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    Question "You're really good at your job."

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    Are the guys that say this spending money on you? If they are - there's no problem. If they aren't - there is a problem.

    I might say something like this for the following reasons: (1) to tell you that I am having an GREAT time and I LOVE your performance,... but, (2) that I am not a PL who mistakes fantasy for reality, and starts to believe that you are actually atttracted to him.

    If I say this, I want you to continue to do what you're doing, I'm loving it - but don't worry, I'm not going to turn into a smitten creepy stalker.
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    It probably just means they think you're really good at your job. Just take it as a compliment and don't try to over-analyze it too much.

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    I don't compliment a dancer in that way when she is dancing for me but I tell my favs all the time that they are good at their job. Depending on the guy and the circumstances he could be dead serious and appreciative, a cynical guy who just wants a dance from a hot women or anything in between.

    If you are busy at work I wouldn't worry too much about a guy's motivation for saying this.
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    Quote Originally Posted by teaze View Post
    Yes they are spending money. So if you personally said this I'm assuming you would feel "played" if I did the same exact script on someone immediately after dancing with you and you returned to your seat and kept watching me? Would you buy another dance in the future if you saw this script done on someone else after you just fell for it or should I act completely different with the next customer?
    You're probably asking the wrong guys - those of us here in SW know that the SC is all about acting out male fantasies, and the flirting and flattery is part of the performance. When WE see good performance in the SC, we appreciate it as a high art and don't resent it.

    On the other hand, a newbie who thinks you actually like him (after an outstanding performance), and then sees you execute the same exact "script" on an ugly balding fat middle-aged PL guy,... he might feel played.

    You might say to the newbie before you leave him (if he's got a lot of money and you want to make him your regular): "I actually had a lot of fun with you, thank you... (Sigh) Now I have to go pretend to have fun with other customers... I hope I see you again soon." When you're sitting with the new guy, if the previous guy (newbie) is still looking over at you, you might make eye contact with him and wink at him - like you're both in on a little secret. Letting a custie in on your little secrets is the way to make him feel "special".
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    Quote Originally Posted by teaze View Post
    Wouldn't this be a bad thing if you could actively differentiate between this being a job versus reality??

    If the custy can't differentiate between fantasy & reality in a SC, then he/she shouldn't be in there in the first place.

    The way I would read it is that the customers that know it's all a wonderful fantasy are thanking you for providing them the GFE. That's a nice compliment. That fantasy is what many of us PL's are there for.
    The customers that say it and seem disappointed that you were "faking" it - do you really care? You're doing your JOB. Take their cash, smile and move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teaze View Post
    I hear this line from men a lot. One guy also said, "Thank you for the fantasy." It's either when I'm smooth talking customers, feigning sexual attraction, or while I'm doing a private dance for them. Do you say this because you are trying to figure out if I truly am interested in you, just as small talk, I'm not believable and your bull shit radar has gone off, or what? Wouldn't this be a bad thing if you could actively differentiate between this being a job versus reality?? I act like a girlfriend with customers if that helps any. Should I continue this approach? Help me out on this one boys!
    Guys who say this may mean that you're acting a little too much which is tripping their BS detectors. A great actress won't go overboard and the customer won't even be aware that it's an act. You have to make it somewhat believable for each customer. If the guy is repulsive and you're acting like he's Brad Pitt, he's gonna know it's BS. You may be better off acting like you're having fun and enjoying his company instead of acting like his girlfriend or are really sexually attracted to him. You have to take it on a case by case basis.

    If so many guys are saying this to you, then you're probably overacting.

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    Take it as a compliment. It is interesting to me though. While I can appreciate the art of the hustle, I would not point it out at the moment. I would not want to break that illusion. I had a dancer who was sitting with me once, tell me how she was good at reading patrons and changing her personality to fit them. I admire this (though some may call it 'being played') and even like when a dancer does this with me. However her actually pointing it out, Hanging a lamp on it so to speak, ruined the illusion to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teaze View Post
    I hear this line from men a lot. One guy also said, "Thank you for the fantasy." It's either when I'm smooth talking customers, feigning sexual attraction, or while I'm doing a private dance for them. Do you say this because you are trying to figure out if I truly am interested in you, just as small talk, I'm not believable and your bull shit radar has gone off, or what? Wouldn't this be a bad thing if you could actively differentiate between this being a job versus reality?? I act like a girlfriend with customers if that helps any. Should I continue this approach? Help me out on this one boys!
    I'm often offended when customers say this to me, because it seems like an inappropriate acknowledgement of the situation. It's almost like they're calling the scene unnecessarily.

    I'm also a bit offended when this happens because it implies that I'm being 100% fake, when in fact I genuinely care about the vast majority of my customers. So it kind of feels like a slap in the face, even when it's not meant that way.

    Sorry, couldn't help but chime in!

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    ^i kinda agree. especially when i talk /hustle them its like another way of saying no to a dance. i dont know why they say no thanks. and i dont overact, i too act like a friend/gf/ girl at the pub wanting to have fun. if they dont want to believe it the problem is with them not you.

    i also hate it when they call themselves and other guys clients to me. it really pulls me out of the fantasy i try to create for them. cant they fuckin relax?

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    If there are no more ways of getting dances from this guy. I would just smile and take as a compliement.

    Now.. if you're still dancing.. I would take in a rude way. But would play it off as "what are you talking about? I enjoy doing this with you"

    Either what a guy says to me jumps back at them. It goes in one ear out the other.. sadly I use it too much with school ugh! But I wouldnt look it as a rude way.. I wouldnt react to it to get to the point of; dance or no dance? In the end, it depends on you and you're act. If you think you;re being real with them then dont take it rudely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teaze View Post
    Because if they realized I was "faking" it they wouldn't want to buy more dances from me in the future.
    I guess my take on it is that if a customer accused you of "faking" it in a non-complimentary sort of way - this might be someone that's taking the whole experience a bit too seriously, and might be a nuisance in the future. I know that's a pretty big stretch, but it could be someone that might turn out to be a huge pain in the ass and you're best to smile & move on. How much of your time are you willing to give to this person in the future to convince them that you are not "faking" it? Once they plant that seed, you might not ever hear the end of it.

    Again, this applies only to the ones that use that statement in a negative way - not us sweethearts who actively pursue the fantasy

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    Geez, customers get shit if they don't 'realize it's only a job' and they also get shit if they do. No wonder business is down.

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    This is something I would only say if I were already getting a dance from you, and in that case I would be referring only to the dance, nothing else.

    IMHO if someone were to say this before the dance, while you were spending the time trying to get the dance, I would say that person was jaded about the experience before they walked into the club, and really it would have nothing to do with the dancer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    (2) that I am not a PL who mistakes fantasy for reality, and starts to believe that you are actually atttracted to him.

    If I say this, I want you to continue to do what you're doing, I'm loving it - but don't worry, I'm not going to turn into a smitten creepy stalker.
    I think a guy who says you're good at what you're doing is really just trying to show a little "sophistication", that he's not here for his 1st rodeo. If he continues to seek you out and spend, it's all good. Unless the attitude comes across that " now we both understand the fantasy so we can put that aside and get real ". That is likely not what you're really after, so what next? Maybe blow it off if the feeling is creepy, or else just step the fantasy up to a meta-level and try to have a regular for a while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I'm often offended when customers say this to me, because it seems like an inappropriate acknowledgement of the situation. It's almost like they're calling the scene unnecessarily.

    I'm also a bit offended when this happens because it implies that I'm being 100% fake, when in fact I genuinely care about the vast majority of my customers. So it kind of feels like a slap in the face, even when it's not meant that way.

    Exactly! This is why I don't say it when I am in dancer/customer mode with a dancer. To me it's a bit cynical bordering on passive aggressive behavior. That being said, from a dancer's POV I would just shrug it off and keep getting the guy's money. You can't change people's minds or erase whatever stereotypes they may harbor about dancers and strip clubs. It's generally not worth getting worked up over.
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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    I'm often offended when customers say this to me, because it seems like an inappropriate acknowledgement of the situation. It's almost like they're calling the scene unnecessarily.

    I'm also a bit offended when this happens because it implies that I'm being 100% fake, when in fact I genuinely care about the vast majority of my customers. So it kind of feels like a slap in the face, even when it's not meant that way.
    What VERBAL (i.e., non-cash) compliment would make you feel appreciated after a dance?
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    I think a lot of guys who would say this do so because they want to be told the girl is only doing such a good job because she likes him. This presumably would make him feel good and is an opportunity for the girl to turn him into a regular. Regulars get told all the time how special they are in girls' attempts to keep them as regulars. I used to hear it all the time in VIP from some of my faves to the point I noticed when I didn't hear it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    What VERBAL (i.e., non-cash) compliment would make you feel appreciated after a dance?
    Anything! "Wow, that was great." "Thank you so much!" "You're a great dancer, thank you!" "I really enjoyed our time together--that was special!" Etc. Etc. Etc. (Assuming they liked the dance, that is. )

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    ^ a $20 bill would say more to me than any compliment would

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    ^ Yes. He specified non-cash.

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    Ive said it a number of times to girls while getting dances. When I say it, it is an aknowlegment that they are giving me a red hot sensual dance but I am aware that it is just business and that I know that they aren't really into me. It is meant as a total compliment to their sensual dancing skills.

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    If the custy can't differentiate between fantasy & reality in a SC, then he/she shouldn't be in there in the first place.
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    ^^I don't know. When I first went into a club, and probably for the first few months, I was entirely fooled by it all. It wasn't until I came on this site and read voraciously that I figured it out.
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    ^^Many guys believe the fantasy at first. For the dancer it's like walking a tight-rope, cause it's hard to read some men. You want them to really know it's a business, but still be able to give them the GFE during their visit. Mantaining the illusion while making sure they are in the know can be very difficult.
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