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    I am having a really hard time right now and just need to vent....
    I recently took a month off dancing and went on vacation, since I got back I have been looking really hard for a day job and dancing to make ends meet till then. I have been dancing for two years and am decent a pole tricks, a great hustler, and a consistent top earner in my clubs.

    Two shifts back at work my main club, on a Friday night, the booker/owner called me into his office in the middle of the shift and said it had been decided, not by him, that I needed to lose weight and couldn't stay past 10pm until I lost at least 10-15 pounds.

    I was really upset, even though I hadnt been at the club long, I had done a bunch of weeknight shifts and about 4 friday and sat night shifts, and was a top earner EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. Walking out with $200-300 while other girls bitched about making $50.

    I cried and left my shift early. I am really self concious about my weight, I'm not big but I'm not a size zero either. I'm about 5'11" and a size 8-10, with C cup breasts, very muscular, weigh about 185.

    I decided to go back to my other club where I have worked for over a year and have a lot of regulars, always get the shifts I want, generally working only monday, friday, and sat nights. Two weeks after I was back the owner came in on one of my shifts, and yesterday I got a call from the booker that I am too big to work any night shifts, Ive been pulled from the schedule and have to lose some weight to get my shifts back. The booker also said im not the only girl they are doing this to, the owner is making a sweep and firing/demoting lots of girls. I bawled my eyes out and quit that club too.

    Im fucking fed up. My boyfriend said, well now my career as an exotic dancer has just ended a little earlier than I thought, but in my head I thought I could still do friday night shifts after I found a day job for extra money. I am torn between picking up some shifts somewhere else and just saying fuck it. I feel like if I get back on that stage I'm just gonna look in the mirror and see FAT FAT FAT. I want to diet and start going to the gym even if I quit dancing and I feel guilty about that. I'm just fucking upset.

    Also realizing Im not ready to let go, dancing is such a part of my life, ive invested so much into my stripper personality, my pole tricks, my outfits.....I dont want to give it up. But at the same time I do. any advice? can anyone relate?
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    I've never been told I couldn't work, but right now I know I have at least 30 (preferably 40) pounds to lose (remaining baby weight!) before I can even entertain the idea of going back to work. You can lose the weight! Just watch what you eat - avoid sugar, "white" foods (bread, rice, etc.), eat lots of protein and fibre, and hit the gym. If dancing is something you really want to do, you'll be able to do it! Set small goals. There's lots of great tips in body business. Good luck!

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    my mom joined weight watchers. she really stuck with it, worked really hard, and has dropped from a size 12 to a size 4 in just under a year. she wore a bikini for the first time in 20 years this summer, and is just ecstatic about it. she looks really good. they have a support program you go to once a week, or you can just keep up with your weight online, she did it in like 5 minutes every day, logged what she ate, kept track of her points and stuff, and it worked for her.
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    It sucks, but the recession has created a lot of competition & sometimes management isn't smart about who they keep & who they get rid of. Just try to lose the weight & then go back.
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    I was fired from my club about 2 months ago for being too fat. Just fired out of the blue. I was 155 and about 5'7"; not really fat at all. I know how this feels - you feel so humiliated and victimized and hurt.

    By the sounds of your stats you're not fat at all - you're a curvy women with model height - but strip club managers often have their heads up their asses and think that the customers will only find beautiful what Management finds beautiful. Obviously if you were a top earner then men found you attractive and the management is in the wrong. Don't let this damage your self esteem.

    That beings said (and don't let this upset you); skinnier dancers will make more. Not necessarily the 'skinniest' dancers make more, but I find girls who are about a size 4-6 seem to do the best. If you really love dancing - lose weight. Just the minimum - 10 pounds. It should only take 5 weeks or so. You can keep your job, feel more confident, and make more money.

    Hugs and kisses darling. Being targeted for your weight is so upsetting. Don't let this derail you. Your a beautiful women, so get back out there and keep making money!



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    Very true that size 4-6 do the best, we have a few girls who are that size and they appeal the most to men, I think it's because at that size they are not too thin (size 0) and not too heavy. But a size 8-10 sounds attractive and perfectly proportional to your height, perhaps management doesn't see that. Most of the 4-6's are 5'3 or 5'4. And I'm a size 0 but I'm also 5' nothin.

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    I understand the dilemma of wanting to do what you enjoy (dancing) but wanting to do it on your own terms. You have to decide if losing the weight will be something you can accept, accomplish, and move on from or if this focus on your weight will always make dancing that much less enjoyable for you.

    Good luck, darling!

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    Fucking idiot small minded club managers ... they're everywhere honey! W/ your height and weight you sound totally proportioned ... and not every custy wants the crack addict skinny dancer. Don't allow your negative experience to deter you away from stripping ... it sounds like this is still the place for you to be. I don't know how many other club options are in your area or near by areas but do some research ... I really like to use http://www.tuscl.net/ Keep at it and the right club that will appreciate YOU is out there ... have faith sweetie! Good Luck!

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    thanks so much all of you for the responses- 4everresolutions especially, it really is a struggle to find the balance of self respect and realism in this business.

    I am headed to the gym today, I'm not going to make myself crazy but I am going to do a no junk food-no sweets diet and start going to the gym 5 days a week. I have an audition on thursday night at a club one of my friends has been at for a while doing well, she says I will fit in better and they should give me night shifts right away. The one good thing about portland is that there are a billion clubs to hop between. I'm still blue because I REALLY loved my two other clubs and had good regulars and good money, but I can always find that somewhere else...

    in the meantime today I'm doing the big ol vanilla job hunt part 5 million....no wonder there are so many new strippers finding a normal job is damn near IMPOSSIBLE these days.

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    thanks p-bunny and everyone else for tips...I figured out the no soda thing about a year ago...started bringing my own snacks to the club instead of eating fries there and switched to vodka soda water from jack and coke, that cut off about 20 pounds in a few months!

    Ive been going to the gym and eating well and have lost about ten pounds, still not going back to my old clubs, I took some time off dancing and now am back at another club I like much better and am making good stage money.

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    ^^Congrats on losing the weight and getting back into dancing.
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    In my club, the thicker girls make easier and more $$$. I've tried to gain weight and if I try hard, I can. But, it goes to my waist first and i'm short, so I look more like a little ball w/ small breasts and a slight bubble booty.

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    Does swallowing count as "white foods?
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    Quote Originally Posted by p-bunny View Post
    ugh I know what you're going through. I'm 6'1" size 8 and also 160 lbs. Everyone says I'm "thick" or "statuesque" but really I'm just muscular with a fat jiggly ass. and my tummy looks like a baby bump when I'm bloated 'cause it's hard.

    I used to be a size 11 when I first started dancing. Here's my advice from one amazon to another (and I love food). Eat one big meal before work and drink a shit ton of water throughout your shift. It'll keep you full. If you need a snack eat something with fiber (like a mango or blood orange) to help you shit. If you shit right, you weigh right. Have a small snack after work. (for me a coffee with a hardboiled egg and some fruit). Also, I only eat seafood when it comes to meat. No fried foods. No sauces. Good carbs are your friend etc. and the number one rule:

    absolutey NO soda! that means no coke with your jack ok? When I first started dancing, I drank so much soda because I was underage and hate water that isn't fiji or evian. as soon as I stopped, BAM! dropped many sizes. Remember to burn more calories than you consume.

    It sucks when you're basically told you're just a fucking weather baloon compared to petite girls, but obviously your customers like you. I'm top earner many many nights and people don't even realize it. Half of my dances are "here's 30 bucks dance for my really short friend" rofl or "I've never had a tall girl before" Hate to admit it, but I work my ass off because I've come to depend on quantity and not quality. It just happens sometimes...

    Good luck
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    I am rolling on the floor laughing. I fell out of my chair laughing whenever I read that!! Your advice is really fabulous! But yes, I am too heavy to even entertain the thought of slapping my ass in a g-string, bra, and stripper heels. I need to shuck off about 30-40. I've been really considering weight watchers....I am going to go check it out before I go to the gym.

    thanks for all the helpful posts!

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    one of my friends got fired from our club for being "too fat" and she was a size 8. instead of freaking out about dieting she just cut out fast food entirely (we used to eat taco bell together almost everyday) and ate home-cooked meals. instead of obsessing over how many calories/carbs/grams of fat/sugar/sodium is in this she just would make something healthy and eat it and instead of obsessing over how much she ate, if she was hungry, she would eat. she worked at another club 5 days a week as excercise (and why not make money while you're at it?) and she lost weight pretty steadily.

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    that's the best way to do it. It's weird...usually, whenever you don't mean to really lose weight, as long as you stay active doing things and even throwing in some actual gym time and halfway eat healthy...it comes off and voila! :-)

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    Just wanted to update....so after I got fired I reposted I had lost 10 pounds Have still been going to the gym and dieting (basically eating a lot of fruits and veggies, no fast food/junk food) and have lost another 6 pounds since the new year! Yay! Since Ive been working out it looks like even more because Ive been toning up....My goal is to lose another 10, its slow going the more I slim down so I'm giving myself another 2-3 months. I have been getting better shifts and making more money....so it's totally been worth it.
    Today I put on some pants I bought 6 months ago and they are practically falling off!

    I'm still glad I left that other club because this way I am taking my time and not feeling ashamed/embarrased....it has taken me about 5 months to lose these 15 pounds but that is a healthier way, and this weight will STAY off as opposed to a crash diet. I'm proud!

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    Yay, I'm so proud of you! This is inspirational

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    Good for you, sticking with it so long.
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    Congratulations, Trisha!

    And you are absolutely right--if you lose weight slowly, you are more certain to keep it off.

    Keep up the great work!

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    update: at this point, a year later, I am down about 30 lbs! I thought I would level out after 15 but I kept working out and eating better, drinking less..... BAM! My money has practically doubled and I am getting better shifts at better clubs. If you want to you can do it too ladies
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    Good for you! You've got hella determination. I went on a similar diet - no junk food, blah blah blah - and lasted a month. Rock on!

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    I was fired from my club about 2 months ago for being too fat. Just fired out of the blue. I was 155 and about 5'7"; not really fat at all. I know how this feels - you feel so humiliated and victimized and hurt.

    By the sounds of your stats you're not fat at all - you're a curvy women with model height - but strip club managers often have their heads up their asses and think that the customers will only find beautiful what Management finds beautiful. Obviously if you were a top earner then men found you attractive and the management is in the wrong.
    This exactly! Unfortunately, I think there are few of us in here that are dealing w/ this.

    Managers don't fire girls for their weight that are already at our club -but they will pull us off stage because the owner does not want us in the club at all -so they yank us off stage instead to try & appease the owner & so we can keep our jobs. They did a sweep @ our club just a few months ago & I was part of the group (at least I wasn't the only one). Although, the two that the owner had initially spotted did get fired -no way around it when he specifically says to fire them.

    I got pulled off stage even though, girls & customers really love my stage shows & tricks. I'm still occasionally put back on stage when they're short on girls for the night, though. I am a very curvy dancer, but by far not "fat". I'm 5'1 & about 125-130lbs. Sounds fat, until you look at my measurements 38-30-40. Always hated the term thick, too.

    At first I was heartbroken & bitter, but now I'm over it. Besides, no stage now keeps me free to hustle more now. I always do well, the customers like me, & three of our bouncers have crushes on me (so obviously I'm not that hard on the eyes).

    I'm gonna start Bikram yoga classes & get a gym membership so I can do palates classes & the elliptical. I live next to a 24 hour gym -I'm just lazy. Lol! Also gonna save my money for lipo -have them put the fat in my gut in my ass instead....
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    It sounds like (correct me if I'm wrong), the vacation softened your muscles, and maybe since your muscles are softer your skin looks looser? That is what happened to me after I stopped taking ballet for two months, and the muscle seemed to melt into loose/soft skin. I wouldn't give up just yet. It seems like all you should have to do is tone/get the muscle back, and you will look the same as before. You know as well as anyone that men like all shapes, sizes, heights etc. and your managers should realize that. Take a few weeks to really tone up, don't look at the freakin scale at all, and find a club that can appreciate you and all you have to offer. Screw those other douchers lol

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