This is a spin off of the "lowering your prices" thread. I didn't want to threadjack but there appears to be a lot of the "what you charge = what you're worth" mentality.
On one hand I totally get this and in some cases I feel this way. But on the other hand I think it's kind of sad.
Some people might argue that any job you take on, you have to think about the pay being worth your time, but I feel like it's kind of different because when selling tangible items or working at a desk, what you produce or sell isn't ::you:: We sell our looks, our personalities, our ideas, our sexuality- all of the most intimate aspects of ourselves- and to be honest it kind of saddened me reading that so many women feel like their value can be summed up in dollars and cents on a per minute basis.
Whether you charge and receive $1.99 a minute or $10.99 a minute for shows (or choose to do them essentially for free in "hopes" of adequate tips a la MFC) really shouldn't have a bearing on what you think you are "worth", I don't feel.
In the "banking" thread VivianBear said something about not caring about how the money comes, but setting a goal of $3,000 to $5,000 per month, and simply meeting it. I feel like that is a much healthier way to view this business, rather than aligning what we are worth with a per minute price.
For me, maybe getting it into our heads what income goals we have, then knowing for 100% certain what our boundaries are, and manipulating whatever resources we have to earn that money while staying within those boundaries kind of eliminates that issue/sentiment.
What if no matter what site you worked on or how much you charged per minute, you did a little bit of math first and decided for yourself (just an example):
"Ok my boundaries are that I refuse to get topless for less than $10 profit, completely naked for $20 profit, and insert any toys for less than $30 profit." (once again this is just an example lol)
Naturally if you charge $4.99/minute you would feel comfortable moving at a quicker pace because you'd know on that site your cut is let's say 50%, so it'll take you 4 minutes to reach $10 and go topless, 8 minutes to reach $20 and go nude, and 12 minutes to reach $30 profit and start fucking yourself, respectively. On the exact same site if you charged $1.99/minute sure you'd get more guys but you would still know not to get topless until 10 minutes has passed, nude until 20 minutes has passed, or do toys until 30 minutes.
Yeah you might get lots of guys who don't stick around that long, but what's it to you? You're still earning money while they come and go and maybe you just take a bit longer introducing yourself, showing off your sexy outfit, teasing them, flirting with them, asking them questions about what they like, etc... You're not plowing away at your pussy for $3.12. The guys who leave in the first 5 minutes when you're just getting into it are the same guys who leave anyway in the first 5 minutes when you're already fucking yourself.
Doing it this way, no matter what you charge your boundaries are set. If guys stay long enough to see those beautiful breasts of yours, then they see them. If not, you haven't lost a thing.
If you are better able to reach your goals at a lower price, so what? It doesn't mean you're less of a woman. If it helps you get to your goal faster then it just makes you a successful businesswoman. It's insane to let your bottom line slip because of some perceived value judgment that says you are worth what you charge per minute. By the same token, if you are insecure about your weight, your looks, maybe even your skills and are afraid to push your prices up a little more because you don't "think" you're "worth" that much per minute (I know not many girls on this forum have this problem but I've spoken to girls who feel like they can't charge a lot because of physical issues), that's just as ridiculous.
Why do sex workers feel like our prices per minute directly reflect our worth? That's totally shitty. That is all.
ETA: like, saying you charge $5.99/min because you feel you are "worth" that much is ALSO saying you DON'T feel like you're worth $6.99/min or more!



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My income tripled (or more) when I got rid of that "rate = worth" hangup.

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