It depends on how serious he is about what he's looking for. If he's in the club to find a thirty dollar handjob and you want to sell him dances, there's no room for negotiation and you have to chose whether or not you want to use deception in order to make that sale. Personally, I don't like playing with fire and I would never make false promises when it comes to specific requests for extras. If anything, it’s too much of a physical safety risk. Of course, vague insinuations are something else entirely.
For some reason I’ve always been verrry good at reforming the ‘I-Never-Get-Dances’ type and the ‘Will-You-Let-Me- (fill in extra)? ’ type. I think the key is to anticipate either statement before they can verbalize it and adjust your approach accordingly. It doesn’t always have to get to the point where you're answering defensively if you can anticipate these statements and navigate around them by adjusting your approach. Direct the flow of conversation and always maintain control. Sometimes when I do have to answer ‘Will-You-Let-Me- (fill in extra)? ’ I might start off by shaming the guy in an indirect way. Like:
Aw, c'mon. Do you really do those kinds of things when you go to strip clubs? Reeeally? ...Wow. I’m just surprised that other girls would let you do that stuff. I mean... Me, I’d feel kinda gross if I did stuff like that with random men all night, y’know? I’d like to think I’m above that.”
This start has always been effective for me but obviously the wording isn't nearly as important as how you say it and the type of person you say it to.
I’d continue but I’m already writing a novel here.
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