I feel like I don't have anything to say to customers I sit with sometimes and I'm kinda shy. Also wondering how to hustle when the customer turns u down... I see them take dances from the next girl...thnx

I feel like I don't have anything to say to customers I sit with sometimes and I'm kinda shy. Also wondering how to hustle when the customer turns u down... I see them take dances from the next girl...thnx




make sure you tell the customer you're shy and not uncomfortable with him. a guy won't want to spend money on a girl who doesn't like him. if you notice the conversation is awkward smile and go "UGH sorry!! I'm sooo shy I'm sorry... I wish I knew what to say" and he might think it's cute. if that doesn't work then you gotta fake it itll you make it. pretend you are confident and then you will be





You're going to have to get unshy if you really want to be successful. Practice talking in the mirror. It sounds silly but it makes you more comfortable with yourself. Look around in hustle hut for conversation pointers. Have some sort of dialogue for everyone. Hi, what's your name, where are you from, have you ever been here before etc... Elaborate on their answers too.. Maybe they are from somewhere you've never been.. you could say I've always wanted to go there and then ask about places etc... that will get the convo back to him. Try to get HIM talking as much as possible so you don't have to. You want to try to get a dance within I think 3 songs. So if there is a lull in the convo within that time frame then ASK for that dance!! Get real close to him, put your hand on his thigh, make eye contact and say something like, "so are you ready to go play now, because I am".. or there are many variations of asking for a dance in Hustle Hut. Good luck!





I'm going to suggest that you read the book SuperFlirt & start practicing flirting with guys in public (i.e. outside of work) so you get more comfortable with talking to people & using body language. Try going out to bars/nightclubs & being the one to initiate things. Use play-on-words & insinuate things without directly saying anything. Just force yourself to get used to talking to new people. Really, learning how to flirt can be a huge key to feeling comfortable with men. After you get comfortable you'll need to learn how to sell.
Surely you have something in common with these guys. Ask them their interests, mention things you like. Talk about the city. You'll hit on something.
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When I first started dancing, I didn't really know what to say to customers so I was a little shy. You'll come out of your shell once you get more comfortable stripping and learn what works and what doesn't. Whenever I approached a customer, I'd make small talk. If there was an awkward silence, I'd just ask them for a dance. If they say no, I move on and know I'm not wasting my time.
Don't worry if customers say no and then go dance with someone else. You might not be there type, or they could be some other girl's regular. It's really important that you don't take it personally. Just move on to the next guy!




^ i'm not actually shy, but i am pretty reserved. i'm not the girl who throws herself at the custy. when i do, it just blows up anyways. being me, but a bit more flirty has always worked way better.
the key is to seem shy, but like he can get you warmed up in back, that you've got a little freak in you, that you aren't a prude. you're just shy. some guys love it.
i imagine if they didn't, shyness would've been bred out of humans a very long time ago.
BUT if you're at a high hustle club, guys who like shy probably don't even go there. the guys who go there are the ones who like the hustle (even if they complain). so consider your club.
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comment on something on the customer that could be an interesting conversation starter
eg.
you: oh wow i love your tie! i havent seen cool ones like that in awhile
him: thnx yeah i got it from the u.k.
you: really? i got family in the uk, i really miss them. so you get to travel much, that must be fun.
....................
anything, tie, hair colour, the way they smile, cuff links... usually guys who wear statement pieces want to get noticed and he will appreciate being able to talk about his precious tie while you brea the ice and get him spending with ease

I am a former shy girl, cured by the lure of $$$$.
Seriously, for the first year of dancing I would sit at the bar and stare at my glass of water. Then I realized that I wanted to make money. I slowly began developing conversational skills at first, and then later hustling skills. Honestly, it's a skill that needs to be learned. And if you can overcome your shyness, it will serve you well for the rest of your life.
The whole reason I started dancing was to improve my social skills. I used to get scared whenever someone spoke to me because i had to say something back, figuring that life was going to be pretty hard if i didn't get over it I threw myself in the deep end and started working at a strip club.
I suggest you get yourself a script to follow so you aren't left hanging and not knowing what to say next. Make sure you have a point where you ask for that dance, an add on script for if they are nearly but not quite ready and again ask for that dance. I even typed something out and repeated it over and over until I learnt it.
Also get yourself a list of conversation starter questions to fall back on and don't worry that your saying the same stuff all night, because it's the first time they have heard it from you. After awhile you can just flow with a conversation and appear to be a confident dancer no matter how you feel inside!
I actually have Aspergers syndrome which is a difficulty in communicating or understanding social protocols, I still suck, and am an awful host, but I can get a conversation going for about 10 minutes now so as long as get the dance in that time I come across as being reserved but normal.
If someone half retarded like myself can learn to be social and chatty I'm sure you can work it out no problems.





I was VERY shy when I started. I wouldn't call myself "shy" now, but I'm definitely more introverted than extroverted. As I studied sales, I found that being introverted is a benefit when selling one-on-one to another introverted person.
Like Fluffypenguin said...create a sales script. This is something I did years ago. Kinda like those books you read as a kid where at the bottom of the page it gives you two choices "if he says no...then go to page 12" or "if he says yes skip to page 33."
Here are some ideas for what to say when introducing yourself
http://ezinearticles.com/?Become-a-S...ide&id=5034568
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Is your club one of those big, intimidating ones with super hot competition? I found that what helped my confidence at first was to work in a dive, where I was not intimidated by the environment. Also, just tell yourself that nobody knows who you really are and it really doesn't matter what you do there because noone will ever find out. I t helped me get over the initial shy-ness. It's gonna get better with time. Sometimes it's just really hard to get a conversation going but you'll get the hang of it.




This!!! If you feel intimidated by the other girls then you're at the wrong club. If the girls are super hustlers you'll drown trying to compete. A small club will take the pressure off and you'll be able to sharpen your skills in no time. I started at a dive and have been slowly making my way to the top clubs. I tried going to a fancy club after two months of dancing thinking I might make it and I fell on my ass.





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I write down a few conversation starters and ways to ask for dances because I have little to no social skills in any environment. Im not shy so much as unable to deal with people under most circumstances, but playing pretend and keeping a script in mind REALLYYYYY helps me. So I agree with fluffypenguin.
You can be shy or unsocial and fake it...or as I call it...play pretend.![]()
Play up the shy card while adding in some flirtation. A lot of guys love a stripper who can still blush. Have you considered different outfits to play to your strengths? A school girl skirt or pig tails or something like that may help you bank. Yes, confidence and conversation skills are great, but you don't have to not make money while your improve those things.



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