobby's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    4,969
    Thanks
    1,811
    Thanked 597 Times in 382 Posts
    Blog Entries
    1

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Many of the customers on this site have at one time asked the question: "does she like me?"

    No shame buddy....no shame.

  10. #10
    God/dess princessjas's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    2,520
    Thanks
    348
    Thanked 878 Times in 506 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    You may actually be a great guy who the girl would normally be attracted to if she met you someplace else, but once you walked into the club you became a "customer" and it is rare that it translates into anything IRL.

    Good luck, play it cool and don't do anything too stupid - lol.
    Exactly!! Men seem to have a hard time realizing this. Most of us have no issue dating SC customers, as long as they aren't OUR customers. Even if I met a super guy that would have been perfect for me ITC I never would have realized it because they were automatically put in the customer file in my brain and their personalities were only examined enough to find out how to please them and keep them spending.

    Also, many customers don't realize they probably wouldn't like us nearly as well OTC, you often get the stripper personality, not the real girl. Heck, if I would have met my current ITC I'm sure he would have taken a pass, because I played Domme most of the time, while I'm actually a sub.

    (Now, why in the hell did I waste my time answering this question yet again? Damn, this insomnia is scrambling my brain. )
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to princessjas For This Useful Post:

    MOP

  12. #11
    Veteran Member bigmarv's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    USA
    Posts
    379
    Thanks
    44
    Thanked 35 Times in 25 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Quote Originally Posted by Mike71 View Post
    I've been seeing this dancer about 2 to 3 times a month for 6 months.
    I spend between 60 to 100 on her and she gets 40 to 60 after she pays what she owes the club.We're attracted to each other on a physical level and we have great conversation.She's told me that she feels safe with me and that she can talk to me about anything.

    She asked me for my number 2 weeks ago.
    I gave her my number and email but i have'nt heard from her.

    Is this girl playing me?

    Should i ask her why she has'nt called the next time i see her or should i just play it cool and let her come to me.
    If your still seeing her consistently 2 - 3 times a month there may be no need for her to call you. It happens, I've given my number out to several different dancers over the years. Some will call weekly, some will call monthly and some will never call. Just go into your local club and enjoy your time there.

  13. #12
    Curious Guest
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Thanks everybody for your advice and tips for dealing with my situation with this girl.

    I'll give a little more info on this girl tomorrow night so you'll get a better idea of where i'm coming from.

  14. #13
    Senior Member PeachyQueen's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Hot-lanta!
    Posts
    135
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 17 Times in 8 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Ya know, this really depends on the girl... I exchanged numbers with a guy from the club just the other night because we clicked and I could actually see him as a friend. Each situation is different with each dancer/club customer... I would ask her honestly why she asked for your number. Because it could mean one of several things and it does you no good by just wondering!

  15. #14
    SpeakngEZ
    Guest

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    As a side note, I don't understand using the word "playing" for the case that she got the number for business.

    I got countless numbers from customers when I was selling appliances so that I could call and discuss their items. That would never have been considered "playing." Why is this different? And don't say because of the strip club dynamic, normal sales women can flirt with their customers just as much or MORE with their customers to make a sale.

  16. #15
    Curious Guest
    Joined
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    4
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    This question is mainly directed towards the women.

    Should i ask her why she has'nt called me or should i just play it cool and let her come to me?

    I think if you ask for the guys number then you should plan on calling him.
    If your doing it for business purposes then your only going to piss the guy off by leading him on.

    Just be honest girls and the guy will reward you for it.

  17. #16
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Location
    North Carolina
    Posts
    449
    Thanks
    165
    Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Re: Dancer asked for my number

    Yes, she's playing you, she is a saleswoman and you are her customer. And you're playing her, otherwise you'd just tell her straight-up what you want from her. A small chance this may be the start of a mediocre but typical relationship. If you do ask her out, it's a polite touch to add "but please don't feel like if you say no I'll stop being your customer". A lot of dancers say that when a regular asks them out, they usually lose him as a customer soon after, so try to make their job a little less stressful.

    Dancers do and say a lot of weird-ass stuff I will never understand. I just try to show my appreciation for the wonderful service they provide to us, even though the job is often very hard on their personal life.

Similar Threads

  1. Dancer Keeps Asking me for my number
    By ILikeHamSammichs in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 25
    Last Post: 03-16-2012, 07:17 PM
  2. Another dancer asked my customer to shag her
    By Jessie_tinydancer in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 08-07-2010, 09:59 PM
  3. How often are you asked for your phone number?
    By Phil-W in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 56
    Last Post: 06-05-2006, 10:52 PM
  4. Dancer Asked For My #, What Does It Mean?
    By dr pepper in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 31
    Last Post: 01-14-2006, 07:45 PM
  5. weirdest thing a dancer has asked you
    By bluexcan in forum Shop Talk
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 10-04-2005, 02:26 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •