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    Default One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    Well, like the title says; one of the bouncers of where I work seemed to like me. I don't think he's that serious, but I don't want this to affect my work and my relationship with him as a "co-worker".

    Because he always seem to be a little playful with the other girls, he waits until I'm done to go to my car and talk to me more about him, and stuff like that.

    Nobody knows about us, but somebody can suspect, and/or we could get caught; we almost got caught making out today.

    He's really cool and really handsome, but I don't think the idea of dating one of the bouncers is a good one.

    How could I reject him without being rude, while still be in friendly terms with him? Or should I give him a try?





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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    bouncers frequently try to hit on the dancers. its an age old game. i just pretend them hitting on me doesnt exist and it is squashed pretty quickly. but im also a very dominant person and when i want to be cold i am very good at it.

    i wouldnt worry about offending him. he probably tries this with most newer girls, and has probably succeeded with a few. hes probably just trying to get his dick wet.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    yeah just tell him that you don't like to mix business with pleasure.

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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    Okay, I'm sorry to be the one to say this - but you've already mixed business with pleasure. I think you are just going to have to straight out tell him that although you really like him you don't want to pursue it... for now. Just tell him that if one of you quits (or gets fired) that then you might be interested in dating. Until then you think it's best to cool things off. BTW, I'd suggest having another bouncer walk you to your car, let him know up front that you want to avoid putting yourself in the position where you two want to get closer.
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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    those were all great suggestions. thanks girls!





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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    we almost got caught making out today.
    stop doing this. it's a good way not to date somebody.
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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    oh wow i totally somehow didnt see the making out part.

    yea girl, fail. you control your tongue. keep it out of the bouncers mouth. dont become another victory for a male employee in the industry, too many creeps join to hook up with strippers. the more who fall for it the more it re-enforces this type of bad behavior.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    somehow i also didn't notice the 'making out' part...

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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    say you odn't want the relationship to affect your money. if you see him there and you like him you won't want to talk to customers you'll want to be around him. so tell him that

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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    Quote Originally Posted by xGigi View Post
    say you odn't want the relationship to affect your money. if you see him there and you like him you won't want to talk to customers you'll want to be around him. so tell him that
    this is a great suggestion!!!





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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    Yeah I'd tell him to cool things off for a bit. I stuck my hand in the cookie jar once and it ended badly. Plus I have seen some girls at my old club dating bouncers and the most recent one was a fucking nuclear explosion.
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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    I wouldn't make out with a co-worker at a time of my work. You already made out with him.. and now you want to reject him?

    Tell him you're not interested in doing that with him, or just go cold on him - its your work place after all. You;re working in the sex industry, such things will come and go, you need to be firmer.

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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    Yeah dating a coworker is not good... I have been accused of diddling a cook a few threads back and I did...just not in Tampa. The said cook worked with me at Spearmint Rhino and he was an appalling cook. He got everyone sick, and guess who bore the brunt of it? Me! I found out he was banging some chick in her leased Mercedez in the parking lot.

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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    so let me just get this straight....you want to reject this guy and you do not want to pursue anything with him....but your making out with him?

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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    lol. a lot of bouncers are flirty. a lot of them will fuck anything that seems to have a pussy. just because they work in the club doesn't mean they're not skanky. it means that they're just as skanky, but with more opportunity and more chance to fuck with a girls head.

    a few are really professional. they're awesome. this guy is obviously not one of those guys, because those guys wouldn't have been making out with the new girl.
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    Default Re: One of the bouncers took a liking of me; How can I reject him nicely

    I understand that you could have gotten caught up in the moment but no more making out! I think that's a pretty clear way to reject someone ...

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