I would love a gift card to a day spa. A day of relaxation would be amazing. It sort of fits in with the whole" here take a day off " thing.





I would love a gift card to a day spa. A day of relaxation would be amazing. It sort of fits in with the whole" here take a day off " thing.





The gift is extra, he has already paid for the dance plus a tip (generous, but not excessive).
I have had a few legal clients that can barely afford my fees. One time, one of them gave me a small gift that might have cost $20, at most. Another client needed to meet me during lunch hour because of scheduling conflicts and brought me lunch from a really great (but not fancy) restaurant. If you ask me what kind of gift would I want from a client, I think a Rolex would be ideal. But, neither of them could afford to buy me a Rolex and I certainly appreciated both of their gestures.
On the other hand, I have a client worth about $80 million. If he brought me a gift that cost him $20, I would feel very slighted and would probably reject it.
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





^hahaha but the $80 Million dollar guy is the guy who probably would buy some cheap ass gift... Millionaires are freaking cheap in my experience.





^ You are correct. The $80 million dollar guy is the one that bitches the most about legal fees. He's a former CEO that made a fortune from other people's money (a public company), but he will bitch if he thinks he is overcharged by a dollar.
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde
I guess I am a dumb ass! Or an ass hat! The best way to show appreciation is (a) money, and (b) repeat (a). Treating a dancer with respect isn't a way of showing appreciation. It is a given!
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Show her your paycheck, then give her the same exact amount in cash.![]()
Maybe I'm the only one, but it's not ALL about money. No really. Seriously. Money is the best. Gifts are fun. But even if a customer does nothing else but give me a sincere compliment, I'm happy. I love it when a guy tells me that I've made his night, without trying to get my number or take me out or whatever. Just treat me like a professional and a human being.
Other ways to be an awesome custy. Come back and see me as regularly as your budget allows. That means - don't come in every night if you can't afford it. Or every week if you can't afford it. Save up and come in with a reasonable amount to spend. Don't overstay your welcome and make a pain in the ass of yourself. Be considerate. Really, that is all. It seems pretty basic but you would be surprised how uncommon it is to find good regular customers. The ones who are good make my job so much easier and more enjoyable and THAT is the best way you can show your appreciation IMO.




Books are great if you know her tastes. I had a reg that used to bring me (new) books. Loved it!
Re: restaurant. I would recommend a gift certificate from that restaurant, rather than a meal. On a busy night, strippers don't have time to eat a big meal. And most clubs don't have a place where she could store the food. Sure, clubs have kitchens, but they aren't going to let her store outside food there, might be a health code violation even. So, it could potentially go bad over the night.
Strippers have to spend a lot on grooming. You can get her a gift her to her favorite place for mani/pedi/hair cut and color/aesthetician services. Or, a massage gift card. Just make sure to ask beforehand where she prefers, because most of us have places and people we prefer to do business with.
Itunes gift card for music?
All of these things do cost money, but they aren't exhorbitant, make great gifts, and are things that most strippers want and need.







^ Ask the pinks, then ask the blues, and the truth is somewhere in between.![]()
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





Not to mention it is generally against the rules to bring food into a club. Anytime I was asked by a dancer to get them something in Providence, I always left it in their car for them.
Depending on how well you know the girl, she might also appreciate some recreational substance if you have access to it (since you mention drugs). I occasionally found myself in possession of such stuff. Not interested in it myself, I'd just pass it on to friends who were interested in it. Occasionally those friends happened to be dancers. They really seemed to appreciate it even though all I was doing was "re-gifting".
"never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe
If you're in your twenties and aren't a liberal, you have no heart. If you're in you're forties and aren't a conservative, you have no brain - Winston Churchill

^ the OP was talking about non-monetary which is silly. Other than money, why would a dancer be interested? The bar is fairly high in terms of gifts. I mean a $25 gift card to her favorite place doesn't get it. It's more along the lines of a new laptop or perhaps that 42" widescreen TV she always wanted. And that doesn't guarantee you anything. I know from experience. So let me just say that unless you can play in the thousands for gifts (expecting some sort of extra attention or what ever but fail) you are best to just buy dances and tip generously when appropriate during that club time.
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
I really want to know what the OP's motive is for wanting to show appreciation. Does he genuinely want to express gratitude or is he trying to maneuver his way into the dancer's life somehow?
If the answer is the latter, then by all means buy her lots of expensive stuff and tip generously and good luck with that. But if you are sincerely appreciative with no strings attached then something simple will do. A gift certificate to VS, a spa package, whatever. Let her know in no uncertain terms that you are not expecting more from her but that you simply enjoy her company in the club. The relief provided by that statement alone will be worth more then $$ and catapult you into favorite customer status. (as long as you mean it and intend to continue as a regular customer)
catapulted to a mythical favored status feels good for a while. The problem is a lot of customers convince themselves that once they reach that level it is no longer about money. The guys often don't get that the bar has now been raised and it is about money more so than ever. Not a bad thing but so often customers are clueless including me a few times.
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.





There is no such thing as an excessive tip in my books. I've been given a cpl gifts when dancing that were worth a lot (I prefer not to say what or how much because people start hating) But as far as cash goes... from one customer in one night... I would consider spending $1.5K - $2K on me very memorable. Only happened to me once. Anyone who spends in the $300-$500 range is definitely a customer I will put a lot of effort into. $500-$1K range obviously more important. Not saying I would expect it, just saying that's the range where I would consider a customer a VIP. I think some customers just don't believe it but it does happen. My friend consistently got $1K/week from one customer. When he lost interest boy did she have to work a lot harder... she was not happy! LOL





i think what homeboy wants to touch on is he wants to be memorable and save money. buying a gift that looks more expensive than it is sure beats giving her 60bux telling her shes amazing and you respect her. which by the way is great if you think so, but that normally what i hear from men when they dont want to buy a show. youre still the best girl here, i love your work, youre amazing blah blah
but when i got 100 note on stage from a man who said he liked my hair.... i believed him more strangely.
put your money where your mouth is.
or buy her something from tiffanys.
giving her a card is probably the lamest thing you can do. she will never take your intentions srsly after that.
sorry fpr being honest yet again.... im sure the answer you were looking for is give her a hug, a red rose and tell her shes quite pretty.





There is, but I don't remember where. You'll have to search for it. I think I read that a "decent" tip for a $20 lap dance is an additional $5. So that's a 25% tip. But, I also take into account that I pay for her drinks - which could be $30 or more, depending how much time we're together.
But, we need to distinguish between spending money (i.e., buying service - quid pro quo) and tipping (i.e., extra gift on top of the payment for services). I read somewhere on this forum that a decent tip for a $20 lap dance is an additional $5. So that's a 25% tip. I'm guessing a "decent" tip (not cheap, but not super-generous) is anywhere from 20 to 25%. Is this correct?
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde

OK
All I was trying to do was to show this dancer that I truly do appreciate the job that she does and to let her know that when I go to the club to see her I always enjoy her company and the dances that she performs. I don't want to try to get in her pants I don't wanna wiggle my way into her life. I just was looking for a way to say thankyou for her attention to what I like in a lapdance and providing me with that. The job she does is always excellent that's it, no more no less.





No hockey, I think you are looking for a little more than that. If it was just about showing appreciation then money and a sincere compliment would be enough and your obligation more than satisfied.
This, IMO, is not really about thanking her, but rather about gaining recognition from her. You want to give her something different, something that will stand out from the normal - something that will make YOU stand out as something different. You don't want it to be just about money because you want it to be sweet and meaningful.
But at the end of the day you are just another customer and her view of you is likely no more than that, unless of course you are dropping major $$$. It simply is.
As Marlow Stanfield said to the convenience store security guard in an episode of the Wire:
"You want it to be one way, but it's the other way."
Jessie you nailed this one. The rare customer who drops this kind of money on a dancer is after OTC in some form. Pure and simple. Him losing interest of course means your friend didn't give it up. I'm sure the guy was as unhappy as your friend for different reasons. This goes back to my point somewhere here that the bar never lowers, it always raises. To the OP, I'm going to be bold here and suggest that you WERE looking for extras but those of an emotional kind. Those are rare.
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.




I agree..money is the best answer... I mean if you think about it... how many guys have told her how beautiful or hot she is? She's heard and seen it all... aside from giving her a thoughtful gift... perhaps something she said she "REALLY" wanted... money ...
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