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    Hello all I have a question for the ladies here. Everyone wants to be recognised for an outstanding job that beeing said what is the best way to show a dancer that you truely appreciate the way she goes about her job? (please don't say money). The club (and only club) that I attend about once every few months has a dancer that is a wonderfull entertainer, conversationalist and knows exactly what I like in a dance. I don't have very much experiance with clubs or dancers and would rather not come off like some creep.

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    Sorry honey but the answer is money. We do this job because we have bills to pay. You want to truly show your appreciation? Tip your ATF VERY well.
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    This is the dumbest question ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shasta View Post
    This is the dumbest question ever.
    Really?! Thanks for such an articulate and well thought out response.

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    Assuming you are tipping well (because the only reason 99% of dancers work is to earn a living)......

    Realize that she is an entertainer and compliment her accordingly. If she's good at conversation, tell her; if she's good company tell her.

    But don't get personal. Most dancers get heartily sick of being told they've got a great p*ssy. And don't ask to see her outside of work 99% because of the time it's not going to happen - despite what she tells you at the time.

    Best way to treat a dancer?

    Exactly the same as you would every other woman you meet. You'll be amazed how much dancers like being treated as a normal person and not a marionette who gets her kit off to order.

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    This has been asked before -

    All professionals love referrals, so refer every guy you know to her - your dad, son, brother, nephew, co-workers, neighbors, friends from church, etc.

    Tell them she is ABSOLUTELY THE VERY BEST stripper in the world and they must buy VIP time from her.

    If she makes a lot of money from your referrals, she'll be very appreciative.
    Make sure they mention you referred them.
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    I can pick up what you're putting down here. You really want to make her day? Buy her a gold bar. Nothing says appreciation like bullion.
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    Money really is the best answer.

    Other than that, maybe a gift certificate to the local stripper store.
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    Get a card that sums it up or just write what you want. End it with something like I hope you have a fantastic night. Put the exact amount of money in it that you would spend on her in a night. Go in-when she comes to see ya. Give her a hug tell her you appreciate her give her the card and LEAVE.

    Doing something for someone without asking for anything in return is showing appreciation. If you truly want her to know it, then put her needs ahead of yours. Sacrifice your night and she still banks.

    This of course is just one answer to your question. I am just saying she will probably MOST appreciate this in my opinion.

    You could put less in it if you want, but are you really doing it for her or for yourself. For her its the full amount. If its less you need to rethink your motives....Its one night...that is all

    This by no means is meant to be a mean post if it sounds that way. Just one mans opinion
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hockeyfan_4 View Post
    what is the best way to show a dancer that you truely appreciate the way she goes about her job? (please don't say money).
    Sorry. The "best way" to show appreciation is money. Anything else isn't the "best way".

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    Thank You I don't think that was a mean post at all in fact an excellent idea. Thanks again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hockeyfan_4 View Post
    Hello all I have a question for the ladies here. Everyone wants to be recognised for an outstanding job that beeing said what is the best way to show a dancer that you truely appreciate the way she goes about her job? (please don't say money).
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    This is the dumbest question ever.
    Quote Originally Posted by Hockeyfan_4 View Post
    Really?! Thanks for such an articulate and well thought out response.
    She told you it was a dumb question because it is, period, particularly when you say "please don't say money" when money IS the purest form of appreciation for them. Even the answer that you liked, from You Know Me, involved giving her money (of course, inside a card, but money nonetheless).

    I am really starting to wonder if it is the same person posting all of these uber dumb, supposed "newbie" questions on this board lately. But anyway, to play along...

    What do you think she wants, flowers? Candy? A standing ovation after her stage show? How about a singing "I really appreciate you" telegram?

    If you are courteous, respectful and tip well she will appreciate you far more than any other gimmicky thing that you might do.

    After all, gimmicky gifts or acts impress for a few moments, but her rent payment lasts for a month

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    Talk to her. Find out her interests. Buy her something that shows you were listening and care about her as a person.


    And money. The more the better.

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    Honestly Hockeyfan, why do you not want people to say money? Frankly, it sounds like you're looking for something that will take the place of money, to make up for not wanting to tip appropriately. If that's the case, she'll see through it. I don't go to work for praise and hallmark cards. What I most appreciate is customers who understand and appreciate the fact that I am working and compensate me appropriately. With money.
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    Card with MONEY.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
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    All professionals love referrals, so refer every guy you know to her - your dad, son, brother, nephew, co-workers, neighbors, friends from church, etc.
    LOL friends from church??? this is a strip club what planet are you from?? Im sure that wouldnt go over too well in a church.

    Dont get me wrong money is money, but dont tell this guy to go up to his dad or son and say "hey u gotta check out this stripper, she really knows how to grind your cock". Depending on his family that might be a little awkward


    To the OP, spend $$ and be very nice to her......treat her like gold. Any woman would appreciate that

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    Well ... Would you rather have your job give you a card or a raise and card ? Apply and answer your own question.

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    Ok, I'll take another stab at this question.

    We don't get paid vacation days, so.....

    I would love it if a customer can in and handed me 2k with a card that said, take a few days off, on me. I think I would book a flight to visit my family- I really would. It is not that I don't have the money to do that, I just feel bad not working.

    So, paid vacation days. Yes, it is money, but it is another way of looking at it.

    When customers want to "buy" us stuff instead of giving us money it is usually to save them money.

    I know customers appreciate me at work, I can tell. But now I am so hoping that one shows up with a card with 500 bucks saying something like, "I know you always work on Sundays, religiously. But take this one off and do something fun with your friends." That would be SWEET.

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    I donno I don't mind receiving gifts as long as the customer is still spending for dances too. I kind of like it because I then don't have to make excuses to buy something myself. Jewellery (gold), perfume (my scent not the one the guy chooses), a shopping trip, bottle of french champagne or wine (not for at the club) all make me feel appreciated, but not expected. I agree with the day off thing. I had a customer give me a large amount of money so I could take a day off. LOL I don't know how much money he thought I make in a night but I wasn't about to tell him it would take me 3-4 days to make that. I thought it was pretty nice since he'd already spent a considerable amount that night. I don't know if I am the norm on this one though. I find I can cover my expenses pretty easy dancing so getting little extra gifts is nice but if I had a huge bill to pay it would probably just annoy me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    I donno I don't mind receiving gifts as long as the customer is still spending for dances too.
    Exactly. If you like her dances and appreciate the time you spend with her as a customer there is nothing wrong with giving her a small gift of some sort. Just don't use it as an excuse not to buy dances or otherwise spend what you normally spend on her. A bottle of her favorite perfume, a gift card, a CD or a book she might have talked about reading are all good ideas. Of course, I also know girls who have gotten lap top computers and even a car...

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    Maybe what the OP wants is to be "original" and "memorable".

    Yeah, handing a dancer a $500 tip will make her remember him, but he may not have that kind of money to throw around.

    So - lets say he pays her and tips her well (but not excessively), how can he be original and memorable in the eyes of his favorite dancer without having to skip a rent payment?

    First he needs to become her regular and give her decent tips (does not have to be excessive). Then, there may be "little" things he can do - like come to visit when things are very slow, instead of when the club is crowded, ask what her favorite restaurant is and bring her lunch or dinner from that restaurant one day, buy her a book about a topic they've discussed, etc. -- I would stay away from anything "romantic" like flowers, heart-shaped chocolates, etc., because that would be creepy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Exactly. If you like her dances and appreciate the time you spend with her as a customer there is nothing wrong with giving her a small gift of some sort. Just don't use it as an excuse not to buy dances or otherwise spend what you normally spend on her. A bottle of her favorite perfume, a gift card, a CD or a book she might have talked about reading are all good ideas. Of course, I also know girls who have gotten lap top computers and even a car...

    How much do you want to spend here?
    I got to agree with Yoda. Spend the same money as what you would normally spend with her and follow it up with a nice gift of some sort.

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    Talk to her. Find out her interests. Buy her something that shows you were listening and care about her as a person.


    And money. The more the better.
    Sam is right on with the gift idea. Talk with the dancer and make sure you actually LISTEN to her. Years ago I surprised my ATF with a CD collection of her favorite band for her birthday. It wasn't that expensive of a gift but I had actually paid attention to what she was talking about during our times together, remembered her birthday, remembered her all time favorite band, and then remembered it long enough to get it for her for her birthday.

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    I don't think I was clear in my original post. I should have said and please don't JUST say money. My fault I should have been more clear.
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    ^^Like I said before, when customers want to buy us stuff instead of giving us money we feel it is to save them money. That makes us feel LESS appreciated.

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    Shasta
    Good point I hadn't thought of it that way.

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