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    Although I'm crazy about my ATF, I try not to go in too often to see her. Maybe once every few weeks. Apart from the fact that my wallet appreciates this and it leaves me more time for other important activities, I somehow get the impression (maybe wrongly?) she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her. Have I got the wrong idea here?

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    It's all good buddy. No worries.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her.
    Hate to burst your bubble but I bet she doesn't think of you at all untill you walk in the the door with your wallet.
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    Default Re: Trying not to see my ATF too often

    Unless you have an annoying habit, we dancers usually prefer to see customers more often. However, if you plan to spend the same amount of money over a longer period of time than it's better that you keep doing what you are doing currently.
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    ^ Good point. Dancers are keenly aware of ROI the same as customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Although I'm crazy about my ATF, I try not to go in too often to see her. Maybe once every few weeks. Apart from the fact that my wallet appreciates this and it leaves me more time for other important activities, I somehow get the impression (maybe wrongly?) she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her. Have I got the wrong idea here?
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    Default Re: Trying not to see my ATF too often

    I'm very aware that it's all about the money/wallet, guys. Our "relationship" is strictly business. I get that. Doesn't mean there doesn't have to be some level of respect (if you can actually respect a PL ) even in a business relationship. Or maybe I'm just making this more complicated than it has to be.

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    Default Re: Trying not to see my ATF too often

    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Although I'm crazy about my ATF, I try not to go in too often to see her. Maybe once every few weeks. Apart from the fact that my wallet appreciates this and it leaves me more time for other important activities, I somehow get the impression (maybe wrongly?) she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her. Have I got the wrong idea here?
    We are talking about several different issues here. First off, she may or may not think that you are a PL but it's the last thing you should care about. You can't stop anyone, dancer, customer or otherwise from thinking whatever they are going to think about guys who spend money on strippers. If you are having a good time and enjoying her company that's all that matters.

    Obsession and PL'dom are often two different things. Some dancers will play with fire and try to milk a guy's obsession for as much cash as they can get while others will cut you off deciding that your money is not worth the aggravation involved. As long as you spend generously, don't try to monopolize a dancer's time and don't start acting all possessive and creepy she is not going to complain if you come in once a month, once a week or every shift.

    Honestly, PL is a misunderstood and over-used term here on this site. I've actually never even heard a dancer use the term inside a club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Although I'm crazy about my ATF, I try not to go in too often to see her. Maybe once every few weeks. Apart from the fact that my wallet appreciates this and it leaves me more time for other important activities, I somehow get the impression (maybe wrongly?) she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her. Have I got the wrong idea here?


    It sounds like you're making a smart decision in terms of limiting your visits. Better for both your wallet & your psyche in the longrun.

    The PL aspect is something I wouldn't even worry about. Dancers size us up as soon as we're in their radar, and cement that view (good or bad) after meeting us and chatting a bit.
    Besides....playing hard-to-get can be alot of fun!

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    Default Re: Trying not to see my ATF too often

    IMO, it is good for us to elicit self-restraint at least occasionally. It makes us stronger. It will also make those encounters with our favored ones even more enjoyable and longed for. And it might make us more respected, if not more attractive. IMO.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    Although I'm crazy about my ATF, I try not to go in too often to see her. Maybe once every few weeks. Apart from the fact that my wallet appreciates this and it leaves me more time for other important activities, I somehow get the impression (maybe wrongly?) she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her. Have I got the wrong idea here?
    The idea is to go into a SC and have a good time. Spend your hard earned money on the dancer of your choice. If you have a ATF that you only want to see every few weeks then do that. As long as you are spending money on dances and treating the ladies with respect they will never think of you as a PL.

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    Default Re: Trying not to see my ATF too often

    The one dancer that I'm truly sure was my friend was reluctant to accept tips from me and always offered to split restaurant tabs. But normally, you just have to remember it's not really your business or concern what she really thinks about anything. Other than, like you say, knowing if she feels like anything you do is a dis. Don't look for sympathy from dancers either, tell your troubles to a real friend. Spend your entertainment money in whatever way gets you the most and best enterainment. Don't waste it trying to get anyone to like you or think more highly of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    I somehow get the impression (maybe wrongly?) she will think of me as less of a PL if I don't appear to be that obsessed about her. Have I got the wrong idea here?
    Dancers are more likely to judge you on how you treat them. If you go in, treat her dances as a not too serious form of entertainment, spend a reasonable amount of money on her and try to be agreeable company, she'll probably like you as a customer.

    It you try and dig too much into her personal life (aka appear obsessed with her) or appear solely interested in getting the finest possible view of her anatomy, you probably won't be on her Christmas card list.

    Dancers (IMHO) are pragmatists - they'd rather spend time earning money from a pleasant customer than an unpleasant one. Be nice to a dancer and maybe they'll start to regard you as less of a wallet and more of a person.

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