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    Default What do you do when customers only want extras?

    what do you do/say when you're trying to sell a lapdance and the customer asks certain questions like:

    what they are SPECIFICALLY allowed to do during the dance
    if they can touch you (when they either can't or you are not okay with it)
    if you'll make them cum
    what they will get with x amount of money

    how do you get these kind of people to buy dances without being dirty? is there even a way?

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    ^ I do a similar routine. It may be a little risky to make them think they will get something .... but it is what it is . Sometimes I'm on the careful and vague side . Sometimes I agree to do whatever then get them back and just try to string them along as long as possible. Club staff at one place in particular knows about these tricks and we won't get fired for agreeing to xyz ( only if we do it which they know I would never do). I regularly work a few different clubs though so my little tricks would catch up faster if I was in one place for sure. They get fucked all right ( just not how they hope ) . I'm really not sure how I feel about this either ( since I used to not do it and would just say " we can't do that here " or at least try to get one regular dance out of them or something ). I probably will tone it down a bit too because I know it carries risk if it's a cop ect.
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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    i posted a poll about this a while back and have gotten into quite a few arguments with blues about this, but i also lead them on. honestly, these guys will only spend money if they get extras and extras kill the business. the only girls who will be profiting off of them are extras girls or girls who lead them into believing they are extras girls. I dont want the extras girls making money and i dont want the custie getting extras, so i put myself in the second category.

    that being said, my other rule is i make sure anything i say passes what i call the "undercover cop test." if the customer was a cop, could you get in trouble for solicitation? if you do an outright bait and switch and say yes, if you buy this CR i will suck your dick, well you could be arrested. and thats a flat out lie and will rile the customer up. its best to skirt around the question while using body language that might indicate otherwise and to try to distract them from the specifics. or perhaps says something that you mean but say it in a sarcastic flirtatious tone of voice. i.e. "so what happens there?" "oh, nothing naughty or dirty*wink wink nudge nudge*" to make it sound like you are obviously joking about nothing naughty happening when in reality, well you will be dancing naked which is naughty and dirty in some books, but not doing anything that is actually dirty by SC standards. and then later when they call you out on it, like the other posters said, play stupid. get all wide eyed and be like "oh why would you think that? we dont do that at strip clubs. im soooo sorry i had no idea what you meant." or maybe just walk away laughing . whatever suits you best really.

    that being said, if you are ever backed into a situation with a customer who you really cannot lead on without being explicit, i would tell him to go fuck himself. if the only way for you to make a sale is to blatantly say "i will do ____" where ___ is something you do not provide and is against the law, dont say it. at best it is unquestionably bad ethics, at worst the customer will be an undercover to arrest you or a raging lunatic to go apeshit on you when you dont follow through.

    also, a word of caution- before doing anything that could piss off a customer, size them up first. leading a customer on, although you have never outright lied and smart customers wouldnt fall for it, will piss off a lot of customers. you dont want to find yourself trapped in an hour long private champagne room with the hulk...

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    well, there's a few i used to say that don't work anymore. but from what i've heard from girls who travel, they still work in other places, so i'm not posting them. sorry.

    if he's trying to get bargain pussy "you know that masterbation is free, don't you?"

    playing dumb works, sure. but a lot of guys have learned how it works, so they will seriously ask for specifics. the kind of shit that a cop with a wire loves to hear you say. be careful. even playing dumb can bite you in the ass.
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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    Move the fuck on.
    I dont have time for that bullshit.

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    ^ i'd agree, but like athena said, if they don't waste their money on me, they'll probably end up finding a girl who'll give them what they're paying for. and i just don't believe in letting guys buy pussy in a stripclub. asshole tax.
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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    Quote Originally Posted by Christyismyalias View Post
    Move the fuck on.
    I dont have time for that bullshit.
    Amen, sister. For every couple of asswipes you pass by, there's at least 1 good guy with 20-2000 bucks in his pocket for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by renderedhopeful View Post
    Amen, sister. For every couple of asswipes you pass by, there's at least 1 good guy with 20-2000 bucks in his pocket for you.
    this really depends on where you are working and what kind of night it is.

    on a busy night in an area where extras are (reasonably) under control, then i am probably just gonna give them a snide remark and walk off to the next one. unless i am in a vengeful mood.

    but in some areas, most of the customers expect extras. in that case it is within your best interest to not cue them in to the fact that you are a clean dancer until the dance has begun.

    i always look at it more of just avoiding telling them that you are a clean dancer. i never outright tell them that i am a dirty dancer- but i find sly ways to suggest that i might be. in some areas, most of the customers really will stop spending as soon as they realize that your pussy wont be touched and their dick wont be touched.

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    Quote Originally Posted by renderedhopeIful View Post
    Amen, sister. For every couple of asswipes you pass by, there's at least 1 good guy with 20-2000 bucks in his pocket for you.
    Well .... if this were entirely true ... that would be fantastic. But sometimes .... I've worked everyone in the place and I am only pulling this bullshit because I'm down to my last options.

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    i keep moveing on there not gonna make a good regular and there not the kind of guy i wish to dance for anyways

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    It's not worth it. Plus management knows the guys that come in for extras and if they see you with them, you're gonna get xray vision on you the rest of the night. I swear.
    Yes, I'm real.

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    ^^this is also very club dependent. at some clubs management will even go so far as to even hook up the extras girls with the extras customers.

    i see you work at the lodge, perhaps that club is a lot more diligent at reducing extras than the two clubs i have worked at in Dallas (Babydolls and the Clubhouse). and also a lot of clubs dont even have regulars (i.e. clubs in tourism areas like new orleans) so management wont know. or again, wont care. i remember one time at the hustler in New Orleans i had a customer ask the VIP host what was allowed in the champagne room... and the VIP host said he didnt care as long as he didnt hear 'loud sex noises'. oh and this same host promised that he could get this same customer some cocaine later in the night. so yea, very club dependent. its cool that your club is more responsible than most, but its definitely no longer the norm .

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    When a customer is inquiring about extras they are usually thinking in the VIP room in my club. So, I lay it out very straight, which is part of my hustle. I highlight the positives of the VIP room versus a 'couch' (lap) dance in a factual AND sexy manner. Using this method I sold four VIPs yesterday alone, although, they were discounted for Sunday.

    Moving on, as far as extras go, I try to be upfront about the fact that I'm a clean dancer. I tell them if they tip UPFRONT they can touch boobs or ass (which is allowed in my club and not an extra) because they can't do that in couch dances. This guarantees me an extra $20-40 on top of my VIP earnings which helps. I try to outline what they can do versus what they can't, but if push comes to shove I will be very clear about what they cannot do to me and vice versa. This protects me from a few things:

    1.) Undercover cops busting me for using 'the wrong language'
    2.) Getting trapped in VIP with a grabby asshole
    3.) Having to stop the VIP and deal with my managers bitching about a lost customer who was a 'good' spender

    I do get turned down for VIP because of that, but I am sure to make a few suggestions; including Craigslist, Penthouse, or 7 Mile Road. I also ask them if they would risk their job for me, (all of them say no), and I politely inform them that I won't be risking my job for them either--or my health, or freedom, or clean criminal record.

    I've stopped two VIPs and those were both on my first two days, after that I learned quick and it's been smooth sailing. I'm willing to give up a VIP with a guy who I think will cause me emotional stress so I can keep a positive attitude for my good customers.

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    ^yea you havent developed the malicious stripper streak yet. bwahahahah

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    I've thought about doing it, and I probably could have and been just fine, but all it takes is one undercover cop. I mean, it's just not worth the laugh!
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    ^yes, thats why you never explicitly say you will do ___sexual act__ for $. dancing around the subject is ok though. maybe a cop would try to take you in and you would have a pain in the ass court battle, but with a decent lawyer i dont see you losing it. unless you are in an area with really strict laws. avoid those areas.

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    I do what Athena does - hint at it, but don't lay it out outright. I work in a full-nude HARD FRICTION club that's heavy with extras. Sometimes you have to be manipulative to compete with the whore girls. Breast touching is expected. The only rules are "No vagina, no saliva"...and men STILL want more! So....

    What happens upstairs, you ask? *eyebrow wiggle* Oh, lots and lots of fun...long, hard fun.....teehee asshole.



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    ^Then you're stuck slapping hands and being a kung fu stripper? I've tried that and end up emotionally stressed afterwards..also in a club where customers tell me "so and so gave me a price list" but, I wouldnt say its everywhere..or maybe I just don't want to see it..

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    When guys ask too many questions I tell them to sit and think about our conversation so far.

    Most of the time I tell them I don't allow whatever it is they are requesting.

    They could also be a cop.




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    When people tell me what I will and won't do I'll just say "well no sex" and they either ask for something specific which I tell them I don't do, or they take the chance and find out that I don't do any extras after paying me some money for a clean dance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunshine16 View Post
    ^Then you're stuck slapping hands and being a kung fu stripper? I've tried that and end up emotionally stressed afterwards..also in a club where customers tell me "so and so gave me a price list" but, I wouldnt say its everywhere..or maybe I just don't want to see it..
    I'm not much of a kung-foo stripper. Lines like "Slow down there pal, gals gotta warm up first" will usually stop roaming hands for 4-5 songs. By then if they try something I just get dressed and ask for mah monies.



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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    ^That's a good one too. I'm trying to find a club that has a CR because right now there's only the "private room" booth thing, but still get the "well what DO I GET in there" because it's more expensive than a regular couch dance.

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    It depends on how serious he is about what he's looking for. If he's in the club to find a thirty dollar handjob and you want to sell him dances, there's no room for negotiation and you have to chose whether or not you want to use deception in order to make that sale. Personally, I don't like playing with fire and I would never make false promises when it comes to specific requests for extras. If anything, it’s too much of a physical safety risk. Of course, vague insinuations are something else entirely.

    For some reason I’ve always been verrry good at reforming the ‘I-Never-Get-Dances’ type and the ‘Will-You-Let-Me- (fill in extra)? type. I think the key is to anticipate either statement before they can verbalize it and adjust your approach accordingly. It doesn’t always have to get to the point where you're answering defensively if you can anticipate these statements and navigate around them by adjusting your approach. Direct the flow of conversation and always maintain control. Sometimes when I do have to answer ‘Will-You-Let-Me- (fill in extra)? I might start off by shaming the guy in an indirect way. Like:

    Aw, c'mon. Do you really do those kinds of things when you go to strip clubs? Reeeally? ...Wow. I’m just surprised that other girls would let you do that stuff. I mean... Me, I’d feel kinda gross if I did stuff like that with random men all night, y’know? I’d like to think I’m above that.”

    This start has always been effective for me but obviously the wording isn't nearly as important as how you say it and the type of person you say it to.
    I’d continue but I’m already writing a novel here.

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    Default Re: What do you do when customers only want extras?

    depending on how they word it I either a. laugh in their face or b. slap them.

    if they're being vague about what they want but I know they want extras I'll play dumb until they outright say it and then I go "EWWWWWWWWWWWW NASTY FUCK GET THE HELL OUT OF HERE"

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