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    Default Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    I know a few dancers here don't really like having regulars for whatever reason and I respect that.

    However, for those of you who do have regulars you actually like spending time with in the club (while making money at the same time), do you get at all worried when they stop showing up?

    Please no smartass comments like "she misses the money", "she's worried about no more money", etc. That's all understood and accepted. No need to repeat it for the 1,000th time.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    All regulars have an expiration date. No worries. When one leaves, it just opens up space for the next one.

    It could see how it could make me a little worried. But then I consider that the next regular who moves in might be even better.
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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    As a regular customer who has become somewhat irregular, I'm interested in the dancer's comments on this as well.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    I've dealt with this and no it doesn't bother me. I remember at one club I had what I called the "$200 Friday guy". Every Friday night around 9pm or so this fairly young guy would meet me at the bar and ready to spend $200+. This especially stands out because most of my regulars were older guys and this was a nice looking guy probably a little bit older than me. So for a few hours (this club didn't have VIP) I would sit and either talk to him or he'd get dances, and usually both. He was polite too and never asked me to date him or get together outside the club. This went on for several months then one Friday night I went to the bar at 9pm and he wasn't there. He never came back. I didn't worry because I ended up finding another regular that same time, but it was weird. I don't know what happened. Maybe he died, maybe his wife (I don't know if he was married) found out, maybe he moved. I'll never know but figured he moved on.

    I have had several regulars for years who have booked me for bachelor parties and/or modeling jobs. As time marches one most have gone away at this point and I just assume it's because I am getting older and either they got bored with me, or wanted to hire a younger girl. I'm not offended.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    Well things happen in life that may prevent you from going to the strip club. It's really not that serious and I don't get worried at all. They'll be back and they know where to find me, on to the next.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    Quote Originally Posted by Elvia View Post
    All regulars have an expiration date. No worries. When one leaves, it just opens up space for the next one.

    It could see how it could make me a little worried. But then I consider that the next regular who moves in might be even better.
    Elvia is exactly right. The OP assumes there is something beyond the money. Yes, once in a blue moon it does happens but is as rare as hens teeth.

    The truth of the matter is that a professional stripper values her regulars.They level out the shift ups and downs. If a reg suddenly stops showing up, well, seems to me that is a reason for concern and perhaps warrants some investigation. But if he has in fact moved on, I doubt many strippers would do much more than sigh a little bit because it was pretty damn good business for both parties but then from a business standpoint has to move on.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    When I first started going to SCs, I was suprised that there were a fair number of dancers who didn't act phoney. So I would go in at the slow times and hang out a little. I knew I was too old to date them, but it seemed like being friends was possible. But after a while I realized that, even with the un-phoney dancers, even just a friendship is very unlikely. So I started going at the busy times, to avoid a lot of hanging out. I don't generally like to hang out with people I only know superficially, even if they're nice. It's only worth it if its going to lead to an actual friendship. I'm still a regular in terms of regularly buying dances, but no real hanging out generally.

    For those of us not in sales, I think we don't realize the pressure of it. I've heard with real estate agents, they put a lot of pressure on them to solicit business from family and friends. The idea being, if you're now willing to exploit/strain you personal relationships, you don't have the heart for the job. A dancer may think you're a great guy, but it's part of the discipline of the job that she's still going to size you up as a custy, and get what she estimates she should be able to get out of you money-wise. And part of that is not making you think she's desparate for you to come back to the club. Because then you'll think you have leverage, and will try to make her work harder to get your money.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    I've actually become worried a time or two that something happened to them. I looked one up on myspace and was sure maybe he died. He just got a girlfriend and I was happy for him!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ilbbaicnl View Post
    When I first started going to SCs, I was suprised that there were a fair number of dancers who didn't act phoney. So I would go in at the slow times and hang out a little. I knew I was too old to date them, but it seemed like being friends was possible. But after a while I realized that, even with the un-phoney dancers, even just a friendship is very unlikely. So I started going at the busy times, to avoid a lot of hanging out. I don't generally like to hang out with people I only know superficially, even if they're nice. It's only worth it if its going to lead to an actual friendship. I'm still a regular in terms of regularly buying dances, but no real hanging out generally.
    Now we're finally getting a clue about what all these posts from Ilbb are about. I also still go to clubs after all these years because I meet lovely dancers who aren't phoney. I know they aren't going OTC with me, or even if they might, an escort is a better bet; I don't have to spend $$$ just to get her interest and then ask a ? that might be taken unfavorably. I mean, that's not what strippers are about. They are their own special thing !

    I've mainly stopped going at the busiest times because hanging out becomes so limited. I like hanging out with dancers who want to spend a little time with me & see where it leads. I don't expect it to lead to a "real" friendship, but maybe an ITC relationship where we have some fun, learn a few things from each other, and have a little inter-generational wealth transfer.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    Generally no. Such is business

    I did have one regular in Cleveland though who followed me club to club from
    when I started dancing till I stopped working there. I would have been worried if he disappeared though. He was a super loyal person and i think would probably only flake if something bad happened.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    I know a few dancers here don't really like having regulars for whatever reason and I respect that.

    However, for those of you who do have regulars you actually like spending time with in the club (while making money at the same time), do you get at all worried when they stop showing up?

    Please no smartass comments like "she misses the money", "she's worried about no more money", etc. That's all understood and accepted. No need to repeat it for the 1,000th time.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    Quote Originally Posted by stawj View Post
    I know a few dancers here don't really like having regulars for whatever reason and I respect that.

    However, for those of you who do have regulars you actually like spending time with in the club (while making money at the same time), do you get at all worried when they stop showing up?

    Please no smartass comments like "she misses the money", "she's worried about no more money", etc. That's all understood and accepted. No need to repeat it for the 1,000th time.
    Btw though, I don't understand why comments like "she misses the money" would be smart ass? Or why they would be in the third person, unless you're talking about answers from men, although you asked the question to dancers.
    Kinda makes me think you're thinking of someone in particular when you ask this question. Perhaps a girl who said she was worried about you when you didn't show up? lol

    When a personal customer's time is up, us dancers miss not only the money, but the regularity of the money, knowing we could somewhat rely on it. And hopefully we miss the nice comfortable time we had with him, not having to worry about him being gross or disrespectful, and maybe even making us laugh.
    When you have great regulars, they can be a wonderful way to breath and enjoy yourself doing your job. Regulars that suck aren't worth it.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    Btw though, I don't understand why comments like "she misses the money" would be smart ass?
    Because almost every thread inevitably has one or two sarcastic one-liners by a couple of posters who feel a need to point this out. Not that I disagree but you can make the point in a less condescending fashion (as many have done in this thread).

    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    Or why they would be in the third person, unless you're talking about answers from men, although you asked the question to dancers.
    Well, yes I think they're generally from men (who maybe feel the need to show that they've risen above the whole "fantasy" aspect of SCs) although some dancers do make the same comment from time to time.

    Quote Originally Posted by laurcon View Post
    Kinda makes me think you're thinking of someone in particular when you ask this question. Perhaps a girl who said she was worried about you when you didn't show up? lol
    Why else would I be asking?

    ... and before anyone jumps in, yes, I do realize she was probably more worried about her income than me in particular.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    I was bout to say no to that question as in I'm not worried, but actually I do find myself thinking/wondering about them and their whereabouts. I had a reg who dissappeared for 6 months and I thought he may have died because he was old and prob had health issues, but lo and behold he showed up again last weekend! I was happy to see him.

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    I was always glad to have a regular dancer that gave me a way to keep in contact or at least contact me, either by e-mail or by phone. This way if one had to miss there was communication. (Actually, nowadays a girl that wants to be regular, that didn't give me that , will not stay regular very long.)

    I remember one time I came in ever so briefly because I was sick, dropped the usual money and she honored the "raincheck". She actually made out. She did the same number of dances a few days later and I gave her some extra. I cannot give a girl money in a club, even if it is pre-paid.

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    Default Re: Do you get worried if one of your regulars stops showing up?

    No I dont worry i figure they just got tired of the game or started going to another club.

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