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    omg 4everresolutions and charlie..I feel like I could of typed up everything yall have said word for word....

    Im not sure if this is related, but Im thinking about seeking some kind of psychiatric help, the anxiety and the consistent lack of motivation is making me wonder if there is some kind of prescription drug that would help immensely...

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    That documentary, The Strip Game was really good I really liked it and it definitely motivates me to dance. I also enjoyed watching the girls dance all dirty in that doc they really know how to move.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Apollopink View Post
    omg 4everresolutions and charlie..I feel like I could of typed up everything yall have said word for word....

    Im not sure if this is related, but Im thinking about seeking some kind of psychiatric help, the anxiety and the consistent lack of motivation is making me wonder if there is some kind of prescription drug that would help immensely...
    Aww...

    Is it because you sit around all day waiting for work? I know this is a big part of why I have such anxiety about it...

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    I just get ready and force myself out the door. I try to tell myself that the money isn't that important and that I should go in just to get out of the house and make a few extra dollars. I don't know what stresses me out so much because I always make good money every time I go. I guess it's just the stress of having to talk to people; I don't know I'm kind of anti-social.

    If I wasn't so anxious about having to interact with people I'd work every single day and make hundreds of thousands a year.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Apollopink View Post



    Im not sure if this is related, but Im thinking about seeking some kind of psychiatric help, the anxiety and the consistent lack of motivation is making me wonder if there is some kind of prescription drug that would help immensely...

    This is a stressful, stressful industry...

    Quote Originally Posted by NREXM View Post
    I just get ready and force myself out the door. I try to tell myself that the money isn't that important and that I should go in just to get out of the house and make a few extra dollars. I don't know what stresses me out so much because I always make good money every time I go. I guess it's just the stress of having to talk to people; I don't know I'm kind of anti-social.

    If I wasn't so anxious about having to interact with people I'd work every single day and make hundreds of thousands a year.
    Yes, exactly!! I always make good money, but I get so stressed about having to interact with people that I can't motivate myself to go in. I really wish I could get over that...

    Aren't you the one who works like 5 nights a week though? I am sooo fascinated by career strippers. I wish I had it in me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    This is a stressful, stressful industry...



    Yes, exactly!! I always make good money, but I get so stressed about having to interact with people that I can't motivate myself to go in. I really wish I could get over that...

    Aren't you the one who works like 5 nights a week though? I am sooo fascinated by career strippers. I wish I had it in me!


    Its killing me because less than a year ago I had the spark, and now I cant figure out where it went. I know its not burnout, its just fear of not making at least XXX or whatever after I started getting used to better averages.

    Its aggravating!

    I agree about career strippers, It sounds so good on paper but I cant bring myself to get with it for some reason. I used to work for 3-4 days at time but this summer has just been one huge "scene missing" for me ~_~

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    Quote Originally Posted by Apollopink View Post
    Its killing me because less than a year ago I had the spark, and now I cant figure out where it went. I know its not burnout, its just fear of not making at least XXX or whatever after I started getting used to better averages.

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    That's exactly how I feel.

    I will be be pumped, ready to go in, and then once I'm there and it's dead...I lose all motivation.

    Even will sometimes freak myself out BEFORE going in because I know I could make more and if I don't reach my goal, I feel like I failed. Especially since when I first started dancing, my averages were freaking amazing. I wish I would have appreciated what I made when I first started dancing a lot more. Wish I would have saved/invested.

    The weekends freak me out the most because it's packed in there. I feel so much pressure to do good because it's so busy. I psyche myself out. I'll tell myself what I'm going to do and what I need to do, but once I'm in the moment, I freeze up.
    Gotta knock that off somehow!

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    You aren't the only one with pre-work anxiety. I have it today about going in tomorrow!
    I have also used the " well ... just go in and make $100 and then you'll at least have $100 trick .... I've never settled for $100 but if I really wanted to leave, I'd let myself.

    I just try to stay focused on making a certain amount per week between my day job and dancing. If I get overtime at day job , I really only need to to dance a day a week, but if it's slow there , I prefer to dance two days in the week to stay balanced. I love that dancing has brought consistency to my income instead of just being depending on when they wanted me at day job.

    I still say though .... if a pretty posh club is only 1-1.5 hours from you ... oh man ... go for it sometime! I'll leave the idea alone now....

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    i wrk 4 nights when im off study. yeah it sucks when youre a naturally antisocial person preferring solitude and self, having a job as s social butterfly and professional party bitch. thats why i know i will never be a career stripper. something inside me is missing to make it all click.
    i constantly horrify myself with thoughts of hit nights, dead rooms, cheap custys and nights that drag on forever. so i take with with positive mental imagery it can all be turned around?

    hmmm motivational fantasies:

    my two regulars remember that i exist and fight over me booking me out for the whole night between the two of them and giv me a 50 to apoligise for being away so long

    the room will be filled with asian tourgroups who dont convert their money into tipping dollars and just hand me 20s and 50s instead

    a nice man who had a slow day at work will pay for two three hours to have champagne and listen to him go on about his day

    any more suggestions?

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    Aaaah, yess...you all are describing me to a T! I'm pretty damn antisocial, so even the prospect of being around that many people is like Aaaah!

    One thing I know I do that kills me is I put a TON of pressure on myself. I feel like I have to be the top seller, every single time. I put a lot of effort into this job--to seem social, to entertain, and to make people happy--and it just sucks the effing life out of me.

    Ironically, I only started dreading work once I became a top earner. It feels like all eyes are on me, even though I shouldn't give a shit. People will comment about the money I make, so I know it isn't all in my head.

    I only go in when I know I can 'give it my best,' even though it's not about that at all! Logically, I know that I will always make more money going in than I will sitting on my ass. But logic just doesn't seem to work in this situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    That's exactly how I feel.

    I will be be pumped, ready to go in, and then once I'm there and it's dead...I lose all motivation.

    Even will sometimes freak myself out BEFORE going in because I know I could make more and if I don't reach my goal, I feel like I failed. Especially since when I first started dancing, my averages were freaking amazing. I wish I would have appreciated what I made when I first started dancing a lot more. Wish I would have saved/invested.

    The weekends freak me out the most because it's packed in there. I feel so much pressure to do good because it's so busy. I psyche myself out. I'll tell myself what I'm going to do and what I need to do, but once I'm in the moment, I freeze up.
    Doode. At my last club, we opened at 6, and they wouldn't even turn the music on until like 7! Much less put girls on stage! So I would go into work all pumped up (like you) and then have to sit through 2 hours of no music / deadness. That is a total hustle killer!! It takes an enormous amount of effort to keep yourself in that zone without help from your environment.

    And I'm the saaame way about busy club times. I psych myself out when there are tons of people. I almost always make more money when there are like 2 people in the club.

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    ^Yeah, I do something similar. It's not like I talk myself down or anything, but I always feel a shitload of pressure to make money (even though I have no reason to feel this pressured).
    It's the pressure that gets me down the most I think. When I try not to think about the money it makes it easier for me to go in and do my thing. But when I'm thinking, "oh, I need to make $____ tonight..." I get all stressed and anxious about going in. Because there is no guarantee that I'll make anything.

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    Sometimes before work I'll make a new mix cd or playlist for my car for the ride to work.

    or a glass of wine

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica_rabbit View Post
    It's the pressure that gets me down the most I think. When I try not to think about the money it makes it easier for me to go in and do my thing. But when I'm thinking, "oh, I need to make $____ tonight..." I get all stressed and anxious about going in. Because there is no guarantee that I'll make anything.
    Yeah, exactly. I'm always in competition with myself. I always rise to the occasion, but it is emotionally soooo draining...

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    At my last club, we opened at 6, and they wouldn't even turn the music on until like 7! Much less put girls on stage! So I would go into work all pumped up (like you) and then have to sit through 2 hours of no music / deadness. That is a total hustle killer!! It takes an enormous amount of effort to keep yourself in that zone without help from your environment.
    This is how my last club was, and it was the hardest thing to get over for me, especially because before I had always worked in clubs with day shifts so when you went in at night at least there was something already going on! My club was wonderful and had very consistent money, but waiting for the first customers to come and and the stage to get started always bummed me out.

    I always feel super super anxious until I get my first dance. Then I feel slightly better, but 100% better when I make my house fee, after which I am fine. At my old club I eventually just got used to the fact that the first few hours would be slow and tried not to think about it. We had to be there at 7 to sign in, but sometimes customers wouldn't show up til 8, so I'd get ready as slow as possible, stretch, and maybe read if after I went onstage the first time there was still not much happening.

    If anyone else has tips for this sort of situation I'd love to hear them!
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    ^^ Literally sounds like I could've written that post about my last club!!

    My new club has a day shift, so I at least have music going to keep me pumped even if the club is dead..

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    Aaaah, yess...you all are describing me to a T! I'm pretty damn antisocial, so even the prospect of being around that many people is like Aaaah!

    One thing I know I do that kills me is I put a TON of pressure on myself. I feel like I have to be the top seller, every single time. I put a lot of effort into this job--to seem social, to entertain, and to make people happy--and it just sucks the effing life out of me.

    Ironically, I only started dreading work once I became a top earner. It feels like all eyes are on me, even though I shouldn't give a shit. People will comment about the money I make, so I know it isn't all in my head.

    I only go in when I know I can 'give it my best,' even though it's not about that at all! Logically, I know that I will always make more money going in than I will sitting on my ass. But logic just doesn't seem to work in this situation.

    if i was a top earner it would motivate me. but because im one year new to dancing and its slow winter times still i cant seem to get past the 150-200 mark only occasionally when i make big money maybe once a month over 500. on top of that coz im at a new club i have been told by management im not making as much as i should be making [being the whole young blonde package]

    id love to be a top earner but i could only manage that in summer at my last club.
    i still dont dread going in here as much as my last club so i suppose when i really dont want to go in i think about my last club where my coked up boss is perving on the girls, waitresses stealing custys and make you look bad, girls fucking in bathrooms etc. it works like a charm to be really really happy about my club.

    do you think working 5 instead of 7 hour shifts would help seeing i wont be in there the whole night or will it just incease pressure to make More money?

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    My other pre-work motivating trick is to do my hair and makeup, hop on the subway, and really pay attention to all the attention I'm getting.

    Normally, I absolutely despise all the randoms that I wouldn't give the time of day to, but when I'm in work-mode, I see them as walking ATMs rather than people who are too old, fat, mainstream, masculine, whatever, and I love it when walking ATMs pay attention to me. If I'm getting a lot of random attention on the way to work, I obviously did a good job getting ready and am about to make a shitload of money.

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    ^ really? id rather stay incognito without people gawking at me for no personal gain
    i figured getting motivated to go in isnt really my problem, its getting motivated to approach the right people. im really down right now, i just got home. i made under 200 and for the last 5 mins i was standing at the bar thinking the next 5 mins aint gonna give any real boost to my money and would stop me from going home asap.
    and as im about to get paid im put on hold because someone decided to book 6 girls and i watched a 1500 transaction go through. i understand its all my fault for being lazy and stupid but i cant help feeling horrible all evening.
    maybe i need a day job. theres a whole different reality out there im sure....

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    ^^ Im sorry to hear that.... It always sucks when stuff like that happens. I remember going up to a group with a friend and wouldn't you know all 4 went to a skybox, except my guy. I felt like I was punched in the face. At least he really did just sit there all night ( believe me I kept
    one eye on his ass all night) Just picked the dud.. Bad luck. Im saying all that to say this, I work in a large club and even if it's all Around bad for everyone. SOMEONE is going to make money.SOMEBODY is going to VIP for an hour. I just try to tell myself that I need to be THAT girl because no matter how bad it is a few girls will be going home smiling and counting their money.

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    i honestly just every day until i burn out because if i take off work i will get distracted by law and order svu marathons and online shopping.
    but usually the money i made the previous day is incentive enough because i get panicky about missing out on money. i am way obsessed with money.

    the only times i've really had to coerce myself into going in was when i had no business working at that club any longer. is it time for you to switch clubs?

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    ^ I just switched clubs, and that definitely has helped.

    I'm just looking for other peoples' ideas for how to get motivated to go in more often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anouk.oui View Post
    i have the same problem. usually after i take a week off and buy a new outfit or get my hair done really gets me going for awhile. but 4 days really get my hustle down. cant help thinking blah im here again gonna make no money and listen to shit.

    i usually go to coffee at the hipster side of town to remind me of my old self before i became a note operated barbie
    I have my own version of this. My stripper self has her own fashion and separate persona. She would never wear cheap clothes or tacky colored jewelry. So under close-toes-shoes, I'll paint my toes blinding blue, or put a fake "sexy biatch" tattoo that my stocking covers up. Then when I see it, I remember that the persona is all fake, I'm still me underneath, just richer.

    I love this thread idea. With a grinding semester of school starting, I'm finding it hard to go to work after hard school days/weeks..

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    Quote Originally Posted by renderedhopeful View Post
    I have my own version of this. My stripper self has her own fashion and separate persona. She would never wear cheap clothes or tacky colored jewelry. So under close-toes-shoes, I'll paint my toes blinding blue, or put a fake "sexy biatch" tattoo that my stocking covers up. Then when I see it, I remember that the persona is all fake, I'm still me underneath, just richer.

    I love this thread idea. With a grinding semester of school starting, I'm finding it hard to go to work after hard school days/weeks..
    Yes, I'm anticipating the same problem.

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    Not sure if I mentioned this one..

    I do a search in Club Chat for clubs in my area, and I read the threads where the girls advise each other to try certain clubs (some of the old threads are good for this). Everyone sounds so motivated and ready to make $$$ that it gets me in the mood!

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