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    I've read repeatedly on this site not to become friends with dancers because they can be backstabbers but I'm friends with a LOT of the dancers. most of them know my real name and where I live. none of them have told customers. the girls tell me their real names and a lot of us are friends on facebook. most of the girls at my club are really close. the rest are the ones who just come in to make their money and that's it but we're still nice to each other.

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    Years ago I made the mistake of becoming friends with a few dancers I worked with. Never again because most just backstabbed me in the long run. Remember in a club they are your competition, and while you can be friendly with a few, most (not all) are just there to make money. I'm not saying don't be friendly. That one should do because you don't want a negative environment, just watch your back. I learned my lesson and after that I was friendly just not friends. Oh sure I'd chat with a few, others even came to work for me, but that was it.

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    If you've truly ended up in a club where competition isn't fierce, there's enough money flowing for everyone, and the job is like any other 'typical' job than I am SERIOUSLY happy for you!

    But from experience and anecdotal evidence (forums, other people, etc), these are few and far between. The very nature of the club unfortunately is a breeding ground of surprisingly cunning and clever people with a "crabs in a barrel" attitude. I've addressed this before in the "Do you talk to new girls?" thread but I would never be friends with other dancers at my club, or any one I work at in the future.

    From staying to myself and just responding to greetings, I've heard the sickest stories of backstabbing and fake friendships. While smiling at each other, laughing, sharing extremely personal stories (abortions, cheating on husbands, having sex with customers, etc) like there's nothing wrong.

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    I generally tell girls to wait a few years before trying to make friends with other dancers. You want to learn how to make money at work & make sure you can keep your head on straight in this industry before trying to be friends with other dancers. I wrote a blog about this awhile back at:

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    I've worked in a small club for almost 2 years now working 5 nights out of the week. I'm friends with a few (and I mean very few) of the girls that have remained there and who I've "got a feel for" and have made sure they aren't malicious backstabbing bitches and it's nice to have a few girls in your corner.....it even helps because if we get a tough crowd that comes in and are trying to be greedy with their money I'll team up with one of my friends and we can usually get it out of them haha. So, I think it's fine to be friends with the girls but just make sure they are geniune and don't get jealous about other girls often and talk behind their back or give out personal information!
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    Default Re: being friends with dancers

    Well, I just barely talk to other dancers, but I won't mind being friends with them. After all, human beings are social beings!





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    idk I hang out with a few of the dancers outside of work. the ones I do hang out with HELP make me money at the club. we team up and snag guys in groups or sometimes if I'm having a really bad night a girl will hustle a guy FOR me. "you NEED to get a lap dance with her" lol

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    The court of Versailles during the reign of Louis XIV had less backstabbing and intrigue than the average strip club. -_-
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    My commuting buddy is a friend but we don't hang out in our home area. We know each others real first names from checking into hotels ect. but she knows I'm VERY discrete about my strippin' ( if we see each other locally we promised not to out each other ) . She is less discrete , but I still would never scream across a restaurant " how was the club last weekend M ?? " or anything like that. I worked with her for about two months and noticed she would always drive alone like me. It's really nice to have someone you trust to commute with! She has tried to commute with two other people + she's shared a hotel room with two more and ALL those situation didn't work out - all four of those girls were NUTS ( and one was a prostitute but she's gone now )!

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    I have one best friend from Knockouts and we have known each other for years. I would do anything for that bitch, I love her so much. Then my friend that moved to Korea, I helped her move all her shit from 9pm to 3am. But those are rare cases. I've met some ppl from here IRL and correspond with them regularly. i don't pull any shady shit. If I don't like a bitch she knows it.
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    My best friend is a dancer. We travel together and she has taught me a LOT about dancing. We're both leos and get along very well together. We aren't competitive with each other... we just hustle and know that there's still competition between the two of us.

    Sometimes when we're working together we slack a little bit but when it's busy we get. to. work.

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    I normally don't get too close with new girls because most girls tend to just come and go.

    The only exception is when I know a new girl has my workaholic mind set. I believe working together produces better results than working alone.

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    the majority of my friends are dancers so, it works for some people better than others.

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    I think it's definatley good to have a few girls you call your "homegirls" at a club. The other posts were about making money together and helping each other. That's a reason alone to have friends where you work. It makes for a funner enviroment. The problems arise when your personal life and your professional life get mixed up. In a club where the same girls are there 5 nights a week you tend to be closer with the girls because you always see them. So I think be close to everybody if you want, just not too close.

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    I would love to have a nice dancer friend that would not fuck me over haha. Sadly, I feel like that is an elusive goal.

    Maybe I should post an application on SW : Philadelphia area dancer seeking like minded dancer friend.

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    I made the mistake of nearly getting close....but most dancers blab their big mouths while they r in the midst of ranting and complaining,which starts shit but I have club friends and that's it idk if I would get close to another dancer again though,but the waitress and bartenders can become really good friends
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    My best friend is a dancer. Shes always been there for me and I ll always be there for her. she taught me a lot about making $$ and how to hustle, even introduced me to her regulars and would tip me onstage.

    anytime ive made friends at any job, i ran the risk of not getting along. The reason why me and her never clashed at work was bc we just focused on making $$ when were there and never sat and talked to each other and we'd help each other out. One girl i dated, that was a disaster. Another friendship ended bc people told her lies about me. I think its great to have dancer friends, just choose wisely and get to know someone.

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