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    So I have this "friend".
    She use to be a dancer, and we use to have a blast together.
    Anyway, we both got knocked up and had our babies. My son is a year older than her daughter.
    We got into after her daughter was born because she thought it was "bad mothering" of me to continue to strip and to post whatever pics I want on the net.

    I told her stripping is putting food on the table, buying him clothes and toys, etc, etc...who cares if it's a "respectable" job or not?
    As for the pics, I think my son would be pretty happy to have a "hot mom". LOL

    anyway though, she reconnected with me on FB and saw all our old party pictures.
    She wants me to take them down because she doesn't want her daughter to know about that. (I will take them down due to respect of her not wanting her pics online anymore, but funny how it USE to be okay.)

    Is it just me or does that seem wrong?
    She said she's trying to raise a "respectable girl" and doesn't want her daughter to ever see any pics of her partying. Doesn't want her daughter to know about her stripping.
    The past is the past. Maybe I'm different, because I don't censor my son.
    Once he gets older, and asks about my past, I'm going to be honest with him about yeah. Yeah, I partied, yeah, I stripped....does it make me a bad person/mom?? No. I don't think it does.

    It actually made me who I am....
    It's the past. I made mistakes and I've LEARNED from them.

    and if I ever had a daughter and she wanted to strip, I'd support her in whatever she wanted to do. Because my parents did for me. I'm not ashamed of it.

    My question is:
    If you had/have a daughter (or kids) would you support them if they made the choice to strip? Would you lie about your past? How much censoring in a child's life do you think is necessary?

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    meh i would let my kids know what i used to do.

    but i think if i had a daughter i would try to keep her out of the clubs. especially with the way the industry is going. im doing well but most girls seem to struggle to hold their own.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Good question. This brings up many questions for me because if I have children there's a very good possibility it will be with a guy who's a former customer of mine. I know that it's likely they will find out about this eventually. I would probably tell them of my past but only until they are older. I want them to understand everything. However I probably won't tell them everything I've ever done dancing or working in the adult industry because there are things I'll never tell anyone. As for supporting them as strippers it would depend. If they were in college and did it for a job I'd tell them it's a rough business and to be very careful. If by then the clubs were clean would make a difference too. I've discussed this with the guy I want to be with and he said he'd have a problem with it. He's seen/heard bad experiences I've had and we both knew dancers who were destroyed by stripping (several got into drugs, other one became a streetwalker).

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    I would make sure she had done her homework on the biz.

    Then I would treat her to two sights. Up front at the tip rail and watching her Dad get a lap dance from a woman her age.

    If she can handle that she can strip.

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    I wouldn't have a problem with my child knowing or wanting to strip once he/she was 18. I might limit where it was okay though & I'd probably want him/her coached by an old school stripper so they didn't feel extras were necessary.

    I also wouldn't hide my past... teaching children to be open minded & know the truth is important to how they operate as adults.
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    Default Re: Would you let your daughter strip?

    Did any of you girls leave it up to your moms to decide whether you became a stripper or not?

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    ^well i wouldnt encourage it and i wouldnt let it happen while it was under my roof. if you are gonna be a stripper you should be able to be independent, otherwise you have pretty much failed at being a stripper.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Did any of you girls leave it up to your moms to decide whether you became a stripper or not?
    No.
    I just know a lot of girls hide it from their mom.
    I called my mom the night after I auditioned and let her know I quit the video store..lol.
    She was like, "Right on! Make that money!" LOL

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    My Children won't know that I ever stripped.

    Kids get into trouble. The drink when they're underage. They do drugs, they have sex. I don't need my 16 year old kid who just got drunk for the very first time to yell back at me in defense "WELL - YOU WERE A STRIPPER!".

    Beyond that, I don't want her to think it's Okay because her Momma did it and came out alive. The reality is stripping is a hard life and MOST dancers don't deal with it as well as us SW'ers. MOST dancers get into trouble, develop addictions or disorders and live a half-full life. I don't want any child of mine to fall into that. The reason I'm stripping right now is to get ahead in life - to afford an education that will result in a high paying job that I love and I'M the boss of; this will lead to financial stability to look after my kids and schedule flexibility to be there for them when they need. I don't dance because I LOVE stripping, I dance for my future so MY kids won't have to.

    That being said, I don't hate stripping. I just don't love it either. If I loved dancing and the lifestyle and had a good time with it, maybe I wouldn't mind if my daughter entered this world....



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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    No.
    I just know a lot of girls hide it from their mom.
    I called my mom the night after I auditioned and let her know I quit the video store..lol.
    She was like, "Right on! Make that money!" LOL
    My parents have never been told but they do know I was a waitress at a strip club. My father to this day will often say things like "when you were a whore". If they think that about waitressing at a strip club they certainly would think worse being a stripper. It's possible they know I was a stripper but don't want to admit it. They do not know the guy I love was a customer. They think he was a customer at a restaurant I waitressed at and luckily he'd so nerdy he doesn't look like a typical customer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    "when you were a whore". If they think that about waitressing at a strip club they certainly would think worse being a stripper.
    Omg, that's awful!
    I would cry if my Dad ever said anything like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    Omg, that's awful!
    I would cry if my Dad ever said anything like that.
    It really was upsetting and I've had to tell my dad I was never a whore. For some reason he thinks strippers arw whores so I have been careful what I say in front of him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    My Children won't know that I ever stripped.

    Kids get into trouble. The drink when they're underage. They do drugs, they have sex. I don't need my 16 year old kid who just got drunk for the very first time to yell back at me in defense "WELL - YOU WERE A STRIPPER!".

    Beyond that, I don't want her to think it's Okay because her Momma did it and came out alive. The reality is stripping is a hard life and MOST dancers don't deal with it as well as us SW'ers. MOST dancers get into trouble, develop addictions or disorders and live a half-full life. I don't want any child of mine to fall into that. The reason I'm stripping right now is to get ahead in life - to afford an education that will result in a high paying job that I love and I'M the boss of; this will lead to financial stability to look after my kids and schedule flexibility to be there for them when they need. I don't dance because I LOVE stripping, I dance for my future so MY kids won't have to.

    That being said, I don't hate stripping. I just don't love it either. If I loved dancing and the lifestyle and had a good time with it, maybe I wouldn't mind if my daughter entered this world....



    Adults get in trouble too.

    Kids (and adults) are going to do what they're going to do.
    Despite all the warnings and lectures.
    Kids learn from experience. We all do.

    It's like you see a "Wet Paint" sign, you still touch it...just to see. LOL, at least I do.

    If she was underage and drinking and yelled that to you, I would yell back, "Yeah, but I was a stripper when I was LEGAL. An ADULT!".
    Then send her to her room..lol

    I don't love stripping either. If I had a daughter, of course I wouldn't point her in the direction of being a stripper. I would hope she'd choose to do something else. However, if she needed or wanted to strip, I would let you know that she would never have to hide it from me or be ashamed of it.

    btw- Not arguing or anything at all! I respect everyone's choices on how they raise their kids (or on how they WOULD raise their kids).

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    When kaia is old enough, 16ish, I will definitely be honest with her. She already knows mommy dances she just doesn't know I do it naked in front of men. How does she even know that much? Well she sees my clothes and shoes, she sees the sign when I get dropped off at work sometimes. she's a pretty observant kid so it wasn't hard for her to put two and two together. If she ever decided she wanted to dance I would tell her allll the bad shit. Not anything I have done of course Hopefully she will choose a different path than me. Not that I am ashamed or anything but I want her to do better than me. Become a doctor or rocket scientist..LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by _Avery_ View Post
    Adults get in trouble too.

    Kids (and adults) are going to do what they're going to do.
    Despite all the warnings and lectures.
    Kids learn from experience. We all do.
    This goes back to the nature vs. nurture thing - and I feel it's pretty 50/50; 50% a persons character, predetermined at birth, and 50% their upbringing and the values instilled in them. I'm going to do everything I can to fill out my 50% of influence, and steer them clear of the party lifestyle. I look at myself growing up and realize I did say 'no' a lot because my parents had told me not too; even though I was in a situation where my parents would never have found out what I had done, and I really wanted to do said 'naughty' thing. If I had known at 12 that my parents did coke all the time, then I know I would have FOR SURE done it at parties when I had seen it. But I didn't know my folks were doing coke at the time, and I'm glad I didn't.


    If my girl decides to go out and dance despite the way I raise her - well then, she's probably like me and just has that extroverted side to her that NEEDS to entertain. Either way, at least I know I didn't unintentionally curve her thinking by giving her the impression that I did it and came out happy and functioning.

    Avery, if I had a daughter like you I wouldn't be worried if she did start dancing. You seem well adjusted, responsible, loving and happy. I don't have anything against mothers who tell their kids the truth, as I see both sides too.



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    As long as my daughter was a good person, who helped those weaker than her, who made life choices intelligently, who lived with happiness and the belief that noble actions in life create positivity, and that positivity is a legitimate goal in life, I wouldn't care if she was a brain surgeon or a fruit picker. There is so much more to life than what you do to pay the bills.

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    ^^^Very well said..I would add that she would have to be a strong woman, predators prey on the weak.

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    ^^^ Wow have I got an 'anecdotal story' for you. As you may or may not be aware I gave birth to my son when I was very young. As a result, a couple of years ago my son reached the age of 18 and became a legal customer of nude strip clubs while I was still dancing live ! While I made it a point to NEVER dance anywhere near 'home' once my son ( and his friends / classmates ) reached the age where they might show up stageside in local strip clubs, there was no way of avoiding the fact that other dancers at these local strip clubs had tons of 'stories' to tell my son and his friends about the days when I was still dancing there !

    While I didn't actually have to face the issue of 'stripping' with a daughter, there is no doubt in my mind that I would be an 'open book' in regards to the pros and cons.

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    I would not allow my underage child to strip. Once my kids are adults, I don't have the right to make their decisions for them. I can't "let" them strip anymore than I can chain them to a wall in basement and scream "Don't be a whore!" at them while spraying them with the hose.

    I really wonder how a parent would stop their daughter from stripping. Is it a matter of insulting them, denying love or money or would one use brute physical force? Don't mind me though, I just despise the whole concept of one adult "letting" another adult do something that's perfectly legal.

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    ^^like i said, if they were under my roof the answer would be no.

    idk i feel like an adult doesnt live with their parents.

    if they were moved out, then it would be beyond my power. and i would tell them that. it wouldnt be disowning them, but it would be stripping is a job for adults, and if you are an adult and i am no longer in charge of you, then be independent and live on your own. i think that is fair.

    **mind you this is coming from someone who moved out at 17 and was disowned (not for dancing). so my perspective is biased. but i think adulthood comes with independence meaning you are able to provide for yourself.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    as long as she had her head screwed on straight, yes. i'd hopefully be able to give her advice to avoid some of the issues i dealt with.

    i wouldnt go back to dancing, but i dont rgret it. it was a learning experience.

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    As long as I was financially supporting a child, and I intend to help any children I have until they graduate college (should they desire college) I would want to have some input on what kind of job they had. Frankly I would not think dancing would be the most conducive job to have while going to school, but I can say the same for 500 other jobs too, none of which I would want them to do during college.

    If I'm not supporting them... I would hope they are using their education to satisfy themselves both emotionally and financially. Again, I'd like to hope they would find that in another place than dancing.

    That said... If they really wanted to do it, and I thought they had looked into it wholeheartedly then I would support the choice.

    Like I said though, I can probably say that about a few different jobs.

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    If I had a daughter, I wouldn't care as long as she was of age. I wouldn't let my daughter under the age of 15/16 dress like a hoochie mama or anything, but i would be open to her about what I do and have done, as long as she was old enough to understand.

    As for the stripping, as long as she's 18 then yeah, i'd let her.

    i'm an escort, so can't be a hypocrite about it you know. As long as she was safe in whatever she chose to do, and didn't turn into a cheap crack whore, I wouldnt care.

    my mom said that if i ever had a kid, she would want me to quit doing what i am doing, but in all realities, thats all i would be able to do in order to provide for any child. i have no education, and not a good job record. i've quit a lot of places, so its hard for me to get a job. so yeah, i would continue with my lifestyle, although it would tone down just a bit you know, and continue supporting myself and whats mine.

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    I wouldn't tell my child that I was/am a dancer. I just don't see anything constructive coming out of that, but to each her own.

    If my adult child wanted to get into stripping I would offer her alternatives and even help her pay her bills or move back home if she really needed money that bad. I would do everything in my capacity to keep her from exploiting her body. I wouldn't want my daughter working in a potentially dangerous and mentally damaging environment.

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    It would really depend on her personality/how she grew up... but probably not.
    As many strippers as there are who lead normal lives... there are just as many whose lives are destroyed by this career choice and the things it exposes them to. Imo anyway.
    How many 18 year old "nice" girls have you seen get into this career... and by the end of the month they're snorting coke, drinking every night and debating if extras will make them more money?
    I would rather have to work harder to make more money to help out my kid till she could get a normal job/finish school/whatever rather than her strip or even work along side some of those people, honestly.
    Obviously, you can't stop someone from making the choices they're going to make... but it's probably not a decision I'd support.

    Would I tell my kids I stripped? Not unless there was a reason to. The same as I don't tell anyone else unless there's a reason to.
    Thing is... you can't tell your kids you did something... and that it's an okay thing to do... but then hide it from everyone else. That shows it's clearly NOT an okay thing that you did... So, imo, you either would have to be open with everyone about it... or just not tell your kids at all.
    Having something like that public knowledge, it's likely other parents will frown upon you and it could negatively impact your child's social life. As an adult, could strain things with possible inlaws... Idk. There are a lot of narrow-minded people out there... for some of them, being the kid of a stripper means your whole family is trash. I wouldn't want my child treated badly because of my choices... even if they were okay with the choices I'd made.
    There's also a good chance this would be on the list of things your kid never wanted to think/know about his mother.
    ...Idk. There are a lot of small stupid reasons I wouldn't want to say anything. Also, it's just not something I feel there's really any value in my children knowing about.
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