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Last edited by Kisca; 11-18-2012 at 09:14 AM.





Aw, I'm so sorry, it sucks that your mother would say that. I'm glad it didn't deter you and your dad is driving with you to get it done though
From her perspective you're still her perfect little baby girl, and she's probably just saying that because she's worried. Just remind her that you're an adult, and you want this for personal reasons; and that you don't appreciate her equating you with prostitute. She'll be mad for a bit, but when she seems how happy you come out the other end then she'll be happy for you too.
When are you getting them done?
^ Thanks. She did call me now saying she is sorry that she does not understandwhy a person would do this and that she may be in "old" times.
I am getting them done on the 21st. I tried to PM you..I want to thank you for the doctor links! I ended up with Dr. Revis!





OMG! SQUEEEE! I'm so happy! He really is the best of the best. You'll have great results with him. Be careful with that drive down to FL - it's a tough one.
I'm going to go clean out my inbox! I'm so excited for you! haha!



ive come to realize peoples parents are the hardest critics on their childrens plastic surgery. it really sucks. my mother judges me all the time with my boobs even though she constantly talks about wanting her own surgery.





anything sexy related to prostitutes is like a mum thing. when i was 15 all the girls wore miniskirts and boob tubes with heels and makeup to parties and my mother always said i look like a prostitute and im gonna be kidnapped and raped etc. she still says them to me when i come home witht those trendy flat heeled over knee boots.
i know how it feels. i feel bad when i dont change. its what they were brought up to believe.
in my opinion, its your body, shes allowed an imput but it shouldnt affect the decision you have to make for yourself. if you want boobs get em.
those boots are my fave i wont go anywhere without them =]



Sounds like my mom too but mine is harsher. My mom is around 50. This must be a generational thing.





Ask her if it would still say "prostitute" if you had breast cancer and got implants to reform your breasts after losing them to cancer. I'm sure there are a lot of breast cancer survivors with fake boobs that would just loooove to hear her views.





My mom used to make similar comments about me wearing high heels. Some people are just stuck on their own theories. It hits you harder though because you want her love & acceptance. Part of being an adult though is making your own decisions that are best for you & learning to stand behind them. Just know she isn't right, tell her you still love her, & know in the grand scheme this is small - & she'll get over it.![]()
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Sweetie I know how you feel. My Dad went apeshit the first time he saw me in thigh length boots (I was 19 and went into the music business for a while), he accused me of 'going on the game' to earn my living. He took a long, long time to change his opinion - so we didn't speak for almost 15 years.
It's all good now - but you can't force folks to change their minds if they have uninformed views.....but I'm glad your Mom called you and you talked.
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If it makes you feel any better, my mom is supportive of everything I've done in the adult industry (including legal prostitution) but she lost her shit when I told her that I was getting implants. She said some pretty hurtful things about mutilation and low self esteem but eventually admitted that she was afraid something would go wrong during the surgery.
I don't know if that's your mom's deal but I know that mine still can't understand why I would put myself through unnecessary surgery. Besides, she thinks I'm perfect so why on earth would I want to mess with that, lol. Moms...![]()



Ew. My mother pretty much said the same thing. She doesn't know I'm a dancer and she said I would look like a prostitute as well if I got them done. Then she asked me the point of plastic surgery since it's only M. (my hubby) that will be seeing my naked body. I can't even tell you how much that pissed me off.
Even now (2 yrs later) she refuses to talk about my surgery or see the tiny scars from it (in my armpits). She is still completely against it.
I think that some mothers like to hold on to the illusion that their daughters will always be their little innocent nonsexual obedient little girls. When a girl is going through puberty, having her body change while her mother gets old, there is a lot of resentment that the mother feels. Or even AFTER puberty, the mother still continues to feel resentful and angry (i know mine does)




Well I must say I know alot of prostitutes that do not have implants. In fact I have only met one that does have implants. Heck I was a prostitute and I never got implants.
Now I am saving money to get them done.





Mothers always have a way of making you feel like complete and total shit. You have to ignore it. There could be a million reasons she's having this response. You have to not let it negatively effect you.
Perfect example, I do a lot of modeling. Most of it is implied nude or bikini stuff, but you never actually see anything at all. In most cases not even side boob. And I keep even the implied nudes extremely classy. My mom has never really seen any of my work though. I tend to keep it out of her face. She saw some of my stuff a few months ago and actually had the nerve to call me vulgar. I've never taken a vulgar pic in my life. I was so upset about this, until I realized who had the problem, and it wasn't me.
Same with your situation girlie. Go get your boobs done. You're not a prostitute and you know it. She'll get over it or she won't. Either way, it's not your problem so don't let it alter your perception or bring you down.
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I'm an ex call girl and I have no implants.. There you go.




Kiska,are you russian,or is your mom russian?I am,and if your mother is russian and old school,this is a very typical thing to say from someone from that era.My own mother says same things,and worse.When I was young,I remember,she said only prostitutes wear bikini swimwear,and the winner....only prostitutes use tampons.I still do not have a good relationship with her.
Please try not to take it personally,because the huge magority of people from that era do not understand this business and might never be able to.The negative strip club business portrayal by the media just reinforces the stereotype.
I understand it sounds offensive,but just try to shrug it off and not take it personally,and....good luck on the new boobies!
you should do a search on here for the narcissistic mother thread




What a bitch of a mother. If my mother said that to me Id disown her. She could go f herself.




And then she tried to be nice...Uh... Wheres the duct tape? Shed be better off not speaking.





Glad you mom was ok in the end... ughhh my mom still doesnt know. Shes coming to visit in 2 months and Im freaking out. I told her I got botox and she freaked out and almost cried! She then said, "Fake nails, fake tan, fake hair, fake face, next thing I know youll be getting fake boobs!". I just laughed awkwardly. The part Im scared of is my mom wont be mad... she'll feel sad. She'll beat herself up thinking she failed as a mother. Stupid I know, but I dont want to cause her a mental breakdown. I could hide them if it was winter but its summer and we'll be at the beach a lot so she is going to see them. I still cant figure out whether to tell her before she gets her or just let her see them and figure it out herself.



"I didn't expect implants caused such bullshit. "
Really? Do you have any friends who arent strippers? A LOT of people have problems with implants. I know plenty of men who will outright refuse to date girls who have implants. Its your decision whether you think its worth it, but outside of stripping, its going to alienate you from a ton of people.




OP glad your mom was ok in the endMines a bunch of crazy and I just keep everything out of her knowledge-she knows I modeled but just the 'mainstream' things, like ads. No idea that I dance, and will keep it that way to avoid drama.
Jessie I think from dealing with my own psychotic mother, its sort of easier to tell first, let it sink in, freak out if she wants, and by the time she actually sees you, hopefully it'll be out of her system and you can just spend time together. Of course, thats a perfect world..but, my best guess is to give her a bit to get used to the idea, so by the time shes actually there with you its not like "OMFG where did those come from!?!" lol. Hope she accepts it and doesnt cause issues![]()
If it means anything, most of the escorts whose pics I've seen on sites appear to have natural boobs.
And I've dealt with the same thing with my parents. A lot of it is embarrassment on your mom's part- it feels bad to have a daughter with bigger breasts than you, she might feel like you don't think her genes/looks are good enough (since she passed them on to you) and with any kind of plastic surgery, there's the whole "but this body part is a part of your heritage" thing.
If you explain to her that you believe that this is what you feel is best for you and your confidence, and that it will make you truly happy in the long run, she should at least grow to get over it, if not support you. At least, that's how it went for me.
OMG Kisca, I know how you feel.On Thanksgiving my mom and I took a walk and she says"She feels like a whore walking down the street with me and why did I get implants" Sighhh I understand everyone has there own opinion but why say such hurtful things to your daughter?
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