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    Quite simply, I've hit rock bottom with alcohol. I can't drink any more, ever, for the rest of my life. I almost lost everything I care about last night. So please wish me luck because I'm scared and I need it.

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    Good luck! I used to drink a lot too, so I know how you feel. I've gotten down to only drinking socially with a maximum of two drinks and I feel so much better.
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    Good luck with this!
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    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post
    Quite simply, I've hit rock bottom with alcohol. I can't drink any more, ever, for the rest of my life. I almost lost everything I care about last night. So please wish me luck because I'm scared and I need it.
    I'm with you girl. I'm 9 years Sober this year....and I'm a D & A Rehab Counsellor by day. If you want to chat - just PM me.
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    Good luck babe! I wish you all the best. Alcohol is such a powerful substance and a hard one to drop; but you've made a great choice already with realizing whats at stake. Hugs and Love!!! It can be done!
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    haven't logged in a long time and came across this thread. i am an alcoholic and have caused a lot of damage while out there (and by out there i mean drinking) i'm now committed to my sobriety and for me that means attending AA mtgs daily, having a sponsor and working the program. i can't tell you that that's the solution for you but it's worked for me and i've never felt better. i now feel a range of emotions and sometimes it's hard to deal with but the program has allowed me to meet people with the same problem...they may have different stories but i always have someone to call.

    it's something to at least consider. i know i've tried quitting on my own and have failed many many times. pm me if you ever need anyone to talk to. a meeting can never hurt.

    and just a side-note i do know of a dancer who is in the program and still dances. i personally am not at that point to put myself into that temptation (and have been working a 'normal' job for sometime now). but maybe one day i can be in places with alcohol and temptation and not have the urge or craving to drink.
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    Good luck hon. I'm an alcoholic too. I feel your pain.

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    Good work in making the decision to start. Good luck and everyone here is supporting you.

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    Congratulations on an excellent decision! It will be hard, but you can do it. Best of luck!

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    Awww guys, I send you so much love! It won't be easy but you know we are all here for you when you need us! Kisses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rubyredlipsss View Post
    haven't logged in a long time and came across this thread. i am an alcoholic and have caused a lot of damage while out there (and by out there i mean drinking) i'm now committed to my sobriety and for me that means attending AA mtgs daily, having a sponsor and working the program. i can't tell you that that's the solution for you but it's worked for me and i've never felt better. i now feel a range of emotions and sometimes it's hard to deal with but the program has allowed me to meet people with the same problem...they may have different stories but i always have someone to call.

    it's something to at least consider. i know i've tried quitting on my own and have failed many many times. pm me if you ever need anyone to talk to. a meeting can never hurt.

    and just a side-note i do know of a dancer who is in the program and still dances. i personally am not at that point to put myself into that temptation (and have been working a 'normal' job for sometime now). but maybe one day i can be in places with alcohol and temptation and not have the urge or craving to drink.

    ^ Well Done you!!

    It's always such a buzz to hear folks talking about Sobriety in a positive way - too many people think that when you stop drinking, your life stops as well.

    I really can't stress highly enough how amazing Alcoholics Anonymous has been in my life. I can relate to everything that 'rubyredlipss' has said above. My drinking wrecked my life and the lives of those around me for nearly 25 years....I ended up spending my 40th Birthday in Intensive Care on a drip and a heart monitor.

    I went to AA and I'm now coming up for 9 years Sober (Clean and Sober in my case).

    Living my life sober took some getting used to - coping with my feelings and emotions was the worst. However, with the support of the Group members, my Sponsor and some good, honest common-sense advice from alcoholics with many years of Sobriety under their belts - my life took a total turn around - and now, it's better than it has ever been.

    'rareaspasia' - if you TRULY want to give up drinking...and you're ready to do just about anything to stay off the juice (...as much as you would have done to get a drink.....) - then I can honestly say that AA is the best place to start.

    They take 'getting sober' very seriously (without being boring or square) - and you'll be welcomed with open arms....

    I was very, very scared to begin with....but, as I found out - I was scared about nothing really!

    There's plenty of people who will happily tell you horror stories about AA - and 'pooh pooh' what they do....but they are usually the folks who aren't ready to stop anyway.

    Give it a try. Go to a few meetings...keep an open mind, and ask questions. Talk to the 'officers' of the group (they have a Meeting Secretary and other officers too) - who can give you more information and advice. One thing is for certain - you WON'T be left to flounder about, lost and lonely, all on your own.

    When I hit to my 'rock bottom'...my career had collapsed, my health was so bad I was in grave danger of losing my life - and I had no prospects at all.

    I was 40.

    Now - I work as a Drug and Alcohol Counsellor by day - and in additon - I own and run two Fetish High Heels websites which I, and others, model for.

    Life is better than it ever was - and - the wonderful thing is, that I don't wake up in the morning feeling like death.....with only one thought on my mind.

    Where can I get a drink?

    I don't think about drinking AT ALL these days....life's too good - and too short, to spend it drunk all the time!


    (The best place to start is a Meeting - so - here's the website: http://www.aa.org/

    Click on 'How To Find AA Meetings'.....and get a friend to take you if you need some courage!!)
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    ^^^ I just have to say, thank you soo much for posting that link, im really considering going to atleast one meeting just to get an idea of where to start to bring my drinking under control.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KatjaMolotov View Post
    ^^^ I just have to say, thank you soo much for posting that link, im really considering going to atleast one meeting just to get an idea of where to start to bring my drinking under control.
    ^ Oh...you're most welcome.

    Here's something important to bear in mind....what they say at the start of every AA Meeting is this:

    "If you THINK YOU HAVE A PROBLEM with alcohol...you are welcome to attend this meeting.." They do NOT say...."If you think you are an alcoholic..."

    So...go along..and hopefully they will help you like they have helped millions of others. I always say that it's like cars. If you want the best car in the World - buy a Rolls-Royce....

    If you want the best advice about quitting alcohol....go to AA.
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    Thats some great advice ^^^^

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    GOOD LUCK!! and CONGRATULATIONS!!
    While it is hard at first, you may realize that this is the best decision you've ever made. You may be the happiest you've ever been, in time of course.
    I haven't had a drink in around a year and a half and it's the best thing I've ever done.
    It was the hardest thing, but the best. Good luck!! Let me know if you need anything!

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    I am so happy to hear this! Don't think I am undermining by sharing my story though. My feeling was that (after going though 10 years of rock bottoms) after one and a half years of complete sobriety. was that I could have a drink if I wanted to. And I do now. But I'm in a whole different sort of lifestyle. My SO doesn't party, my social group is the same. I had to have that mindset of NOT ONE DROP EVER for a very long time before I could drink again. And since then theres been, ehh, more than a few times I drank too much, so I'm not necc a success story. But I will tell you that the support group rhetoric is BS and only you know whats right. Most cases of alcoholism go into remission in 10 years. Did you know that?

    Check out rationalrecovery.org where they teach you to just STOP with you mind and get control. I was such a big fan of this site until I got depressed and felt like geeeez I should be able to be somewhat normal and have a couple right? Anyway it's a long and bmpy road but you will feel so much better once you grab ahold of your success in staying sober for a measured amount of time. Maybe that is forever, I don't know, good LUCK AND ALL MY WARMEST WISHES!

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    oh and I am not dancing, If I was it would be a lot harder to drink in moderation.

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    i'm glad PIB went into to some details. and thank you! i feel like my life is actually starting to become really good and amazing...and i CAN have a lot of fun sober too! (something i would've scoffed at that mere idea/suggestion even two months ago)

    some hate aa some love it. like i said it's what has worked for me...i'm an alcoholic and addict that can never just temporarily stop and then have a few drinks and be fine again and drink in moderation. for me it's a disease of the mind and an allergy of the body. the aa website has a lot resources and my recommendation when searching for a meeting is finding a women's mtg and sharing about what you're going through. i'm not going to go into loads of details about what aa is and isn't but i do know when i first started going a lot of it didn't make sense to me...and i'm still learning what makes sense.

    also, just to add, yes many relapse in the program for various reasons...it doesn't mean aa doesn't work or anything. but really this shouldn't become a debate about what works and doesn't for someone who is struggling with their drinking. what's more important is to be supportive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rubyredlipsss View Post
    i'm glad PIB went into to some details. and thank you! i feel like my life is actually starting to become really good and amazing...and i CAN have a lot of fun sober too! (something i would've scoffed at that mere idea/suggestion even two months ago)

    some hate aa some love it. like i said it's what has worked for me...i'm an alcoholic and addict that can never just temporarily stop and then have a few drinks and be fine again and drink in moderation. for me it's a disease of the mind and an allergy of the body. the aa website has a lot resources and my recommendation when searching for a meeting is finding a women's mtg and sharing about what you're going through. i'm not going to go into loads of details about what aa is and isn't but i do know when i first started going a lot of it didn't make sense to me...and i'm still learning what makes sense.

    also, just to add, yes many relapse in the program for various reasons...it doesn't mean aa doesn't work or anything.
    but really this shouldn't become a debate about what works and doesn't for someone who is struggling with their drinking. what's more important is to be supportive.

    Agreed.
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    Good luck to you girl, I hope everything works out x
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    Just a word of support. Hang in there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rareaspasia View Post
    Quite simply, I've hit rock bottom with alcohol. I can't drink any more, ever, for the rest of my life. I almost lost everything I care about last night. So please wish me luck because I'm scared and I need it.
    You've made a great decision. Proud of you!
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    After sitting in on a few AA meetings, it makes me not want to drink anymore. I'm off hard liquor and will stick exclusively to two glasses of wine or less. I also stopped smoking pot, and cigarettes are next.

    Have you considered AA? They have a lot of success with long term sobriety. It's a really cool group and totally free. I learned a lot even though alcohol wasn't my problem. I think everyone could use a little Serenity Prayer in their life.
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    Hang in there,baby.Hugs!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Harleigh HellKat View Post
    After sitting in on a few AA meetings, it makes me not want to drink anymore. I'm off hard liquor and will stick exclusively to two glasses of wine or less. I also stopped smoking pot, and cigarettes are next.

    Have you considered AA? They have a lot of success with long term sobriety. It's a really cool group and totally free. I learned a lot even though alcohol wasn't my problem.
    I think everyone could use a little Serenity Prayer in their life.
    Amen to that! It's a very good way of approaching life...and in just three easy lines too.
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