I was reading Facebook and saw my one exboyfriend's daughter is turning 2. While we are "Facebook Friends" and chat every so often on email we don't hang out together socially. If I saw him somewhere we'd chat and all of that but that's about it. I wasn't invited to his wedding nor would I likely invite him to mine. We dated several years ago and broke up because of marriage. He was ready to marry, I was not. Besides it would have caused conflict religion wise (his family is Baptist and wanted me to convert). Because of that we broke up but stayed in touch. We got together several times after we broke up, even considered getting back together but realized for us it was a bad idea. He married the next woman he dated. Incidentally we never had sex because he was strongly for sex before marriage.
What made me think of this is the fact he's really the only ex of mine I stay in touch with. Most of my exes are good guys, and I have run into a few of them but we never stayed in contact. When I have run into them they introduce me to their wives and we make pleasant chat and of course the empty "let's stay in touch" promise. One ex I got together with for years after we broke up, but this was a mistake. I'd spend the weekend with him, the first night we'd have nice chats, then he'd get drunk and we'd argue so I would go home. Not to mention he would ask me for sex and when I'd refuse he'd call me a "dirty stripper" I got tired of this so I stopped talking to him. Haven't seen him in over 10 years. I had an ex contact me, but this is the one I don't want him finding out where I am.
I'll be honest and say I probably wouldn't want a boyfriend or husband still being close to an ex, especially if it was a serious thing (or they had sex).



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Always. If I love you enough to be with you, I love you enough to keep you in my life (unless you do something horrendous).


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