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    I've been at sooo many clubs so I've been the new girl quite a few times. Not once has anybody been mean to me and except for one club, I made 'buddies' with other girls pretty easily and actually found a lot of friends in clubs. I see other girls on hear all the time saying : I'm here to make money, not friends. I wonder if they'd have that attitude at a regular job, too because usually people socialize at work in my experience. I get it that it can be distracting but having buddies there makes it more fun for me to work. I can rant, chat when it's dead and have fun. I actually think it helps me making money cause I feel like it's a more positive environment that I like to be in.

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    I see other girls on hear all the time saying : I'm here to make money, not friends. I wonder if they'd have that attitude at a regular job, too because usually people socialize at work in my experience. I get it that it can be distracting but having buddies there makes it more fun for me to work. I can rant, chat when it's dead and have fun. I actually think it helps me making money cause I feel like it's a more positive environment that I like to be in.
    At a regular job, you get paid for working your shift regardless of what you do. With dancing, if you're busy socializing then you are not making money.

    Yeah, I get along fine with other girls and chat when there are absolutely zero customers in the club, but I am there to make money, period.

    I guess it's a personal thing. I tend to be a loner outside of the club as well, so I find it annoying more than anything when girls want to get too friendly at work.

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    At a regular job, you get paid for working your shift regardless of what you do. With dancing, if you're busy socializing then you are not making money.

    Yeah, I get along fine with other girls and chat when there are absolutely zero customers in the club, but I am there to make money, period.

    I guess it's a personal thing. I tend to be a loner outside of the club as well, so I find it annoying more than anything when girls want to get too friendly at work.
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    I remember when I was the new girl...during my audition,ALL the dancers lined up the chairs and sat in the front row to watch me....I was SO nervous (and sober),I walked off the stage in the middle of my first song. I was like,"this is it. I can't do this." Well,unbeknownst to me,while I was in the DR getting dresses to leave,some of the dancers went to manager and talked him into giving me a 2nd chance. Then they came back and gave me tips and pointers and some even had their custies buy me a couple of drinks to help relax. If a new girl seems friendly,then I'll be nice and talk to her. BUT if she comes in the club and acts like her shit don't stink and she's too good for everyone around her-then I will most likely roll my eyes and ignore her.
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    It depending. I was generally nice to new dancers, especially brand new dancers because I remember what it felt like being new. I would tell them how to do it, but wouldn't train them usually because it meant less time for me to dance. Only exception is when I was paid by the club then it didn't matter. Even so, I'd tell new girls for advice to come to me. The only exception is when a girl was new and trying to tell us how to work. I was generally friendly to everyone but still kept a distance.


    Quote Originally Posted by crystalize View Post
    I see other girls on hear all the time saying : I'm here to make money, not friends. I wonder if they'd have that attitude at a regular job, too because usually people socialize at work in my experience. I get it that it can be distracting but having buddies there makes it more fun for me to work. I can rant, chat when it's dead and have fun. I actually think it helps me making money cause I feel like it's a more positive environment that I like to be in.
    In normal jobs I generally don't make a lot of friends either because I believe work is work and play is play. I've had friends at most places I worked, dancing or not, but always kept it to a minimum. In my personal experience becoming close to many people at work can backfire as well. I would be friendly but not hang out with most I worked with.

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    Yeah, I am definitely friendly but don't actually make an effort to befriend anyone. I noticed though that the 'popular' girls that chat and laugh with other staff come across as more desirable so it's definitely a smart move to get to know people. I definitely don't socialize when there is an opportunity to hustle, more when it's dead or I'm in the dressing room gettin ready etc.

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    Most dancers are gonna tell you that they're "nice" or at least neutral to new girls. But really, most house dancers are deluding themselves and talk mad shit about any new girl that comes in.

    And they really believe it too! They'll pull the whole "gurl i'd nevar talk shit behind your back, if i had something to say about you i'd say it to ur face!!1 Amirite y'all?" *agreeing nods from around the DR*. Then as SOON as that girl leaves the room, bam the shit-talking commences. It's like they're doing it unconsciously. Bizarre.

    Sometimes I just feel like lining all these girls up and being like "ok SHE's been talking shit about you, YOU've been talking shit about THEM, and Y'ALL have been talking shit about THAT ONE over there, and so on... now that it's out in the open shut the fuck up."

    Sorry for the tangent. I'm just sick of DR/club drama, and I hate when I'm the new girl at a club

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    When I'm new, I just try to smile vaguely like a moron all of the time in attempts to radiate positive energy. "I'm happy and dumb and harmless, y'all!"

    I'm an intense hustlah, so this only works for so long, but at least by the time they realize what a hard worker I am, they hopefully like me a little bit.

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    well im usually the new girl since i travel so much. i keep to myself, some girls introduce themselves and ask about me. i am cordial... if i get good vibes i might be friendly, if i get the crazy vibes or the trying to stick your nose in my business vibes then i am pretty cold.

    i ignore new girls usually. unless something about them makes me like them.

    now girls new to dancing- ugh. usually i stay far away. newbies are usually very annoying. i sometimes wonder if i was any better when i first started-- probably not.

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    I ignore them. i dont believe some of them even want to be at the club and are just in it for the climate of there financial situation at the time. Many girls welcome me. they break the Ice by asking about my breast. which I often found hilarious.
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    I ignore new girls because I ignore everyone in general. That's not to say I'm not cordial because I'm not a bitch or an ice queen. I do smile and will answer back to a, "Hey girl" but after that I'm tight-lipped and am only in the dressing room to freshen up between dances.

    I don't believe for myself in socializing with people at work, period. Maybe that's because I grew up in the practicing side of the medical field (as opposed to corporate/non-patient contact), worked in it and in a sales (which was great for hustling) job through my undergrad, and continue to pursue studies in it.

    In the med field, yes it is nice to have good rapport with fellow colleagues and superiors as in any industry, but it's absolutely not necessary. You are there as part of a team to save lives and if you do excellent work, you get promoted or are very rewarded, point blank. You could talk to no one and do quite fine.

    I would talk more in my career but NOT in my job which are two different things.

    So that's pretty much sealed my fate when it comes to being friends with my coworkers. I don't hang out with them outside of work, have their numbers, or know any of their personal information and would never tell them any of mine. I have a fake story lined up that says very little. Even when it's slow, I practice on a side pole so that I'm alone.

    It's a very good way of being out of drama, gossip, and I just continue to practicing more things that can make me money.

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    Well girls, I might be the one of the oldest dancers on the site. I still dance 5 nights a week...a still make bank...being a hot sexy older woman is soooo much fun...just wait til your 40's ladies. However, the club i work for asked me to be the "housemom" I agreed to take the post as long as they allow me to dance...i don't take a tip out or anything. But, I welcome all the new girls, train brand new dancers, explain rules, introduce them around to the girls...especially the money makers...who better to watch and learn from. For most dancers, it's baptism by fire and you're thrown to the wolves...so "kissy" face isn't truly expected in the industry. But, i can say that my club is awesome...all the girls watch each others back...if a customer isnt into one girl, but they know of one he might like...they broker deals to introduce the customer to the dancer....though they might not get the dance...they still make something...or they work a deal with the other dancer. So, there are several schools of thought about what to do with new girls...make them your protege, and they will make you $$$ just because of their loyalty to you because you were the only person that was nice in the beginning. Stay sexy, and be the beautiful women you are. Remember, we might be junkies or professionals on the outside, but in the club...we are ALL WOMEN! kisses!

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    I pretty much ignore a lot of new girls, unless for some reason she sparks my interest, I might be more friendly and actually say hello and try to find a bit out about her. But mostly I just go in, make money, and leave. Not that Im rude-I still respond if another girl tries to start a convo, but won't pursue it unless it's dead in the club.

    If she is brand new to dancing and asks me for help, Ill help, but I won't go out of my way unless she really sparks some pity in me, which is rare (has happened twice in the 5 yrs, on and off, that I've danced).
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    Well, I'm fairly new, and I've always been very welcome with the dancers. However, the managers don't like me that much. The bouncers, bartenders and everyone else tends to be very friendly with me. Many dancers give me quick pointers and help me accentuate some of my physical features and dance moves, but so far, I haven't encountered with bitchy dancers. In fact, lots of the girls praise me for my body, and my advice to them; "lift lots of weight in your arms, chest, back, legs, thighs and buttocks, and do lots of planks. Then, after acquiring some muscle, increase your body fat by two or three percent in order to get some boobs and hips; not too much so you'll end up looking chubby, but just enough to have some female curves." One girl followed that advice and got lots of money thanks to her "new" body. Personally, I hate when girls try to be desperate skinny; they look like little girls, and nobody wants to see a ten year old taking off her clothes to show off bones and silicone.

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    I ignore them and focus on my game. that is what i work for. not for friends

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    I ignore them. I don't normally talk to anyone at all, really.
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    Ignore. Not intentionally but I just don't care. I'm not usually trying to make friends with anyone there and avoid being in the DR as much as I can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kylea2 View Post
    Generally it happens one of two ways:

    1.) If the girl is brand new sometimes either the manager or another dancer ends up telling her to talk to me. In that scenario I end up losing a few hours making money to do "training". Basically I prep them up before the first time they go on stage, give them a lap dance so they get an idea of what other girls do, & give them a few opening lines for talking to customers.

    2.) She'll come into the dressing room & I'll say hello, introduce myself, ask her for her name, & ask if she's danced before. If she says she's brand new I'll tell her if she has any questions she can ask me. If she says she's an established dancer then I wish her good luck that night, & I head back to the club floor.
    ^This. It's not that i want to know a new girls life story but if they're new and need training it's good to know and i'm a helpful girl so if someone needs to know something i'll try to help. And of course, everyone always likes to watch a new girl on stage to see what they're like, and i like to know if it's someone i can work with to improve my own hustle.

    When i am the new girl i just o in and get on with my job, ask any questions i need to know as ik go along and concentrate on making money.

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