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    Question Gender Identity

    For those of us whose sexuality is fluid, do you identify as:LGBTQ (I hope I didn't omit a letter) To quote Samantha from Sex and the City: "Honey I'm trisexual. I'll try anything" (in my case the exceptions are farm animals and houseplants)
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    I'm straight, but do think experimenting is natural. The idea of sleeping with a woman really doesn't turn me on but doesn't bother me either. I could see myself doing that to see how it is, but don't really have an urge to do it either.

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    I identify as a femme lesbian. I guess a more accurate term would be homoflexible, as there are a few guys that I'm attracted to (as was the case with my ex-boyfriend). But I am predominantly attracted to women, and the occasional MtF.

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    I refuse to identify as anything.

    -Im not straight because, well im definitely not straight.
    -Im not a lesbian because once in a while i will be attracted to a male.
    -Im not bi because that implies i am attracted to everyone when in reality i am actually very picky and am not attracted to 90% of the population of either gender (the break down is attracted to maybe 10% of women and 1% of men)
    -And im not questioning because when i am attracted to someone know it and when im not attracted to them i damn well know it

    why must we label this shit?

    although when a guy is coming on to me and not listening to my very obvious body language that is saying 'im not going to fuck you. ever.' i tell them "sorry, im gay." but thats much more a cop out than an identification.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    -Im not bi because that implies i am attracted to everyone when in reality i am actually very picky and am not attracted to 90% of the population of either gender (the break down is attracted to maybe 10% of women and 1% of men)
    I've never heard that before, that bi means you're attracted to everyone. Everyone has preferences....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    I refuse to identify as anything.

    -Im not straight because, well im definitely not straight.
    -Im not a lesbian because once in a while i will be attracted to a male.
    -Im not bi because that implies i am attracted to everyone when in reality i am actually very picky and am not attracted to 90% of the population of either gender (the break down is attracted to maybe 10% of women and 1% of men)
    -And im not questioning because when i am attracted to someone know it and when im not attracted to them i damn well know it

    why must we label this shit?

    although when a guy is coming on to me and not listening to my very obvious body language that is saying 'im not going to fuck you. ever.' i tell them "sorry, im gay." but thats much more a cop out than an identification.
    I've never told a guy that, but maybe I should. Even though I am attracted to men, that doesn't mean all men. In fact certain types make me wish I was gay (the fat guys into sports, and the chauvinist pigs).

    To me, I'm not sure what bisexuality really is. For instance I know someone who has had sex with women but isn't attracted to them and has never had a relationship. Not sure I'd call her bi. I have a guy friend who's had sex with many guys and a relationship with one, though he doesn't consider himself bi (I would in his case). People have different ideas of what is bi, which to me is confusing. I don't think those people who experiemented are always bi, but some people think anyone who had sex with the same gender are bi.

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    My first boyfriend was intersexed (XXY chromosome; both boobs and boy bits). I've been physically and emotionally attracted to men, women, and transfolk. So... queer, I guess, but I'll often say bi for simplicity. (Genderqueer queer femme if you're into the whole gender identity/identity politics thing.)

    What's really fun is dating a straight guy and then having him realize in slowly dawning confusion that the reason he feels so much more comfortable with me than with other girls he's dated is because I'm just as much guy inside as I am girl, in the sense that if I'm comfortable with my gal body, love it in fact, but if I woke up tomorrow as the opposite sex I'd be fine with that. It wouldn't throw me.

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    I identify as a lesbian but I am married to a man, so I guess that's where it gets a little tricky. In the gay community I don't think I would be counted as a lesbian since I am still with a man but that's what I consider myself. If me and my hubby split up I would never be with a man again, I don't find other men attractive at all. As for women, I have been in 3 serious relationships with them (while married to hubby) and have been in love with much more. Women are my inspiration, my motivation, my life.

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    ^ I think you should just let your hubby go. I feel bad for him that you would rather be with a random woman than him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by georgia_peach View Post
    I've never heard that before, that bi means you're attracted to everyone. Everyone has preferences....
    Both the gay and straight community seem to believe that bi is codeword for fuck anything that moves. And then a bunch of other bad stuff.

    Yea much descrimination against the bi sexuals. Even I think of a slutty party girl when I hear a girl is bad-- the stereotype is pretty pervasive.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    yeah, "bi" doesn't go over well, though i have met some people who were simply indifferent to what the genitalia someone had, they just wanted a good person. and i wish that "bisexual" meant that more often. but more and more, it's come to mean, "i watched female/female porn and i'd like to try that because it might turn my boyfriend on."

    i am always pleased to see that there are queer dancers!

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    ^ I think you should just let your hubby go. I feel bad for him that you would rather be with a random woman than him.

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    It didn't seem like that's what she was saying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    ^ I think you should just let your hubby go. I feel bad for him that you would rather be with a random woman than him.

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    A marriage can be worthwhile to the people in it with little or no sex.

    I think there are homosexuals married to heteros where they satisfy their spouse's sexual needs, get some non-sexual needs satisfied, and hopefully are free to satisfy their sexual needs outside the marriage.

    Not to imply anything about El, how would I know.

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    i tend to think of bi as becoming attracted to a person regardless of their gender, not particularly someone who would fuck everything just for the sake of fucking or whoever is available.

    but never know, im sure there are people out there in both extremes

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    I just like to fuck
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    I consider bi to be indifferent to gender as well. I consider myself to be bi but I'm very picky. Even in my promiscuous years I was only with one woman because it took me so long to find a girl I was attracted to and who was attracted to me (attracted to me was the kicker, I think). I'm just as picky about men . . . but I found many more willing male partners.

    But I'm happily monogomous now with DBF.

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    Is this poll only meant for dancers? Are there no just-plain-hetero dancers?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    Is this poll only meant for dancers? Are there no just-plain-hetero dancers?
    I'm hetero. I have no interest in having sex with a woman but don't think if I had sex with a woman makes me automatically bi.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    Is this poll only meant for dancers? Are there no just-plain-hetero dancers?
    I dunno, I guess whoever wants to vote can vote, and I've only known one hetero dancer in my life. I even joked about the novelty.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    Is this poll only meant for dancers? Are there no just-plain-hetero dancers?
    Usually if dancer only responses are wanted, the ladies post in the women only areas. The Lounge is open to all plus there were choices for both lesbian and gay along with the other choices. So I have to assume the OP was looking for broad based responses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    Is this poll only meant for dancers? Are there no just-plain-hetero dancers?
    no. one of the main reasons why i am a stripper is for the mind blowing lesbian locker room orgies.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by georgia_peach View Post
    It didn't seem like that's what she was saying.
    You could be right but if you break down her comments she would rather be elsewhere. My point was that she should do that and release her guy as he probably has no idea. Speculation of course but that is the vibe I got.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR View Post
    You could be right but if you break down her comments she would rather be elsewhere. My point was that she should do that and release her guy as he probably has no idea. Speculation of course but that is the vibe I got.

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    Do you mean he has no idea because of this part: I have been in 3 serious relationships with them (while married to hubby)? Now, obviously I'm not her so I can't post for her, but when I read that part I did assume they had a poly relationship. If that's not the case then I can see your point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    no. one of the main reasons why i am a stripper is for the mind blowing lesbian locker room orgies.
    I am very happy for you, but that doesn't help me to understand why straight/heterosexual is not an option for answering the poll. Maybe it was a bit prejudicial of me to think that, for lack of a hetero option, the poll was perhaps meant for dancers only. Sorry about that.

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    No option for asexual.

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