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    Okay, I will try to keep this as short and concise as possible. There is a regular club I go to. I hit it off with one of the dancers after I became a semi regular. Eventually she asked for my number (I don't ask for girls numbers, or to see them outside the club. I figure they get hit on a lot and no matter how much you hit it off, it is probably just that they have good hustle). So anyway, we started seeing each other occasionally outside the club. It eventually also became sexual, although we are both rather anti-relationship, so it is casual. Then recently I went to another club. Got along with another girl, and she said we should go to lunch sometime. I gave her my number. A little while later, I saw on my regular clubs facebook page that she worked a couple of nights there. She uses an unusual name, not like Candy, or Crystal or anything. Then she finally called me today to go out sometime.

    My thing is, how do I handle things? There are no serious relationships, but I don't want things to be weird or blatantly lie. How do I handle things at the club if they both happen to work (and I don't know ahead of time). Girl number one told one of the other regular dancers that we had hooked up. Any tips on how I should handle the situations? Primarily I am asking the girls on here.

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    I smell a threesome coming on.

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    Niiiice!!! You lucky s.o.b.

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    I'm really just looking for some advice on how to avoid any unneeded drama and avoid upsetting anyone. Even though it isn't like there is any commitment, things can get complicated, especially if they work in the same club again and become friendly.
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    Are both of them anti-relationship, or just one? If they both are, as long as you treat both equally well, I don't see that much potential for drama. If one of them is monogamy minded though, well, there will be blood if they work together much, imo. As for not lying, well, just be open about it. I always just tell guys that I don't really care what they do as long as it does not affect me or our relationship and does not endanger my health, but I also don't wanna really hear about it, because if you catch me PMSing, yep, I can't predict how I'll react. Be honest with the girls about it and if one wants to walk, well that's better than an all out catfight or worse having both of them turn on you and go all crazy.
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    Thanks for the response. Maybe I am overthinking or overstressing it. Girl one is definitely anti-relationship. I don't really know Girl 2s opinion. We have not actually gone out yet. Just the usual club small talk. I kind of get that vibe from her though. Not so much anti-relationship, but just that she doesn't seem to be looking for that right now in her life. While I don't want to deceive anyone, I don't really feel comfortable just saying "oh by the way, I went out with *". Of course if they asked "so do you know *?" I would say "Yeah, we went out a few times".
    Although Girl 1 and I have been very clear that there is no commitment, it has bothered my slightly to see her going off for dances with other guys. She has told me that it bothers her some when I get dances from other girls too. Rational thought is often overshadowed by emotional thought, even though I know I have no right to be jealous. Thinking about it, I think that even if she were at all bothered by it, it wouldn't be enough for her to make a big deal about it.
    I do think I should try to avoid going to the club when I know they are both working. I may just not always know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Loganx2000 View Post
    I'm really just looking for some advice on how to avoid any unneeded drama and avoid upsetting anyone. Even though it isn't like there is any commitment, things can get complicated, especially if they work in the same club again and become friendly.
    LOL, good luck! Honestly I don't see any drama regarding the your OTC activities. You may be in for some trouble ITC if you show up one night and they are both working. Be prepared to spend equally or just fake a migraine and leave quickly...
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    LOL, good luck! Honestly I don't see any drama regarding the your OTC activities. You may be in for some trouble ITC if you show up one night and they are both working. Be prepared to spend equally or just fake a migraine and leave quickly...
    To the OP: I'd suggest you might want to consider avoiding the club for a period of time in the hopes that one of them will move on. When I was a spender, I tried spending equally on two competing girls during the same shift and I left with both of them pissed at me and ready to kill each other.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    I'd suggest you might want to consider avoiding the club for a period of time in the hopes that one of them will move on. When I was a spender, I tried spending equally on two competing girls during the same shift and I left with both of them pissed at me and ready to kill each other.
    Why would you suggest it to me Bem? I'm not the OP nor am I asking for advice.
    For the record, I've done both. It really depends on the women involved. Most of my favs are non-territorial about who I spend on but I have had an issue or two in the past. Of course, those issues caused me to re-examine the type of dancer I prefer to spend time with. An old ATF of mine who caused endless drama for me and another fav a few years back recently returned to a club that I frequent. She approaches me to say hello every time I stop in but she has not yet ask me for any dances. I doubt she will and I'm pretty sure she knows what my answer would be...

    As for my "spending equally" approach of course, it only works if you spend the same amount you always spent on each dancer. Sometimes, as you say, it is just easier to leave and go to another club. That's basically how I ended up with favs in about half a dozen clubs. It's the no-drama plan!
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Why would you suggest it to me Bem? I'm not the OP nor am I asking for advice.
    For the record, I've done both. It really depends on the women involved. Most of my favs are non-territorial about who I spend on but I have had an issue or two in the past. Of course, those issues caused me to re-examine the type of dancer I prefer to spend time with. An old ATF of mine who caused endless drama for me and another fav a few years back recently returned to a club that I frequent. She approaches me to say hello every time I stop in but she has not yet ask me for any dances. I doubt she will and I'm pretty sure she knows what my answer would be...

    As for my "spending equally" approach of course, it only works if you spend the same amount you always spent on each dancer. Sometimes, as you say, it is just easier to leave and go to another club. That's basically how I ended up with favs in about half a dozen clubs. It's the no-drama plan!
    I wasn't suggesting to to you. I was merely expanding on the point you made, so I just edited what I wrote.
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    Before you start with the second, ask both gals how they would feel if the relationships would coincide.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    You can't avoid the drama (human nature) so choose just one. Show the one you choose a little respect by not going out with her co-workers. A casual relationship is still a relationship, just with no commitment.

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    You lie, lie, LIE through your teeth and try to plan well.

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    ^ and if that fails, and it will, then 3 people get hurt
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    ^ I dunno, at worst I see both girls dumping him and a case of blue balls until he finds another one. It sounds like casual dating to me. Obviously if anything gets serious then decisions would need to be made...
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    Option 1

    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer View Post
    Before you start with the second, ask both gals how they would feel if the relationships would coincide.
    Option 2

    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    You lie, lie, LIE through your teeth and try to plan well.

    WINNER: Option 2

    Logan,
    There is just no way that this goes well if you have to explain this. I don't care how "anti-relationship" you think your current fling is, she will likely be very unappreciative of you hooking up with another girl working in the same club. Girl 2 will also likely not enjoy the situation, particularly if you hook up (or try to hook up) with her while you are still seeing Girl 1.

    Lie, or better yet just keep your mouth shut and plan carefully. Or if, as you previously stated, you really don't want to deceive, then your best bet is to pick the one you like more and unwind with the other.

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    Lulz. Ended up on the bottom of a PL- stripper-stripper triangle. Tormented him for being a dick and trying to hide the situation from both of us.... the upshot was the other girl was a dummy so she lost the most....Nature took its course.

    Be smart & mention it to at least one girl so you don't look like a douchebag if it comes to light.

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